fadilaMaikiriki:
So you must sleep with someone before you render assistance to them or even gift them something?

This your argument is flawed. The moment you find out he wants to sleep with you, you end whatever relationship and gifts you get from him. You can't keep desiring the gift from him and need a way to say NO to him.

CodeTemplar:
if he recorded because he was threatened, okay, if he was threatened because he recorded them unprovoked, then he is at fault.

Wrong. They are public servants, whether unprovoked or not, any citizen has the right to record any public servant in the discharge of his duty.

shortgun:
Just small play Nathaniel don rush go court
Nathaniel is a gospel singer, he's expected to promote the teachings of Jesus Christ which has it's foundation in forgiveness and prayers to one's adversaries.

Is the police of the devil? Is the court system of the devil? Who told you he has nor forgiven them?

He has forgiven them as a Christian but as a citizen of Nigeria, those people should answer for their actions.

It will help people like you who quote the bible only to suit their biases to think better

AtoningBlood:
I need your input people.

3 years ago, my dad sold our house without informing anyone of us. Meanwhile, we all had things left at home, including my mum's items. He never told us where some of those things are till date.

He sold that house and went to the village, he immediately started having issues with the village people. Fight today, fight tomorrow. Everyone in the village I heard now disrespect him due to how he reveal his secrets to anyone who cares to listen.

My dad wants to leave the village to go rent an apartment in another state. His financial responsibility has been on me alone. My siblings abandoned him.

He's being nursing the idea of leaving the village and never informed me. Last november I spent almost 2 million naira fixing solar power and inverter for him in his house at the village and immediately after that he started saying he wants to leave the village..

I told my dad never to relocate to the village yet, that he should wait till his is older as he is still agile and all his friends are in the state where we lived or around. He also gets contracts once in a while so I don't bear much financial burden. But no, he failed to listen and sold our house and left.

My dad wants me to cough out another 1M to rent a house, he wants it big, 3 bedroom. I told him to look for a 2 bedroom but he said where would visitors stay.

I am not even comfortable seeing him in a rented apartment, what would my cousins say, they would mock us. I have some of them who are very naughty. He is bringing shame in us.

We have two properties and my husband wants him to come and stay in one, I vehemently disagreed because he will be controlling us, some of my extended family members will come visiting him and carry the news to the village, as well as discussing my own family and I don't want that. They contributed to what is happening to him now. Through him, some of them will come to stay and I can not start what I can't continue with. So I told my husband to dead that idea fast.

He wants to leave the village latest by February. How do I convince him to get a 2 bedroom flat? 3 bedroom would mean 3 mattresses, and everything triple. My dad doesn't like anything less. All the expenses will be on me alone. My siblings don't care.

I can't turn deaf ears to his needs. I don't want him in the village and I hate to see him in a rented apartment but that is what it is now.

I need contructive advice especially those of us with retired parents, how do you relate with their needs? I told him to think of a small trade so he won't be idle like he's been since retirement and he is talking about setting up electrical pole business, I laughed. Sebi he wan rek me. Same way he did not manage hid wealth.

You closed all options and you want constructive advice.

You don't want him in the village, you don't want him in a rented apartment, you don't want him to stay in one of your properties...

Build another house for him.

malcom1X:

Just give her grandchildren. People that can keep her company when you're not around.

This woman has a mental issue and you want children to be around her?

This is like advising someone to marry a wife for a mentally disturbed man so as to calm him down.

Children are not rehabilitation centres. She needs to be in a rehab and not around children

Thegamingorca:



Israel is commiting war crimes.

Go and arrest then.

Terrorists harboured and facilitated by a nation came into their country and decimated innocent civilians.. Palestinians were jubilating.

But Israel is the one committing war crimes? Go and arrest them

turmacs:
stupid land grabbing theives and propagandists, Gays and Homosexual country, beheaded babies liars. Any Christian supporting or praying for Israel i have just one prayer for you, you will give birth to a gay son and homosexual daughter, and i hope you pray for and support them the way you're supporting a homosexual country.

Keep blabbing

OkpaNsukkaisBae:
If they're killing Hamas, nobody will complain. But bombing hospital, killing civilians, kids, blocking access to humanitarian & medical aid, that is war crimes & not military victory.

And the one that Hamas did isn't war crimes?

Acekidc4:


Why are you Wailing!! I said what i said, come and beat me Mumu!!

Your training or lack of training is obvious. Beat you? You are already beaten.

Acekidc4:
Paternity Fraud has been around since the time of Jesus, Joseph and Mary. I come in Peace 🤭🤭

You are irredemably stu.pid. if at this age you don't know somethings are sensitive and not everything should be contextualized under joke, then you are truly stu.pid

alabo1:


This is the 21st century. All these marriage marriage stuff is outdated. Your colonizers who brought you the monogamy scam have moved on to cohabitation. Why must I marry to have sex?

Colonisers? Monogamy? Did I mention monogamy here? I mentioned "married" and the last time I checked marriage is not a western concept.

In your culture, do people cohabit?
Cohabiting with a girl you are not married to is anti-african culture.

Stop introducing concepts that I didn't mention in the argument

9japride:
All I have been seeing in this thread is just insults upon insults. It's just only one person that suggested pos business for the OP.
Others are just blabbing. Why can't anyone provide useful online business ideas or any stuff that the OP can use to sustain himself/herself?
Everyone just forming hard man as if to say they are gods.
Even if you suspect the OP statement is false, giving the OP a good business idea won't cause you any money. I hate that statement that no one owes anyone anything. If so we shouldn't expect anything from government, friends, society or family.

No one owes you anything the moment you become an adult. Even the government owes you nothing except you work for them.

He should fight, society is not fair. People are struggling. Before the 4 months that they started owing him, how many people did he help financially? Those are the people he should ask for help and be entitled to atleast

cocoined:


I am gainfully employed. But haven't been paid for over 4 months. Since 10th of July to now I haven't gone to school. Family and friends that promised to help with some token are just ignoring me.. life is wicked

Since 10th of July you have not gone to school and you have not been paid for 4 months? That's why you want to kill yourself?

My uncle lived in an uncompleted building, he couldn't pay rent and studied law. Abia workers were owed for more than 12 months and they didn't kill themselves.

People are struggling. Don't blame anybody that you didn't give money to keep for you, you are not entitled to anybody's money. You should only ask for money from people you invested in their lives. When you were receiving salary, how many people did you help?

If you kill yourself, it shows you are a terrible and selfish person, that's why people are not helping you

Brokeandnolove:
Hi fellas, I will go straight to the point. My girlfriend of over a year hardly ever initiates sex, so sex between us strictly depends on when I make a move. Sometimes it might coincide with when she's Hot and everything goes well. Again I don't like going for more than one round of sex because I hardly cum during the second round till it eventually turns to hard work. She will still be the one that will complain that she's tired. I believe that sex is meant to be enjoyed and not stressful.

Now I am not a freak for sex, and can comfortably go for a week without sex depending on the situation of things between us even though we stay together for now. I don't initiate sex if we are having issues and sometimes she complains that other men come crawling to their women for sex at night after an argument with most times leads to reconciliation but I always lock up as if I am staying with a man thereby making some of our issues linger longer than necessary.

She gets moody each time she's Hot and I don't make a move, I simply told her to initiate sex anytime she wants because with the economic situation on ground sometimes sex is the last thing on my mind.

We had sex yesterday afternoon and later that evening we were gisting and we talked about early morning sex, she pointed out that I hardly initiate early morning sex and I told her it was because she hates being disturbed when sleeping. I proceeded to tell her we will have early morning sex today. Unfortunately I worked all night and slept around 4 am so I couldn't initiate any sex. She woke up moody and angry which made led to an argument that culminated in her leaving the house.

While chatting on WhatsApp she told me not to carry my boring sex life into marriage. So guys is there anything wrong with a lady initiating sex when she wants it I am pretty sure if she initiated sex this morning I wouldn't have refused.

A few things to point out....

Why are you cohabiting with a girl you are not married to?

Why are you having sexual engagement with her without marriage.

Go and marry

Deenillah:
I'll just go straight to it.

My girlfriend of 2years gets upset when I don't apologize even when I'm not at fault. , saying I don't care about her feelings.

I'm this person who believes that everyone is responsible for their actions and should shoulder the consequences for thier actions.

I don't apologize except when I know I'm wrong and I try as much as possible to avoid things that will make me apologize unnecessarily except of course for the ones that happen coincidentally.

But she wants it to be that at every little instance, I apologize even if she's at fault which to me I find unacceptable and this causes quarrels between us when it happens.


MY QUESTION IS

Am I wrong to want to apologize ONLY when I'm at fault?

There is no way to sugarcoat this.

You are in a toxic relationship.

You are dating a deeply insecure person. You will find out the consequences later

Jennyclay:
Mr man you’re wrong and you need to go apologize to her.

Your girlfriend is suppose to be your gist mate and amebo partner.

Atleast you should have given her listening ears even though you feel she’s breaching her boss privacy or you have nothing to say.

By the time another man start giving her listening ears hope you won’t complain

Yeye boyfriend!! Shior!!

... so because of "listening ear", he should listen to any toxic thing that proceeds out of her mouth in the name of boyfriend?

What is not his business is not his business!

Another man that starts giving her listening ears to gossips and things he doesn't need to hear is irresponsible.

He lost nothing if he loses the girl because of this!

skj1377:
Chairman if your girlfriend needs money especially if you don't give her monthly upkeep allowance you have to give her. Where do you expect her to always get money Next time try and date a girl working to avoid constant billing. That's my advice.

Some of you will just bring out your phone and start typing rubbi.sh

kodab:
Hello good fellas on nairaland ,me and dis girl meet last month, although I lie to her I'm single,I told her I don't have a girlfriend so she believes me,so we start our relationship journey , last week we had our first sex although she told me that she's still a virgin and I said okay ,but I was surprised when I dip my fingers into her vagina ,I didn't any blood so I was confused,but she feeling pain badly,so I romance the hell out of her ,I insert my dick but I remove it quickly because I'm not wearing condom,so like 1 week time again ,I had sex with her I didn't Bleep her but it's only kissing sucking nipples and fingering,so yesterday again I just dip my dick but I didn't cum inside her,but today she's now telling me she's feeling dizzy, please what does she mean

When will you start preparing for your WAEC?

Jennyclay:
Did you sit her down to know why the sudden attitude? What makes you think it’s the government job that is not even guaranteed that’s making her upset with you

She has been with you for 2 years and just this first misunderstanding you are already thinking of break-up . Just tell us you’re seeing someone else and we’ll understand. We know your type. Bunch of Randy men!!

Why would you leave your house so dirty and unkempt? Even though you’re spending millions on her that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t take your personal hygiene serious. Maybe she can’t deal with your dirtiness anymore.

Must you wait till she return to come do the house chores for you

Detergent is for washing cloth and not for smoking or sniffing!

pquaver:


Think.. the date on it is important.. Validity has a lot to do with time If ur green card has
no date and says infinite so it has expressly said it is valid.. Your passport say valid till a given time for a reasonn.. So far it is expired it loses validity.. You have to renew it.. An expired document is no proof anywhere in the world.. I dont know how obidients reasons sef.. Is it with this useless reasoning u guys wan to build a great nation in Biafra and Nigeria ? A simple thing like validity u dont understand una want to build Nigeria.. Abeg no make me laff... Illiterates are attracted to the obidients movement to be honest..

There is a difference between passport validity and citizenship validity.
The expiration of your passport doesn't invalidate your citizenship.

Go and check how citizenship can be revoked, expiration of passport isn't one of them.

Simple Google will clarify this but because of party affiliation, we'd rather support strange logics than hold on to the truth

Alexxx2000:
Good day, all. I am typing this with a lot of frustration and anger.

I was among the volunteers asked by this NGO (name withheld ) to serve as an ENUMERATOR. They told me it was a paid volunteer. We were trained in data collection using ODK and Kobotoolbox.

As a student, I had planned how I will use this stipend of 20k to provide my basic needs in school because I have no one sponsoring me.

My section does go out to collate these data on Fridays and Saturdays. Now to the issue!

Just yesterday made it a month and I was expecting the money to get foodstuffs and save like 5k for my next school fees. The program director for North Central told me that I am not entitled to a stipend because the role I am working on is just volunteering and not paid.

I was shocked because when I was told and made to sign a term of agreement it was clearly stated that I will receive a 20k monthly stipend. I then asked them to show me the document and I was surprised to see the term of the agreement was uttered.

What should I do nairalanders to get my money or should I continue without pay to get experience as an enumerator for the outside world?

Please Nlfpm.od help me get a wider view. I am in a state of dilemma.

You are withholding the name because of what?

Are you handicapped?

MatrixReloaded:
Thou shall not coveret thy neighbours property under thy own roof. Your friend of 15years in law kee u

Your backwardness and lack of exposure is duly noted. Instead of focusing on the wrong done by the police force, what you noticed is a friend visiting another in a hotel.

guobe:
I was in a conversation with a girl after she posted on her WhatsApp status that you use to call me everyday before now but now you nolonger call.
I asked her why her boyfriend nolonger calls her and she said that he is always busy. In my mind I feel if a guy really likes a girl there is nothing that will make him to be too busy to give his girlfriend all the attention she deserves.Just my thought though.

To give his girlfriend all the attention she deserves? Are you serious? Is he that jobless?

Any girl who gets all the attention she deserves must be dating a lazy man. Men don't have time to be calling girls all the time.

Understood that if the boyfriend doesn't call at all then something is wrong...

Kobojunkie:
All I read is you equate love with sex and your wife denying you sex means she has no love for you. And you somehow think the blame should all be on her as far as the problems you perceive in your marriage, no be so? **yawn***

Yes, his wife denying him sex repeatedly means she doesn't love him. That is as basic as ABC. This is a marriage and not something else.

ChinemeremFidel:
My girlfriend always disturb me to visit her and I do avoid it because I really don't want sex for now..
She is the first I will ever have.

So today I decided to visit her,we made out mouth pleasure but I did not have sex because first she was a virgin and secondly she was on her period.

After satisfying each other ,she started crying to squashing one of her principles.
Then me on the other hand have never had sex before so I was really ashamed of what I did...

She called me on the phone and was crying in guilt that I broke her laws and principles...I took the whole blame...

She then broke up with me...
And I really love this girl.

She is beautiful,never asked me for money, smart, intelligent and brave.

I am just confused right now

Focus on your WAEC please.

Samantha124:
How was I supposed to know that he was going to come into my room in the middle of the night when I was sleeping

On three occasions? After the second time, you didn't know he would try it again?

Samantha124:
I have two brothers-in law and the first one started dating my sister while still in high school, him and I have that good brother and sister relationship. Sometimes we can even spent about 30 minutes talking over the phone and discussing about life in general and him telling me about the kids, that's how close we are.

As for the second brother In law, he started dating my sister while she was still in college, him and I have had a bit of differences in past because he has a drinking problem and I sometimes just don't like the way he behaves when he's drunk. But I accepted him as my brother in law because my sister loves him despite his drinking problem.

The main problem with my second brother in law started back in 2021, we were having a party at home and I decided to go to bed before everyone because I was tired. It happened that this brother in law of mine was drunk and he started embarrassing my sister and she decided to take him to the other room in the house and asked him to stay there. I was in my room sleeping, but not yet asleep when my room door opened and at first I thought it was just my mom, or one of my aunts or cousins. I expected the person to switch on the light since I switched it off, but this person started walking towards my bed. I lifted my head to check who it was and I found out that it was my second brother in law, I immediately dismissed him from my room.

I told everyone about it the following day except my father and my then boyfriend, who's now my fiance and they all laughed it off and said he was just drunk and lost, that I shouldn't make a big deal out of it. Fine, I let it go... Last year in August a close relative of ours was getting married and everyone traveled home to prepare for the wedding.

A day before the wedding my parents and two sisters decided that they were going to spent the night at the relative's place as they were help preparing for the wedding the following day, but I and my other sister were told to go home with our nephews and nieces... Later in the evening my sister brought my brother in law to the house and he had started embarrassing her again because he was drunk.. I was already in my room when they arrived, though I was not asleep, I decided to go and check on them because I can't stand my brother in law whenever he's drunk.... Apparently my sister immediately prepared a room for him to sleep in but he turned it down and said he was okay with sleeping on the couch in the living room... The room used to be previously my sister's before she got married and it's a bit far from the living room.

But mine is close to the living room, after he refused to go to the room that was prepared for him, my sister ended up giving him a blanket to sleep on the couch and she drove back to the relative's place. Everything seemed fine and we all went to sleep. While I was in my sleep I could hear some footsteps but at first it was like a dream, but then they started sounding like they were getting closer and they started to sound real... I immediately woke up and found my brother in law standing on my side of the bed, I jumped up from the bed and asked him what was he doing in my room, but he started apologizing and told me of how he thought it was the bathroom.

I was so scared I kicked him out of my room and locked the door, I checked the time and it was around 2am.. I Immediately called my sister and explained to her what her husband did and asked her to come and fetch him because he was scaring me... But she told me to just lock the door and don't mind him... I couldn't get some sleep since then and he came back to the door at around 4am and attempted to open it again, but it was locked.

In the morning I waited for him to leave the house first before I could get out of my room, I told the sister I was with in the house about it and she suggested that I tell Mom because Dad was going to overreact... I then told Mom and she said she'll see what she can do, I was hoping that she'll warn him about it, but to my surprise, she didn't do anything about it... I was hurt, but I let it go, again.

I could've told my fiance about it, but I didn't because I knew that there was going to be a fight if I did, and I didn't want a fight.

Now this past Thursday we traveled home for Easter and I was so happy to see my family again... As usual, we had a family chillax on Friday and everyone came through to hangout, this time my fiance was also there.. later in the afternoon I decided to go take a nap and I left everyone outside, as I was napping, I felt someone touch me and at first I thought maybe it was my fiance... I was shocked when I found out that it was my brother in law and he was trying to have his way with me but fortunately, I managed to screaming and everyone came running.

A fight broke out between him and my fiance and I was so scared because my brother in law is the kind of a person who likes carrying a gun with him, but they were separated... My father got to find out that I complained to my mom before about my brother in law, but she didn't do anything about it and now he's mad at my mom for letting things get this far.

Now the family is divided... I love my sister, nephews and niece, I don't want to cut ties with them because of her husband and their father, but I don't know how I'm going to do it because I don't want anything that has to do with my brother in law.. Some say I should press charges for attempted rape, while others say that I should let the family elders intervene... I'm still confused right now, I don't know what to do.

I just can't help but feel guilty that if I had told my Dad about the whole thing from 2021, all of this would've been prevented.

Do you have a problem with locking rooms when sleeping when you know you have a predator around you?

Marvellsmart:
I just found out last night that my husbandto be is gay. Like he is into men. I stumbled upon his phone yesterday night
and saw his chats with his best friend, the supposed best friend that returned from South Africa because of our wedding next week.

We have planned our wedding next Saturday, everything is set. We have dated for four years and never for once did I suspect that he was into men.

In the chat, he was professing love to his best friend. Telling him how he has missed him and his pen!s.

How he had enjoyed last night with him, I even saw my fiance nπdes in their Whatsapp.

I am losing it, please help me. I went to his house for the weekend, on Saturday, he had left me and returned late at night without knowing he was going to have s.ex with his best friend. I just left the house this morning without him knowing cause he is a banker and he leaves home early. I left his door open, packed all my properties and haven't talked to him

He has been calling me since but I am not taking his calls. I couldn't concentrate at work today.

What should I do?

Please help me
love this man so much, he has been a blessing, and I am pregnant for him, but then, why this??

Should I cancel the wedding?
Should I confront him?
I'm confused
I want to run mad.

July, 2022. You wrote "I can't date a broke gal'.

Now, you are saying "your husband to be...".


Before we talk about the imaginary 'gay husband to be', can we talk about you first?

Are you a hermaphrodite?

Or are you also gay?

Or, you just wake up and post whatever non.sense that enters your mind?