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Few as they may be, there are guys that won't mind marrying a woman that smokes. I'm not one of them and will not become one of them.

Smoking and Lesbianism are becoming rather fashionable among our girls in Naija. Geneva Convention.

U know, if a guy did that to a girl, whether gf or just some thing he picked up from somewhere, we wouldnt hear the last of it. They'd take us to Geneva convention and discuss it till thy kingdom come.

Never lie to a anyone in the name of wanting to make them feel good about U or themselves. There's chances they won't lie back to U like U expected. When in doubt, say nothing.

The girl in question is just some slutty lil thing if U ask me. U needn't worry. Her opinions don't count. Now U know better than to engage in casual sex. Would U say at the end it was worth it?

By their fruits u shall know them.

On such threads the virgins usually keep quiet (sadly)

The non-virgin girls make lots of noise trying to draw solidarity to themselves

the boys who know better keep the non-virgin girls engaged in arguments that will never end

The boys who like easy sex keep encouraging the non virgin girls and throwing support behind them.

I havent read thru this thread and I don't intend to cos it's just talk that wont change a thing.

Who knows what is right and fails to do it to him it is sin.

Girl846:
@ Poster, it seems that you have already answered your question. There are many reasons.

I personally think its important to know each others sexual history if a serious relationship is in the making, so we can know how or if the relationship will progress.
I goes both ways, I also want to know my guys sexual history. I am certainly not going to date a promiscuous boy - he would probably cheat on me. I expect every guy to be truthful to me as I am truthful to them, I have nothing to hide or to be ashamed of as I have managed to keep myself. It will make our relationship and trust levels better if we are open about this aspect of our lives.

Very impressive. Very very impressive.

It might be that Ur fiance knows he is not to be trusted and knowing so himself he is suspicious of Ur phone activities and tries to keep tabs on U.
I don't know what advice to give U yet if this is the case.

It also might be that Ur fiance has sensitive documents on his phone? (yeah right)

Or maybe he has pictures of real naked women or just porn he thinks U myt find offensive?

Whatever the case U need to talk to him about how U feel about him nt letting U go thru his phone.

Left for me sha everyone should just mind his/her phone. The person that is lacking in character won't sleep comfortably. The burden is theirs to bear.

Shake my virtual hand my guy! U too gbasky!!!

Ebonyeyes:
I honestly know any girl that brands a guy impotent because he doesnt touch her. Where the hell are you meeting these girls? Ofcos there are other ways you can show you find her attractive apart from s3x. You could kiss and cuddle and leave it at that.

No be only kiss and cuddle and leave it at that. U wake he dragon be ready to tame the dragon. If he wanted to kiss and cuddle when u wanted to smooch and pet heavily, wouldn't U say he's being insensitive to ur needs?

The impotent in question comes about as a result of remixing the gist the girl gives her friends that nyt sef. From; " Girl: The guy no gree touch me."

"Girls' friend: Ehn I Tina sef said she met him at a party one time and was ubbing on his thing and he didnt even get a boner," "Girl: Abi the thing no dey work?" to John asking his buddy: "Oboy, I hear say Ur thing no dey stand at all? Try see doctor o.

What would U say about that.

Lets be realistic. A girl gets in Ur bed she has stuff on her mind. I resemble Ur brother?

Ebonyeyes:
Im sorry but most virile men will fook anything as long as there is a hole in it especially if they havnt had any in a looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooonnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggg time.

As much as we myt be gagging to get some nice booty, we also clearly knw the difference between rape and consensual sex and unless U went to sleep in a guy's place that has no self respect or rep to protect, U should know that we will hear U if/when U say no.

We try our lucks sometimes so that the story around town the next morning won't be "that guy s impotent" knowing how U gyals would think the fault is from him that he doesn't find U sexually attractive and not from U because U really arent just his type.

If U sleep in my bed and I solicit sex with U, take it as a compliment and if U consent, that doesnt make us lovers by morning.

A girl doesn't just "get stranded" for nothing. If she's sleeping in my house on the same bed with me, she probably either wants to test my character or wants me to have a go at her.

Depending on how my relationship is I myt or myt not touch her and if I touch her it doesnt necessarily mean I want something. Myt just be to assert to her that I think she is attractive. No more!

And all that is just the first nyt. Subsequently I'd have established what it is she is up to and if it's just that she's passing thru and feels my place is comfy for her, as long as my girl doesn't object, she can come and go as she pleases without further drama.

It's not every girl we see we should touch.

eina:
^^^more than 100 feets below the earths surface.

I noticed.

anitabest:
some of them dat i have in my compound said, Is not good to be eating egusi soup all the time, dat one need to eat ogbolo. in fact Na dey know.

Is it good to be coking egusi all the time? Even if the girl mama no teach her any other soup to cook she no fit take initiative go learn? Te guy sef if na only egusi him dey get him no ask for another soup him well?

How low can u go?

Size of his penis, more like acceptance of it's size and an appreciation of how he uses it.

Character, Intuition, Intelligence, wit, beliefs, personality, preferences, looks (body), dress sense, earning capacity, standard of living e.t.c.

1. Eating the cake and having it.

2. Greed

3. Lust

4. Indiscipline

5. Lack of self control

6. Lack of proper moral orientation

7. Confusion

8. Indecision

9. Emotional/psychological problems

10. "fun"

and lots more. Not necessary logical but there U have it.

Two possibilities:

1. She's clearing way for her daughter, in which case U can go ahead.

2. She really doesnt think much of U and was making way for her in-law. Advice - love urself and find another girl especially if U don't have what U'l need to wage war against her and Ur ally isnt courageous enough to stand by U thru it all.

Instead of the handwriting on the the wall U have a picture and U still don't understand? Wait make I go find modern day Daniel to come and interpret for U.

So because the guy has self control around he it makes him shy? U dey find wetin U dey find. Ask and U shall receive.

Na wetin dey trip me with people be this. U have a problem with some dude who probably doesn't know about it and U haven't bothered asking him clearly but U want us advice U on what to do?

U need to talk to him about Ur expectations from Ur idea of what being in a relationship includes.

Another stupid one. Give him some time, U hear. Hisss!!!

Babes, thanks for ur solidarity of the traditional Nigerian man. Abeg make una try cut the chic some slack.

ITgurlie:
Would you want your girl to push you off when you're about to get to your seventh heaven
I'm not putting blame on anybody what am saying is that you also as a guy have a part to play. if the chic wants you to come inside her and you're not wearing CD then it's her fault

As a guy too knowing the consequences of coming inside even in the heat of passion at least you still have your senses to know the result of coming inside you can perform "coitus interruptus"

All it takes to fertilize an egg is one sperm. Myt be released even before ejaculation so there's no telling which sperm did it. Withdrawal on it's own won't guarantee the intent was a success.

Heavens U have to come down from against ur will but for Ur good aren't worth risking too much for.

The point of this discussion is is to assert the mandate to marry a girl just cos she is carrying a child she says is urs. We have agreed that both parties need to take responsibilty for their decisions. Now what we have not agreed is whether or not marriage is a mandatory part of taking responsibilyt for a pregnant woman.

My point is girls should know better than to think or imagine that when they get pregnant for a man he automatically owes them marriage. E no dey work like that.

One would think that with the number of women left with babies they didnt plan for growing old and still fantasizing that the man responsible with them will one day get rid of the wife he married before or after their romance gone wrong and marry them dotting the map, the yunger generation of women would know better.

Ujujoan:
For a girl who has never gotten pregnant before, the cycle is only a probability! There is no sure way of knowing except u've been there!

Find we all know how to count the b/4 and after period thing, but people have ben known to take in a day to their supposed period start. So the best technique is NEVER to take the chance!

But for guys who know they r not ready to settle down, they shouldnt be told not to take the chance!

Granted, it's mostly the lady's fault for even allowing it at all, but the guy shouldn't act all 'I'm not ready to get married' if something happens! He should have thought of that first!  

Thinking of that first is easy. Thinking of that during is the hard part for both parties especially if it's any good. I know guys that have stacks of condoms the keep around themselves just in case and some of them have told me they never remember where they are or have the will power to go get them when the show has hit the road.

A girl would usually remind U to go shut the door and pull the blinds on the windows but hardly ever remembers to say "and grab the condom on Ur way back"

I'm not an irresponsible person and I do not condone irresponsibility at all. All I'm doing is appealing to every one to take responsibility just and be more realistic than idealistically lost in dreamy imaginations that the other person will do this if I do that.

Ujujoan:
Okay na, why r u complaining then?

We are Nigerians and we know better about our culture and the sanctity of our marriages. If he were married to you, he'll think twice about getting another girl pregnant.

But he obviously can't stop himself can he? And why should he? There'sno difference b/w you and the other woman! Infact, you are the the other woman!

WORD!!!

Ujujoan:
If there were such laws, then guys will learn how to be more responsible and less selfish while having s3x! There will be an exception of cos, when the CD breaks!

A guy who thinks less of himself and more of his girl will NEVER want to come inside her, cos he know he's exposing her to a lot of things. ranging from taking harmful drugs to an unwanted pregnancy!

Of cos most times women don't want to do it, but only give in to your pleas and cries! Yet another silly thing women do to make guys happy. Only for you guys to turn around and she she wants to 'tie you down' when she gets pregnant!

Like she drugged you and forced you to come inside her!    

Say what? Thinks less of himself? What the heck is the girl thinking of when he's supposed to be busy thinking more of her. U want to jump off a cliff without a parachute and expect gravity to make an exception with U?

Is it guys that think if she gives me sex I will give her love or girls that imagine that if I give him sex he will love me?

Na the way una dey reason dey land una for trouble.

U make it sound like girls have no sexual desires and are just there to provide sexual pleasure when the man wants it. Like everytime we have sex with our women we wanted it and she just consented to it to make us happy.

How many of U girls theses days even know Ur cycles and what what connotes?

ITgurlie:
Most guys will want all the pleasure, do you expect the chic to push the guy off her when he's about to come
And a broken condom occurs when it's not properly inserted or there's air in it

So if you don't wanna marry your baby's mama, then make sure you wear your condom right and save both of you the stress

It's interesting that U would hammer on the condom part and neglect the fertility period part of my post.

What's wrong with pushing the guy off cos U don't want to have a baby U expect him to marry U on account of. U make it sound like it's only guys that enjoy the feeling of cumming inside their women. Like there aren't times when in the heat of passion the lady cries into Ur ear "I want U to cum deep inside me."

Lets all be responsible and avoid building castles in the air. As chics dey waka about these days sef who know if she been no get belle before she show guy man place?

All of us no dey hear word otherwise we for no dey discuss this thing here sef.

@Mechanic

I agree with U.

And I guess a broken condom is the guys fault and U being unsafe and letting him cum inside is wisdom on Ur part and foolishness on his?

Ujujoan:
Good morning dear _{dont mind me jor}

Granted, we enjoy s3x too, but it's you guys that insist on going raw and coming inside! As far as those two specific act are concerned, we ladies are very indifferent cos we get no extra pleasure from it. It's all you men!

I just wish girls will learn how to give ultimatums to protect themselves from this weak argument you are making! If a man refuses to wear a condom, he can withdraw or pour  if he likes, but if he gets a girl pregnant, he's walking her down the aisle! Either that or it's over!      

Babe, cool down first. So Ur making a case for girls that guys must take responsibility for something they consented to? If they gets pregnant we must marry them?

That's unfair cos if it were a law then girls would be getting pregnant all the time and sticking different guys with the responsibility of fatherhood. Ur argument appears to paint the women folk as saints incapable of manipulative behavior. If I conclude by saying we should not even be fornicating or committing adultery now in the first place U will raise another argument against that I'm sure.

It's simple. Take responsibility for Ur actions. If U want to fornicate do so with the realization that U myt have a child from the act who's daddy myt not be willing to marry U or take responsibility for the child and let Ur decision to seek pleasure be without expectations of a greater reward.

Traditionally forged Katanas. Cost around $50k a piece, but then they are worth it. Don't have one yet but I'll get me two when I have the cash.