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christabell18:
Really,you're not alone.
I am just the same rather worse in all these than you are.Although,i hardly reply or like any post on nairaland,but, visit here everyday.not really active on any social media except I'm being forced to reply.infact,the only social media I'm on is Facebook and just visit like once in 4months,hardly post too.
I don't really have friends as such too.sometimes I wonder how people form group of friends.i also wonder how I'm going to cope when I'll be wedding because there's are no friends to invite.who are those going to be my bridal train?
I might not have a single message on WhatsApp for two days.As a lady,I find it difficult to make friends especially with females.i'm just used to being alone.What's the point of friendship?To me,it only brings problems upon problems.

I'm glad to find out I'm not alone, mind we exchange contacts?

galaxy2020:
You have psychological issues. See a therapist.

The last therapist I saw after a session with me ended up needing a therapist too.

MeghaneMorgane:
The day you are sick or the day you need help, please let the people you have replied on Nairaland be the ones to come and take care of you. Let all your business people be the one to help you when you need help.
I don’t envie you, I hope you sha have people that love you irrespective of this your attitude?

"Loving" someone because of their attitude shouldn't be considered as "LOVE" there's a lot of things the human world don't understand hence the imbalances you see.
There are millions of broken marriages both from strong Christians and Muslims home, because humans love for reasons. Until you master the act of 'not to love or hate anyone, accept and see every human as human that imbalances can never be balance.

If you love someone because he/she is a good person, then that's not love, it won't stand the test of time cause change is constant.

Love gives birth to hatred, to eradicate hatred totally... You need to eliminate love and accept human as human.
Everyone you hate today are people you once "loved"

You won't understand my kind of person.

Srallens:
It's really baffling and worrying that someone can not hear from his mum for a month or more but doesn't care.. You don't hear from friends or siblings, it doesn't bother you. It only goes to show one thing, that is, the person was brought up in a loveless environment and was probably sorrounded by corrosive people while growing up. I think the guy needs help, though he may not be aware of how it's affecting him.

I had all the love anyone could asked for...
You won't understand my personality.

Atticusxsz:
So, my specie dem plenty 4 nairaland and i thought i was given birth all alone in this mundane world.
I even thought i wasn't normal since almost everyone has got a bitter taste of my abnormal lifestyle.

Although, my mum understands me since she's an evangelist and a counselor.

Someone even recommended that i seek for help and i was like, seek 4 help say wetin happen abi na because you never come across my kind dem abi na wetin?

I've never been happier in the entirety of my existence after stumbling on your thread this morning @ Op.

Mine was not going home to see my mum and family for 3 years when i could've easily visited more than even necessary and not calling her up to 6 months.

Although, she's complained severally about me not calling as my siblings and humans normally do but I'm still not flowing. It's after seeing her incessant calls, because she knows that's what irks me, that's when I'll finally return her calls.

Atleast, I'm not alone.

You're not alone, normal people won't understand.

Mercisharelove:
Contact me I will share something with you

You can reach me via the number on my signature, I don't have access to Nairaland email.

Odichi:
You defined my husband. Una plenty.

Please cherish him, believe me we are the best of people in terms of "love and cares"

It might be a difficult task understanding his world.

Bimpe29:
Are you in good terms with your Mom and siblings? Are you single or married? If at all you are in a serious relationship, how distant is it? Let me have your answers before I can proceed.

I have no reasons for whatsoever to be in a shaky relationship with my family, I can go lengths for them.

As for relationship until I see a reason to be in one.

Funkybabee:
It's not good, no matter the spirituality.

U need to communicate with people in other to be inspired by then, knowledge or God's word can be sent through them

Kindly change bro, though me too don't asked people but not like that

I relate with people dear, only when there is need to...

DissTroy:
This isn't always true. Some people are natural loners. They enjoy their solitude more than the company of others, and would create time for solitude even in relationships or marriages.

Oddly, these people rarely ever get played by the opposite gender. If they ask you to come over and you stall, they just move on until you reach out to them again.

It doesn't make them antisocial - it just means they can't rationalize the endpoint of talking to you endlessly when there's no definite result for it.

Why do you need people to call, to check up on you? Why do you need the validation? You can be the closest of buddies and not talk to or chat with each other for months. It's fine. Until a specific reason to communicate arises.

It seems you are the only one who understands my thread and personalities.

The rest thinks I have pride or psychological issues, while some I've concluded I'm posses.

Realdollars:
So op can type a normal sentence and even compose a topic, no off pointing this time, so all this off point talk all along is because your are alone for so long and lack communication skills.

Don't mistook me for the guy who impersonate my username, I've been here for long... While the impersonator is just few months here.

FILEBE:
Weird for a social media manager

There's personality and there's "worknality" only extraordinary people can separate the two.

OMOJOHN001:
Verily Verily I say Unto you OP, that the reason for this is because you're BROKE yes I said it, You have less than 500k in your account.

2) Verily I say unto you, that a Part of you is bitter and you're trying to fake happiness by moving away from people, which will not work.

3) You don't have real Love within you, simply because people doesn't use to love you enough.

So on YEE son , I say unto you, CHANGE NOW BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE. GO OUT AND MINGLE WITH REAL PEOPLE, FIND WHAT GIVES YOU HAPPINESS IN PEOPLE AND STICKS TO IT.

Humans believe money means happiness, I believe you might have read on several occasions where wealthy people end their lives.

For the records, I'm far from being sad. Nothing can give me happiness or sadness... NOTHING.

Peemonny:
I feel you are still young to understand life, there are problems that comes in triple waves, it not every problem u can solve alone, I wonder how u can stay 6months and not communicate with ur mom and be feeling bad ass about it, I wonder how she feels, how will u find a wife? Who will u talk to wen u have martial issues? If you are in financial need who do u talk to? the deepest problems starts wen you are 30+ and chocked with responsibilities remember your friends are your children's connection except you do not have any plans for marriage or having children, if that's the cases you are one hell of a selfish being. Remember problem be like grace it is new every morning. Secondly you will miss alot of opportunities not returning calls or picking them. Someone I knew gave anothers person my number and he did contact me and guess what it was a deal and I made good money out of it, was I expecting his call Hell No! If I hadn't picked the opportunity will pass to someone else #fact and I've had similar experiences more than 5 times, there is this guy I heard about he is just like you and very intelligent he came out with 1st class from uni but guess what he committed suicide possibly loneliness maybe part of the cause. What I'm just trying to say is there are lots of advantages wen u have people u can confide in as opposed to being alone in everything u will get tired, burnt out and give up.

You won't understand my world, it's unfamiliar territory. It'll be too complex for normal/ordinary people to understand.

Que sera sera should give you a clue of me.

Proffeluczy1:
You are funny though. I wish i could know u better.

If we were meant to know each other, we will.

MaryJane24:
Jesus left his disciples but not perpetually. He always came back to them. Jesus is a crowd puller, a crowd feeder. You're really misguided to even pull Jesus into this. Jesus is the exact opposite of isolation. He has many brethren, a big family, He loves communication. He chose followers and told them to go get more followers. If you're not feeling depressed or isolated in your type of situation, then listen to me, you're even experiencing an advanced psychological condition. Isolation is a powerful tool, alright, except its a powerful tool in the hands of satan. That's why I said in my earlier comment that its a thin line between the line you're walking and sociopathy. In isolation is where the devil starts whispering to you. You don't need that. Before they destroy you, they first of all separate you from everyone. They first of all bring you to where you can't hear or see others and no one can hear you scream. I speaking both in symbolism and literally now. People surround you but you know you're alone. None can "reach" you or figure out what you're passing through. That's the symbolism to no one can hear you scream. You're calling out for help but it's like the effort is worthless; pointless to even try to explain to anybody. Yes, everybody needs a me-time now and again to recharge, but a chronic isolation such as the one you described is both spiritually, emotionally, and physically unhealthy. Do something about it, Please.

You misunderstood the context I mentioned Jesus in.
I never said those I mentioned were isolated, I wasn't talking about their personalities. I was talking about spiritualism, WHENEVER they want to connect to the spirit world they went into
isolation. I wasn't talking about their personality.

I've moved passed the stage of "Satanic" manipulation.

Sprumbaba:
People like you only call when you need help. I have many of you as well and I don't pick their calls.

It's easier for me to put a bullet through my head than call someone for help.

HRSweetness:
I'm so sorry for all you've been through

Thanks dear... Life's stages.

Proffeluczy1:
Bro. Are you a christian?

I'm a HUMAN

buzorcharles:
Badagry to ajah is not possible

Our ancestor trekked from one state to another, people trekked from Libya to Europe

UnimkeAk:
Don't call privilege pple Bastards, no be dia faults na ur parents no try

The bastxxd in my context isn't an insultive one, it's an expression.

I wish the cam go down a little bit further so that I can ascertain the level of the situation

KingOfAmebo:
"What if it were a potential random client trying to reach you on a multimillion naira project?". - Village People spokesperson

Then you calls would be coming from my business lines cause I don't give out my personal line

cho25bc:
Everything you listed here are signs of depression and recluse. You may soon have to relocate to the uncivilized parts of the world like the jungle to live alone (like some oyibo men do when they are tired of civilization and when they hate people). You need to talk to someone because this is a risky path you are threading.
In your case, it means you dislike people and hate their company. If a suicidal thought enters your head, nobody will know. Please seek counselling or therapy before it gets out of hand.
Not calling people is not the problem, but taking it too far to the point of not replying your SM messages, not picking most calls (even if it's an emergency), and other interaction with the world around you (even extending it to your own mum) doesnt sound right to me. What if you have a gf? How will you communicate with her? How do you communicate with your colleagues at work or business clients with this attitude?

IMO, you are depressed but you dont know.
God will be with you.

smile" I have no reasons to be depress. I've been around enough to swallow whatever life present.

I socialize with people, but on my term.
I relate people if we ever meet physically

dettolgel:
That is where you got it wrong.

Depression is not necessarily as a result of something going bad in your life.

It is a brain issue, some people with any problem in life suffer from depression.

Some events in one's life can also trigger it.

As per being a loner, it is nice staying in your lane no drama, I love it too.

But as you get older and move on in life you realize that you need both human interaction and healthy social skill to have both a healthy relationship and flourishing career.

Unless your family has willed you a fortune such that you can afford to ask everyone to go f*** themselves and surrender yourself with a retinue of house helps. But as you get even older even paid house helps are no substitute to healthy family ties.

I am speaking from experience. The hardship I experienced when I first moved out here was made bearable by my constant contact with friends and family. Then over the years I built a small circle of friends both for social needs. But as we get older I have realized that my circle of friends have started dwindling and the number that seems to grow are family. Uncles, sisters and brothers giving births you getting to rapport with their offspring etc. You will need these people you had better start to build that social circle.

You've quite spoken well, but it seems a lot of people misunderstood my thread...

I socialize with people, I have held countless of lectures to teach few of my knowledge.
My socialization is basically on my term...
I just don't have the ability to reach out to people in terms checking on their wellbeing

nairaman66:
Each of those people you mentioned were called by God, are you?

Some people were called through prayers! Because you are a loner doesn’t mean you attract spirituality. Don’t let motivational books fool you

YOU WERE TOLD AND READ THEY WERE CALLED BY GOD.....

Unik3030:
sorry if u find this question offensive

Please how old are u?
Do u "work from home"
Which religion do u practice?
Do u have a girlfriend?


Sorry I asked this to see things from another angle cos I once had a friend like u n he stopped doing all these when he got to a particular age

My skill sets are flexible, I can work anywhere... but I choose a full time job for the purpose of dealing with people of different personalities and believes....

As for my religion I was born a Christian, when I came of age... I choose what to believe and what to question.
As for relationship, i'm incapable of loving, but I respect everyone.

kabaarikabaari:
guy u are a devil. u hardly call ur mum n siblings? ur heart is killing u. bad mind. free urself pls. d only way out is start having a good heart now. I mean mind set. I am not insulting u but am describing,

A bad mind is someone with evil intentions

profmallor:
Jesus Mingled, had friends and disciples. Dont make excuses for your self. man is a social animal, resolve this soonest except you want to live alone for the rest of your life. How do you intend to manage a spouse and have engaging conversations and raise a family, or is that out of your equation?. What you need is to break the spirit of loneliness and fear, there is fear somewhere in side that mind of yours. Go out, meet good people, enjoy this short life make the best of it. Call people even is you dont like them and they dont like you.

You won't get the point... I'm the guy everyone wants to listen to or be with when I'm open for conversation and fun... But that part of me comes occasional. I've met great people in my life, I'm not afraid of conversation. I don't withdrawn myself from conversation IF IT INTEREST me

helinues:
Hahahaha... Why now

The hunger was at the stage of uiqwyfbowv oiuhfkeylbyffaskf I had to do what I had to do not to meet with my ancestors at all cost.

Ate eba with palm oil and salt...
Ate fufu with leftover indomie water
Ate raw rice with my neigbour's stew aroma
Trek from Oda Town in Akure to Futa to borrow N500.
Trek from Badadgry to Ajah for 30k job's interview...
If suffering was person, then it's Offpoint.

Life's brutal and those from less privilege homes take the worse share of it.

You don't know what the fxxck life is until you left your parents at teenage age, we ain't there yet but we will fight poverty with the last drop of our blood.
For those who got parental/relatives support and are still eating from their parents... You don't know y'all are lucky bastxxds

Beebah2000:
okay

You've shown me high level of maturity from our first conversation till now, I'm amaze. You've earn my respect.

Kindly shoot me a WhatsApp message 0.9.0.5.5.4.0.2.0.7.2, I look forward to your message.