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digitalman:
I am happy that you have pointed out where you said I lied and I have tried to clarify my point too.


This your new write up which is entirely new cooment should be directed to the OP not me.

Expert17:
Mr man,

Keep quiet, spitting out rubbish since

digitalman:
Now you have made attempt to quote what I wrote that you deemed "lie".

Thank you for doing the right thing.

Now I said she might be dissapointed because she did not kill the baby eventually. Even though she collected the 20K for the job.

My point in my answer is that the "Writer" did not include that as something he learned. He listed what he learned and failed to include the most important. Afterall, he made us emotional when he finally united with his "supposed" child.

If the Lady killed the baby, would the man`s story have been the same?

annayawchee:
Baba before you judge him, read his story, I worked where I was paid 30k and I was able to save 1m, I worked for 3years and I saved my salaries? How did I achieve this? I do get tips from customers who felt what I did for them was satisfactory and I neither womanizer nor drink, my goal was to save up and go away, op was earning 50k before he was sacked and he had bikes that do daily pay for him and he was focus too , he just fall into temptation and that's it.

Not everyone stole!!!

skj1377:
Chairman, how did you make N1million plus savings working in a hotel? Whatever you steal will be stolen from you. You even rented N300k flat. If what you did was legit than how come you could not continue offer you job was stopped.
I remember my worker in my paint factory. He was selling product without paying into the company account. His salary was N20k with completely furnished self-contained apartment with dstv. He had an official motorcycle and a commission on production. To cut a long story short I had to sack him and pay him off N600k with an agreement.
The jaz the guy was using was not allowing me go to the factory or ask questions looks like the jaz bleeped up at one point or the other. I conducted an audit and found out N1.8million was missing.
Fortunately for me I was paying his salary into a bank that my then girlfriend was working. She sent a summary of all transfers he made in 1 year and it was N2.7million.
The guy later confessed that he was building a house but the builder he had been transferring the stolen money to was just stealing the money and sending him fake pictures. I remember the guy was very popular in the area, had many girlfriends and was dating baby mama. He even had pot belly looking fresh while I was skinny and frustrated.
After I sacked him looks like he tried to start his own company with the rest of the loot but that didn't work out. He begged to come back I refused even though I had no replacement for him yet. Many years down the line he had information I was expanding and needed somebody he begged again still did not employ him. Funny enough I had confidence in him because he was a drummer in a church when I employed him I though he was born again.
If that kind of guy starts writing his story it will be like yours. " I had N2.7million in my account and was building a house but I lost my job the contractor ran with my money and my girlfriend or baby mama left me"

digitalman:
You have NOT pointed what is NOT true in what I wrote.

OP: I asked her who was responsible and she said me of course and I asked her what she wanted to do with the pregnancy and she said she wanted to GET RID(She no want get the belle and she wan comot am) of it, I told her to keep it(I tell her say I want am) but she insisted(she nor gree listen) of getting rid of it and sincerely I didn't press(to still beg her to keep am) her much and I gave her 20k that same day and a few days later she told me it was done and I believed her but a month after she left her mom's to go stay with her grandma at iyana ipaja.

digitalman:
You gave the Shola 20k to go kill the baby. She must have been disappointed in you and that complicated her relationship with you.

BamBella:
Ohh spare me that nonsense please

Don't blame the poor house, typical of you Africans. The dude made terrible choices, hence his downfall.

digitalman:
"What" is not true?

You didn't say what is not true.

I also didn't say she is a straightforward person.

I was too emotional drained to press any further and i think by February of 2018 she told me she was pregnant and WOW was my reaction, I asked her who was responsible and she said me of course and I asked her what she wanted to do with the pregnancy and she said she wanted to get rid of it, I TOLD HER TO KEEP IT but SHE INSISTED ON GETTING RID OF IT and sincerely I didn't press her much and I gave her 20k that same day and a few days later she told me it was done and I believed her but a month after she left her mom's to go stay with her grandma at iyana ipaja.

digitalman:
Please Sir, don't fail to understand one thing important.

You gave the Shola 20k to go kill the baby. She must have been disappointed in you and that complicated her relationship with you.

Add to your life lessons: Thou shalt not kill.
Make sure you find legal ways and take care of your son.

Don't fail to do DNA test!

pasol4real:
I don’t know why Nigerians fail to reason? How is the fg right in this matter. The reason why this issue arose is simply lack of communication , and in this case from the fg to the state government n chief security officer of rivers state. The most important thing on earth right now is how to tackle n keep ppl safe from corona virus. This applies to both the fg n state governments.The President even announced that those on essential duty would have to clear themselves by informing the authorities as the case may be.Now there is a lockdown in rivers state put in place by the state government, that is no one is allowed to enter rivers or go out weather by air or road. Now the issue here is not weather the fg has the rights or not, even wike acknowledged that fact when he said a week ago that he has no powers over who flies on air or into the airport but that before any one enters the state he as the governor must be aware.This is not a usual norm it only arose as a result of this pandemic everyone is trying to curb. The minister or the fg should have known better. What were they thinking giving a clearance to some possible carriers of the virus to a state in a lockdown without the knowledge of the authorities in that state.
The fg should have informed the the governor or the authorities, they seriously erred.
This is exactly why we are all in this mess in the first place.....The carelessness of the fg.

toxtimmy:
You people type too much while you stick your head in sand.

A lockdown is not a zombie apocalypse... So farmer should not produce garri or tomatoes because of lockdown?... Mechanic that fixes ambulances and machines at hospital should stay home? Companies that make medical face mask or medical equipments and parts should stay home? Idiots.

Now show me the whole written legislation or law that was enacted by Rivers state government on covid19?

Honestly there is none apart from press release or tv or radio announcement.

Una no get sense

skedman:
It is wike that is wrong they have followed protocol
Took permission from the federal government before embarking on the trip
Airport belongs to the federal government likewise it's activities .The people they carried are important people.

Throwback:
Hasn't the aviation minister representing the Federal Government state clearly that Caverton got clearance to operate the flight?

Or was Wike expecting that he should be the one to grant such clearance?

I hope Wike remembers his time as a Federal Minister and how the Federal Government can frustrate a state government like he did to Rotimi Amaechi.

Time for neighboring states to benefit from Caverton's relocation from Rivers.

Toks2008:
There is a difference between a guy who decides to give his lady money without her making demands and a lady who has the habit of demanding.

It is ok to give your lady money only if you feel like or when it is extremely necessary and you should only give money you can afford without expecting anything in return but never ever put yourself in a difficult position where the lady you are dating will be making financial requests from you as if it is her right because no matter the sacrifices you make, she will still dump you if she wants to and when you look back to recount all you have done for her, you will realize how all the money you have given her would have been enough to change the life of someone very dear to you.

I have read many stories of guys lamenting about how they spent so much for a lady just for the same lady to end up dumping them for another man and i always wonder if these ladies forced the money out of them at gunpoint.

A lady who truly desires you will never make unrealistic financial demands from you but only a woman who does not have your interest will make demands as she wishes because she has no plans with you... the fact that you give a lady money does not mean she will love you and...in fact, a woman will take your money and give to another broke guy she desires cos a woman will sleep with a man she truly wants even if she gets nothing from him.

Please work hard, save and invest your money for your future, spend on your parents and family members and if you must give any lady money please do it without expecting anything in return and give only what you can afford.

Don't be scared of losing any lady because you have no money to give to her and stop wasting your money chasing shadows cos a lady who will be yours will always be yours and a lady who is truly yours will help you save your money and not take and take from you because if you give your girlfriend money because you don't want to lose her, you must keep up with her demands even after you marry her else she will dump you

Hope this makes sense.

olisaEze:
Lemme summarize for those that don’t understand ne. Bagudu hid moni for Abacha. He struck a deal with the FG 2 years ago after refunding small ($168 million) from that moni. Now that the US wants to return block to Nigeria, Mr Integrity now wants to hand over the bulk of what the US wants to return ($155 million) to Nigeria to Mr Bagudu in the good faith that Mr Bagudu will hand it back to Nigeria. Even though our AG has said he is not aware of any deal btw Nigeria and Mr Bagudu. Nigeria is currently cash strapped, heavily in debt & looking for more debts to incur! Now go figure...

Even me that is trying to explain don confuse na sef! How does an accessory to a crime even have rights to the proceeds of a crime.

KingAzubuike:
Oga situations like this people are always quick to play the blame game without getting to the root of the story. I saw pictures of his battered Toyota Camry online. Report has it that he was first flanked down by the police, he refused to to stop then they notified the soldiers ahead. Still he was still playing fast and furious. They shot his tires then approached him, still he was trying to do gra gra. No time bro, they blasted his head. Same thing I would have done if I was the soldier. That cannot be tolerated.

mtinfx:
wow we also pushed them to where they nuked 51 ( they reduced the actual casualty as some inside sources claimed 75) NIgeria soliders in one fell swoop a week ago


we also pushed them to remove general adeniyi after videos of Nigerian soldiers crying surfaced and begging for food and weapons

keep being a zombie, facts will remain facts

if its that easy to boost morale, challenge our so called General that is sleeping in aso rock to near a war front in the north and also ( boost ) morale if its that easy

Donald3d:


I am about to go very raw, kindly permit me, I haven't gone this raw here before, but you need help, so here it is.
I hope this doesn't change people's perspectives about me sha , we Nigerians like been mute about sex. Its an important ingredient in marriage, no matter how spiritual you are.

The best way to solve any problem is identifying the source or root of the problem and eliminate it .

From what you have said, she enjoys pre-intimacy , I would have loved to ask what type of pre-initmacy to help find a solution, but I also understand she is your wife and you can't be too explicit because this is a public forum.

Anyway, as I said earlier, let's tackle the source of the problem, which is FEAR, she is afraid, very afraid, so we need to eliminate the fear.

She is also pressured because you are "reporting" her to people, keep this between both of you Sir, please stop involving other people, fear and pressure is a very dangerous combination.

Please don't give her any sedatives, you really don't need it.

The issue with her fear is closely related to why lubricant aren't even working, the internal muscles of her privates would contract making it tighter because she is afraid, her natural lubrication won't also be discharged because her fear is making her mind "switch" it off, coupled with the fact that you are also scared of inflicting injuries on her privates.

There are two possible ways to eliminate her fear

1.Trying to convince her not to be afraid (easier said than done)
2. Introducing something that would involuntarily eliminate her fear.

I assume you have tried number 1, let's go to number two.
There are a few things that are greater than fear, but we would be sticking to the subject matter.
In this context and with the peculiarity of the situation, there is only one thing I believe can exceed that fear ...... Pleasure , Excessive Pleasure, when a human experiences excessive pleasure, the body releases pain killers and anti-stress chemicals.

So what should you do ?
You need a non-invasive pleasure mechanism, proven and tested , the most painless sexual activity. Guaranteed to give utmost pleasure .
You guessed it , O r a l Sex.

Its isn't just about putting your mouth there , you need to do it right (forgive me as I am about to go a bit raw).

You know your wife more than anyone, you know what turns her on, her pleasure spots. Use your mouth very well on those spots.
You need to understand that there is a mission here. O r g a s m
But there are some "hot spots" common among most women

1. The nipples
2.The clitoris

I would focus on number 2 ..
1.Make sure the bed is well made, clean sheets, turn on the AC , if you don't have one, turn on the fan and leave it running to cool the room. Make sure no one else except the both of you is in your home, she needs to be comfortable.

2.Ensure you both have a warm bath and wash each others privates before you commence.You wash hers, she washes yours.Try and start up a conversation about some funny experiences you've both had, how you met each other and fell in love , how much you love her, all while washing each others privates. You are psychologically manipulating/distracting her with this.When you are done, dry each others body and carry her to the bed.Careful, so you don't slip and fall oo, you can leave that part out, but women love it !. You can back her like a baby or carry her in your arms, whichever you are ok with. Make sure she is unclad, but put on a boxers short, this eliminates her fears of seeing an erect instrument.

3.Its important you place a pillow under her waist to elevate her lower region, it allows for easy access with your mouth and with your instrument, when its time for insertion. It also ensures you don't feel neck pain and can breathe well during the process.

4.Use your mouth on the clitoris till she "explodes", don't stop no matter how long it takes, but you have to be careful not to be too hard on it as you would get the opposite of the desired effect, you would give her pain instead of pleasure. You need to be gentle and firm(I know this sounds contradictory, I would explain), use your lips as they are soft tissue, that won't cause much bruising, suck on it, in and out, grab the whole of it (the clitoris--- I have attached an image for easy identification, its that slightly protruding part of her privates that looks like a mini peeeenis) with your lips and gently slide it out of your mouth, without it leaving your mouth completely, make sure your lips holds unto it(this is what stimulate it and gives pleasure), but not too tightly, you can use your tongue as support to put the clitoris in place, if the clitoris is slipping out of your mouth. Keep repeating this back and forth.

5.Now, its important to hold her, so you can feel the "rhythm" of her body, hold her sides, or her laps, start out slowly, but not to slowly, gradually increase your "sucking pace" as you notice the rhythm of her body starts to change . This method ensures you don't bruise her and you also don't get tired easily.It also ensures a natural flow and gradual increase in pleasure.It would get to a point you might have to go really fast, this clouds her brain with pleasure, do this only when the rhythm of her body tells you to do so, when she starts to slightly wriggle or when she asks you to increase your pace.

6. Do this till she "explodes", and wriggles in pleasure, most likely at this point you are also erect, its important you take advantage of this moment, because at this point, you have killed three birds with one stone. She is too climaxed to notice her fear, her body has released enough chemicals to considerably reduce pain and she is properly lubricated for relatively easy insertion.Don't waste time !!!. Slowly (not too slowly), insert, before she comes back to reality . Make sure the pillow is still under her it ensures her lower region is elevated, so you can see clearly for insertion , I assume from the beginning she is already lying flat on her back, spread her legs out gently, this also relaxes/expands the cavity of her privates.If you still find it a bit difficult to penetrate, manually use both hands to spread the outer privates open for easy access, glide in back and forth as you both copulate to produce a wonderful seed that would bear fruit in 9 months.

7. You might need to do this more than once to be successful at it .
8.The fact that you did all this doesn't mean she might not feel pain, it just reduces the pain, it also might totally eliminate it.
9.Once you start have it in mind that you must see it through till the end.
10.If she is in excessive pain, stop and repeat the same day or another day till you get it done.


NOTE: Please stop reporting her to people, apart from the fear she is feeling, reporting her or telling other people about it, is putting her under additional pressure and stress, its adding to her Psychological lock-down. Please don't be upset with her. Buy her gifts, make her feel loved, make her understand you aren't judging her or upset with her. I am sure this steps would work for you

NB: I am married by the way, in case anyone was wondering.

fulaniHERDSman:
Dem use U dey pass time. Once whistle blow dem go re-start 2nd half.
My guy, approach the game with TIP TAP FROM BOTH SIDES WITH OCCASIONAL TEAR AWAY.
ATTACK TOO CONSTANTLY FROM FLANKS, BUT DON'T FORGET TO FIRE FROM OUTSIDE THE BOX.
DO I HAVE TO REMIND U TO MAINTAIN DEFENSIVE SOLIDITY, WHILE ENSURING VERSATILITY IN MID FIELD.

mablie:
If a lady is interested/attracted to a guy,she will never make things difficult in meeting/getting together with the guy.The OP should move on because the more he tries to change her mind,the more he comes across as needy/desperate.You will surely meet another pretty lady even prettier than her

MarieSucre:
Lol if you check my post history, you will see that I have not been on nairaland for months. Unlike you, people have jobs and a life outside this forum, but you can't understand this, you practically live on nairaland.

luminouz:
K!!!

luminouz:
Lmaoooo... Which plenty pride and self worth?

See the way u dey Huff and puff and all judgy on something that already happened years ago. Who made you so confident to call another human 'low self worth and cheap'?

I'm real and raw and say shiit the way it is. What she did was revenge and I liked it. Stop being so fuqin emotional dude. I never see you blaming that dude that waited for 10 years to walk out on his fiancee na.

I still maintain my stand...many of the guys blaming her have done worse. Una dey Bleep sisters, mama and daughter... Aunt,mama,daughter,niece...and laugh about it.

.the Guy's countenance wasn't faked and if it was, his losing weight wasn't. I'm a man and I know when a man is deeply pained by such actions. That geh had her revenge and it was fuqin sweet. No self respecting bf will call his babe such names and offer her up. He made her what she turned out to be. Other gehs might walk away but she chose to teach him a lesson. And what a lesson it was. I loved it.

Now..if you go all emo-ranting on me again, I will slap a wet,juicy,creamy, yummy tasty 'K' up your ass

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luminouz:
But you can do that as a guy and you have self worth

Louisboy22:
hmm allowing two friends to sleep with u show that you have no self worth