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aminulive:
POLITICSNIGERIA.COM


https://politicsnigeria.com/exclusive-wike-to-back-tinubu-for-2023-presidency-after-loss-at-pdp-primaries/

This is beer-palour journalism and report. "A source", "another source". No factual or direct quote from Wike to this effect.

Barrister026:
It's so annoying children of nowadays think because they got baby mamas up and down they got no respect for their elders, infact once they notice you haven't had a child yet no matter how old you are, they start looking at you like their age mates or even older than.

My kid bro who I single handedly passed down wears to back then has the audacity to talk to me anyhow just because he is a father of a 5 year old boy and another one is on the way. Well that's how he's been reason he toke a lot of beatings from me back in the days...

The recent happenings happened this morning after so many years, I came home for a very close relative's burial same with our eldest bro whose in his mid 30s. Discussion we were having, one thing led to another... this kid bro of mine flared up shouting at the top of his voice to my elder bro...mom telling him to shut up he's still talking...I immediately pounce on him in the presence of his wife and kid, I gave him the beating of his life, squeezed that his lip he was using to insult our eldest bro, not minding his wife watching.

Yes I'm angry with him, the day his wife gave birth out of wedlock, he was jubilating that he the last born first us to give our parent's a grand child. I say see this one, if I wanted to have kids I would have, how many ladies has tried to trap pregnancy on me all through this years. it's just man not yet ready yet, and been married don't Just freak me yet.

Mom been gingering me to apologise to him, but I refused? Why would I?

Yes I was wrong for beating him in the presence of his pregnant wife and kid, I didn't mean to embarrass him...I felt bad myself after the whole thing.. but before he was a husband he was first my kid bro.

You are truly foolish. You beat your blood brother and you are seeking advice from strangers

InsideLife2022:
I have been an active member on this forum for the past eight years. I just created this account to bring this issue to limelight. Good evening gentlemen and ladies. I got married in late 2020. God being merciful, we are blessed with a baby of 5 months. My wife has been giving me attitudes of recent. I have tried to find out what the problem has been, she is not saying anything tangible. I am being confused and depressed. I have been begging her to come back to join me after delivery. She keeps traumazing me emotionally. She just told me our marriage is over. She couldn't say what the problem is.

She has not been taking care of the baby. She was medically advised to stop breastfeeding our baby permanently. Is not that she breastfeeds our baby. My mother in-law and sisters in-law have been complaining about her lack of motherly treats.

They told me she doesn't even know how to take care of the baby. They cannot allow my child to be in her custody because she can't take care of the baby as a mother. She has fought her mother for asking her to leave her house to join her husband. Every member of her family has been asking her what the problem is. She keeps telling them to come and marry me that it's over between us.

I haven't told any of my family members or my friends of what is going on in my marriage. I am a kind of person that do not like involving a third party in my new marriage of lest than two years.

Her family has never supported her actions. Her mom and her siblings have been asking me to come take my wife and baby. But, my wife is not ready to join me. It has been a serious issues in her family house each time they push her to go meet her husband.

Her family has ask me to come with some soldiers or the police to come carry my baby and leave her since she claims she is no longer interested in any marriage. I have been trying my best to make sure my wife never lacked anything during her pregnancy and even after delivery.

My in-laws have been very supportive and good to me. I know they have never and will not support her for her wrong actions and behaviors. My challenge is, my baby is just 5 months and I don't want to take the baby to my parents because of the questions people around will be asking. I don't want to be seen as someone who is separated from his wife. I hate divorce with passion. My wife does not have any concrete reason why she decides to stay off our marriage.

Her family is fully in support of my next actions of going to take my baby. Now, the question is this; is it advisable to keep the baby with me while I employ a nanny to raise the baby with me?

Please and please I need mature and sensible advise.

Cc: RoyalRoy

I want this thread to be moved to the right and appropriate section. Thank you!

This might be a post pregnancy stress disorder. She needs to see a psychologist

lalalista:
Good morning all, please I need intelligence support in this situation I found myself.

Our sachet water factory is in the same compound that we live, we needed workers and contacted an agent to provide us with a motor boy and a driver. The boys came and worked with us for 5 days and after 5days they said they got another appointment somewhere better and they want to leave. We allowed them to go but 3 days later we discovered that the 25000 naira I kept in a bag was missing. The night before they left , I saw some suspicious moves by the motor boy but my mind didn't go there. Now we have called the agent to produce the boy but he's telling stories that he doesn't know anything about him and the information he filled was wrong. Can I get the agent arrested ? What should I do? Your advice is needed

Oga, arrest the agent and the boys will produce the money. You don't need evidence now. Just arrest the agent and the boys will show.
Police knows how the boys will produce the money

Kasaliola:
Good evening house... please I need your help.. if there is any marriage counselor or therapist. This could be lengthy and lot of typo... Please forgive me.. I open a new account for this.

I Am a father of two.. have been dating my wife since 2009, before we got married in 2014. But before the we got married we have been a love birds whereby everybody loves the way we cuddled ourself..

Its started in 2011 before I rented my first apartment, my parents didn't want me to marry her and her parents too, especially her big brother and sisters.. though it caused a lot of commotion then. But thank God they allowed cuz we forcefully told them we are meant for each other, I even speak bad words to my mother then, saying If I don't marry her in ur present I will marry her in her absent, those words hurt so dearly so she has to leave me and go ahead with my plans. And same thing with my wife family.

In 2012 I rented my own apartment and started living me.. I can't forget the very first day I raise my hands on her, I felt ashame of my self.. I don't care what she does or say then.. but I regretted doing so, I cried at the middle of the road cuz I don't know what came over me.

The only problem I have with her is that she swings mood. Always moody everytime and my parents noticed this when they come around and when she went to thier place..
This made me beat her plus the ways she disrespected me.. after doing this shameful thing, I will now come back to my senses and started begging her. I even beat her this Sunday.. all I want is someone to talk to on how I can stop this beating.. how I can tolerate her lifestyle... Am so mad and ashamed of my self.. if help me...

Thank you

You should be arrested and put in a cage so wild animals can come and learn what they should NOT be like.

essentialone:
Is It Disrespectful For A Married Woman To Ask Other Men For Money; Including Her Brothers?

Is it disrespectful for a married man to ask other women for money including his sisters?

This should answer your question

Botwriter:
Good morning Nairalanders. I have an issue that has been disturbing for long.
So I met a lady two years back and we got talking. However, our communication was mostly restricted to online greetings.

December, 2021, we decided to take things to the next level by meeting physically. We study in the same school, so we met at a designated place. After our first meeting, things started moving fast and we became more connected.

Early this year, I decided to ask the girl out one faithful Saturday morning and her response was that she was in a relationship.

So I left her alone. The issue is this girl bonds with me so well and will often send me messages that she misses me anytime I decide to forget her for some days.

Last month, we all left school and were back home and our bonding became very strong again - we stay in the same city.

She invited me to her church twice and I honored her invitations. On her birthday, I asked her what her plans are and whether her bf is taking her out (jokingly) and her response was, 'which bf?'.

We went ahead to plan a meet up in a restaurant on her birthday but unfortunately something came up and I could not make it, so I sent her some cash to compensate.

*My issues with the lady.*

1. When I send her text on WhatsApp, sometimes it would take her 24 hrs to reply even when she's online. And she will find some flimsy excuses to make. She will even post on her status while my message is delivered but not read or replied.

2. She earlier told me she had a boyfriend, so I don't want to bring any relationship stuff again between us. But it seems she want me to ask her out again.

3. This girl bills me like no tomorrow. Whenever she has any minor issue she will pick phone and call me.

So honestly I'm fed up with her character and I have made up my mind not to talk to her again.

*My problem:

As usual when I decide ghost her again, she will chat me up and sometimes video call and that's what I don't want. I honestly need solutions. It seems this girl is playing mind games with me or she wants me to talk to her about relationship again?

Her office (your head) is profitable. Please, don't end the profitable relationship.

Since you won't have sense, allow her to enjoy her life from you.

Keep spending on her. You are her poverty alleviation program

Jeweltz:
Sister please move on. Those abroad guys already have someone arranged for him by his family before he comes. That's why he is ignoring you. Don't allow your heart to get disturb over a man that will not love you o. Can see you're already forming feelings

This advice right here is not coming from a pure heart. This person will not do what she is advising you to do.

People like this rush men in secret and tell tales openly.

jackals:
.I was just being careful of not making it look like I'm desperate to have him. I already showed him I like him. I think if he wanted things to escalate, he wouldn't back out that way

Really? Because you are who? Queen Elizabeth? You are 33 and you are playing a childish mind game.

He stays abroad and he has interacted with ladies who don't have this type of redundant mentality.

You avoided his chats for two days because you don't want to be taken for granted? You shouldn't be in a relationship. You are too childish.

If this one doesn't work out now, you will add it to your portfolio that guys are unreliable meanwhile you messed things up

virginprincess:
Do you know if the guy's parents lives in the same location.

Why must that responsibility rest on the man? So without flight, they won't attend their daughter's wedding?

virginprincess:
I know this story is fake but let's assume it true, to me if it is something he can afford he should have done it for her, it means nothing afterall she your wife to be and those people are your in-laws to be, but I don't believe this story.

What stops her from booking flight for the guy's parents to come for the wedding?

OluwoR:
Good evening my brothers and sisters,

I sincerely needs urgent help/assistance for my Fiancee.

Met her in 2012, started dating in 2014, had our first sex in 2019, but since that 2019, anytime I make moves to have sex with Her, it's always through fight, to cut the story short, she find sex extremely painful that even anything that pass cuddling, she'll start crying, this might sound funny, but seriously it is not.
I talked to Her about it, booked an appointment with a gynecologist, my babe didn't show up, I tried to get her sexual supplements, she said they have side effects, and she disposed them.

Now, the problem is, we're planning our introduction, and we're yet to get any solution to the problem at hand,
please, who have any idea of what we can do about it.

That girl is deceiving you.
The sad thing is you will find out when it's too late.

The fact that she dodged the appointment with the doctor says alot.
She knows she has no problem. She is just deceiving you.

Tell her that you are calling it quits and see her reaction. Tell her you can't go into marriage with her knowing you can't enjoy sex with her and see her reactions

Richsteemit:
Good evening. Have been praying for God to give me a good wife and job. God answered my prayer I got a job last month. But I'm in love with d boss of my work place. She posses everything a woman suppose to have. Guys should I shoot my shot? I know it is very risky. Money is not everything. May be God wants to answer the two prayers at a time

Most likely, the devil wants to answer one- get you sacked

Beress:
Request for the redesignation of my appointment to an administrative staff

Request for the redesignation of my appointment as an administrative staff

Request for the redesignation of my appointment to administrative staff

Request for the redesignation of my appointment as administrative staff


Pls which is the best to use among all these. It's meant to be the title of an official letter I want to write. I want to change from clerical staff to administrative staff.

I will appreciate your response


MODIFIED

Having listened to some grammarians here, I now have two options:

Request for Redesignation to Administrative Staff

OR

Request for Redesignation as Administrative Staff

Pls which is the most appropriate

Request for upgrade from clerical staff to Administrative staff.

Request for conversion from clerical staff to Administrative staff

UYEMDO35:
Thanks for understanding my feelings, I think dis is the right time to cut off my tide with her.

You won't do it. You are too lillylivered and weak to cut off ties with her. She is the one that will break up with you, you will soon see a wedding card or hear of a wedding between the girl and the guy.

You even had the laughable guts to call her your girl.

You are the one she is cheating with.

Candidlady:
Was the bolded necessary

Pretty sure you would have rubbed this same sentence all over her face...


You are not complaining but yet you stated it in your post


Because of the bolded some won't even give you the advice you seek, they will end up insulting your wife


Good luck finding solution to your problem

Your comment is very dishonest.

You ignored every other thing he said and just highlighted something out of context.

If it was a lady that brought this complaint and made the above highlighted comment, would your comment have been the same?

Comradewhy:
That is not care that is stupidity from your brother,if you are above 13 why then Is he treating you like a kid.
Tell him you despise that attitude,if he doesn't agree with you then leave his house and go get elsewhere to begin your own life.

She is probably 13 or 14 and you are giving her this type of advice?

You are either also in your teens or a very mischievous adult or you are joking!

She should go where and start life, a teenager?

What is a girl of 13 or 14 doing with Facebook or WhatsApp that is so important that will make her leave her leave home if she is not allowed to use them?

TheLordofHost:
I have been dating this girl for over a year now. When I first met her I didn’t have any feeling for her, I was just using her to pass time.

She became clingy after I took her virginity and I began to fall for her because she had a good character.

When my baby mama dumped my daughter with me, this girl stood by me and even temporarily moved into my house to care for my child.

Her ugliness began to show when she gained admission to the university.

Since we’ve been dating, she has never asked for a dime. I do buy her gifts once in a while out of my own will. She’s the one who even gives me money when I’m broke.

I was surprised when she called me to ask for 10k to make her hair. I told her I did not have such money and she ended the call as I was still speaking. Out of anger, i sent her a text that if she needed money she should ask her dead father to send money from his grave. She read the message and blocked me. I blocked her too.

Around 12 midnight, this witch called me and was crying over the phone, telling me she’s sorry and I should unblock her on WhatsApp.

Immediately I unblocked her, she sent me a pic of a shirtless dude sleeping on a bed, I couldn’t see the guy’s face, only the back of his head. I even thought she mistakenly sent it only for this demon to call me and started blaming me for making her hookup with a random guy for money and accusing me of wanting her to die of hunger in school. I cursed her and she ended the call and blocked me again.

That was the first time a woman made me cry.

This manipulative goat came to my house a few days later and started claiming she’s possessed by marine spirits and how her forefathers are marine worshippers and all sorts. That she didn’t sleep with him with her clear eyes.

I forgave her and she spent the weekend at my place. She was her usual sweet self and I did my best to forget the ugly incident .

I sent this ungrateful bitch 6k to celebrate her birthday in school

That evening, she posted videos of her dancing in a club and her friends pouring drinks on her. She was even dancing with a guy.

I called her but she ignored my calls. I sent her a text to end the relationship and warned her not to call me or come to my house to beg.

She came to my house the next day and threatened to drink poison if I breakup with her. She seemed serious and I forgave her.

I had access to her WhatsApp message with her best friend and she was telling that one that the only reason she’s with me is because I’m her first and when she finds a rich and serious guy she would leave me.

It pained me down to my soul because I honestly love this girl and I’ve made up my mind that she’s the one I want to settle down with. I have never cheated on her with any other person.

She’s 18 years old, is it that she’s just confused or youthful exuberance ?

I’ve tried to move on but I can’t. I’ve even been sending her more money and been doing a lot to impress her.

How do I break this jinx?

She's not the confused one, you are.

You are deeply disturbed and confused.

People like you di.e before their time

Kelvin2022:
Good evening guys please what I am about to say might sound childish and stupid but I have to say it. I am in a relationship with a girl and we have been dating but she hardly give me sex for a month. I had to have sex with my formal girlfriend and during the sex I recorded it background video recorder. I even record order of my girlfriends. This current girlfriend I had to record her changing clothes for months and save the videos. I even screen shot each movement in the video to make a good album. Luck ran out me I gave my memory card and delated the videos in it because she wants to watch movie. I save all her pics and other girls in an app called galleryvault. After giving her the memory card for days I realized that the pics in the galleryvault can't show because I didn't delete them in the vault and it became visible. Yesterday my girlfriend visited me i was tensed I begged her to allow me to use the memory card, she refused, she notice something only for her to go through my SD and found all those girls pics I recorded and save. She was so disappointed at me and she walked me out. Ending the relationship I begged and told her the reason but she didn't listen. Please what do you suggest I do to make her trust me that I will change for Good?

You recorded intimate and private moments of people without their consent and you are asking for advice?

Go and report yourself to the police. You should be arrested

flockofpips:
I notice my babe pics for camp, she is not putting on her engagement ring. Her excuse was that it is not allowed, am confuse o, am on verge of breaking up with her, so I want to know if it's true.

She's lying

onikoyikosoko:
It was a rhetorical question

You don't win a war because you have more nuclear heads, there are many more reasons- economic reasons, strategic alliances etc.

Russia doesn't have the economic power to execute a full war right now, coupled with the severe sanctions.

onikoyikosoko:
How many countries get nuclear weapons? You think say nuclear weapons na like akara for market?

Russia
USA
China
France
UK
Pakistan
India
Israel
North Korea

FORBES.

Rollsnjaguar:
Those urging western nations on will be shocked at what Putin is capable of. I know Putin will never loose, instead he will deploy nuclear weapons.

Deploy nuclear weapon against who?
He will loose. Other nations have nuclear weapons too. Having more doesn't make you the winner. Nations will be destroyed including Russia.

Russian oligarchs will not allow Putin destroy them

Lakesidegrey:
I actually posted this already in my last topic about me and my girl having issue about this ex of a thing about her telling her ex that she can’t resist him if they are together that something else will happen,which means sex,you will all see this in my last topic.,because she definitely don’t wanna admit that what she did is wrong…,so her mom called me yesterday and begged me that I should just settle it with her..we’ve being on this since Monday..,because she claims she’s always catching cruise with him with those nasty chats.,and this is the third time of getting them doing that,so I went to meet her last night and told her we need to talk.,I had to call her almost 3 times before she answered it was her friend that later tell her that atleast she should Answer..,so as I was talking to her yesternight trying to settle things with her..taking things calmly..,and I asked her in I and this guy who does she want..,she said i shouldn’t ask her that.,I leave that question to her even though she ask me not to ask her,I told her the guy is dangerous and can affect our future.,because I’ve known the guy to be a cultist.,so I told her can she just drop all this..,the next thing was that she just walked out on me and tell me I’m talking like a smoker and someone that doesn’t have sense….,so I went to meet her in the sitting room..she was removing her sim in her phone because I bought that phone for her, and want to start heading out that night…I was trying to stop her and the next thing that landed on my face was a dirty slap,I couldn’t see anything again that moment lol.,and off she go..,so I locked the gate last night and said wherever she wanna go she should be going..the next thing was that she called her mom that have locked her out and her mom was begging so hard.…she had to start knocking my door yesterday that she wanna pack out and was cursing., so I said I’m going to help her pack to make things easy,so my landlord ask me to stop that,because I was so provoked and angry,so my landlord came around and settle things and then ask her to say sorry to me..,she said she can’t say sorry that she doesn’t have fault..she find it hard to say sorry at last..,so the landlord left around 1am that night..just to settle things I still went in to beg her and hug her..,that I’m over it even when I know she has the whole fault..,so this morning.,she went out angrily again…she doesn’t even say anything or greet.,I’ve spent so much on that girl..,I’ve invested so much on her..,one of my friend says I’ve made her too expensive and make her see everything about me,that that’s one of the reason why she’s acting that way..,so Nairalanders I need your advice..,please even though I’ve begged her and she’s still acting this way even when I know she’s at fault.,what do I do about this issue?my parents already know her and see her as who I’m going to marry.,they aren’t aware of all this happening.,because my parents know her parents already..please help about this I’m feeling so bad..no insults please.,and I’m sorry if my grammars are not too good..,please help me move this to front page!!if possible ��

You need help. A mental evaluation. Visit the nearest psychiatric immediately.
You are no longer thinking straight

Mtschewwww:
A GSM network provider (GLO) engineers visited my land yesterday and said they want me to lease a space for their mast installation for a period of 15 years. (They have not told me any amount yet).

The land is in a residential area. Please those who know about this sort of engagement should tell me what it entails because I was asked if I would accept the offer or not so as to tell them the amount and other things involved.

I really want to know the real benefits as well as if there are other health damages that may adversely affect residence living around my compound on the long run?

I am a lawyer and I handled this sort. Can we talk?

HRHQueenPhil:
U are the person, he is not matured enof to marry. To have a sweet marriage, u must learn how to forgive. If u can't forgive, den don't bother getting married..
He shld go abroad and join the monastery

You have nothing to say about a lady who just got engaged and decided to go hang out with her Ex...

What if the guy had gone to hang out with his Ex in her house, would your response be the same?

Mineralzz:
Hello everyone.
Am an active member on this forum, I've have my main account but I wish to remain anonymous, i just want to hide my identity and i will deactivate this account as soon as I get a solution. I'm so heartbroken right now

I thought my fiancée was different from every other guys, despite his gentle and innocent face I never knew he was a liar and a cheat

He's fond of connecting his laptop to his smart TV (65 inches). What displays on the laptop automatically displays on the smart TV screen. See what happened, he went downstairs to pickup something, So I wanted to see a movie on Netflix, while I was looking for a suitable movie to watch, a message popped up from Facebook and it stated "Whr are U? Check ur phone...6 missed calls "

At first, I wasn't triggered to open the msg but what drew my attention was the "cry emoji". When I opened the msg my heart melted, I was crying . Their secret affair has been going on since April last year. A married woman with 2 kids, I checked her profile I saw her kids and husband photos everywhere, she has visited my fiance at home several times, I saw lot of romantic messages.

I videoed their chat conversations as evidence, thank goodness his TV screen is wide enough for the blind to see. The moment he came inside he noticed my mood has changed, he was smart enough to know I opened his msg. He's started begging me, he said he can explain. Explain what?

Am on my way home now feeling devastated, heartbroken and sad . I plan to upload the video on Facebook and tag all the woman's friends until her husband sees it. I will also send the video to instablog, Linda ikeji.. Honestly I feel dejected and heartbroken. Help I don't know what to do .

What he did was horrible. Break up and leave.

You plan to do what?
This is why people di.e unnecessarily. Don't try that.

Roma10:
After giving my students an assignment to draw a human skeleton
Just to test their memory after the long holiday
This what I got from the best!!!

How has drawing or knowing how to draw human skeleton benefitted you since you left school?
Stop teaching these students unproductive things

Dailyparrot:
My brother lives in the remote part of Ikorodu. They have three kids.

The children didn't go to school throughout last term and this term again, they've been staying at home. When other kids in the compound have gone to school, his kids will remain at home with the wife doing nothing.

The reason the wife stopped the kids from going to school is because she wants them to leave that part of Lagos and move to the developed part of Ikorodu or any township part of Lagos.

Invariably, she's using the kids staying at home to protest and punish the husband, maybe?

I feel she's punishing the kids and not the husband. My brother leaves for work very early in the morning and will not be able to take the kids to school himself.

He's not financially capable of relocating at this time but I feel he can plan with his wife and save towards relocating, maybe in a year's time but I doubt the wife is taking the best approach.

The wife said she's not taking up any job or starting any business until they relocate from that area. So for now, the whole burden is on my brother.

Please, what's the best approach to this their family issue. We don't want to take side and go hard on the wife, but, don't feel she's taking the best decision for the kids.

Your brother must have done a DNA test and found out he's not their father, hence his nonchalant attitude towards the kids education.

If he is their father and he tolerates someone stopping his children from going to school.... he should be brought out to the community and flogged.

Goodvibes8:
Happy new month Dear nairalanders. Pls i really your advice on this issue.

My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year and 3 months, I intend to make her my wife. She is always on her recommended glasses because of her eyesight, She is a great, beautiful and brilliant girl but she lacks patience, she is not always patient with me.

She is a kind of girl that if she need something from you, just be ready to give her what she asked instantly and immediately else she will give you attitude.

I take good care of her, we go out on dates, I send her money for up-keep, I always try to be a good and better man for her, she is not a bitch and I love her so much.

Exactly this time last week, I sent her 35k for her up-keep. So yesterday evening (6pm) she called me and she said her glass lenses has expired, she can barely see and it's causing her serious headache, that she needed 25k to renew the lens.

I gently told her I can't do transfer at the moment, let her use the money I sent to her last week to sort it out first, then I would send everything back to her including the money for her glass lens in 4 days time.

She started giving me attitude, she said the money isn't up to 25k in her account, that she has used part of the money. I also explained the reason why I can't do transfer but she didn't listen, from 7pm yesterday till today she refused to pick my calls.

This morning, I have to make some calls to my friends to help me with some cash, then I sent her the 25k to go see her optometrist doctor. Infact what happened is just a tip of an iceberg, I can't even narrate what she done on several occasions, She doesn't care if you have what she need. Everything about her is urgent!!

I see this her behavior as a red flag. What should I do? I love her, she's a first class graduate. Pls don't call me a simp. I just need advice Pls.

Two things you can do to make her happier:

1... give her your ATM card and pin so she can have free withdrawal anytime she wishes.

2... make her a co-signatory to your account so she wouldn't disturb you again.

Nairaland will not give you the sense you lack