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Cuties1 and adviserseeker you guys should go and sort this your matter.

Bros you really want to go rent an apartment and move out on top this matter? to be honest this is just a very minute challenge and you guys want your marriage to crack because of this. So what will happen when real challenges show

Both of you need to drop your ego and do what needs to be done and sort this out.

How difficult is it for a married couple to talk and sort things out without interference from outsiders.

And I also think theres too much crowd in your home your sisters, her siblings let everybody go to their own houses, get a help that lives outside your home.

I will also say bros and wife. should be patient ooo.


Divorce le ngbe sere yi. It is that easy?

Adviseseeker try and listen to what teemy said on this thread.

Try and take your mind of sex for sometime. Go home sort yourself with wifey, your marriage is too young for too much interference - parents, registry officials etc just too much.

Go sort this out bro, you have been married to her you should know her mumu button ke? At least you chyked this babe.

Third party interference won't solve this matter since, let it all go.

If you can prepare your meals do, if you can't take tea or something till she prepares it by 10am or whenever, stop pestering her for sex, just act normally she herself will come around. You need to be patient since its like she's quite immature.

Divorce is not an option IMO, its still resolvable, the main issue I see is sex shikena.

Talk to your wife ooo.

And someone has to speak some sense to your wifey,compromise is needed in marriage.





You do sound very familiar though, from a different moniker a sports blogger or something close to that.

Not easy to be a celebrity.

Not a fan of tonto but she has stopped her job as the nanny , how does it translate to tonto abandoning her.

She has a right to be angry, a normal human being would be, why can't the woman respond in the video?

Did you ask for money and I didn't give you?..... Silence from mamas end.

Reading all the comments make me wonder if people didn't read the part where she said he and his people went to pay her bride price.

She's married already, in the eyes of God. So what's with the he doesnt want to marry again. He has married you already OP, if he now wants a divorce its another thing entirely.


Which one is marriage, the one where you wear gown ?

How come people didn't notice she was in a church when she said that , she was probably invited or something, what was she supposed to say in a religious setting.

Different tribes,different families ,different cultures.

Where I come from the father decides the list in fact its only one time I have seen the extended family putting mouth in list matters but then that's what is applicable here.

In fact it was me and my mum that came up with the list which is almost general across my tribe with slight variations per family or state.

I can't imagine an uncle saying this should be there or not but that's what works in my own culture.

Since uncle 's words overrides that of the father in their culture you just need to appease them . I believe some of this so called uncles do that to frustrate the girls.

Hopefully your bro in-law conversation with the father will yield good results.

I know its 60k if one party is a non-Nigerian I am not so sure if its also 60k if both are Nigerians and one party is abroad, So is your spouse a foreigner if yes the 60k is in order, someone from Benin rep wanted to marry a Nigerian the day I went there and it was 60k plus a lot of documentations.


As for the license or certificate stuff, whatever you hear from their staff you meet at the registry will be the authentic info.

Get the phone number of another staff at the registry and confirm again.

How are they certain her husband hit her or they just assumed it was her husband .

InvertedHammer:
There is no point debating.

USA is very easy. So just enter plane and come.

Case closed. No be dollars? Na you go pluck tire.

Loool, I laughed so hard.

I read this thread then and had a good laugh but this recent update had me laughing out so loud.

You see your people treating your wife badly and you don't say anything about it, for her to plan to abscond it has gotten to a very terrible level.

They don't love her , accepted but they have to respect her.And why is a co wife frustrating your wife , can't you tell your elder brother to warn his wife.

There are families who really don't like their wife but you dare not disrespect her simply because of the husband.

She seems not to be someone that can stand up for her self , stand up and defend your wife.

horlumiday:
If David’s mother was a harlot, then David
would not be in the bloodline of Jessie, which is
the line Jesus is to be born from.

I don't know about the controversy surrounding Davids mother but whether halrlot or not God will use who he will use.

All the women that were mentioned in the geanology of Jesus except Mary were women that seemed to be of questionable character.

Tamar- tricked her father in law to sleep with her
Rahab- a prostitue
Ruth- a moabitess
Wife of Uriah- committed adultery with David.

These were all women that seemed not to be up to standard or morally right to be in the blood line of our Lord and saviour based on laws of Israel but it was through this same women Jesus came which tells us God will use who he will, regardless of how terrible our past was.

I just said this to correct the notion that if Davids mother was a harlot he wouldnot have been in the bloodline of Jesus . shown you four women in Jesus bloodline of which one was a known prostitute, going by your analogy, the customs of Israel and even the way we humans judge they are not qualified but God qualified them.

Genea:
But its d truth na, he didn't lie

Nope not the truth.

Lola was already made even before Psquare became popular.

She was not a nobody or a poor lady, she had money

People just have wrong notions and what this guy posted is an assumption that should be corrected let him make his findings well.

Mushin

That's how I rented an apartment at Idiaraba when I did a short course at Luth , if its not fighting today its another thing tomorrow, therr was a day my nurse roommate had to hide under a traders table when she was caught in the wahala.

One saturday they had to lock the CMUL gate and when I wanted to step out the security peeps told me to call someone and ask if the fracas has ended on my street.

Randomly hearing gunshots nko, seems normal there
Always fighting


I jejely packed my load and left after my programme

And to think Idiaraba is not even the central mushim itself , its the overflow that does get to that place. Can't even attempt living around idi oro.

Loool she was already saying awww, using dear and sweet words for him
so someone will just randomly send you those items and now package 100pounds in it again.

Ahn ahn

I do believe she has longer throat issues,

Thank God its just 12k she was scammed off.

2dugged:
a woman isn't yours until you have gone to see her father( both in.our culture and constitution) , I know this red pill will be too bitter for alot of guys to swallow, but that's the fact,

You are right even biblically too, the marriage process starts once you seek the consent thats when you can even start laying claim that she is yours

The reason why these issues are springing forth is because things are not done the way it used to be, in most Nigerian cultures theres nothing like dating, now its a different thing entirely.

It used to be boy sees girl, boy tells his parents , his family go to seek the hand of the girl (parents may ask the girl of she likes the boy) if yes deal is signed, A date is chosen, and the period between when the consent of the parents is sought and the wedding ceremony proper is the courtship, they meet in a public place or properly chaperoned.

That setting no longer exist, now people date and then court .

One of the major things that cause trouble for ladies is relationship flaunting especially on social media.

GTB is good but their interbank transfers seem to take forever or it doesn't even transfer at all.Apart from this they seem okay, their mobile app is worse.

I only do gtb to gtb transfer on the internet banking platform, they need to do something about transfers to other banks.

I have to give it to diamond bank, transfers to other banks reflect immediately.

I didn't experience this problem at all but there will surely be technical glitches once in a while so its expected.

Its like there's a spirit controlling the NPF, they act irrationally.

Thats how my cousin and his friend were handcuffed and almost paraded as criminal, simply because they stoped them and my cousins friend was putting on jalabia and camoflague while driving oo, they said its militants that wear camoflague under jalabia, they were almost snapping them on the floor at the police station . The parent had to pay 20k before they were released. They were already writing different charges for them.

Na wa ooo, that woman rubbed her tommy intentionally, it was not a mistake.

This is why some people don't dance or allow spraying of money during weddings.

Nawa

The probability of you getting another Lady when you reach your "financial goal " is high. According to you, you are with her now simply because the ladies with impeccable English and what you consider your taste are out of your reach.

You have peace of mind with her but it seems you want to just manage her because she is the one that wants to start small with you.

If only that Lady knows what she is entering.


What happened to brushing her up, bringing her to your level?

You want to marry some one and not ready to accept her flaws and help her improve ? You may not appreciate her again when you ve reached your financial goal? This is part of the reason why some ladies don't want struggling men ,the reason why some men ought not to be pitied when they jam karashika type of women and the reason why some men won't be blessed enough to be rich.

Money truly is the revealer of ones real character


Let her go bro, you really don't deserve her, she will be heart broken yes but she will be better of with someone who appreciates her in bad financial times and good financial times.

I am advising you to let her go not because of her grammar and all that because that can be worked on but because of the fact that there's a certainty that you WILL cheat on her as soon as you have more money and you know what even if she has improved grammatically by that time you will still likely cheat on her.

But if you really know what's good for you , peace is what you should be after.If there's no peace ,even the grammar ,poise and finesse will disgust you.

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So sorry for your loss. God the comforter will comfort you.

Can't you all just leave the virgins alone, nawa oo .
Is it by force to have premarital sex.



I just dont understand the obsession with virgins on Nairaland.


As if being a non virgin guarantees all those points listed.

Please if you have made a decision t o remain a virgin until marriage kindly stand by your decisiom and ignore posts like this. Its your life, your body. Don't let anyone use scare tactics on you.

The suits are still suits but the gowns are getting less material by the day, I just don't understand is it that there are no longer wedding gown styles that can cover the whole body and look decent .

We see gowns of 80s and early 90s covering the whole body and they look beautiful .

Anytime I see an old wedding gown I am just like where did we get it wrong.

See this madam now, her gown is nice , decent and she looks pretty.

18 pls.

liyasignature:
Ojo Alaba.lagos

Price?

I am quite surprised people are not stating what may be the real challenges and what they are talking about is stereotype that has no basis.


Cultural challenges are the main things that may cause problems in an intertribal marriage and it starts mainly from interference by inlaws.

1. The wedding ceremony proper: An intertribal marriage may begin to have issues from the planning of the wedding, traditions culture , this is the way is done have made a lot of marriages never to even see the light if day.
E.g The church to wed, as simple as this may sound it has causes a lot of disasters in intertribal marriages especially Yoruba to Igbo and it happens majorly when the hubby is Igbo and the bride is Yoruba.

Yoruba culture is The wedding holds in the brides church or better still brides fathers church. And in IBO culture its not compulsory to be in the church of the brides parents , quite a lot of people do it where the hubby and his peeps are.

My friends are in this dilemma , his mum insisted it must hold in their family church (catholic), the guy himself is not a catholic , the girl doesn't mind wedding in catholic but her Dad is an elder in the baptist church and culturally ( the way yorubas do it) the wedding should hold in the brides/brides father church as it is believed the man is coming to pick her from her church.The groom is Igbo and bride is Yoruba.

The groom spoke to the brides father and the brides father told him that even when the brides elder brother married a foreigner they had to travel to the UK to marry her that they are the ones that have to go and pick her that that is how it is done in the SW.

The grooms father is indifferent about the whole thing and has said they should do it how it is done but the grooms mother is insisting it must be in their church and she is also insisting that the church must be 3 months after the traditional , which is not even going down well with the groom and bride because of costs the couple feel they shd do t he trad and white possibly the same day or a day interval (which sounds cost effective) but she wants 3 months interval.

After much persuation the brides father agreed they shd go do the white at catholic but he may not attend everybody was a bit received that they has been a meeting point but later on the brides brothers met and said no.

I told the groom to plead with his mum since its not a cultural necessity to wed in the grooms church where he comes from but he said his mum didn't buldge, his dad has spoken ti the woman severally and she's still insisting, she even prefers if its in the east.I said can't they scrap the church stuff out and go to registry after the trad and my friend said his mum insisting on church .

Now everybody is back to square one since early last year.

Now I do believe that my friends mum has some personal issues apart from cultural differences, because I really can't even understand why she's insisting on 3 months interval when the couple don't want it that way.

I pray that engagement doesn't sink because of this issue.


2. Naming ceremony, some peeps don't have an official naming ceremony after 8 days of birth in fact this has caused some issues in some churches because bilically the child should be named on the 8th day but for some cultures its not so.
Now if you marry from that place you may find it odd not to name your child on the 8th day even if you feel its the Christian thing to do and if you don't apply wisdom it can generate a lot of problems.


3.Names to give children, sounds simple but once saw a thread about this.

4. Visit to village , personally I still don't understand why Igbo's congregate at their villages every December , now if you want to marry and Igbo person for example you should be ready to follow him every year as a lady.

5. So many other cultural differences, languages spoken to children etc etc.

The challenges in intertribal marriages don't come from the couple themselves most times but it comes from the relatives of the couple. Most times no body is right or wrong its just the way its done in their place.

So if you want to go into an intertribal marriage you should be ready to let go of a lot of things find a way of merging both cultures together so that you as a couple will be happy and most importantly avoid family interference.

Most importantly if you have Christ and marry into a true Christian family you won't have tribal issues because most times some people value tradition more that christaininty and if one wants to clash with the other they place tradition first.

I knew they will still link other people to this cash, I don't doubt any accusation , na them them , the person(s) that stashed the money is within their circle.

Will an average Nigerian have access to that kind of money ? NO

As at now they have linked some people.
Muazu
Madam Esther
Anenih's daughter
Rotimi amechi
Lere
Fayose
Mo
Etc

Still expecting more names. staff at NSPM nko because me I am seeing pictures of sealed naira notes, by the way how do people get cash directly from NSPM

Na wa oo

mantosa:
Okay.

From what you wrote, I can deduce:

Esther kept the money in Anenih's daughter's apt right? Yet she lives in the same building but in a different apt. SR quoted Esther stays in 7b whileghe money was found in 2B.

Exactly you get the gist.

The truth is all these accusations sound very possible. Someone can stay in an apartment in the same building and stash cash in another apartment with the collaboration of the landlord and the owner of the apartment. Its the same circle of people now.

Its a possibility.

mantosa:
Kindly visit SR's site or timeline to see the contracting stories.

What's contracting ?

What I understand from the tweets are


Muazu owns the house as in the landlord

Anenih daughter owns the apartment, she rented it or she is a tenant or it was rented in her name.

Madam Esther owns the money found in the apartment .

The owner of the house, the person that owns the apartment and the person that owns the money are 3 different people according to the tweets.

3 different tweets that are not conflicting at all in my opinion, Whether the accusations are true or not is another thing entirely .

Muazu owns the house

Anenihs Daughter rented the apartment (she's muazus tenant) or it was rented in her name.

Madam Esther owns the money.


I don't doubt the story, this is naija where anything can happen and considering the fact that these peeps at the top are in the same circle it sounds realistic enough.

Expecting more names.


Dig it out Sahara reporters