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Call them to a meeting and talk to both of them and use the Bible as the authority to derive the wisdom to counsel them. I hope u understand the role of man and woman in a Christian marriage.

If this didn't work use a man of God to talk to them n pray for them too

uote author=Babatunde40 post=86793566]This issue is tearing my family apart. I need urgent assistance from Nairalanders.

I have this step brother who came back from Libya. He started staying with me in December 2018. Initially, he said he would stay a month and sort himself to move to another country. 1 month has turned to 1 year and 3 months.

My wife wants him to leave immediately. She has being hammering it because we have 3 daughters. The eldest is 12. My wife is scared that one day the guy might molest the girls. The house is not big. It is a 2 bedroom bungalow. This guy has being sleeping in the sitting room all this while. We are very uncomfortable with this.

How can we send him away as soon as possible? The thing here is that this guy travellered to Libya in 2009 with the intention to cross to Europe. But he could not. He stayed backed in Libya and started working. He is an electrician. As he was working and making money, he called me and said he just wants to build a small house to show for his efforts in Libya. He sent money and I bought a small land. Over a space of 4 years, in 2015, we completed a 2 bedroom bungalow. He then asked me to move there with my family. I was previously staying in a room and parlor self contain. He said he has no intention of coming back to Nigeria. So I moved in with my family and we have being living here since.

In December 2018, Arabs attacked him in Libya and robbed him. He had to run back to Nigeria. He said he will stay a month and move to another Africa country. Now he has stayed over a year. He is inconveniencing my family and he is a threat to my daughters' safety. Please how do I send him away?[/quote]If anything u guys should be the ones leaving the apartment not the landlord

Rapecase:
She complaining about the money is not my problem. My problem is the sort of names she called me and how she made it look like I don't fend for my family.

We have two daughters 4 in April and 1 one year old baby, herself and our maid yet I spend over 200k monthly maintaining the house and this is despite the fact that we are building. I still manage to reach out to her parents as well.

She doesn't have respect for u and that is a big issue to me. U are a wealthy man ooo given the way u give her money. Anything that is easily obtained is never appreciated. Why all the disrespect? Is she fed up? Probe deeper

There is no real issue here

U get sex 3 x weekly which is enough

She must not be the one to prepare your food

Which one is wedding anniversary? Abeg get serious

There is no woman that won't react if u give someone 100k just like ( women are selfish like dt)

Women are not command to love men, they are to submit to men, it men that are commanded to love women.

Once your wife respects u and submits to you it's enough

LadyBeee:
please was it both your capital and interest that was returned?

ROI return on investment

My capital will stay with them for 6 months before I can get it

Treat as high risk investment and put only money u can afford to lose starting from 100k

ThemanS:
Hello Nairalanders, I will be traveling to the Southern part of the Country for the first time in my life. I was born and raised in the North Central, Plateau state to be precise.

I will be traveling to Aba to buy some goods for a Client, initially I was planning to move to Port-Harcourt, then from there enter Aba and Onitsha after I'm done with shopping I will move back to Port-Harcourt and take a Bus back home.

Now the issue here is I have never travelled to the South, a lot of people here are telling me that there's no security, even lodging is not safe because EFCC might raid the lodge anytime. And the Streets are also not safe.

Pls Nairalanders in port and Aba should recommend a good and safe area for me. I was told keke and bus drivers don't usually speak English na so so language dem dey speak.

Help a brother pls.

Lol

Pls DNT Dm anybody for security reasons
Aba is relatively safe esp from 6am to 9pm depending on your area. There is no night life n keke will close by 9pm. Once keke closes bad boys will start operating in the name of taxi.

Almost every one even an idio.t can speak pigin English in Aba n will understand English even with oyibo accent

Be very careful inside ariria market, u must be very very street smart otherwise u will buy fake at the price of original guymen full market there is what is called oso ahia ie boys that sell everything even when they don't have any shop.

There are decent hotel all over Aba starting from 5k

U will have a pleasant experience, but ur 6th sense must be working always.

LadyBeee:
please where is their office in Lagos?

Check their website for that

cutegentility:
I had this friend and we are both coders. She is into back end technology while I'm into front end development. We happened to meet at the same group but we are of different country. She is based in the UK while I'm a Nigerian. We have been having conversations for close to 5 months but there is a kind of disagreement in the group which made me to accuse her because I felt she was wrong.
I exited the group - but she still come to me, trying to explain things to me but my excessive anger made me to loose my sanity.

In short, we stop communication. At the end of the day; she was innocent but the deeds are done. She blocked me because I never listened to her explanations and she really felt hurt.

I try to reconcile but all to no avail. I called her line, it seems she added my number to voice mail. I mail and text her some apology letter but no response from her.

What should I do? Should I keep apologizing or I should move on with life?

Please advise a brother!!!!!

Take your village elders along with you to go and beg her make sure u go with a cow.

0ubenji:
anyone who needs to be told this, is not matured enough to operate a bank acct.

I disagree, stop spreading negative energy. If your indices for measuring maturity is this then u have given yourself away

0ubenji:
that's got nothing to with them but your bank.. once money reach your area... the rest is upto your bank to notify you.

Yeah got your point
But
The main thing is for members to check their account balance on pay day if they don't see alert as from 7 pm

Wow

I have been worried since 4pm as I never see my valentine alert

I just checked my account balance now and saw d thing sitting Gidigba in my account

Up MBA forex 6 digits alert after 30 days

My first ROI

Pls they don't send alert sometimes just check your account balance on your pay days.

Let me go and drink with fresh fish jaree
Happy Val

So the coward didn't come back after all the chest beating online

Cownu na coward

Cownu don dey get sense small small heard he apologized to abia CP lately

writetopoker2:
My target is N2.3m, already am doing N600k

wow i like your faith honestly i wish i can risk more than 1m in mba forex

expecting my first ROI ON FRIDAY

I have my MOU already

my target is to break even in 7 months first

She will do much more if you do nothing about these excesses. She must submit to your authority or at least show u some respect otherwise u are a sissy husband.

When she comes back play some cold war for some time after which you call her and tell her with a Stern face that this is the last time she will disrespect you in this manner else she will go back to her father. She may raise voice on u just ignore until it happens again then take the drastic action.

Women only respect action men

etiumo:
MBA has just paid my first ROI. Kudos. I pray the investment last for at least the next 5 years

Congratulations mine will drop on Valentine's day

It will surely last for the next 5 years

The worst that can happen is drop in interest rate

By and Large all everyone needs to break even n start making profit is 7 months

adexpa:
I have seen quite a lot of interesting topics here on nairaland this fresh year that we just spent 48 days out of 365 days. I can confess that they are all quite interesting and educative.

I will love to share little light on the issue of responsibilities in family or relationship as regards NIGERIA . Please, let your understanding of the message have a NIGERIA scope, because I understand that a lot of us are wise now and we are already moving away from traditions and cultures.

When it comes to responsibilities between couples, intending couples and other relationships that involves man and woman, the man must understand that every financial part of it is for him. There is no where in Nigeria culture or tradition where woman takes care of the financial part no matter how buoyant she is at the time of the need.
Every man must have this understanding before they involve in any relationship in order to save them of heartbreak or disappointment from their partners because without such understanding, a man will be disappointed and get paralysed when he discovered millions in his partner account or purse when they are in need of just 100k and the woman did not bring out the money.
Men needs to understand that our women are not wired to spend from their own income, but they can buy heaven with someone else money (I am not criticising women here, I was only saying fact)

HOW TO HANDLE FINANCE WITH WOMAN
Firstly, you have to agree with the above fact.
There are practical ways to cheat woman without fight or argument and it is not making her feel like it is her responsibility. Never show her that you feel that it is her responsibility to partake in whatever you guys intend to finance. The best way is to tell her that you do not have or you are not capable of doing it alone at the moment and you will need her assistance. Let her feel that she is assisting you and not that it is her responsibility. The two of you will need to evaluate the need and agree on the sharing ratio; how much you expect from her as per support (not her duty).
You must make it clear as early as possible because it will take sometimes for her to adjust her believe system to the new reality(e.g wedding plans, you need to start discussing that immediately you agreed to marry each other n not when it is almost few weeks).

Men, we do not have to criticise our women in this regards, it is how they are been wired, either by upbringing or environmental factors. We only need to ask for wisdom to handle the reality.

Secondly, our men should not be seeing themselves as CEO who sits and watch their staffs doing all. We have to start assisting in domestic activities and also allow their opinions in all affairs ( not a must to apply opinion)

Women!!!!! Please, let us start reducing the believes and start seeing the responsibilities as a joint task.

Happy homes and relationships

Nonsense write up
The Bible is the reference point
Man is the provider but women the helper so it could be 70 : 30

Times have changed we are not living in 1905

This is 2020 any woman who does not have a source of income which she will use to contribute in supporting her home should not think of marriage. The man will only lead in shouldering responsibilities. Women are just naturally selfish that's why most of them see their money as theirs and the man's money as ours. Rubbish. If we both work and earn then home expenses is our joint responsibility I will only handle more as the man chikena

sylvestersamuel:
Good morning my fellow Nairalanders, I will try to make my story brief and precise.... I have a fiancée whom I am already engaged to. As a matter of fact I have already done all our traditional marriage and rites the only thing left is our white wedding which will be coming up in the next 3 weeks.

Yesterday, my fiancée came to visit me in my house so as to discuss our wedding plans. But before she left, we had a slight misunderstanding and the reason for our misunderstanding was because I allocated 50% of our wedding expenses to her i.e (she would be the one to sew her wedding gown, pay for the catering service amongst others) while I take care of other expenses...

On hearing this, she didn't even utter a word but left with annoyance, since then I have been trying to call her but she hasn't been picking my calls neither have she replied any of my messages....

Please I need your advice, did I do or say anything wrong, because I know how much I spent during our traditional marriage rite and mind you, she earns close to 200k per month.... Insult in form of advice is allowed all I need is just your advice.

50% is too much to give her even if u earn less than her may be 30% will do. You need to lead her in financial expenditures. But she is too childish to start showing u unnecessary attitude

Jeez

17 years old girl has been in a relationship for 3 years

She started at 14, odi egwu

Most single moms are the easiest lay aka olosho in town. They are sooo easy to nack, why is it so
Easiest meat ever

Back to topic
Most single moms fight the man off when they want to support their kids bc they are bitter u didn't marry them and wants sole ownership of the kid. Don't blame the men most times it's not their fault

Lol

Attention seekers

time is money

looking forward to my first alert on 14, valentine alert

No risk no reward

Lionqueen:
My 30th birthday is in few weeks time. Am scared because I don't have a boyfriend. It's beginning to give me sleepness night. But is marriage the ultimate? Please no body should insult me����

U should be concerned especially if you want to have your own children

Omoakin120:
Hello everyone, I have something bothering my mind for a long time which I need an advice on.

I have a girlfriend who I really love so much, we were friends before I started falling for her, we've been together for long, I enjoyed her company, she's the best woman to me, she's everything you'll love a wife to be in character, caring, love and all.

Unfortunately, I have a problem, and the problem is that, she's not that beautiful to me. I'm a kind of person that doesn't like trying what my mind doesn't fully want, whenever I think of her, it's only that aspect I don't always like.

I've always fantasized of marrying someone very beautiful cos that's what I want. The problem is that this girl is so good to me. I have no problem with her, but I'm only thinking I can get fed up of her with time cos of her beauty which is not up to my expectation and I may likely cheat on her.

Please, I don't know what to do, can I still risk being with her or leave her?

Lol beauty is temporary but character will last very long

Is she presentable at all n very intelligent. U can't have it all when u get the beautiful one u will see she will be cheating, no character n will be unintelligent.

Wife her and get a side chick that is beautiful to play around with 99% of men settle it this way

No one uses this product in nairaland

nwanneni:
34,350naira for 91 days or 11k a month.
Unless of course you meant dollars
Treasury Bills is usually for people with accumulated liquid volume,beginners were meant to be in the active workforce in Nigeria creating value all over the place,hence the low yield.
In other words,hustle ooo

U r wrong

U will still divide 34350÷4 = 8587.5 for 91 days

Is anyone using paymyrent to save

What has been your experience

They have wonderful features that encourages savings and I want to save with them starting in February with automatic debiting of my bank account monthly.

Their interest rate of up to 7% per deposit is good too.

U r just a lazy boy with an oversized ego

30 yrs is not 30 months better go n hustle and earn a living

U r wasting your life

Op

Smoke ur weed Jaree
Na win win
U got a ride n a weed bag to last u for months

fquote author=Wendy006 post=85926311]What I Found In A Fairly Used Car I Bought, Please Let's All Be Careful.

What I am about to share here is 100% true. You never can trust how discreet this pages are, so I had to create a new moniker lol...

I had already concluded plans to get a fairly used Nigerian Lexus. I got a seemingly good deal on jiji so last Friday I traveled to obiaruku to seal the deal.

Everything had gone on as planned, very great guy, I paid, he handed over all relevant documents and I headed straight to bact to Asaba.

At about 7pm, I was doing a final check on the documents so I sent my wife to the car, this lady returned back with a big black envelope directly behind the driver's seat.When we opened it, it was filled with Indian hemp. I mean close to 500grammes, I was in utter shock. I quickly called the seller and cautioned him seriously.

I had gone through over 15 police check posts, how on earth would I have explained that the stuff wasn't mine.

Please folks, we've got to be very careful. Very very careful. May God not allow us to answer questions about someone else's indiscretion.

I have decided not to share the pics here, for personal reasons.[/quote]That car was used for robbery
Get a police clearance immediately
U don't want to be caught with a stolen car that has been used for robbery
Na their u go see pepper

TallPck1:
The presidency have failed to provide security for the people and the state governors have taken a great step and we the people are solidly behind them.

So the FG can go to court if they feel Amotekun is illegal.

Amotekun has come to stay just like Enugu has forest guards