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shumno:
@outstrip you are just assuming that I would be a terrible mil to my dil, I reject that in the name of Jesus. All am trying to say is that you should not be too hard on your parents because of what you see happening around you, after all the Bible says you should honor your father and your mother, I feel being kind to them is part of it. If the need arises for them to have to live with me I would even invite them (mil and mother) to come live with me, it is an African custom. I don't blame you, na your oyibo mentality dey worry you.

Now get this, it is only people like you who are not secure or something that would bother themselves about such things, as far as I am concerned a wife's role is quite different and distinct from the role a mother plays. You as a mother can never take the place of a wife, likewise the wife can never take the place of a mother, two poles apart, and if both you and your husband understand, love and respect each other nothing can come between you, your husband sef will be on your defense.

For your info and by the grace of God, I am not planning to live off my children, only a bad mother would do that. I am comfortable right now and believe it will remain so if Jesus tarries it is my prayer that the kids turn out even better than we are right now, at any point in time if they ever will need help my husband and I will not hesitate to run to the rescue. We would continue to pray that all goes well with everyone (parents and children) so that nobody bothers anyone. I even declare even right now that by the grace of God I will NEVER in future be a problem to my sils and dil and I pray to abide by what I have declared (I strongly believe in God), amen and shalom to you!

mummy3:
My mother till triumphed sound
But my MIL (highest one week) because she’s a case file as long as her 5 son’s wives are concern she’s a case file I repeat again.


MIL =

SWEET MOTHER =

shumno:
For as long as they want. One day I would also visit my kids in their homes when they are married and would not want to be chased out of their home as if I am a stranger. Do unto others what you would have them do to you. Women remember your mil has become your mum too. You love her son you have to love her too because she gave birth to him. Shalom!

Ninapha:
relatively I did Outsrip. Though i am not to answer for the original poster. for me neither would stay as much as she wants except my hubby and I are comfortable with their staying. We determine how long we want u to stay.

No matter how u wish to present it, you cannot be so free with you mother in-law as your mother especially in some standard family values in your home.

I know u agree with me oh jare

Ninapha:
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Would you say the same for your mother-in-law (husband's mum)?

There is always this hidden unacceptance between MILs and
DILs

Very many cant live together, I consider my Mum very peaceful but i wont advice my sister in-laws to have her for a long period, one has to guard her marriage with wisdom.

I don't think you answered his question

Gbyte:
Lets stop decieving ourselves, the answer is YES. I don't want to write more than this cos if I do ladies for here go hate me

weaseloo:
I am not a weave on person at all. My last fixing was hell, could not stand it. I felt pain in the spots where the thread held the weave unto my hair. I also hate it when I can see parts of my hair sticking out where they should be hidden. I find it really untidy.

I do braid like 5-6 times a year. I prefer my natural hair any time any day. I cannot stand being under the drier as well, blow drying all the way. Thank God for wigs!

Even the 6-inches heels, not for me, comfort is key!