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Bauer1:
I know this isn't the right section. But I don't know the right one and so I opted to post here since it seems to have a lot of traffic.

Yesterday, I returned to my room to find a rat dead in the middle of it. Ordinarily, I wouldn't be bothered. But this rat has clearly been bitten (pictures will be displayed below). I called a neighbour and we examined it. We were arguing if a snake could have done it, and if yes, why it didn't swallow it. In any case, we decided to leave it where it was to see if whatever killed it would return for it. I went to sleep at a friend's.

We returned this morning to find the dead rat gone. So, I called others to join me and we ransacked every nook and cranny of the room. We couldn't find anything threatening. But we did find another rat killed in much the same manner as the first (second picture).

It irks that I can't find what did this. I can't sleep in the room as it is. So please, experts in the house, help me to identify what it could be and what can be done.

Mods please help move to front page.

Check your ceiling.
Any space, no matter how small can pose a danger to you.

HonestFriend:
There is this colleague of mine at work. One day her sister came to visit her and we became friend I mean her sister and I.

Although she was in school then, so when ever she come visiting we spend time together to share ideas, and all. I do visit her, buy her gift the little way I could. Each time I ask her for a date she will say that she is busy. She will always find a way of not going out with me.

Now after her graduation from school she is waiting for nysc, she intend to redeploy to South South, but I convince her to redeploy down to Lagos when the time comes. Although she is yet to be posted, but she agreed.

Now is has gotten a job here in Lagos, but she still waiting for nysc. This time she bearly pick my calls, she complain about work, she is always busy and all that.. Each time I bring up relationships matters she wil find a way of covering it up with different topic entirely.

Due to this her altitude of not having chance I have to send her a message that I love her and she mean alot to me. Later that same day I called her and she picked but started bringing another topic..

Few weeks ago I called her for us to see, she said that she will b going to work the next day that she was only off on that Sunday, I later discovered that she was off for two days.

I really love dis girl, not because she is beautiful, but because she is intelligent and can produce something out of little or nothing..

Now I don't know if I should keep calling her, just as I usually do, or I should just let her be?

Please I need an advice...

She means alot too you? How?

You lack self respect and self dignity. That's why you think you love her and that's she keeps treating you like dung.

Keep chasing her since you don't know what to do with your life.

ChizzyBuna:
Now here is the real issue
As of today i told her that i saw her name on sack list. It didn't go well with her
She has accused me of using her to climb to get new position at work.
She is now threatning to expose all our flings and affairs to my uncle who is the M.D.
She swore that i cant be promoted and she be sacked. That if they will sack her then they must sack me too.

She said i should defend her like i did last year or else she will expose our office sex and flings to M.D
And if i defend her, that my uncle will definitely suspect and he might demote me or sack me. He is a tough disciplinary man. I have seen him sack his closest allies.
I do r know what to do. I havent eaten since afternoon. My mind is not at rest

You told her what

Loose lips sink ships. Unfortunately, you are the ship your lips will sink.

Saturn444:
Can he live in that?

It is peoples money.

What are the names of the people?

While listing the names, make sure your name is included

officialmario:
Good morning Nairalanders

I want to use this medium to seek for your advice..

Me and my wife has been together since 2014, although we have not done marriage as we only did introduction, but we planned having our marriage this year, we had two kids, but I think right now I'm not comfortable living with my wife.

I am not enjoying this relationship anymore, she keeps beating me whenever there is quarrel between us, she is fond of slapping me and giving me punches, at times she makes use of wire and and broom to scatter my head.

The one that happened on Monday is really giving me much concern, she checked my phone and saw a friend I was chatting with and instead of her to ask me about the lady, the next thing she did was to slap me and she started beating me to the extent of having right hand dislocation.. It's not as if she can beat me if I decided to fight back, I don't want to raise my hand on a woman, it's a curse and I don't want to do that, this is getting out of hand and I am not living comfortable at home again, we sleep on different bed, she doesn't allow me touch her again.

She is even planning to get a room by ending of this month when she gets her salary..
I told my sister about her behavior, the advice she gave me is that I should beat the hell out of her whenever she raises her hand to beat me.

I have pleaded with my wife to let us continue the way we have been doing before but she wouldn't listen to me.

I am really confused and I don't know what to do right now..

I need your advice my great people of Nairaland.

Since we are all ma..dddd...

Kneel down and beg her... wash her clothes, pet her...

In fact, turn your bum bum let her beat and flog you well.

If they call men, then you run out and join the queue.

Mtchewwww

NwaNimo1:
Otedola dey do houseboy for Dangote.....

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So, anybody that accompanies you to a place is your houseboy...

nnamx4u:
From my last thread.

You see where I am talking about a girl I am seeing, she said she doesn't visit guys in their house

Through out this christmas. I called this babe to see her

let's go out and have fun together but

She refused saying that she has so many function to attend.

We did not see through out this last xmas

We stay in the same state but not the same city.

I called her today and told her that I missed her and I want to see her

she said I should not miss her, that she is not dead yet. hmmmm

I asked her when can we see.

she said she cant say for now. that she has a lot of things doing now.

I think she is just playing with me though.

I just love her. I don't know what to do now

What do you know love is?

Someone is abusing you and you are enabling it, calling it love.

Shift abeg

Phillipsburg:
It's a long read because I had to pour out my mind wholeheartedly. Please endeavor to read through.



I so much hate my dad right now. And even my mom for supporting him. I can always remember how unfortunate it is for me to find myself in this family in the first place. Infact, not having a family is better than this living hell I found myself because these people are bent on ruining my future with their own life.

My father is the person who will be fighting with my mom in a brutally physical manner where they'd be running after themselves in the street after almost stripping themselves naked. He's the one who doesn't know how to reprimand his children except by using curses. He's the one who would go out and come back drunk and turn everywhere upside down. All these I've endured for almost every part of my life and my mom has refused to leave him saying because she has kids for him.
I know some of you people will start saying all manner of things about how you would have cherished your parents if you had one blah blah blah but this is hell. It's choking me I feel like dying.

I just met a girl who happened to be my girlfriend and we've been together for some time now and my father is help bent on separating us because he doesn't want me to marry close to him so that there wouldn't be clashes between him and the mother of the girl because he feels the woman is a violent person.
As they've turned the house into a place of sorrow, i couldn't think of spending even a minute inside the house. I usually spend the evening with this girl at her place and return when everyone at home must have slept. The next thing was for him to start cursing at the girl and even threatening to go to her house and throw tantrums.
I just want to get out of all these because it's choking me. I can't breathe. I feel like I'm losing my mind because of everything. The emotional torture I feel whenever they start fighting. How angry I feel when he starts cursing everyone and shouting at us in front of the house and disgracing everyone of us throughout the whole neighborhood. The way he go about gossiping and talking bad about his own children and wife to outsiders and the whole neighborhood. I'm sick of everything.

I just wish I was born without a family because I'm even afraid of imbibing his behaviors and acting like him when I later settle down. I will never forgive him for making me become who I don't want to be.

Why are you living with your parents and you are talking about getting married?

mummymum:
Why should he go to the police when he himself is guilty. I just pray the man will deal with him drastically. You that advice him, if you were the owner of the school, I hope you will accommodate him because he's your brother. Instead of him to use the little that he has to find a small place and relocate let him go and look for more problems this Christmas at the end you his adviser will not be there to rescue him.

Are you sure you read what I wrote or you read your mind?

Secondly, the fact that he didn't pack out when they asked him to isn't enough reason for the man to injure him

Witnesstony28:
Today ended as a bad day.

If you remember in my previous post on my resigning from my place of work and focus on my bike full time, I wrote to the school management informing them that I will not continue with them since they don't buy the idea of combining their work and my bike.

So some weeks ago, they asked that I leave their apartment on or before 21st December.

After some days, they called to ask if I had left, to which I told them I have not gotten a place yet.

So they extended to today being Friday, 24th.

This evening, the owner of the school (an elderly man) came to the apartment to throw my stuffs out that I must leave their school since they didn't sack me. That I choose to resign.

I explained to him that I have not been able to get a place.

When I now told him I needed him to pay me for December so I could add to my money and get a place.

Na there the man flare up, rushed inside the apartment and started throwing my shoes away and as if that wasn't enough he rushed out and went to the metal pole used to hold the car wheel used as bell and rushed towards me and hit my leg with it. I thought this man was joking, he targeted my head and missed.

Immediately I felt my colleague held the rod, I looked at my leg and saw blood gushing out.

I am contemplating reporting to the police with the injury.

But I still want seek counsel from you guys whether it's wise doing that.

Here is the picture of the rod and injury inflicted on me by the man.

I just regret not video recording it. That would have been a stronger proof.

Who advised you sir. You took a very emotional and untimely decision.

1. You should have waited till the end of December before resigning so you can get your pay.

2. You should have had an alternative place to stay before resigning...

What to do now... pack out of the place first.
Then report the man to the police... claim damages by going to a hospital to get treated and submit the receipt to the police.

Call it attempted murder or intention to cause grievous bodily injury.

But pack of that house my friend.

You were ill-advised

edego2up:
I married my wife and my father in-law gave us his blessings after that every year ending I use to give my father in-law things like rice chicken and some ingredients for the celebration,
By late last year my in-law died and these things which i use to give my father in-law now goes to my mother inlaw, but the senior brother to my father in-law is now on my neck, anytime he sees my wife,he always is threatening fire and brimstone.

He says that since his brother's demised we have not been visiting him and infact have not received any Christmas gift from US
Meanwhile,in every Christmas i always do for my mother inlaw what i should have done for my father in-law.

I am now confused i don't know who to serve now between my mother in-law and uncle in-law.he is now blowing fire and brimestone

The major matter now is how i can be able to service my mother inlaw and my uncle in-law then my family. I am a low income earner just managing to keep ends meet, see where i now find myself.

The main reason i am nolonger at ease is because these tribe are mainly known to practice witchcraft especialy the very family.

Please nairalanders what should I do now to save my head and the head of my loved ones.
If you love jokes kindly skip this Post for this is a very serious matter.

Even now my mind is telling me to devorse her and life goes on, will this decision also affect me? infact how, how, hooooooowwwwee?

Divorce her? Children should stop getting married, Oga. Because of threat from an outsider, you want to divorce your wife?

Is your head paining you sir? Is everything okay with you?

The fact that you are considering the man's threat shows how weak you are.

Ask yourself if you should have got married in the first instance seeing that you are immature

Bola146:
As for me I don't see anything bad in that, it's a way to show honour and respect to him, it's just a visit not forever, he will soon go to his house.

NB If you truly want a happy home, don't seek advice on social media, those kids who can't maintain a week relationship will advise you astray. What works for A might not work for B.

Even with your modifications, it's the same thing!!! Is the man living forever in your house? Why come here to rant instead of telling your wife directly that she did something wrong?! You see why I always said good communication with intimacy are good in every home especially with this teens getting married everyday. I know he will still come back to ask if it's good for his wife to be greeting him every morning or late in the night orishirishi Dear Lord have mercy on us all

Would your answer be the same if the wife complains that her husband asked her to be sitting at the back seat of the car, while the sister sits in front?

Would your answer be the same if she complains that he gives his sister money for cooking instead of her directly?

Aunty, this your answer is very sentimental.

In marriage relationships little things matter. It is a way to honour and respect her brother at the dishonour of her husband?

Two things that must never be joked with in a marriage: honour and love.

The husband must never insinuate more love for a person than his wife... even if the person is his mother.

A wife must never suggest more respect and honour for another more than her husband even if the person is her father.

Even if they are just staying for 10 seconds.

People that don't agree to this don't have any business getting married.

Cyntie55:
Good day nairalanders. Season greetings to y'all. I'm so angry right now. Please I need mature advice.

My father is not a learned person but he make sure all his children are graduates. My younger brother(last born and only son) rounded up his Nysc few months ago, we're just 2 girls. My elder sis and I. My elder sis is a nurse in Austria (3 years now), she's married with a kid in Austria. My big sister send money home once in 3 months, and I have been the one receiving the money. I share the money exactly as instructed by my big sis. I have never cheated anyone, Infact my Dad and Big sis communicate very well. My Dad trust me so much.

My younger brother is always angry, He said he feel cheated all the time. He shouts and talks to me anyhow like I'm his mate.
Honestly speaking, I gave my younger brother more love and respect that he could ever imagine. When he was serving, he would call telling me he need 10k urgently, sometimes 20k, that he will pay back. Immediately I will send it to him and he would never pay back. Same thing he does to my father.
If we ask him what's he using his allawee for?? He would angrily say so is becus we're sending him "chicken change" that's why we're asking jamb questions.

He said we don't regard him, he called my Dad a SIMP, he said my Dad listen more to my big sis and I....but he don't listen to any of his suggestions.

My brother is a 2:1 (second class upper) graduate in economics from UNIBEN. After his Nysc all he does is to sleep and eat. My Dad's good friend told my brother to come to Lagos and resume work with him. He refused. My Dad ask him if he wants to further his education (masters or professional courses)he said no....Okay follow my Dad to his cement shop and help him (my dad even promised to pay him salary) he refused....I overheard him on a call with a friend and i suspect he's now into yahoo yahoo.

Look at what happened. My big sis sent us money yesterday to celebrate this festive period. She said I should give my brother 50k, I should take 80k and give my father the rest (abt 250k). My Dad is always aware of everything.
I even added 20k out of my money and I transferred 70k to my brother, I was left with 60k (becus she also sent me hair and I plan to sell it becus I already had enough). You can imagine this ungrateful idiot started insulting me, that I cheated him. the fool angrily withdrawn the money from his account and SET IT ON FIRE (70k). He called my elder sister and started warning her saying "if he can't receive the money henceforth, she should stop sending him money again that he's the man of the house".
My Dad gave him a resetting, resounding, hot and dirty slaps. He pulled out a knife, deflated my Dad's car tyres and ran away from the house.

Everyone is not happy. I don't want my brother to live a wayward life. He's 24 years old. Please nairalanders Help!

Your brother is a product of improper upbringing. Before he became this way, his excesses were condoned.

"I don't want my brother to live a wayward life..." are you serious right now?

Newsflash... he is already wayward.

He burnt 70k? And he only received slaps? He was not arrested?

Aunty, when you are ready for your brother to change, you know what to do! For now, you people should keep pampering him.

Idowu116:
Hello Everyone,am new here and I see the way people share opinion about what they are going through in life so I decided to share mine too.

This is a little bit long please bear with me.
Am a 22 year old undergraduate.I finished my secondary School in 2017 but couldn't further my education because my parents (father particularly) are financially down.

I didn't even attend my graduation party party because my dad refused to get me the clothes we chose to wear in my class.

So out of shame,I didn't attend the party and I haven't even collect my certificate and testimonial till today.

Later in November that year (finished school in September),I decided to start looking for a menial job so a friend helped me with work at a particular market in Lagos, where I wash shoe for shoe sellers.

I did this till 2020 in March before the Corona virus issue started.

So around December I resumed the work again till early April, this year.

A friend of my mom helped me get a job at a bank,to work as a cleaner.

All this while, my dad and mom had a serious fight and my dad stopped living with us.

My father is a stubborn and who fornicates and my mom is not happy with it.

So luckily,I got the job and I started working that same month, paid 25k.
With this 25k, a take transport everyday #400 (200 go,200 come)and I feed from it too.i give my mum 5,000 from it too but am not happy and comfortable with it because before the month ends I end up having nothing, trekking to work and have not to eat talk less of saving to further my education.

Working as a cleaner, people use to take advantage of me a lot and a person,I have studied my nature well.I don't like people sending me on errands,I hate it but that is the nature of the job.

People take me for granted, some abuse me then I would cry and wish I never existed.

Sometimes I think of committing sucide but I later do keep my cool.I am an introvert but I have decided to start talking back at people and refusing to answer their message but am scared I might loose my job even though am not happy with the job.

Am also thinking of stopping the job myself but am scared of poverty.

I don't want to go back to the shoe washing job too because it is too stressful and I get sick when doing it

Please what should I do

Few observations.

Firstly, you are someone that cares what people say or think about you, you insisted on wearing what your secondary school class wore and didn't attend out of shame... when you knew your family isn't well to do.

Secondly, you studied your nature and found out you don't like someone sending you on errand? Whose nature likes going on errand? You are simply a quiet proud person. A rule in life, stoop to conquer!

If you leave or lose that job, you will suffer!

Plan your life with that job, if you have to stop the 5k you give your mom for now so you can save.. explain to her.

seunmsg:
Another criminal is left off the hook on the basis of technicality. Bode George, Orji Kalu, Olisa Metuh and now Nwobike. Supreme court keeps voiding their conviction based on technical jargon.

Are you a lawyer, if you are not, what you are attempting to do is like sociology student explaining neurosurgery.

Please just read the information and pass or ask a lawyer for further details

HardMirror:
It seems Nigerian girls are indeed created, designed, configured, trained, programmed, predetermined, orientated,... to collect collect and collect.

I started dating this girl and by our standards this girl is as good as they come. She is truly a good girl with good character. I cant be dashing her money, so I asked her to come and work for me. Already had 4 employees but her work experience would be valuable to us and honestly she has been an asset and worth the money i am paying her. But what surprises me is how she still manages to get me to buy food, airtime for her everyday ....

Naija girls.. una matter no be here

Do you people write these type of things for us to clap for you or for us to join you and berate Nigerian girls? Oga, you chose to be the mumu, be the mumu with your full chest!

Keep giving her and stop disturbing us. Weldone

Richpet85:
Please do not mind my english consider any error as typo but I honestly needed a sincere advice.

My marriage will be 8 years by September 2022. The journey of marriage has not been rosy and sometime I feel I made a very huge mistake by marrying my wife. I met her in April that year, we date for 6 months and we finally got married Sept same year. Prior before we got married I took her to meet with my siblings since my both parents were late specially our 2nd daughter who her husband sponsored my secondary education. She was cool with my family and never raised any concern during this period of courtship.

Suddenly a night of our wedding everything changed. That same woman that took care of my family as hers turned into directly opposite of who she used to be. To cut the story short, she started dispising my family and the thought of their sight irritates her.

She started by complaining about my sister's son living with me before we got married, her mum and other of my siblings to the point that anytime my eldest sister visited she will leave my house with tears.

My wife also ensure she send all my siblings and relations away from me and my house no go area for them. But what confuses me was that she doesn't behave in a similar manner whenever her own siblings or her mum visits our home. Her behaviour towards my family has destroyed the joy we once had as siblings. The marriage has produced 3 kids of which my last child is less than a month old. Anytime she put to bed her mother has always been the one coming for OMUGOO. None of my siblings can come to my house because of her attitude towards them.

I can't tolerate it further am dying silently as am typing this msg her mum, her immediate junior Sister are in my house and every where is very peaceful. If they were my mum or sibling my house would have been burning by now.

I made conscious effort to kill and ignore this feeling but anytime I see her mum and sister. I feel very depressed in my own house. There are other ill behaviour she have which I can tolerate but seeing myself separated from my siblings because of my wife is my greatest Marital night mare.

I am sincerely fade up with her but my kids are my greatest weakness. The thought of leaving my house and go far away from her or rather travel abroad and leave there permanently has recently overcrowded my mind. But I can't stop thinking about my kids, their future and what they will turn into if she is to raise them alone.

Don't forget I have provided her with everything needed to be comfortable in marriage, house, cars, business etc mostly importanly I am not cheating on her, I don't smoke, I don't keep late night and I don't have friends because she has sent everybody close to me away from my life.

I need a mature advice and no insult please.

I am emotionally trumatised and feel so depressed.

You are either a woman or a hermaphrodite but certainly not a man.
You want to blame your choice and desire on your wife?

You are the one that don't want your family around, you are simply typing this to chase clout if not:

1, how can your wife's family be in your house peacefully and your own family has been chased out by your wife?

2. What did she chase them out with, her attitude? You don't have a reciprocal attitude?

Oga, when you are ready to be the man of the house, you will not be typing this non.sense on nairaland.

Go to your wife now and give 24 hour ultimatum that it's either she accepts your family whole heartedly or her own family will not know peace whenever they visit. After 24 hours, go and ask her mom and sibling to leave your house with a big stick or machete.

N.B, don't use any of the weapon, just pretend like you will use it.

Let her know, nobody will be comfortable again until she accepts your family and see changes.

Be a man!!!

eazzzy1:
Hmmm I’m not married sir! but what would you do about a manipulative aunt? Especially when your partner doesn’t the manipulation? Would you force her to see things from your perspective? I like people to make their own mistakes, that’s how people learn best.

To make their own mistakes where? In his house? Do you know how costly some mistakes can be?

Bros, this your view will change once you marry. You will know that your peace of mind is more important than trying to pacify one aunty that doesn't want to be pacified

eazzzy1:
Understandable, but your wife is an adult capable of making her own decisions. You can’t save someone who doesn’t want to be saved. You are already fighting over the woman’s matter, meaning her prophecies about your marriage are gradually coming to pass.

Get closer to her real mother, invite her over, visit her often, call her, send her money etc just leave your wife to the aunty, one day her eyes will clear but that’s not really something within your control, except you want to take people’s advice here and end your marriage.

As long as your wife isn’t forcing you to have a relationship with the woman, just ignore them. Atleast that’s what I would if I were in your shoes.

Did you read the part where he said the woman is causing issues in his marriage? Cursing them and setting them up to fail?

EnemyofGod22:
I'm Planning To Lay Claims To My Baby Girl My Girlfriend Gave To Another Man.

Here is my true life story
My name is Samuel, from Benue state, Idoma language.

Last year November 2020 I met this girl from Akwa Ibom state, we both live in pH, before I woo her, I asked her if she had a boyfriend, she said no. She told me that her boyfriend broke her heart, they are no longer together. I said okay, I love her and I want her to be my girlfriend which she said yes, she loves me too, from that day on we became friend. On 9th of November, I invited her to my house which she came, we had great time together, we had malaton sex that day, each day by day our relationship growing stronger.

Fast forward to December Christmas day, I called her to come to my house, she told me she's going to her elder sisters house to assist her prepare Christmas food, I said okay, then after Christmas on 27 December she came to my house we again had great time together. She stayed in my house for four days before she went back to her house.

One day I visited her in her house, I met her with a guy, they are almost fighting each other. Immediately she saw me she left the guy and met me. I asked her who the guy is? She told me it was that her first boyfriend, She said the guy nearly beat her because of me. She again said the guy is angry with her because of me. I said okay if she love the guy let them continue their relationship, she said no, it is me she loves and she can't continue the reletionship with him. She told me we should go to my house that night which we went to my house, one thing lead to another, we had great sex till day break.

Fast forward to January

On second week of January this year, she came to my house and told me that she missed her period. I took her to pharmacy and did some tests and the result came out she is pregnant. She asked me what is she going to do with the Pregnancy? I told her to keep the Pregnancy, but she said no she's going to abort it, then I told her if she has ever done abortion before she should not try this baby because it will going to back fire on her, she confessed said yes, she has done one abortion before, but what I told her now really entered her and she will not abort it again.

On the 3rd week of January, she came to my house and said I'm not the one responsible for her pregnancy. I was mad at her, I was thinking she was joking, but she said she is serious about it. Then I asked her who is responsible for the pregnancy? She told me that it was that her first boyfriend that is responsible for it. I asked her how is she sure it was that guy that got her pregnant? When on November, December and January we do have sex almost every day? And again I took her to one private hospital and did some normal test, the result came out she was pregnant from first week of January that day as she saw the result she said she is confused about the whole thing.

On first week of February, I was already prepared to take her to her parents for introduction and possibly pay some bride price, only for her to come to my house and insist that the boy responsible for her pregnant. One thing I discovered is that, the boy is financially stable than me, that's why she chose the boy over me and the boy's mother has hospital according to her, while my own parents are in the village.

Despite the fact she claimed I'm not the one responsible for her pregnant she is still coming to my house we do have sex, and bath together and eat together she keep telling me she loves me. I asked her if she truly love me as she said why did she carry my pregnant give another man? She said the woman always has the final said who give her pregnant.

Fast forward On MAY, that is, the pregnancy was 5months, she came to my house midnight I asked her why did she come to my house? She said she had misunderstanding with the guy and the guy is threatening to beat her, she went straight to my bed and lie down, removed all her clothes naked and said let air touch her, I told her what she is doing is not good if she knows truly the pregnant is not mine, why is she coming to my house and lie down naked? I tried as much as possible to send her away but she refused to go and kept telling me she loves me.

She asked me which baby do I like her to born? I told her, baby boy, she again asked me which name do I like to name the baby? I name him (OCHE) OCHE means King in Idoma language, every day we keep calling each other and when I called her, I always called her mama OCHE which she does called me back baba OCHE.

Some time I do send her some money to take care of herself.

To cut the long story short, she gave birth in September, but unfortunately it was a baby girl she born. The day she born, the next day she called me and informed me about the baby, which she even snapped the baby and sent it to me on Whatsapp.

Before I forget, again on last Sunday of July midnight she came to my house, I asked her why did she come to my house with 7 months Pregnancy? She said her boyfriend make her angry and with annoyance she even told him he is not responsible for the Pregnancy, the guy is mad at her. When I was about to sleep, she started making move for sex, I stopped her several times but she refused keep trying until I fell for it, we latter had sex again.

Matured men and women in the house please advise me on what to do, because I'm planning to lay claim of the baby.

Sorry for so many typo,error in the write up.


mod please push this to front page.

You are not okay.

Yinkakolawole:
I met a newly lady in my working place. she is a fresh graduate from kogi state, she came to spend a little time her seniour sister here in my street, her sister live close to my working place. We became friends when she came to my working place to get some bread, I worked in a modern bakery. So i talked to her that i like her & i told her i want to marry her, and she say yes to me. she even told me that she just break up with her boyfriend, i see that as an opportunity then the relationship started, everyday i make her a special bread that costed me #1,500 everyday. Our relationship is over six month now. But i become suspicious when her ex started calling her over month now, and they do talk more than an hour. I comfronted her but she said he is just calling & that she can never date him again because he always beat her to pulp anytime there is a little misunderstanding between them. But she told me she cant stop picking his call everyday. Plz what should i do?

It's obvious your heart has not been broken before and it needs to.
This event will teach you a lesson you won't forget in a hurry. It will change your view about dating children and unserious people.

She will break your heart into pieces!

Souzin:
I haven't seen my girl for awhile because we both work and never had chance.

So yesterday, she invited me to come over to her house that she has missed me, so after work I decided to drop by at her place because she was off work that day.

I got to her house and I met her dressed, asked her what's up and she said she's going to a party with a guy.

I was confused, you asked me to come over and the next minute! You are going to a party with a man.

I didn't say anything and she left promising that she would only spend 2 hours there...

I wanted to go home but decided against it, I have always known her not to keep to her words and true to it, she didn't.

She came back 4 hours later, late into the night, again I didn't say anything.

All of a sudden she started jumping on me and trying to get close that she has missed me.

I told her to stay on her own and not disturb me.

My question is, how can you say you miss me and then go out with a man..

How can you miss me and yet instead of the 2 hrs! You stayed 4hr there and now you are here shouting you missed me.

Now she's telling me I'm over reacting and that she did nothing wrong. Even after the blatant disrespect.

You are not okay. Your girlfriend She's not.

Like I said, you are not okay. She kept you at home and went for a party with another man and you stayed put waiting for her? Were you that Hot? Are you that simplistic?

And you have the audacity to ask stupi.d questions!

Keep calling her your girlfriend. Nansense

SundayNightGist:
Honestly, I used to believe some things belonged to the red light district. Or is it just me? Seeing that I was raised a church boy with little to no experience chiking babes, I couldn’t imagine myself ever dating a girl that now makes me think twice. Like, am I now mad or what? How did I get here?

Since I met this my new girl, it’s just been as if the veil of "ignorance" is beginning to fall off my face; abi guy man don dey spoil go be that ni?

Or how else can I explain to this honorable forum that my current girlfriend, though a manager at her company, likes to wear waist-beads? I mean she even wears it to work!

Although I somehow like the sight of it on her waist, I just can’t get the idea of thinking she might be a corporate olosho out of my head. This thing is sowing seeds of mistrust in me and I really don’t know what to do again. And it’s not like I haven’t told her. Everytime I do she will just look at me with a side-eye, rub my head, and laugh briefly. Shey I never carry load wey no be my own like this? Abi na my mind? Make e no be say na person glory dey on the line so o. The thing dey fear me walahi.

Nairalanders please advise a brother urgently.

You are too immature and infantile to be in a relationship. Church boy my foot... you should be a Bible boy...

That girl should leave you, you don't deserve someone like her.

InTheCloudySky:
You can be serious with her without sex. Or since when is sex used to gauge seriousness in a relationship?

And she can't be serious with him without demanding for money and things?

Bola146:
Since her husband is having trust issues, the wife should listen to her husband now let her block him, her husband might use that to be chatting with his ex too

"Having trust issues"? How on earth do people like you think?

So, the husband is the person with issues?

The woman chatting up her ex with almost a suggestive tendency doesn't have issues?

indadi:
Let me cut the story short.....

My girlfriend called me yesterday night that she is pregnant for me. She said she can't keep it because she is not ready to be a mother..
The thing now is that I am very happy she doesn't want to keep it because it is really hard for a child to grow without a father. So how do I act like I am pained without making her change her mind and not paying for the abortion either.

No advice for beasts...

DanZenithh:
Good Afternoon Fellow Nlders. Please guys I NEED YOUR QUICK AND HONEST ADVICE.

I am married, I met my wife in my working place, implies that we're co worker, our marriage is 6 yrs old. We are in the same level. We're both xtian but to me she's more dedicated than I do in terms of punctuality in the presence of God, but my own duty always call for more time.

We love ourselves so much. A year into our relationship my wife started confiding in one Alhaja, a staff too, Anything that happens under my roof she must feed it to Alhaja and that one used to Advice her, of which has made her to change totally at home.

Because of love, Trust and affections between us, I believe we can do things together, I believe if I planted and she watered, all na still because of the bond and love.

As a result of the above, I started my building project and my wife knews about it, it comes to a level she decided to join me in terms of funding the project, I accepted, at least it is OUR HOUSE , mind you, any member of my family didn't know about the project or she joinning in the project. I just believe that after the completion of the project my family members Will surely call upon to see it.

As s results of the funding of this project, we suffers Scarcity of funds in other areas where we supposed to touch and both of us made to understand the reason behind it, after all is our own project we're financing, is just a matter of time, good!

This year February, when it is time to pay our rent, the money on me I just spend on the Site, but my wife has little change, I told her to use her money for whatever she want but she insisted that we should use it to pay rent of which I later agreed to and I added the remaining change to make the actual Cost.

Hmmm, recently, a fight broke out between us, a very tough one. Since I married her I never responded her to any of her siblings neither she reported me too. But this time her mum came around and behold my wife said hat she is the one that paid for house rent, it was a rude shock when I heard such, also, she said I am the one she's giving all her money to(Project), her Mum attacked me so much that I wept.

Before her Mum came, she went to one of my Brother and explained everything to him including the house projects that we've made Secret between Us, and my Brother invited me and said a lot of things to me which she might not be Happy with if she eventually heard it.

Though we've settled it But, My Brothers and Sisters, KINDLY GUVE ME YOUR ADVISE.


Sorry for the long post

It is shocking how adults will have issues and think they will get answers from random, faceless people on social media.

Keep asking sir

tunjilee003:
Most of my friends who are not schooling are into fraud, while chatting with them, they will always tell me i'm wasting my time and resources.... This always make me depressed.... I'm tired and don't know what to do....

You are depressed that what? That fraudulent people are abusing you for not going into fraud?

Will you be depressed if dead people abuse you for not being dead?

You are depressed because your heart is gravitating towards fraud, sooner or later, you will join them.

Why are fraudsters your friends?

chatinent:
The best to do is not curse at all. Don't curse your son.

Also learn to not repeat what will provoke your child next time so that ọ gaghị iti gi ihe tinker tiri pan.


Learn to be responsible too.

Meanwhile, I don't support hitting fathers.

Well, I am available for research writing services that will pass Turnitin.

"Meanwhile, I don't support hitting fathers"...

"Learn not to repeat what will provoke your child...."
Really

A child hitting his father is an abomination, no matter the provocation. The father doesn't have to curse him... He is already cursed.

Very cursed, by nature. Cursed by circumstances. Cursed. If he likes, let him be angry or provoked, the moment he hits his father or mother, he enters the arena of the cursed ones

Fahdiga:
Reno is a selfish man. If his wife didn't allow him into her life how would he have conceived the daughter

When you give birth to your own daughter, you can give every holigan and predator access to your her. That way, they will praise you for your selflessness.

Decolink:
Please I will try to be brief.
I started dating her in 2017,we dated for 3yrs and I traveled outside the country in 2020.
We didn't have any problems and I was serious about getting married to her.
When I was leaving she promised not to have another boyfriend and to wait for me(she is 24). I promised not to disappoint her.
It was going well for sometime until after one year,we had a quarel and separated.

About 3 months ago,we got back together,and she said she was still intact and waiting for me.
We started communicating regularly,but I noticed that each time were talking,she would be receiving calls frequently,after sometime,I confronted her with it,she lied that he was her customer. But I called the guy and found out he is a guy that was chiking her before.
She later admitted that she dated the guy when we had quarels. She also admitted to going to night clubs that period.

I still love her,but I'm pained because she cheated,lied about it and was reluctant about coming out of that relationship.
I'm also thinking of continuing the relationship because I have been outside for 2year now,it happened when we quarelled and she has agreed to stop it.
Nairalanders,do you think I should quit the relationship or go ahead with marriage plans.

Why would you call or confront a competitor? Why??
Never ever call a guy calling your girlfriend or asking her out...

There is a reason he is calling, your girlfriend allowed and permitted it

Pjoko:
To keep it short and simple!

I promise to get my girlfriend an iPhone 11 pro max because her phone was bad. Few weeks later I got myself an iPhone 11. She saw the phone and was like oh cool, then I told her I would buy her own any moment but I keep delaying it and teasing her just because I'm still thinking if this my girlfriend who had cheated on me truly worth this phone?!

This girl I'm talking about had cheated on me, I saw her WhatsApp chat telling a guy I love you, and all that. I confronted her and she said she was sorry, that a friend of her gave her number to the guy without telling her and she kept talking and met the guy once at the mall.
I told her I called the guy and he told me he knew the girl had a guy because of her body movement when she visits him. But my girl swear with her mother in the grave that he had never visited this guy at his house, that they only met once at the mall and after then he keeps sending her money while at school.

The truth is that I forgive her because she swear with her mother in the grave. That one really touched me that is why I believe her that she never visited the guy in his house which means they never had sex.

But I said to myself, this relationship will never lead to marriage for her to hangout with a guy while still dating me. I honestly lost the trust I had for this girl. Now I'm planning to breakup with her in a calm and coded way because I don't longer trust her. But because she currently has no phone, I said I will buy her the iPhone and then use distance issue to breakup gradually with her as I'm planning to go on a month trip soon.

But surprisingly, my girl was with me yesterday and I was teasing her that, since she has been using my iPhone 11 and even went home with it for a week, there was no need buying her the iPhone 11 pro max. And she replied:

No, it's the iPhone 11 pro max I want, but you keep delaying this, do you feel pained to buy the phone for me??

This her response didn't go down well with me, I keep wondering why she said if I feel pained to buy her the phone? I told her I'm not happy with such question, that it means if I buy her the phone she won't appreciate it because she would feel like I bought out of pain and she said no that she was sorry, I shouldn't take it that way.

She is 20yrs old.

Please advise me, I love her and care for her that is why I just decided I will get her the phone and break up with her, so it doesn't hurt her too much. But due to this I decided never to get her the phone again by giving her excuses until I travel.

This is nauseating. You will buy her an iPhone and leave her? Who will lose?

Does your mom use an iPhone? What of your sisters and brothers?

If you buy her the phone, you wouldn't need to leave her. She will definitely leave you for a man who doesn't reason through his downside.