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Naijanascam:
Honesty and contentment

Honesty and contentment

So, Apostles Johnson and family have stolen from you before?

Naijanascam:
Meaning the business runs in their family........

Chaii Africans why are you being milked with these make believe?

You that is wise and has not been milked, please give us your achievements?

Have you discovered another planet? Are you the richest in the world?

Tell us what you have gained that the milked ones are not gaining

Sonofgoodness:
My girlfriend and I have been dating for a few weeks now. Her ex has been begging and sometimes forcing her to come back but she refused. She fears the guy because he is an angry and sometimes do beat her while they were dating. Her ex has called severally in my presence and he usually shout and sound rude when trying to tell her to come back. My girlfriend is a girl that is easily afraid. Since we started dating,he has been luring to come. At first,he said the girl should come and collect her sim card, another time shoes and now clothes. She wants to go and collect those things but she ask for my permission to go and take her things. I gave her three conditions Which is 1. She must record all their conversation when she gets there 2. She must collect all her things that very day because I will never allow her go there again 3. She must go with someone. But you know these can't work. What should I do?
No insult ...

She is a 'girlfriend' for a reason.

Listen, don't commit your heart to this thing... it looks like she using you as a rebound.

"She wants to go and collect those things..."
There is nothing you can do about this...

But just know that if she goes, she is not coming back to you again.

chapwiz:
Indeed what God cannot do does not Exist. At the beginning of this year I have been praying for a change of job. And I have been actively searching and applying for job online, To the glory of God, on the evening of 29/03/2022, I check my email and behold an interview invite from a big oil company the interview is to hold on First week of April, so I printed the interview invite and I wrote “What God cannot do does not Exist” #NSPPD

On the interview date, I attended the interview via virtual.
The interview went well as I was interviewed by whitemen and on April 3rd again I received another job interview invite from another company schedule for Second week of April, we had the interview and it also went well and in few days, the second company I had interview with offered me employment I was so happy and am to resume in May.,

I resume my new job second week of May, Just few days after my resumption, I got another job interview invite from another big oil company and because I was still on induction with the new company I then tell them to postpone it to ending of May which they did I then attended the interview on the new date and it went very well also I wasn’t really worried if the two other companies got back to me or not because I already started a new job.

few days later last oil company I had interview with contacted me with salary offer the salary was good but I just declined it I don’t really know what came over me so just first week of June, again same company offer me another salary increment and I accepted It and signed the offer and contract documents while they are preparing me to resume at third week of June, The first oil company I had interview with, contacted me and offer me double of what the two company gave me I couldn’t believe my eyes I didn’t waste time to accept and they ask when I would like to resume so I told them in a month time.

On the plea that I want to give a one month notice to my present employer which they accepted (and so I fit also collect one more salary b4 I resign ), after the signing of the contract the second I was to resume with in June call me and told me to resume since I have accepted the second salary they offer to me, I humbly reply them that while waiting for their response I got engaged with other activities and thank them for contacting me and finding me fit for the role.

In a space of three months I switched in between two big oil company and I declined one.
The Lord has Favour me...It can only be God

This is awesome. Congratulations sir

Soulflai:
Sir I don't know until I discover the WhatsApp messages.I swear I don't know.i will have to do Dna as they say

Kindly listen to me sir.
DNA test is important, very important.

You must also end that relationship.

As long as you are there, she will keep devising newer ways to stay in touch with her Ex and you will keep tormenting yourself wondering if she is cheating or not.

300whitewolves:
My emotions are in a mess right now I am typing this right up. Everything was fine about me before I met this lady. I had just started my internship program UCH and things were going well until I met this lady, she was also an intern like me, at first we didn't really talk and one thing let to the other we started talking, exchanged numbers and all, she was even the one that initiated the process. That was how one night we were talking and she asked me whether I was single or dating, we actually live in the same hostel provided for interns but I went home that very day cos I was off duty and my house was in that state. I told her I was single, she went on to ask me what I wanted out of being with her, I was actually taken aback cos we just barely knew eachother though I was already falling head over hills for her, feeling all the knots in my stomach for her to the extent I had to ask myself what was wrong with me. My response to her was that she was distinct that I wanted to know her more, like friends and all, she said okay, she thanked me for my response, she went on to tell me that she liked me which was not the right thing cos she has someone she was dating but she is finding it so difficult not to fall for me. I was actually surprised, so I told her how I felt about her too that I liked her and all. That day went with other conversations going but we already created this tense atmosphere around each other. On Sunday I cooked rice and I was chatting with her, I asked her if she cared for the rice I am cooking she said yes, I told her I would call her if the rice was done. She came over when the rice was done, I told her to come with a covered plate so she could take her share to the hostel. When I finished with dishing hers she told me if I would follow her to the common room, we'll I told her yes, cos I didn't see anything wrong, it's a common room and it's open so I didn't see any danger in it. After like 1 hours talking in the common room she brought up the topic of she falling for me and all, that she wanted closure, I tried telling her how I felt with the thinking maybe she was just joking about the fact that she already had a boyfriend, during this conversation she placed her head on my chest, with time I couldn't hold it any longer, I asked her if I could kiss her, she said yes, and we went on kissing her her for like 5mins without her stopping me, I later withdrew she was looking scared, moaning under her breath, we kissed again, then we stopped, I then went on to say I was sorry, she told me I shouldn't be. Emotions we raging through her, then she blurted out that she was engaged that she has a fiance and she loved him and doesn't want anything to come between them. I became so sad, how could this be, I had already fallen for her, now she telling me this after the hot kiss and all. She stood up from the common room and went on to dress for work, cos she was on night duty. Through out that night, I was unable to sleep. Fast forward to yesterday she called me that she wanted to see me, when I got there she told me she already told her fiance about it that he came around earlier that day. She told me she wanted to cut off all attachments from me. I said OK but I was hurting, bruised, this girl led me on and shattered me along the way, she moved on quickly but am still her hurting. I really like this girl, but it's life I have to move on myself, the only painful thing is that we live in the same hostel. I will always have the mind that she lives close by.

Rule no. 1

Kings don't fall in love... ( you even fell in love too early).


Rule no. 2

Don't have any serious relationship with any girl that is on the same level with you... she will go for someone on a higher level

Ebubu9:
he is broke. Didn’t you read the wife’s ex had been sending money to her account since this year?

Many married women run to their ex (if he is now wealthy) to take care of them when their husband go broke.

If they are in bad relations with their ex, they find new men who can afford to give.

Being broke shouldn't be why he decided to stay in a very depressive and emotionally abusive relationship

Soulflai:
I shouldn't have brought this here but the emotional bargage is too heavy for me to move on in. My marriage of 2 years is about to crumble.

I met my wife in Kaduna Southern part in 2017. Our relationship had been a long distance one as I base in Lagos while she also work in Kaduna, but we eventually married in 2020. The bone of contention is the issue of her ex. That point we are dating, I always caution her to cut communication with the guy, she will do it by deleting the number, but later I will find out they're still relating.

Last month, I purchased a new phone and I had to give her my own. So on the process of reinstalling Whatsapp on her phone, I retrieved all the backup Whatsapp messages 7 which left me devastated. The chat history with her ex really left me broken.

On multiple occasions after I paid her dowry, she met with the guy and they had sex. Multiple times pals! Even after marriage, when she is 5 months pregnant, the guy still had her with my baby inside her!

I am really broken pals, I confronted her on this, she started crying that she will cut communication with him. The guy even send some money to her account on difference time this year.

This is the height of emotional damage. I am just leaving each day just to find my leg financially. I am trying my best, but it is not enough.

Lastly, I called the so-called ex on phone to cut communication with her, the guy is in Kaduna I think while we are in Lagos. She also blocked him all avenues likewise. My decision now is that any time I discovered any form of communication between her and the guy, it is over with the marriage. I think she is not really in to me like that, which beg the question while she married me in first instance.

If am your brother, what advice would you recommend? I only choose to be lenient because the kids are just too small to have their parents separated early. If not, I would have sent her parking!.

Right now I am just not happy with life afterall.

I think we should look away from your wife and her Ex and focus attention on you.

What exactly is wrong with you?
What is the problem with you?

A woman started cheating on you from the first time you met her till now you are married and you didn't leave?

You may think it's love, it is not.

You are condoning evil and tolerating it. What she is doing is evil and you are accepting and endorsing it by remaining in the relationship/marriage.

I think you have a deep sense of inferiority complex.

Eminence125:
Please be patient and read carefully.

I'm a contract worker and my wife is pregnant, i have this male neighbour by name steve who's also a contract worker. I have been noticing that something fishy is going on between my pregnant wife and steve, i can remember coming back from work one day and notice steve pinning my wife to the wall and they were very fast to move out from each other, while steve started climbing a stool to fix our damaged bulb when i passed they both greeted me. Yesterday i and my wife was sleeping and she started sleep talking and i quote "Steve Stop joor I'm not really in for this today, do you want my husband to catch us" To be frank i'm pissed off, is this not a clear evidence that my wife is cheating on me with steve? Please help me.

August 4th, you posted that masturbation may not allow you to get married...

Today you are posting that your pregnant wife is cheating on you.

You also stated sometime ago that you are 23 years old.

My conclusion is that masturbation has finished you.

Peacemaker5128:
https://www.thecable.ng/apc-wins-all-seats-in-ebonyi-lg-polls

All of them were returned unopposed.

Even PDP didn't present any candidate for the election.

Jossy Eze, who is the chairman of the state electoral body is a known member of APC and was appointed

Peacemaker5128:
This is a clear message to structureless party

All of them were returned unopposed.

Even PDP didn't present any candidate for the election.

Jossy Eze, who is the chairman of the state electoral body is a known member of APC and was appointed by the Governor.

Cazzim:
so u knew it and u can't mind your business with your dirty mouth

You are still having issues with English language sir. Write with your local dialect please

Cazzim:
reread what u type urself, it's rubbish u claim u know English and u are just jobless youth, by now u she have be a prof

Write with your local dialect sir. English is not by force

Brightw278:
Who else is having issues with a clingy girl. I have been in a relationship with my girl for sometime, everything has been going on fine a good girl and all you can desire in a lady.

The issue here is she is so clingy, I mean it’s good to be clingy but I think this one is extreme. The nature of my job make me leave house very early and come back late at night. Before I wake up she is calling me, at work she is calling, when I’m back she would have given me 10 missed calls.

We talk everyday, but sometimes a man just want sometime to himself, and if I miss just a call I will have to Dey/dx the reason for missing that call, not to talk of the explanations. Every missed calls is always a potential cheating scenario to her. She monitors my movement as Bleep, I have to tell her where I’m going, when I’m coming, even if I’m going to the rest room and I did not tell her she flare up.

I don’t think of settling with anybody else as this is only her flaw but how do I reduce this, it’s affecting me a lot, if I’m out with freinds she wants to know them, can’t even speak to femal colleagues at work anymore. How do I go about this m, she is a sweet person.

For the records I have never cheated on her before, she checks my phone from time to time too any chat with a female colleague and she is already suspecting me not until I open up the chats for her to read the contents and see we have nothing together. How do you all handle clingy girls it should not look like I’m overreacting

The highlighted part will be your undoing.

Keep it up

Cazzim:
fear girls oo,I was at home with my cousin brother girlfriend phone when zenith Bank sent her message that am at home start coming... I pretend as if I didn't know what is happening,am still schock,and my cousin brother wants to married this girl and he has really invested on her, I don't know if I should tell him or not. he really loves and trust the girl

Before you tell him, kindly learn paragraphing, punctuations and simple English.

You can write with your local dialect instead.

maryma:
We met in camp last year October. We now started dating. B4 I agree to date him, he told me about his ex gf, what he wanted, like taking in for him first, doesn't want white wedding, and after he is married, after one year of the marriage he will travel abroad to go hustle. I agreed to dat I will take in for him, and dat he can travel abroad but after he must have gotten his papers, he will come carry his family along. But along d run, as the relationship is going on, I found out that even if at all he travels abroad after getting married to him and giving birth for him, he will forget his family in Nigeria and marry a white woman abroad and make his wife in Nigeria a house wife to be watching over his properties here in Nigeria.
As d relationship is going on too. I found out dat he still communicate with his ex almost everyday, even sending her money,airtime, and even want to rent a house for her. Aprt from that, he tells his ex almost all his plans and any moves e plans to take.
Since I av known a man I av never one day taken in cause I was scared of pregnancy and I don't want my dad to disown me. So I was always careful. Remember I told u I agree to take in for him. But we be been dating for 7 months now, and I haven't taken in for him dunno y. My guy na went to tell his ex dat I cannot take in for him,dat he is worried and told d gal dat is like God don't want me to take in for him. He now told d gal, dat dey would av been good couples and give birth to beautiful kids if only d gal had agreed to his plans.
Before now, he use our pix as his screensaver, same tin with me. But since e started dating dis white woman abroad, he remove our pix as his screensaver and put the white woman pix there. And dis is d guy dat I don't ask money, I find it difficult to ask him money, I feel pity for him cause of the load on his head. Still he doesn't give me back d same love I av for him,.
Also, he is a catholic and e doesn't believes in miracles, prophecies. And I attend pentecostal church. And I don't attend catholic church. He is saying if e marries me I must attend catholic church with him and take his kids to catholic church.
Please I need ur advice. Do u guys think he is d right one for me I feel he still love his ex and equallly loves d white woman. I just feel e want to use me for his personal gains, like watching over his properties, turning me to a hux wife. And make me suffer. I av been asking him to start business for me so I will be supportive. He didn't open d business. But when he and his ex wer dating he opened a business for her and till today e is still giving her money to support the business.
PLS I need ur advice am confused I don't want to be fooled, used and misled. Please. I want to liv the relationship

1. You are a yahoo girl for dating a yahoo boy. That means, you are also a greedy and dishonest person.
You enable him to defraud people by your association with him.

2. Whether you are pentecostal or not, does it matter? You can as well be an idol worshipper because you live what the bible says. You want to get pregnant for a man before marriage, you are dating a fraudulent person.

3. Police will arrest the two of you and you will rot in jail.

You fit each other

victooman:
see talk abeg,, are u ready for her so l can give u her number?

It's alright. Keep convincing her to wait for you.

You will soon discover that women marry who is ready and not who they love.

victooman:
Good day nairalanders,,
l met a beautiful and excellent girl during my Nysc, honestly she is everything l need in a woman,
We finish our service last year and started life in Abuja, she live with her sister and doing her own business while l live alone in the same town,, The problem now is that this girl mother is already pressurizing her for marriage,, she is 27 yrs and the mother is already making her looks like she is too old for marriage,, yesterday she came to my house looking all moody and worried,, when l enquired she told me her mom is asking her when the man she is dating will come home for introduction,, l took my time to explain things to her,we can't go into any marriage without been financially stable,l have a business l am running and l am looking at stability of that business in 3-4yrs time,,l told her l wont give you any specific date on when to come see her people ,,but l assured her if she stick with me God knows l wont think of any other woman during marriage,,, she told me her plan is to get married at 25yrs and l told her things dont always work out the way we plan them,, honestly l dont want to lose this girl and l also dont want to rush anything,, what do l do nairalanders...

Listen, your timing and her own are quite different. Allow that girl to go and marry if someone is ready for her

Franzinni:
Bro thank God for your safety ... Please you need to understand your woman doesn't understand what it is to be in your shoes at the moment of distress ... her imagination is her man should be ready to die... to save himself from ridicule. Most women erroneously believe that.

That is the reason why many graveyards are full today with men trying to impress a woman and pays with his life foolishly ...only for the said girl to marry off on a totally different tangent ....

Nothing known to consciousness that is more valuable than life itself. Women are everywhere like river ... don't let a woman toy with your mind... But yet again, don't plan to leave her because of this bro.... to gain back you manhood in her sight, you should stage another ambush and make sure she is there to witness the way you perform gallantly, it might not need physical blows but just a stern warning to like 3 -5 guys with a threat to kill them on the spot if they ever approach you and see how she will align sharply ..show her some Spartacus cruise and she will bang you silly for it. Women are

Simple!

Just make them believe and they will create the bigger picture by themselves in their head.

My 2kobo

Is this a joke or something?

The funny thing is that some people are liking this rubbish comment.

"Stage another ambush" Really??

I ask again, is this a joke?

A lady that couldn't appreciate the gravity of what happened doesn't need a staged event. She even called him a coward!

She is insensitive and lacks the required empathy for friendship.

Ezendimmuo:
I feel like hurting my ex
I wanna hurt her so bad
I wanna hurt her for everything she made me go through while we were together...
She's older than me by a year...
She's 26 and I am 25..
She's in her final year...
I noticed she found it difficult talking about how many people she has been with...
I noticed she was always on calls even when I was present demanding things from guys..even when I gave her everything I had
I had to go through her phone..
She was flirting with other guys... denying she had a boyfriend...
I also there was this married guy she was always going to see then...
Whenever I objected...
She'd turn it into a huge fight..
I'd just have to finally let her go see him...
I found out that she has been fucking him and even had an abortion for him 3 times(according to the chat she had with the guy)
This is someone that refuses my own advances because she is either tired or has headache o..
I went through her browser and also saw she has been researching about abortions as well
She was complaining about serious stomach pain saying it's ulcer..it all started making sense
When I confronted her..
She wasn't sorry...
She was angry I went through her phone...
The next morning....
She came and apologized..
I stupidly accepted her back...
There is a particular guy I always see around her in her lodge..
I became suspicious and confided in people I trust in her lodge...
One told me she was always sleeping over in the guys room..
The other stupid person I told when to tell her about it and she got angry??
Do you blame me??
She came into my life and made me insecure...
I was having high bp anytime she doesn't pick her calls (most times, she will tell me she was with "a friend"
I just had to end it all...
For my mental health..
I still love her... that's the annoying part...
I stalk her status...
Today...she posted a picture with a tag "I need a hug"...
That's how cheap she can get...
I hate her for making me love her!!!!
I know I'll get over her soon sha

Guys..
Don't ever let any lady take you for granted...
You are the prize!!

Delete the last two sentences... you are in no position to advice anybody. You are not taking your own advice.

Secondly, the girl will finish you patapata before you learn your lesson.

You are stalking her? You are yet to end things? You are not ready yet

Amarahobu:
My friend has been dating this girl for 3 years now, and she has been faithful to him, not until one of the Reverend father's in her church added her on Facebook and they got talking, the Reverend asked her out but she refused and told him she can't have anything to do with a Reverend father and that she's into a serious relationship too, she told him dey can just be friends.

As time goes on the Reverend father has been showering her with gifts and little money, she even lost her phone and the Reverend father got her a new one. One day she decided to go see him in a hotel and she ended up spending a night with him. The Reverend father was able to cuddle, suck her breast, kiss her but she didn't allow him to bleep her.

She confessed to her boyfriend and asked for forgiveness, the truth is dey didn't bleep but did other things. Should he forgive her or end the relationship??

He went through the girls WhatsApp without her consent, he saw her chats with the Reverend father. The man hasn't bleeped her but really wants to bleep her

He will be going through your comments

Sleeping with a Rev. Father has the same consequences as Sleeping with a married man.

They are bound by oaths, when you aid in breaking the oath, you partake in the consequences

FERNANDEZISBACK:
Why must you force the lil boy to join y'all in your prayers to an imaginary creature?

Since he now has sense to disrespect his parents and know God as imaginary, it means he is grown enough to live on his own and take care of himself.

Some of you don't know how stu.pid you sound trying to defend the non-existence of God

1vid:
I am currently working with a church that pays me 61k monthly.

I have a calling to start up my own ministry and I am there for learning.

So, I am thinking to quit to start a job job as a sienna driver in a company that pays 50k monthly, I just want to experience outside work and also raise money to start up my ministry.

So, I need some advice.

And you are seeking ministry advice from social media? Are you really sure you have a calling sir?

Juliet751:
Please castrate the bastard.

If you do this, you will be jailed.
Allow the police to handle it

The guy is the witch (wizard). You dated someone for 16 years With cheating and hurts? Kaaai. You are a witch

This guy will quit this job. He will.

It is not a "village people" thing. He is in love.

Look at the heading He chose "my job is ruining my family". He already considers the job as a disadvantage and the girlfriend as family. He pays fees for a girl He has not married.

He will quit the job... if he wouldn't, he wouldn't have come here for advice... the topic would have been "I left my St.upid girlfriend for asking me to quit my job" rather He chose this topic "my job is ruining my family".

When your so-called girlfriend was in school, did she ask you to quit your job, probably no. It is now she's at home and jobless that she is asking you to quit your job...

What would you be doing for her if you start staying at home? Have premarital sex with her?

I know you will still quit your job after all these advice...

But have you seen these people that beg online, their case will be better than yours when you quit

Can it go for 1.5?

DearTiti:
While in secondary school I briefly dated this girl who was very loose and promiscuous back then. She had a reputation as a flirt and many guys claimed to have slept with her. The relationship was not serious and honestly I got involved with her because almost every other guy back then seemed to have gotten a piece of her. The affair did not go any where because after I slept with her a couple of times, I lost interest and eventually we lost contact for many years until we coincidentally found ourselves studying in the same university.

Lately I came across her again but in a very unusual circumstance. I squat with some of my friends off campus and one day the older guy among us informed us that he has found a wonderful girl who he hopes to get married to and settle down with after school. He told us to be of good behaviour because the girl will be coming to the house.

Indeed later that day he came with her and to my greatest surprise it was this old secondary school girl of mine. She was also surprised to see me but we pretended that we did not know each other before. Later I called my friend outside and tried to tell him that he should be careful and not get too involved with her but I didn't really tell him our story..

What I did not know then was that it's like this girl over the years had grown quite decent and modest. She had even given her life to God, and was more focused and intelligent unlike before when I knew her. I was surprised to observe all this in her because I never thought a leopard could change its spots.

I decided to test her one day when she came to our house to see my friend and he was not at home. He had actually told me to keep her company whenever she comes till he returns. While we were in the room together I started making attempts to cuddle her and get her to sleep with me, but I was taken by total surprise at the vehement way she resisted me and admonished me about my behaviour.

I was really ashamed and embarrassed and pleaded with her to forgive me and not tell my friend. It will look very bad for me if this girl decides to tell my friend because I would be seen as a betrayer by my friends. I know he loves this girl and would not take anything for granted that would cause a problem in his relationship. I am quite confused and also I'm still wondering if I should tell my friend about her past or not.

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You are obviously a busybody and a terrible person. Leave them alone!!!

Moonshine101:
Hello Everyone!

I have a family issue but I don't have someone to speak to about it, so I'm very grateful for your inputs on this matter.

SOME BACKSTORY (You can skip this if you want):
I'm the youngest of my two siblings (26M). I have a sister and a brother. My sister's kinda okay. My brother (35) is a selfish, toxic and entitled person. He dropped out from the university, doesn't have a job and he steals from my parents like my dad's watches or property or my mum's jewellery and then sells them to buy weed or something.

One time he sold my mum's car and after some police and legal issue that basically went nowhere, she basically had to steal it back (The guy who bought it, passed away a little while after, so I guess that case is closed..), he once took my phone while I was sleeping because I refused to give him a different phone I had, that belongs to me after selling his own phone or something. It's like he acts solely on impulse. My dad (who's in his 70s now) is almost always on security alert when my brother is around. As for my mom, she just straight up enables him and bails him out of trouble every time, saying things like "He's your brother" or "God will change him" when I talk to her about it. My brother and I got into a fight, like a year before I left for university, because he wanted to look around my room to see if I had his usb cable despite me telling him I don't have it nor have I seen it. That was the last time I willingly spoke to him.

My family moved into a new house and I finally left for school (my brother stayed in the old house and my sister moved in with her husband after marriage, so it was just him over there). During my 3rd year, I called my dad, asking him for some money because I was broke, and during the phone call, my dad tells me that he's at the hospital cuz my brother and some girl just had a kid. okay.. I came back for holidays and found out that his baby mama (who's also toxic and insults people alot) and kid, my nephew, are staying with us, with my parents providing for them while my brother stays in the older house, renting it out to people (who messed up the house and compound to the point it just became a disgusting place to live in) obviously without permission from my parents (who don't even own that house, it belongs to my uncle). By the time I graduated and came back home, he was now living with us in the new house because free food and no bills, I guess.

I haven't gotten a job yet so I'm stuck here.

Recently, he's been staying away from me because I don't talk to him or even look at him.

BACK TO THE TOPIC:
Around a year ago, I had a serious wakeup call and decided that, if I was going to go forward in life I would have to better myself so I began a journey of meditation and self-improvement, and I think I've made some good progress. Now the issue is my brother---earlier today, I saw him scouting our house (after my parents went out) and I could instantly tell he was up to no good. I was cooking when I began to hear some noise from upstairs like he was hacking at something. He came downstairs and readied his car while my cousin who stays with us (19) carried the AC unit my brother was planning to sell.
Usually I'll just mind my business and avoid him because he's an adult-child (narcissist) and I think he'll just put his vindictive sights on me if I interfere, but this time I don't know what came over me..

I called my cousin and demanded where he was taking that AC to. I then asked my brother (first time in years I've spoken to him) why he was taking it, he just gave one nonsense flimsy excuse then I told my cousin to return it. When he tried to explain whatever, I didn't acknowledge his presence, I just ignored him and ate my food. He just stood there staring at me for like 3 minutes before he left while murmuring something.

The main reason I've been avoiding him for long is because he's toxic and I decided that family or not, toxicity is still toxicity. He's very exploitative and once he familiarises with someone it's like an opening to trample the person's boundaries. I think I confronted him today because the more you ignore bad/evil the stronger it becomes and eventually it will come for you except now it'll be stronger from all the experience.

The issue is, I don't want to relapse into my old life of toxicity by further engaging him if he decides to steal from me on get physical because he's the kind of person that only listens to actions, not words.
Please, what do you think I do?

Your brother is a drug addict! He has an addiction problem. He needs rehabilitation and if not, soon all of you will be in trouble. Big one

Kineticcasihkf:
You're still a child. Pray not to witness spiritual battle.

You are the child here... a lying spirit is whispering into your ears, your eyes will soon clear.

A woman that didn't kill you when you were a baby, it is now you can type nonsense on social media that she will kill you?

Spiritual battle my foot

MrDanas:
Ok, So I and this girl have been dating for 3 years.

I made my mistakes (A few girls came visiting me which she saw, she saw chats on my phone and all), we broke up and within that time I am pretty sure she had been with one or 2 other guys as I was always in touch with her security guy who gave me updates. I asked but she denied. I have mentioned I don't have any problem with what she has done during the breakup as i believe it is payback for what i did.

During the breakup, we were still in contact and she mentioned not wanting to get involved with anyone as she was emotionally stressed and needed the time to heal. Well, I knew I wanted her back so I kept on trying.

Well, long story short. We are back together but she still sees the guy and still denies it. I asked her to move in with me for some time and she agreed. She agreed for us to get back together on the condition that she would leave if she notices any foul play, like me talking to girls and all.

However, here is my plight:

It's been a week plus since we got back. She doesn't put in much effort, doesn't call or text, and if I decide not to call or text (match her energy) she fumes and threatens to leave.

>>> I understand it's been just 1 week and she needs time to rekindle whatever we had so taking it slow and being patient. However, I sometimes feel I am getting breadcrumbs (little attention just to keep me as an option ).

>>> She cries whenever she comes to my place as she says it reminds her of all the hurt and the wrongs I did (bringing girls to the house, getting gifts from other girls and stuff)and she still finds it difficult to get past the hurt and trust me again. (So I feel, just maybe the love is still there just needs time to heal and all.)

>>> My biggest worry now is she still sees this guy but denies she doesn't. I am moving to a new place and have asked her to come to spend a month which she has agreed. But as of yesterday, I was told she didn't sleep at home meaning she slept at the guy's place. Should I still be patient or just call this off at once?

There is nothing anybody will say to people like you that will ever matter, you are in love and will never listen to advice.

You know what to do but you won't until that girl finishes you completely