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Who is wicked? I hope it isn't me, I am,

mmmm!

So you guys are still debating the undebatable?

@poster,
serial dating is a sign of sickness. That is all.

@poster,
heartbreak in what sense? She is not yet yours. At least you know that.

At 29, I expect you to know the difference,

By the way, she made sense in her reply. She was saying she want to secure her future and you are pushing her to decide on such delicate issue.

Are you for real or for show?

Been long away. Hope everyone is smiling and smiling? Good day to all.

For?

@topic,
i don't think marriage is all about luck. It is about choice base on:
1. Your lust,
2. Your need,
3. Your intention,
4. Your sense of judgement.

You will get it right when you do it right. I think most of us allow our passions and feelings to do the thinking for us. Hence the lucky and unlucky aspect. In deciding about marriage one would inevitably take calculated risks just like in business.

Hmmm

Fact or fiction?

What do you want?

Follow her pastor's wisdom.

Another shallow minded Nigerian? You must have been counting shallow minded Nigerians in the past decades. It is a great feat. Keep it up. Just make sure you release the final figure as soon as possible.

That did it!

Now we know you!

Keep it up!

Better be!

Why not start first?

By the way, your topic isn't the same as the content. Try modify it to attract suitors.

Cheers.

Thank you. That is part of what I was trying to draw attention to.

It is inevitable that a true part of them be revealed as you get to know them. That is why I recommended using ones head and not heart.

Well, we aint endowed equally.

In a world where some people never even know their wives is sleeping with their house boy, we can't trust everyone to be cyberintelligent. It is anti social.

There will always be wise and foolish in every community.

@poster,
I was generalising. Not refering to you in particular.

You know what? Go to campus and see how many chicks dress to kill. They talk as if they have the whole world. But in their privates, they are living on borrowed lives.

Have you ever date a gal only to find that everything she told you were lies?

How many people guys and gals in real life, would reveal their negative traits on first contact?

As it happened offline, so does it online. If you can't detect a liar offline, then don't try to do so online.

The good thing is that, it had worked for me. I made friends online and most of them are now my real friends. I also detected crooks too. They know themselves.

Whatever we do, we must wear our thinking caps. Failure to do so carry heavy penalty.

I am safe! Will check it out.

, To your success!

Ifyalways,
online now,

@poster,

you surprised me, but I am not surprised.

Keep hoping!

Yes, you can know enough of people by their posts. But not just reading a post.

You see, even in real life, the biggest mistake to make is to rate someone by first impression, especially when on date.

My tip for the poster are:

1. Look not at just one post. Go through as much as you can find.
2. If your prospect concentrates on one board, say, romance, then you have to dig deeper. Go and read what is opinions are on wide range of topics
3. Read how he react to difficult situations.
4. Look for contradiction in his posts.
5. Learn to differentiate between humour, sarcasm, etc

The problem with you guys is that, many of you come to forum to search for partners. There is nothing in that. But there a lot wrong in being desperate. So desperate that you keep checking the pictures of the people around instead of digging deep.

Another trouble is that: many of us are just so ordinary when it come to knowing people by their posts. Some people can predict your personality by merely looking at your hand writting. We are not gifted equally.

If you are not gifted, then don't dare. Don't go to forum looking for wife. Go there with view to exchange ideas. To learn. If you can do this, you would sooner learn how to recognise people by their posts.

Because, in so doing, you lifted a psychological barrier.


Who says almondjoy is temperamental? Hmmmm! You saw, what you looked for. Please try again!

That explain how human you are. I now understand you better. Keep it up!

Put a child up for adoption. That is even worst than killing. I would advise you kill the child instead so that he won't find his way back to you in future!

This world is full of terrible people!

I know the questions are too much. You cannot expect anybody who is not present at the scene of conflict to judge others or mediate.

What would happen is that there would miscarriage of justice.

No matter what happen, we humans have a way of making every situation swing in our path. If your sister were to be here, she would tell us only things that would make her the innocent party. Same with your mum.

I have learn never to listen to one side of any conflict without wearing my thinking Cap,

Now, let assume that all are the way you have presented them. you would have to first and foremost go to your mother and apologise sincerely to her. she is your mother, no matter what your sister have done to your, she would not come to her knee to beg you, if she does, then you are wrong.

Make the initiative and beg your mother. wWhen she had relaxed, you can then opresent your case to her. Whe you acted the way you did.

Make it clkear to her that as the elder, she is making you feel inferior to your sister and indulging her by taking side with her. You cannot beg your junior sister, but you can at least beg your mum.

Thereafter, lt your mum do the dirty job of talking to your sister. Evrty god mother know that is their job to foster atmosphere if peace among their children. Your mum should not be an exception.

After this, you must try to avoid picking up issue with your junior sister. It is wrong. There is a element of envy in your words. I am sorry I have to say it. Your saying that:

full depth:
.Mum could have stopped that from happening but did nothin at first until i flared up(well she kind of loves her). i yelled at mum too when she approached me, then i went straight into my room.

to me indicated that you felt your mother loves the younbger sister more than you. That may partly be reason why you are so angry at her reaction.


now she left for work this morning seizing my 2 phones. she's really really upset .but what annoyes me is that Mum said so many things that really got at me this morning when i went to her office, so many, and that makes me mad !

Finally, try not to be possesed by anger anywhere agin. You have to show your strenght by being calme in difficult situations. Always think first before you act,

Since I have no more information, that is okay for me, it is a family affair,

To your progress!

Ifyalways,
quite an age! Been awhile. Hope all well? I am still busy with the soup you gave me!

It is not just widow that can be single parents. I am sure some people have said single parents are better. Those people have trouble with their reasoning just as those who said pure virgin make better wife.

That said:

let me site an example. You have a daughter that succumbed to temptation or sexual harrasement. Then she got pregnant. Due to some factor, you can't abort the baby.

What will you do?

Then you have to answer my questions before I can advise.

Lost my patience? Never!

Well, I was wise not to complete my post. At least, I can laugh.

While I agree with your suggestions, I want the guy to know that anything can happen.

Hasn't the lady been listening to God for the last 11 years? Let say 3 years? Why didn't she first listen to God before dating the guy? And why would she go all the way to court her sisters displeasure just to remain with her man?

Patience is just an excuse to cover up something. She is entertaining fear either about the guy or the wedding.

Patience after 11years of courtship,
patience after 3 years of official marriage proposal,
Patience after six months of waiting to hear from God?

Let me be patience too!

It is just amusing how people reason without thinking.

Anyone who want to marry a single parents must do the following:
1. Find out what happened to the ex.
2. Make your independent research to the man or woman background.
3. Ask your self, if you are satisfied with the above, "can you cope?"
"can you have peace of mind with the fellow?"
"are you in your right sense?"
if all these are YES, then do what you must do.

As for those of you who condemn single parents at a press of keyboard, "CONGRATULATION!"

Let imagine you are a man, and you lost your wife at child birth or due to other circumstances beyond your control, at 30, you need to give the child a future and you need to get ahead in life. Will you:
1. Kill the child just to have a new wife? If NO, how would you feel if EVERY lady you meet brand you in negative light and refuse to have any dealing with you, even without asking you how you ended up with a child?

Same poser for ladies too!

The fact of life is that most single ladies, or gents never plan to be one. We ought to look at the circumstances surrounding their fate before we judge.

Casting blanket condemnation at them is an indication of thoughtlessness.

We may pray never to marry a single parent, but nature have a way of teaching us to understand in the hard way.

I can give you advice, but that advice would be shallow for as long as I had no idea what actually transpired.

To be honest with you we all have issues with our parents at one time of the other. At the heart of your own are issues which are deeper than you put them.

You don't wake up and decided to have issue with your sister. Your mum didn't just wake up and think your sister was right. Something must have happened.

To condemn you is to show my own ignorance. To side you is to radiate my lack of wisdom. Therefore, I will do neither.

You have shown by your post that you are a good fellow. My questions are:
1. What actually lead to the conflict with your sister? I imagined, she is older than you.

2. Was you mum around when it happened, or she met you two in the drama? Did she asked for explanation? What was her reaction when you attacked her too?

3. Why did you think your mum loves your sister more than you? What motivated that thought?

4. What do you want to do? And what do you want us to do?

Every attraction come with a focal point.

It is like flies and honey. Kill dozen of them, and they still return. But take away the honey, and you won't need to lift the broom.

My advice is: apply the above wisdom. Find out what she like in you and why she is attracted to you. Then remove it. Also do what the guy up here said, ignores her. When she found that you have changed, toward her, she would sulk and leave you alone. Also, show off your girl at every opportunity. Envy, jealousy would keep her away.