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Falling in love is not where things went wrong. maybe U fell for the wrong person or the right person at the wrong time. Maybe U both just didnt nurture the relationship properly enough?

Which one of them can U get the best of what u cherish with?

BlakkBoi:
Virginity is just a state of mind. One is a virgin only when he/she truly believe so irrespective of how many times uv done d sweet thing

This Ur lie no small o.

ITgurlie:
maybe he's indirectly telling you it's over

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What happened to Ur first husband? Na wa for this initials sha.

Shey Vision ? U better wake up from Ur slumber abi fantasies. God would reveal to the other person involved the same vision if it were him.

I'd more than be grateful to marry a virgin (Not betting on it), but virginity alone does not make a woman a wife. She could be a virgin and have issues I couldn't live with or could even loose control after we get married. I'm not looking to marry virginity. I'm looking to marry character and virtue in a girl I find compatibility with.

Yeah! I feel U, in a way.

Ujujoan, our very own taliban of men issues. U want her to blackmail him? Hehehehe. Trust U to go by all's fair in love and war.

^^^ Brilliant. I don't agree with Ur closing but I think mirroring him will get his attention a lot easier.

Tehehehehe!!!

I like this girl. Maybe today her door will jam lock again and then U can pay "the welder" N2500.

Classical case of mumurity.

Gudgurl:
He has nt even cal or send mesage. Wil i b termed 'bad' i maintain my stand dat am nt goin 2 cal him?

If U are termed bad for wanting to feel as important as u should be made to feel by a guy U are getting married to, then the earth needs more bad girls.

Love isnt a one way street. Even when it looks as if it is sometimes there just isnt as much traffic on the other side and it myt be cos of a hold up.
Ur case is not the case of a hold up.

One thing I despise is when people feel like they are doing their partner a favour being with them. If U feel like not calling him, don't. The worse that myt happen is U both have a fight which could provide the grounds for some revelations of the reality of things with him to come to light.

Parents do realy complicate things sometimes.

I'd advice Ur friend to chill if her man would and has if they both have as much commitment to their relationship as they need.

If she chooses not to marry and stays with her bobo long enough, chances are the guy with the oyinbo wife will run out of patience and get a move on and the parents will come to respect her choice and bless them.

Must she get married now?

Gudgurl:
Ther was a day we ar 2geda we were bot checkin his phone nd a mesage came in wit d content lyk 'do u tink am cheap,wat do u take me 4, ' i told him i nided explanatn bt he said he wasnt goin 2 discus it til he feels lyk. Alot of tins. Today he wil apear faithful 2mrow unfaithful. Alot of tins. I sent a text 2 him expresin mysef afta last 9t incidnt he didnt reply. Nd av dcided am nt goin 2 cal him

People will treat U how U let them treat U.

What U don't know can hurt U and U myt never know it was what hurt U.

Pay more attention to what people do than to what they say. Saying "I love U" is one thing. Showing "I love U" or "I cherish Ur relationship with me" is another thing entirely.

What kind of relationship are U into? What are Ur guys beliefs concerning relationships? Is he open to "just dating"? Are U both thinking along similar lines? What does he want out of the relationship with U.

U know one thing bout relationships that lead to marriage? Things U allow in a relationship first get worse and have chaces of staying worse or geting worse than that still, more than they get better.

Even those things that get better get worse first before getting better and much work is required on the part of both parties.

He's getting calls and sms's now and hiding t from U possibly telling himself the usual lie "When I get married I will change." If that's true, when he does get married and finds it difficult to change and relapses to the old habit, He'l just quit and say it's his nature and many women will encourage him by saying "all men cheat."

Anyway, U should tell him and if worse comes to worse give him an ultimatum, however do it in a way that he doesn't take it as a threat but a loving demand for respect.

Did this confession happen before the wedding ceremony or after al had been said and done; and yeah, how come the brides maid knew the father was the groom when they were too drunk to even remember they had sex?

Missy B:
It's only in Naija that smoking is a sign of irresponsibility/immorality.

Haba . . . .Make una upgrade a little na.

Na so e dey start. Upgrade ehn? Hope U live in Nigeria and Ur husband settles here with Ur family so Ur kids and rand kids can benefit from the upgrading.

Smoking in naija is not a sign of irresponsibility or immorality. Nigerians typically just don't understand why anyone should enjoy inhaling harmdul substances.

Good girl.

indie22:
Dont take this the wrong way but you sound like a bit of a "know it all", plus i havent seen any where on this thread where anyone is encouraging easy sex, you can be judgemental and claim to give advise all you want but people will always live their lives however it pleases them.

Whe you use the word "non virgin" you make it seem like its a mortal sin, does the bible not say "judge not, so that ye may not be judged"?

Would U have preferred if I had used Fornicators and Adulterers in the place of Non-virgin? Have I called any names and said U are a sinner. Have I even read thru the post besides the topic? Has the topic been closed? If it hasnt been then wait for it to close before U point out that there was no where in it where anyone encouraged sexual immorality.

I know holy pass but then this is a medium I can use to help someone stay on the right path and I will make the most of it regardless of what anyone thinks of me.

I havent broken NL rules have I?

There was this girl I was involved with whose phone I checked once when it was ok to call her my gf. Found an sms in it she had sent to some dude confessing love and saying she "wanted him." I confronted her and we ironed things out but after then fr a while if I went thru her phone and saw nothing, I'd feel she had deleted all of them. I didnt bother checking after a while cos that one event took away all the trust.

Are U sure U want to embrace the possible reality with Ur man?

Ur case is more like : Do unto others as u suspect that they are doing or will do unto U.

Express Ur discomfort with his manners to him as best as he would hear U out. If nothing better comes out of it U should brace urself and expect it to continue as it is or worsen.