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Getting freshly plucked corn cob in Lagos seems impossible


And "agbado Oojo" (corn plucked that same day) is always sweeter ehn

Its an Islamic thing, its Muslims I know that make it compulsory.

As for other that do it its basically superstition,


My hair was not cut at birth, didn't cut it till I entered sec sch. I do find shaving the head of a new born baby very risky, the scalp is just too tender for scraping in my opinion.

31,000 naira cash ( used to be 26k but they said because of the new cert ,its no longer the white paper its now cream in color and its thick, embossed with certified true copy on it)

Go with about 4 passports each for both of you
Birth cert or declaration of age for both of you.
Extra 1k each for spinster or bachelor cert
Go at least 4 weeks before your proposed date of marriage.
Go on a Monday with what I stated above.

A lot of Nairalanders are very shallow, imagine the comments, imagine the nonsense give the child to the father comments. Will he take care of the baby himself or go and dump her with the inlaws, no one can take care of a child like the mother that's just the simple fact.

Its in the best interest of the child to stay with the mother, so he can even come back to claim that child now abi? after all he has done.

Get a good lawyer, your child stays with you. Besides no judge will give a 2 year old to the father when its not like you are I capacitated and please stay in that country for now, don't com near naija ooo. I would have even said ignore him if not for the fact that he is disturbing your relatives.

How much is 40k, what does 40k do in taking care of a baby till 2 years. Mtchew.

I am a bit curious about something else aside from her manhandling that baby. The physiotherapy sessions they paid heavily for , what exactly does she do because she's was not even having a real session she sat with the child in the same room and was just pressing her phone, were they paying her to press phone, was she notsupposed to be training or helping the girls limbs so that she has more coordinated movements or something.

Ryut very simple, whatever caused the temporary separation should be resolved within days. Besides you guys are married. You sound like a christain, if you sleep with another person its adultery, its wrong and a SIN.


You interpreted her text not that she actually typed what you wrote there, what if she has not slept with anyone?

You said its weeks? Hold on much more longer , you won't die bro.

You guys should solve whatever it is an come back together, When you got married all differences are now reconcilable. You are seeking God's face about this which is very good but you already feel you don't know where this will end, you should know its not Gods will for you and wifey to be separated or divorced.I believe the end you should seek is that you both come back together ASAP.

First time I am seeing this

I am surprised people are saying tolerate him, tolerate a lazy 19 year old who can't do the dishes ?
You are 6 solid years older than him that's the age gap between a first and a third born. I am very sure that's what he was doing at home that he always had issues with your Dad, which part will tolerate that from a child.

He should be made to understand that you have to work to make money its his mates are also hustling Let him follow you to your business EVERY DAY he is not being useful at home anyway. He wakes up early when you wake up, you go out together to your business (even if he does nothing let him just sit there with you if its just to open shop and sweep)) and then he can even come home earlier to prepare what you guys will eat and take care of some chores at home while you stay back at your business and hustle some more.

Talk won't work for him honestly,


I hate it when people are a burden, A 19 year old boy for that matter that can't help his elder brother some children don't fear God sha.


I think because he had this same issue with his dad that why he came to your place thinking yoi will indulge him.

Loool, see people defending and attacking different posters I can't laugh ooo.

Lool @ wisdom does not reside in the genitals

Its a Nigerian thing to say marry a woman you can control .

I had a problem with that word "control" and I still do. It sounds somehow.

Ride on OP

Remember , get solid evidence so that she won't be able to emotionally blackmail you.


I just hate it when some ladies give ladies bad name

Op I guess the reason why you are feeling it is because a very large number of catholics are igbos , you hardly see an Igbo family that somehow somewhere doesn't have a catholic background. Even the ones that attend another church mostly have catholic background.

There's a possibility that a large number of Igbo guys you meet are catholic and I believe thats where the problem is

The simple truth is a lot of times catholics don't accept to marry non Catholics, reasons best known to them.

I know a lady can't decide who walks up to her but once you know he's a catholic just forget about it , its that simple and You will get what you want, its just a matter of time. If you're expecting one of them to marry you and you dont want to convert to the catholic religion you are just deceiving your self.

You sound so familiar like one other moniker.

Holyfield1:
She doesn't seem to understand, I've tried talking to her all to no avail, she said she's tired that if i don't do it another guy will and we might break up.... I love her and can't even imagine another guy having it with her

If she doesn't understand then break up with her, you want to reset your destiny abi.

You are a Christian you shouldn't even be asking that question, premarital sex is a sin and you think those posters that told you about demons transfered and the covenant nature of first time sex are joking right.

People have lost their virtues their destiny through premarital sex, even with someone who is deemed normal and if she is possessed woo, that's the end, you will now start praying to recover what you could have kept by just zipping up.

Be listening to romance section people that are encouraging you , you hear your eyes will soon clear.

If she cant wait, let her move on. You think the deflowering process is meant for unmarried peeps abi.

Don't let anybody decieve you, run.

Well written letter.

I doubt if any business man would have given him such an amount then.

Still shining , original yellow

antidisestablis:
Hi guys just like what I promised , I just want to reveal little things about all what I have seen so far. Actually it is an established fact that she is actually cheating, if anyone would tell me that I will come online to right a story about my relationship I will tell the person is a lie.
I told u guys she was out of town to visit one of her family members in nearby state which was the state the guy is residing, she actually visited the guy , I have some of the pics she took when she was with d guy in the eatery. I also established it that it might not be the first time because one of the staffs where d guy was working knows her , one of the staffs was even asking when is visiting again and she said after Ramadan. Actually the guy was even saying he can wait till the she come visiting him again.
I have not been able to establish it maybe they have had sex because she had deleted the previous chat before i launched my attack on her ,but I promise I keep trailing her till I established my fact. also I discovered she keeps asking money from the guy which he is giving her which is usual of her with me. Let me tell u, is not I'm a very stingy guy I do things for her which somehow she ask for it. I have done a lot like paying her school fees , buy phones , laptop and help her about her project in school, I was there for all all through I just said all these just to let u know that how I love her.
Sincerely our relationship has been going smoothly when we quarrel we settle it immediately,she still sent a lovely message to me this morning, in addition to this my parent like her very well including my siblings.
I have asked her if she had kept her distance from the guy which she replied yes affirmatively, she keeps lying about many things now , only God knows why she has decided to treat me this way.
Seriously guys I'm devastated I know time heals everything. Let me stop now and keep u guys posted.

Get more evidence so that she won't try to blackmail you emotionally when you confront her, please do confront her and let her know the reason why you are moving on.


Just know that you have to move on bro, cheating and lying is not it at all.

Sorry bro, this kain thing is painful.

Why would a Christian be two timing.

antidisestablis:
Hi guys, I appreciate everyone for wonderful contributions, I'm a tech guy I was forced to use tech on her and sincerely What am seeing is devastating. Keep u guy updated soon . thanks

Waiting for the update.


@fortuneteller I doubt what the OP calls devastating will be just "talking", which I believe are normal conversations that don't show any evidence of cheating , flirtations and most importantly sexual affiliations
So anybody can talk with anybody

Besides who does introduction with someone he doesn't trust, it like we are forgetting the fact that introduction means the marriage process has begun.

Op dig deeper nobody can afford to marry someone they don't trust.

That's how my aunt called me some years back that I should tell my mum they want to do 30th or 35thear remembrance / prayer ( can't remember wch one it was) of their father. That my aunt was around 75 years at that time oo.

I just said yes ma and dropped the call.

30 years ko 100 years ni.


But one thing is sure at a Yoruba party, food is plenty. We pride in our guests bring well fed, even if its a parlor party.

This is her first child right? Does she think she can't have a male child again? We know why she's worried but its just too early IMO


I just hope she doesn't hate the precious child.

Please drop your contact presenteley. Will it fly for 60k and where's your location on the mainland.

Na wa ooo

I just dunno how people can't keep their business out of the social media, wifey decides to gush about hubby on IG and now ex tells a story about him

Whether its true or not it's irrelevant, it might be true though .

People never learn sha.

She was superb in that movie, so dramatic like a typical Yoruba mum. She interpreted that role so well jare.

That tommy dance was just it

People and unsolicted advice, I just don't know how people can't stick to the topic, someone is seeking advice about admission and their eyes is shining towards the statement "19 year old fiancee".

Loool Nigerians sha, who doesn't know that there's a time tomatoes is not much in supply, simply because there's almost nothing to harvest again its really no longer in season, same way tatashe is in season now one couldn't see tatashe just few weeks back.

Besides I grew up knowing once the rains comes tomatoes become scarce.

We don't have proper preservation of fresh tomatoes in large quantities yet so we harvest all and sell all.

Last year it was the disease that cause a major scarcity, this time its the season where demand outweighs supply.

Now they will turn this to an APC PDP thing.

The fact that he is thinking about it shows its something he might end up doing.


People never learn from all these arrangee marriages abroad .

antidisestablis:
Seriously I don't expect a lady who is engaged to behaving like that, actually this is what the guy wrote. *Happy birthday to one I love* ................. .Pls let me stop in order not to reveal too much identify.
Yes, when it comes to women I cannot be easily manipulated,I'm not saying I'm a saint but I have never cheated on her also I don't allow any unnecessary closeness with any lady. Before I proposed to her I waited for 10 years without having anything to do with any lady. Not having sex or hot romance with her is a personal decision I stood on that and for me being a Christian that is what is expected on me.
Concerning the Facebook chat I won't say much about that now.

Hmm to the one I love ..., he may just have a crush on her or something and it could be more you never can tell.

Dig deeper , and since you are a Christian pray hard about this, nothing is hidden.

Like you said one cannot afford to marry someone one doesnt trust.

You will find the truth.

tukdi:
You are only entitled to notices (6 months or 3 months) when d tenancy hasn't expired!

once d tenancy has expired, u are only entitled to 7 days notice by d Landlord!

A lot of people don't know this.

You will see tenants that are owing 6moths rent and after asking them to quit the house they will ask for 6 month notice without pay again.

Nigerians ehn .

She didn't complain about bleeding again after seeing 600k and she was going to church after chatting to have anal sex with a married man too plus the bobo said " pray for me" .

. So hilarious

What I have a problem with is a guy uploading a picture of a lady you have proposed to and has accepted your proposal online , professing his love for her publicly( except if he just uploaded it as a friend) and she liking the post.

I thought once someone accepts a proposal you guys are engaged to be married, Christainity takes the bethrotal very serious in fact its the first stage of the marriage process. Your fiancee is liking the post of someone who claims to be her lover on FB that's are very bad sign, a red flag. She also has many of his pics on her phone (anybody can have pics of people but this one is too much to be a coincidence)

What were the exact words he used if you don't mind?
What type of chats did you see on her FB? If you could raise an eyebrow then its something you are not comfortable with.

You need to dig deeper, find out exactly what it is. There's something she's hiding if she can't receive some calls in your presence.

this is a no sex relationship so I believe you can still think rationally without being clouded by emotions.

That girl seems to be hiding something from you and all arrows point to that FB guy, I just hope she's not sleeping with him for fun and then marry you.

If you are patient enough in a matter of weeks you will see exactly what it is. It may end up being nothing.

If you find out she's sleeping with him or any other person for that matter please call it off.

Nawa ooo

This people want to fix their marriage let's not pour petrol on the fire now

Cuties01 you have been advised by baby124 make good use of it. Adviserseeker sift through advices pls.


You guys should just make up jare

adviserseeker:
Thanks. If you read my reply to baby124 then you will understand better my stance. No backing out this time.

Just read it.

Do back out from this, please do and if you are a praying man kindly pray.

Cuties1 also try sort this out with him.