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Mstick:
Since your parents are still married legally your mum can sue him for bigamy. Talk to a lawyer about it.


This is a prime example of our parents "successful marriage" we keep hearing about.

Bigamy in Nigeria

sirciao:
Hello everyone
Have been pondering on this over the years and I think i need wider view and advice on this.
I'm from a family of 6 my father separated from my mom several years ago and remarried another woman and has several other side babes
now he paid our school fees wen we wer in uni but has neglected every other aspect of fatherhood.
we hardly see him because he stays in a different state
He did a court marriage with only my mom. so please what can we do because its becoming unbearable, i decided to concentrate on my self and hussle but its getting unbearable seeing your father with so much money squander it for another woman,side chicks,church etc and neglecting his very own family.
The last straw is he wants to stop paying rent for my mom claiming he has no money due to covid 19 but i got Intel that he just rented an apartment for another side chick. he will retire very soon and his gratuity should be nothing less than 30 m. He has no property for his children only a huz in the village and several cars he lavishes money on.
What can we do to salvage this situation
should we continue to look on as he waste his money and neglecting my mom that started life with him.
Can my mom file for divorce and will she get any benefit from it.
Can we the children out rightly sue him for neglect?
Mods please help push to front page so i can get wider contribution
please share your experience if you have a similar case like mine and how you tackled it..

How old are you?

Are you not a graduate now

What stops you from hustling like a man

You want to be fed when you are obviously above 21. Better enter street and go and hustle like a man.

As for your mum, is she without a source of income? Why is she still waiting for handout after separation? You her children should support her if she can't hustle too

NEWBIN:
We have known each other for about six months now. I proposed to her in March 2020 and kept telling me she was thinking about it.

Just yesterday, she said yes to my proposal and I was so excited. When I met her yesterday evening, she told me Friday (June 26) is her birthday and that, she expects a lot of gifts and mobile money from me. My bowels became full instantly so left to go ease myself.

I have lost interest. Show me a way to outsmart this fraudster of a lady, thanks.

She is out to show her true color to you. Don't give her anything on her b'day except text message then seat back and allow the scammer show her real self. She is probably expecting gifts from about 5 guys.

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MPESA:
And you are so sure that he cheated on his wife..... Stop all this nonsense, to avoid issue he still apologized to her probably by trying to.make her understand that he didn't do it.

U sound dumb stop Mentioning me

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To God be the glory 4th ROI though small but am for now cool with it cos that's what i can afford as at Feb.

U were a T-natel investor moved to mba I guess pls what did you take to mba to move your investment to them. What did you do exactly, some of us are still hanging. pls respond

simplexity:
I really appreciate your comments, I feel a lot better emotionally now,
I even actually agreed I cheated, and I have apologized, still she left.
Being a father makes u bear a lot and carry a lot on ur mind for peace to rain, I am not weak am just being understanding.

Thanks anyways

Never apologize for what you didn't do especially when it is infidelity accusation. Stand your ground let them prove their case

simplexity:
Firstly I will like to apologize for any errors made while typing, and I am seriously in need of ur advice and criticism.

My name is Stanley(not real names) married for 4years with two Lovely kids both female with d eldest at age 4. Trust me I cherish and love my family. I am a graduate while my wife dropout from the university cause of some money issues her single mother had while she was sick. After our first child I made sure she got admitted to a polytechnic and thankful she just rounded up her N.D all expenses paid by me, with high hopes of Getting admitted for her HND.

The problem started after our first child, my wife attitude towards sex changed totally, she would never let me touch her or play with her, calling her pet names will usually end in quarrel, I spoke with her her severally, pleaded and beg her most times but her attitude never changed, she made me feel like I met nothing to her, yet she will always fight with me whenever ever she suspects I have a girlfriend, fights with any female that comes close to me through calls or chats, she even went as far as beating up a lady that needed my help thinking I was dating her.

Fast forward to recently, her mom who is a single mother relocated to stay with us, and during her stay we had some misunderstanding about money issues, (note both me and wifey are gainfully employed in the ratio of 10:4, but 60% of wifey salary goes to her mom while she spends the rest 40% anyhow she likes) during d money issues a frd of hers came and told both of them that she see saw me flirting with a lady. And without hearing my own side of the coin my mother in-law rained curses on me , reported my to all her family members and left my house angrily, two days later my wife took our children and left my house while I was in d office, I called about her where about and she said she won't tell me and she said I will hear from her family soon, her mom called a family friend saying she will sue me.

It's been one week now and I don't know the whereabouts of my kids.

Should I report to the police or what?
Note I have apologized to wife for the crime I didn't commit yet it seems they want a bigger pound of flesh.

Please kindly advise me caused am depressed and confused

First mistake never never marry a girl raised by a single mother. She saw what her mother went through bc of men and u will pay for it. She was raised to hate men. Her mother hates men bc of her failed relationship with them.

Second mistake how can you apologize when u are not guilty. I kw u are guilty Sha.

Since u are guilty and have apologize then u have to go and report to whoever gave her hand in marriage to you may be he can help resolve the matter.

No need for police, your children are with their mother and they are safe. No crime that needs police involvement except u want to waste your money.

Always avoid single mothers and their children when u want a serious relationship

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It's a V6 that's why it's too expensive at 700k

If it was I4 it should go for at least 850k

I can only ride v6 if it is suv

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Bunch of useless people

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wizboi26:
There is this family I want to marry into, but the Father of the girl did not pay the bride price of the mum, and she bore seven children for the man. The man left the woman and the children to base in another state, without caring about the welfare of the wife and children. Now I want to marry the first daughter in the family, it is becoming complected, because the family of the woman are saying that the children does not belong to the man, because he has not paid for the wife's bride price, that they own the children. And the woman is now saying that even if the Man is ready to come and pay her bride price, that she wouldn't accept it. My question now is that, is it right to go on the do the necessary things in her maternal home ?

Things are already complicated and u still feel comfortable to continue. Better look for a more decent family and marry into

Xj2020:
If you are good you are good, and if you are bad you are bad. You might hide your bad side for a while. However, it is only a matter of time before everything would come out to the open.

My story is that of a young chap that fell in love and got married to the women of his supposedly dream with kids. From day one till date, my beloved wife has been anything but a good housewife. She doesn't give me peace of mind. Always looking for ways to provoke me.

My wife isn't submissive. She is abusive and unappreciative of all I have done and have been doing for her and the children. This is in spite the fact that the financial burden of the house has been mine 100% from the beginning till date. This is a woman that does not want to do any kind of work if it is not government job. I have provided her with everything she asked for and even those things she didn't ask for. This woman has never lacked anything in my house till date.

My beloved wife insults me in the presence of our kids. Mind you, I don't smoke, drink and womanize. Neither have I laid my hands on her or intend on laying my hands on her. This is a woman I help with house chores like sweeping, washing the bathroom and toilets and mobbing the house at my leisure time.

This woman has taken sides against in the time past when I had misunderstanding with some persons outside. This woman isn't scared to insult my parents every time we have a misunderstanding. My mother-in-law isn't helping matter as she has continued to instigate her daughter against me.

I have finally made the decision to move out of the house for the now and see how things plays out. If things doesn't improve, then I would have no choice than to seek for divorce. Notwithstanding, the children would continue to be my responsibility.

Any matured advice would be highly appreciated from the house.

U want to move out haba what kind of a chicken hearted coward does that. Stay put and fight her to submission, she should be the one moving out not you.

A woman can only respect a strong man not some weakling that runs at the slightest provocation.

Ur biggest weapon for the fight is to deprive her of her needs, starve her of fund and be cold on her. Stop eating at home. Sometimes unfortunately the only route to peace is war. Don't go physical though except she goes physical on you

U earn respect most times even that of a wife it's not just given, u make her to submit to you.

DNT just walk away like some chicken

eni4real:
So a woman will submit to a man that disrespect her in Public just because he provide the money??

Others things being equal

Submission and money


A man sees submission as love

A woman sees money as love

Aizen123:
Please I need advice. I lost my Dad over 2 months now and he hasn't been buried due to the pandemic. My Uncle's are all in Lagos and can't come back.

So after the lockdown was over we decided to go to the village.. On getting I discovered that his shop was open and all the money going into the first Uncle (first son) account.. So I called my uncle because he told me it was locked and he was saying did he need my permission before to open the shop and i decided to just control myself because i like peace and i decided to go to the house in the village...

On getting there I called my uncle and he told me the keys are with them in Lagos ... That it was waybilled and i said ok and went back with my brother and sister.

Fast forward today... I got a call from someone in the village that my Dad's burial death has been fixed and i was wowed because as the first son i haven't been told yet by my uncle's. So right now i am about acting but i need advice.

Are you man enough

Are you financially bouyant

Can you foot the bill for the burial

How old are you

U need to think thoroughly before acting

Ur uncles still see you as a little boy

I suspect you are in a fixed deposit account and funds can't be released until the tenure ends. Look at the high interest the money has earned which is a pointer to my submission

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Greenbullet:
I hear guys saying all girls are gold diggers at any small request, but why refer to a girl as a gold digger if you can not care for her needs.

Many people venture into relationship these days and most male partners do not understand their role, one basic role is your ability to provide for your household, if you can not do this then you are not a man but a weakling, if your female partner request for money most times it is not to "gold dig" rather is it to test your financial capacity and reasoning.

I wonder how some guys think "if she loves me she won't ask for anything". Excuse me are you all right? She loves you and intends to spend her life with you so she is trying to assess what your financial limits are so she can add to it or know how to request.

Imagine a boyfriend not being able to pay for his girlfriend's hair or even buy her a new shoe or even just give her money to buy foodstuff, and saying " am I her parents?" Well you are more than that because the moment you asked her into your life, you also asked her needs and accepted her as your responsibility.

PLEASE STOP DATING IF YOU CAN'T LEARN THE MAIN responsibility ATTACHED TO IT

Move this trash to the dustbin

cynosuree:
Good morning. This issue has been bothering me for a long time, and I feel like it's too sensitive to ask for second opinions from people I know so I figured I'd maybe ask some strangers on the internet.


I've been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now and he's everything I ever wanted in a man. Physically, he's gorgeous, and he also loves me alot. He's kind, he's patient, communicates effectively and all. You know, all the good stuff.

But here's the problem, he cannot hold a conversation beyond "what are you doing" , "what did you eat" (and all that boring stuff) to save his life. I'm not even talking about intellectual conversations like quantum theory or anything, normal conversations about stuff that's happening around the world or around us. Anytime we try to, it usually fails spectacularly. He either ends up missing the ENTIRE point and saying something totally unrelated, or he just waits for me to say what I think so he can go "Yeeaaaa that's true" , leaving me really pissed.


He has absolutely NOTHING intelligent to contribute to any serious conversation, and this hurts me alot because it is a HUGE turn off and I'm slowly losing interest in him. It's a very tricky situation because he does/did well academically, he graduated with very good grades but that's about it...nothing more. I didn't notice it at first - before we started dating, or I would never have dated him because it is a deal breaker for me.


I have considered telling him but I don't exactly know how to approach the conversation without being rude/insensitive, I know telling him would really hurt him and I don't want that. I've also thought about learning how to live with it, because no one is perfect right? Maybe I'm asking for too much?

The latter option is what I've been doing and it's gradually killing me. I fear that I'll fall out of love completely with him and end up hating myself for ruining a good thing, because he's a really good guy .


I'd like to know what you think

Intelligence is native, he may be brilliant but not intelligent. People rarely come as a complete package. They will always fall short in one area. If u get a super intelligent man now he may be uncaring or unfaithful

SavageResponse:
I have noticed that virtually all the self-acclaimed experts of crypto and forex trading who claim to be making so much money are always trying to do one training or the other or getting people to do copy trading so as to share profits with them.

This implies that it's not possible to survive only on the income from crypto or forex trading alone.

This is my challenge to all crypto and forex traders - Prove me wrong if you get by based only on your earnings from trading crypto and forex!

The truth is that it is far easier to make money through training others than via trading.

blackwood:
I just bought Everstart now for N23k, they collected my old battery and gave me a discount of N1,000. so I ended paying N22k.

Good one

Na the battery be dt

I sold my old battery 2k to them

Nonsense if u like build dt forever

airsaylongcom:
U are so fickle. A simpleton. A phool

The best answer to a complete idio.t like u is complete silence. U can go and hug a wet transformer, monster

airsaylongcom:
U were saying something about audio payment....

Wow Good news on the card

MBA plans to acquire T-natel investors



We are boarding the same train soon bro
We entered one chance bus but we are moving to the right one now.

Up MBA

airsaylongcom:
Stop peddling lies! It doesn't pay. Tnatel is NOT a subdivision of MBA. You have been peddling this misinformation long enough

When you were running amok promoting Tnatel and Investments below 360k what did I say?

You went about talking about Minimum and Standard blah blah blah....

You even had the temerity to call me a "fake" employee. I hope your investment in Tnatel is paying you well

The thing is that they use MBA offices to carry out transactions. Anyway wish u guys the best. MBA will crash sooner than later sorry to say that but it's the truth.

T-natel (a subdivision of MBA forex) has crashed, they have released a time table to pay back investors which stretched up to Dec 2020 which is probably audio repayment

Highly profitable investments don't last long, u will lose more than u gained because of greed.