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How is she doing? I have been trying to keep abreast on facebook. I think she should just leave that apartment for him. Let him stay there. She should just leave and make a life for herself and her children. I know she might not like this either but I think she should try as much as possible to keep the kids out of the details. The picture shocked me and the nature of theinjuries but the children in the pic actually disturbed me. I wish her well. I know she will be okay. She just seems like a realistic kind of person that will not sit and moan oevr the fact that she is raising kids on her own rather than take action

mekaboy:
MEN I THINK ITS BETTER TO CALL EACH OTHER BY NAMES FROM THE START BECAUSE WITH TIME THE PET NAME BECOME DIFFICULT TO MAINTAIN, WHEN THE MAN IS STRESSED OR NO LONGER PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED TO HIS WIFE, IF YOU CALL HIM BABY, HE FIT SLAP YOU.

You have serious issues rotflmao. My parents call each other darling. The times they have used their names it was obvious that there was trouble in paradise or someone just wanted to look for trouble

After the advice this man reads here he is going to go to work today and jump on that woman. to the OP why don't you get your policy on dress code and hand it to her. I hope it is not just you who is Hot and this poor woman wearing a buba and wrapper to work is now looking sexy to you

Very silly

You are not thinking logically. From your post I can already tell that you will regret it if you do it. It is not your nature and you are just seekingout revenge. The same courage you take to cheat is the same courage you use to walk out of the marriage. Can you live with yourself if you cheat. Maybe he can but I am sure you will always think of the fact that you cheated and it does not matter that he did it a million times first. I don't know too many good decisions that were made when someone was angry or hurting.

I think your husband is right. I know you have been patient but wait a little longer. Life is just not all about having kids. There are so many other things you can accomplish in the mean time. Once they start coming you will not find the time for it.

Your situation is a little different. Your mom should have moved on a long time ago. Polygamy means 1 wife multiple mistresses to me and anybody who does not like that can hug a nice shiny transformer. The OPs parents are not anywhere close to divorce. It's just old age and retirement that is probably making them act like kids. I applaud your mom o jare. Though she waited a little too long to start enjoying her life

Amen to that

Actually I think it is clear that the OP did not mean senior citizens. Also the idea that he should go get deliverance is something else too. deliverance from what biko? When they are castingout the demon which demon will they be casting out?

Owu gal:
JANE ,

I thought to a degree women had achieved equality status in the world until i came back to live in africa. the answer is no. IF A MAN CHEATS WITH A HOOKER EVERYDAY IN YOUR MARITAL room and you call a family meeting and show them explicit pictures, You the woman will be chastised as a pervert for taking the pictures and no one will talk about the adultery not even perhaps your own family.

If i tell you what happened to me. Before i got married my mom told me that the only thing that should dissolve a marriage is a man hitting his wife and not even adultery. well guess what happened to me? yeah you guessed it. when my mother heard it, she asked me what i did to provoke him and did not even once mention that he was in the wrong to hit me. when i asked her about it she said i was talking back to her and that she concludes that it must have been my talking back to him that causes me to get hit on the regular. well i never spoke to her for 6 months untill a death in the family made us begin to speak again. and she appologized.

if i die in this marriage, it would be with the consent and complete knowledge of my family. but who cares. after all they say, I am only a woman in Africa.

Yet I am the breadwinner for my family, but who cares. I am only a woman in africa
I am the one who buys the food but who cares I am a woman
I am the one who paid the entire bill for the birth of my child but who cares, I am a woman
if not for me our son would have no clothes whatsoever nor toys nor shoes, but who cares I am just a woman


they all keep bothering me to have another child

god forbid.
and if and when i get the opportunity , I TOO WILL CHEAT ON HIS ARSE.

When you cheat you hurt yourself especially since it is for revenge. Cheating as a form of revenge is just silly. Honestly. I feel bad for you but cheating is worng.

I sometimes wonder how people who call their husbands "daddy t" and such actually can be romantic and sexual with each other. It would be so strange to scream "fcck me harder Daddy T" in the middle of sex LMAO. Abeg make I commot here. To each their own

There is absolutely nothing wrong with it. it is selfish your friend to try to make her parent feel bad. She or he has sacrificed for you all their lives. You are not married and then they find happiness with each other and you want them to feel bad about it. They are just being selfish by not giving them a chance. I hope the kids do not put pressure on them to end it. I think it is a beautiful thing to find love in their old age. I bet she would not be as upset if she hears that her father was chasing 25 year old. the man has respected himself and is with a woman who is age appropriate for him and yet she wants to whine. Selfish child

Some men simply just prefer older women. I did not say old women o. Though I am sure there is that 25 year old that wants to have sex with a 90 year old. The bottom line is some men just feel like they cannot connect with younger women and it is not really all about sex either.

Jenny what kind of heads are you talking about here Because you like knacking too much. It ishard to tell

Leave her. Let her be vexing. okpo

Bawss1:
How is it that the younger brother and your husband are so different? Your husband didn't go around breaking stuff around the house did he? Yet his younger brother appears to have been touched by Eris herself. Did they not experience the same upbringing?

I also thought about that. Where was this brother raised? I have seen families though were one sibling lived somewhere else and you can tell the difference. I personally think that some of those things do not need to be reported to the husband. A number of those things she listed could have been addressed on the spot. If he runs bakc to his brother then that is even better. All three of them can then sit together and explain what will be tolerated and what will not be

Find a good investment for the money. I am not sure why he is refusing for you to spend your money. Put away the money for your retirement

He needs to get over himself and support his wife

Are they recent empty nesters. It could be tat with all the children gone now they are starting to irritate each other since there is no one else to focus on. A vacation is not a bad idea. Old people's problems are something else. They get to a certain point that the roles reverse. You will now have to be the one scolding them

I have heard that Uti Nwachukwu name before. I will certainly google him and boycott anything he is on until he personally apologizes to that girl. Bast---ard

Orikinla:
George Clooney is 50+ and still single and he is older than Olisa.

George Clooney has been married before

jennykadry:
^^Lol, spill the beans. I have a cousin like that. When she comes visiting, she must chop everything add jara(extra) and won't rest until everything is gone. Thank God for the way my parents brought us up. Nothing moves us(except a RR sports). I don't know how people think. Before I got married, I used to visit my Brother and his wife for a week during school hols, the wife rang my mother one day and told her that she's scared, I will lose a lot of kilos before I leave their place. I don't take things because they are available , I take things because I need them.

Abeg I don't know who is reading here. LOL. I thought maybe I was over reacting and my best friend was like what nonsense. You are so right about just taking things. Especially adults. How do you just help yourself to the point that it makes a difference in the whole meal for the family? Nonsense and otonni.

Do you think it is easy to handle 5 guys for any period of time in one position. She would be crazy to not ask them to try another position. It just shows you that she was in pain

jennykadry:
Amongst others, I think thr BIL is one of those people that when they see things, they will not rest until it is finished.

Yep. There are people like that. I dealt with one today

LMAO. The name of the style is "wet and plastic"

Liar. You probably punched the heck out of every woman that had the misfortune of coming within 2 inches from you. Who wants to sleep with a beast. Abeg go and sit down. Married to work indeed

Is that a crater or a road

It's very easy to tell when an illiterate starts reading his dictionary again

Iranoladun:
I will secretly build a house for mysel and upon completion secretly file for divorce.
I don't joke around with trust and integrity let him secretly marry his siblings since he is now secretly half partner/half husband.
Do me I do you God no go vex

See your mouth like divorce. I agree that it is totally a trust issue. Sweeping it under the rug is the worst thing you can do. He better have a damn good reason and should be ready to not be trusted again. That is a big no-no. Especially in a marriage where everything is supposed to be transparent and money is comingled

Wow. Thanks for the break down. You are patient. I am laughing because I don't know what else to do. I would have physically removed him o. I can just imagine me gently removing that can of milk from his hand. Shiiit like that I cannot put up with. Balancing tv on his knees. Abi you did not buy furniture LOL. Na wa

I thought Kofi Annan was married to a white woman. congratulations to the beautiful bride to be. Daddy must be proud

LMAO. wahala