₦airaland Forum

cantell:
@Michelin.
Our culture is different. Its not like in western culture where the parents knocks on the door of their 8yr old child and waits till he/she answers before they come in.
In Igboland, there's this adage that says, "One person cannot train a child". If a young child misbehaves in public in my place, the nearest adult will either report to the parents or scold the child. In some cases the child might be given some strokes of the cane.
Parents listen to their fellow adults because they believe an adult would not lie just to see a child punished.
Besides they can only listen to the people they trust.
Its the way it is.

emmmm your point?

Parents like this lose out in the long run. I know a couple of parents that are finally realizing that their unwillingness to change has cost them their relationships with their young adult children.

You need to move out. Don't get used to his bad behavior because as soon as you accept it then you will accept it eventually from a husband. Your dad is just being abusive and it's probably because he has always been like that and nobody called him out. don't expect him to change after all it is his house and your mother has put up with his behavior. Hell will freeze over before he lets his child tell him he is wrong and she is right

sugabelly:
Can I just point something out?

All these people using passages from the Bible to justify women being submissive to men, remember that your arguments are based on the assumption that everyone here is Christian, Muslim, or Jewish. If even one person is not one of the above three religions, then your arguments don't mean poo.

Your wife is your lover and life partner, not your housekeeper, slave, or servant. Just as you washed your own clothes in secondary school and college, so too did she. Just as you go to work and come back tired, so too does she. Men are not better than women. Men are not more special than women that they deserve to rest while women continue to slave away. Men are not more deserving than women and women nine times out of ten work ten times harder than most men do.

If anything, if we were to argue this at all in any way, it is women who are far more special than men. It is women who deserve better than men do. It is women with the ability to create and protect life and for that among other things women should be respected and revered by men. Women should not be slaving about for men. On the other hand men should be running around trying to see what they can do to make the women in their lives more comfortable.

The real problem here is that lots of men here are ungrateful pricks. That same wife that you are trying to force to wash your clothes is going to support you, often putting her own dreams on hold so that she can prop up yours, applaud your sorry antics in bed, carry your progeny for nine months, suffer to give birth to them, run around to take care of them while you ungrateful idiots posture and puff up your over inflated egos, and still juggle working to contribute to your life together, and you cannot find it in yourselves to express your gratitude for once and do your own bleeping laundry

You men should be ASHAMED of yourselves. ASHAMED and CONTRITE. If women didn't put up with all your bullshit what would you do? What? If all the women in the world today decided that they were done giving a poo about men, what the hell would you all do besides sit on the floor and cry?

This attitude is DISGUSTING. You were not born with a female servant conjoined to your hip. You are able bodied and have all your limbs and abilities so YOU CAN TAKE CARE OF YOURSELVES. If you want someone to do your laundry so badly then bleeping employ a servant that will bow to you and say 'yes sah!' You men act as if you are doing women a favour by marrying them. And I bleeping blame Nigerian women that act as if marriage is a do or die affair. It is because Nigerian women have been trained to be so desperate to be married that Nigerian men think they can treat women like poo. Marriage is not about men doing women a favour. Marriage is about two people that love each other choosing to share their lives with each other. Marriage is not the hiring of another domestic servant.

And as for all of you, claiming that women should happily potter about the house while their fat, lazy husband relaxes, tell me, who the hell finds joy in servitude? You? I sure as bleep don't. Women have AS MUCH RIGHT to chase their dreams as men do. You only live one life, and who the bleep are you to tell women to spend their ONE PRECIOUS LIFE playing slave to some silly man while he achieves what HE wants to achieve. We are just as human as you are, and we deserve just as much happiness and freedom as you do. And as long as women bleed red and piss yellow just the same as men then bleep whoever says we're not entitled to every right and freedom men have. Humility my bleeping backside. Why the bleep can't men be humble? Why the bleep should only women be humble? Who the bleep are you? Are you gods? Is there any special power you all have that we don't know about yet? Who the bleep entitled you to pride and accomplishment and relegated us to humility and mediocrity?

Bullshit. You can't do your own laundry. Who the bleep are you? You try to giving birth to a child or having periods and then come back and tell me that you are too big to do your own laundry. bleep and worrahell.

Oh Sugarbelly if this was a few years ago I would have written like this but I have learned that with a lot of African men this behavior is nothing to be ashamed of. They honestly feel and in many cases raised to feel like a lack of common sense is totally acceptable. As a matter of fact it is totally acceptable to them to be reduced to the mental level of a 1 month old baby all the while referring to them as the head of the home. All I can say is my dad is in his 60's and my mom is currently here in the US as my sister is on bed rest. Nobody is doing my Dad's grocery shopping for him. He does not want that. He goes to the market himself to do it. He can have any number of people do it for him but that is just not his thing. There is no house work that I have not seen my dad do. None. My dad is very respected within and out of the family. I really wish I could clone him so I can teach all these kids how to be a man. it is 2010 y'all. Grow up and stop embarrassing yourselves.

I did not even know there was an election. I vote for all of them in arrears. LOL

If you follow the marriage the way God intended then you should be divorce proof. However I am sure that there are atheists out there that have loving happy marriages

A lot of Nigerian women think that way. I think my two year old eats too much but I always get the "give him all he can eat abeg" from them. It is a dangerous habit

I am married but I feel it is overrated. My uncle and aunty are separated now after 22 years together. She is American and an angel to have put up with him so long. My uncle is not a bad man. He is a good provider but not easy to live with. He wants her back but I am not sure how that is going to work for them.

He washes my clothes and I wash his. It is a matter of throwing it in the washer abi? It is not unusual for him to ask me if I have some dirty dark colors cause he wants to wash his socks and he does not have enough to make a load. I can't imagine my husband not doing laundry when it is obvious that it needs to be done and I have not gotten to it. Anyway to each their own.

sayso:
So he wants her to sleep with other men and she did,now he wants her to return the kids,is there a problem,I do not see any if you ask.

What are you talking about? Are children a defective product you buy and return to the store. I just wonder what the worth of a human being is in that Nigeria. The children are the woman's biological child. The man is an idiot 5 times over. Return the kids my foot. Thank God the 22 year old seems to have some sense.

The man is selfish. Maybe God did not make a mistake. Not everyone has what it takes to be a father.

I don't care where it is made. it just has to be reasonable

There will be surprises in heaven. The man just sounds so full of hate.

My mom had a situation years back. She was working long shifts and one day after a 16 hour shift that ended in the morning she went home and then left again to go to her bank. She said that all she knows is that she felt fresh air when she got to the bank and got out of her car and when she looked down she saw that she had put on her blouse but forgot the bottom part. She had driven to the bank with just and under slip. I had to console her by telling her that lace was in vogue anyway.

Another one of my aunties (my moms friend) was working so hard too and during her break she ran out to do some errands. After waiting for a couple of hours and no sign of her my mom sent someone to go check to see if she was in the parking lot. My mom said basically my aunty had gone out and come back and even opened the door of the car but somewhere between getting out and turning off her head lights she fell asleep right there in the car. Door open and lights on. That is the craziness of the US. Stress can make you do crazy things.

I like the idea of a Fashola/Okonjo Iweala ticket. I don't consider her old meat either. She is definitely not the old politics we are used to.

What does the church use the warehouse for

thanks dual core. Been out all day with clients and just got back. As soon as I get my boys in bed I will get back online. Hopefully you will be there. are you on messenger

Any wordpress users please. I need to fix something and I have a few hours actually 1 day to have it up and running. I am not writing any code. The problem is with my shopping cart. It gives me an error message whenever I try to do the checkout

"Sorry, online ordering is unavailable to this destination and/or weight. Please double check your destination details"

Any input will be appreciated. Thanks

LOL. Are you saying that I can shower with the same detergent that I use for my laundry?

vislabraye:
http://authentikbeauty..com/2009/10/why-halle-berrys-relationship-is.html

May be she never met the right black brother

I tire sef

Unfortunately this is very possible. People tend to live on cruise control. Life is very stressful here in the west and most people have more on their plate than they need to. I used to be really critical of parents that came up in the news when things like this happen but now I can see why. I remember a guy that actually forgot his infant in the car and went to work and the baby died. It was so sad. His wife usually dropped of the baby and he had the other kids. On this day he dropped of his other kids but completely forgot the baby in the back and parked the car at work with the baby. I am sure that man will never ever forgive himself but I can also see how when you wake up in the morning and going through the motions of the day you would forget the most important thing in your life - your child

ifyalways:
I think its my eyes but i didnt get anywhere in the article where the Girl accused the boy of ritual
What kind of intimacy wud make a lady bleed for a week

Using a white handkerchief to wipe her is an indication

ermmm. I kind of mixed them together. I will go back and edit it

Etsako names

Oshione/Osione M
Osighue M
Oshiogwe/Oshogwe M
Omogbai M
Imaekhai M
Ekhaesomhi M
Osigbemhe M
Ekkaeyemhe M
Ikhane M
Igbare M
Esimekhua M
Esitseme M/F
Jesukhugie M/F
Oshioriame M/F
Itseme M/F it really could be any but never heard a guy answer to it. Kind of like a buy names Stacy. It can happen. It simply means "My own"
Imobekhai M
Zenebu F
Omone F
Otselo F
Erame M
Oshiokpekhai M
Obiamhe M
Osuma M
Ikhaenede M
Emodume M
Iyeteku M

Auchi means that he speaks Etsako and you do not have an Etsako name amongst any of the ones given so far