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Mino1000:
Hi everyone, so I met this beautiful babe June this year and we started dating three months later. We genuinely loved each other and we had a relationship that people envied.

We trusted each other so much that I had access to her google account and all her personal info on my laptop, while she also had mine on her phone to cut the long story short, I have a problem of always getting worried whenever she is not home and I can't reach her for example if she leaves in a bolt and the journey is 30minutes but she is not reachable one hour later I start to worry and call people I feel are at home and even the bolt rider.

On this particular day, she had a meeting with her colleagues which just came into the country, she shared her live location but it was last updated an hour ago, she was not picking her calls and it was 11:45pm mind you she was in Ikeja and lives at lekki so she was still going to Lekki that night in this dangerous December month in Lagos. I called and called but she did not pick then I got so worried and went to her google contacts to get her boss number and called him. He told her I called and that is how trouble started.

She explained that nobody has his number and she is the middle man between him and clients so his number getting into my hands without her permission means his company info is not safe. She said I have destroyed all what she labored to build over the years and blocked me everywhere (phone, whatsapp, snapchat) and left me with only instagram access. I have been begging her since last night when this happened, but she only unblocked me to tell me not to call her again and blocked me back.

I have been trying to explain to her that relationship and marriage is full of challenges so she should not let this one destroy what we had but she has been ignoring me. If I call with a different number she hangs up immediately she hears my voice.

We were already talking about marriage and in fact, I had already started making arrangements for a proposal next year.

I swear I really love this lady with everything that I have and I know for a fact that she loved me too but right now I am confused I am wondering how she was so much in love with me yesterday morning but doesn’t even want to hear my voice today. She went as far as threatening to get me arrested if I come close to her house. I am really confused and need mature advice on what to do to save this relationship because right now I can’t focus on anything. Plus I trust her so I wasn’t calling because I thought she was doing something silly.

What on earth is happening to this generation of men... this consistent actions of stupid.ity is becoming worrisome.

Why were you calling her like that? You even called her boss??

You have a strong sense of insecurity and inferiority complex.

You don't need a relationship, you need help.

She blocked you and you are begging her? That is why she will deal with you patapata.

Here is what you should do (though I know that you won't).

Send her a message telling her that "

you have discovered she doesn't deserve your kind of love... that even though you made a mistake calling her boss, it is because you cared... but you have found out that she has been planning to end things since... so she should go ahead. You won't ever disturb her again. Take care and bye."

Then, lock up. Don't call her, don't view her status. Pretend like she doesn't exist... if she truly cared for you, she will reach out. If not, forget about her.

RenerdLiam:
I just feel like writing this for the sake of writing. Not here to bash women. Thanks if you come here with an open mind.

So, there is this girl I got. While she has a very good character and is very obedient to me, she had a bad habit of forgetting people. Like, she won't call or ask after you unless you do so. This is something that had always caused a fights between her and her family members before I met her.

Take note that she is 21, and has a very free spirit. Very free spirit that she is very hostile to any guy that woos her until she met me. We both change each other cause I was equally very hostile to anything female having suffered a great deal at the hand of my guardians, which are all female.

We were both impatient but learned to be patient with each other. In fact, If she is sick, I fall sick, and vice versa.

So, this morning, I decided to send some recharge cards to her (she doesn't demand anything from me, I just do so whenever I feel like it, as she always got my back also). But surprisingly, she didn't call to thank me (I don't mind). But what got me mad was that she also came online to post a WhatsApp status wishing her friend an happy birthday, while I left a message for her that she is supposed to reply to, but ignored it.

And her excuse for not replying to my message was that she always has hundreds of messages from strange numbers, and she doesn't always go through her messages.

That implies that she treated me like those strange numbers, which upset me. I will have to drag it on if not I understand that she is very absent when it comes to dealing with people, even if she can't afford to lose you, she will still lose guard.

I decided to be hard on her this morning (we’ve gone through the stage of speaking harshly against each other, and we have matured past that). But I was really mad this morning and reprimand her in anger.

Now, she is very emotional, while I am extremely logical. These differences often cause disagreement when we first met, but since it seems we are bound by some unexplainable force, we learn to correlate by never talking to each other in anger. And we haven't quarreled then.

If I’m angry, she can never understand my POV since she views things from an emotional perspective. While I can never understand her illogical arguments myself. So, communicating with each other with a soft tone helps to bridge that, but that also means we can't discuss what we are both deeply interested in.

So, she got offended that I’m angry with her. But unlike before, she really played on my emotion today instead of replying in anger.

First, she replied, trying to add some playfulness to her tone that she didn't actually see the message that she has been credited, that's why she didn't call. And about what I wrote, she said that I should read it again, that it doesn't make sense. lol. (my anger doesn't my sense).

So, I replied that what she mean now is that I cannot correct her.

She replied saying. “No now, but that is not how to correct someone, it's not good”.

I ignore her for a while. Then I said, “Ok, sorry, I don't mean to be harsh, but that attitude of yours is not good, and I’ve been telling you to change it all this while. I want you to forget my message and tell me why you haven’t changed ”.

This girl didn't still read between the line. She was only excited that I am begging her, so she replied, thinking I really meant to beg her that she won’t accept my apology (it’s how we makeup, she want me to call her sweet names before she finally said “I’ve forgiven you”)

But I am still angry, so I insist that I am not begging her, she needs to change first, and I’m only asking that we discuss how she will go about changing that attitude of hers.

She didn’t say anything afterward.

But me that I have been breathing fire that I will never be cool with her till I notice changes, na so my heart began to soften up small small. Why so? Because she didn’t fight back.

Again, I know it’s because she was over pampered being the only girl, that’s why she isn’t pro-active. Na so I just message her again that I’m sorry, let’s just forget about it. She didn’t bother to drag it this time, and I instantly earn my forgiveness.

The truth is, she knows that I can’t continue fighting if she didn’t fight back. So, she learned my weakness, and I think she will always use it against me. I even love it that she has caution herself in that aspect. (Believe me, we where cat and mouse).

Although, I won’t stop pestering her until she drop that habit of hers. But I won’t force her either, I will just try to find another method.

What amuses me is that, I was the angry one, and she is supposed to apologize, but I ended up feeling bad about the whole thing and apologized to her instead.

Look at overgrown papa that a small girl is using his head to drink garri is here misyarning.

Oga, abeg keep quiet. That girl will finish you patapata.

If she falls sick, I fall sick!! Look at this one.


There is nobody on earth that forgets people they care about, you are simply not her priority. She has another person that is her priority and you will soon find out!

Look at the type of childish and irritating story you are telling.

You need to grow up

NBAjunior:
Most girls I have had sex don’t mourn at all I’m 5.8 inches in length is there anything I can do about it? This is really making me depressed!

Trust me, they are mourning but not moaning

Godoverevery:
Good afternoon everyone ........

I posted a thread in may about my fiancée I helped with 100k to start a business and she couldn't produce the capital saying she lend her dad... just want give an update of things

I took majority of the people advise here and celebrate her birthday ....got her cake,wrist watch and celebrated it with my friends and hers at a lounge(paid all the bills).

So the following week I gave in to her pleading and sent her another 50k(she hasn't produce the previous 100k capital but still promised to produce it with time) to get new set of slippers to sell .....and the agreement was she will be sending the money to one of my accounts as she is selling and the capital will be there to reinvest.

This new week I asked why I haven't seen any money in the account.....she said she have sold but she wants some people to balance her to complete 20k and by Friday she will make d deposit.

On Friday I didn't see anything....asked her why didn't she send the money (dat was after bank closing hour)....she was like she wasn't feeling too well dat she told her friend to do the transfer but is not going and she has given her the cash ...... around past 9pm dat Friday she called me if I have seen the alert I said no......the next day she said the transfer wasn't going dat her friend tried it but it was failing so I felt pissed and told her straight she was lying (arguement broke out).

So I told her if she was telling the truth and have the cash with her I will come pick d cash myself today but to my surprise she has blocked me on whatapp and bar my number D's noon.

My friends here want us to go over to her place ..... cause a scene and get her arrested but I don't want to embarrass her parents or embarrass myself.
They are all on my neck rite now like dey ginger badly

...... honestly I don't no what to do.
Just want to know if the right thing is getting her arrested or just let go and move on.

Give another money, 150k to make it a round number 300k.

You clearly don't know what to do with money!

Decent09:
And Anambra is belong to Ipobs abi, cos even Obi will not stay there, una go crucify am.

Anambra belongs to all Nigerians

georgeakins:
Yorubas don't discriminate among themselves, unlike the Ibos.
Lagos belongs to all Yorubas.

Face your backward region.
Have you seen anyone residing in Ibo land except the Ibos?
Only Ibos live in Iboland land.

Your problem is primitivity. Lagos belongs to all Nigerians, all parts of Nigeria belongs to all Nigerians.

Golan007:
Go back to Anambra State since it is so prosperous.

I can see that the prosperous Lagos has made you rich

Orobokibo1:
look at this uncircumcised landgrabbing monkey
i was one of the people that clicked like on DenreleDave post. what are you going to do?

I don't engage people like you. I don't

DenreleDave:
NO AND NEVER...


I married in Peter obi clans and it has been hell.. Anambra people keep cursing the family because Peter obi ruined their lives and ran to lagos.. Any small argument btw I and my wife, she threatens me with Peter obi Ip0bs

He squandered the state money into beer factory and most responsible men in the state are now drunkards...

I am so ashamed dt same man is the chief patron of Ip0b terr orist and it feels so bad to marry from a man called Peter obi.......

So Op, I will never marry into this failure of a man called Peter obi family again

You have been looking for attention, now you have it.

You are obviously someone who has not travelled anywhere in your life, you are trapped within the confines of your place of nativity, your interaction is most likely very limited and your few friends, if any, are small minded people like you.

You are not married and has never been. You are an attention seeker, obviously unintelligent and relegated in society.

The fact you turned this post into a tribal slant shows how unfortunate you are and also the few people like your sorry self that liked or shared your post.

There! You are the attention you seek.

RockHard:
Truly, the enthusiasm seems to have waned drastically compared to some few months ago. I also think lack of funds is starting to tell on the Obi campaign.

If this is not an outright political jingoism, then it means you are not informed. What should the youths be doing? Holding rally everyday? Or because you think it has waned, that means those youths will vote for Atiku or Tinubu?

Work, serious grassroot work is ongoing in the North as we speak for Peter Obi.

Lack of funds? Were the rallies that held funded by Peter Obi? Is the rally Peter Obi's campaign?

Learn to analyse issues intelligently sir

moniupdate:
I usually buy gas of 3k from a shop across my house and it hardly lasts more than 8 days on normal usage. But 13days ago my gas finished and I wanted to refill it but the lady wasn't around so I went further down the street to a different seller and bought 3k gas and it has lasted for over a week.

I don't know if this is placebo effect or whether there is fake gas or chinko gas .

Explain please

Robenna:
Hello guys, this is a Nairalander
I know this family can help me with solutions
Abeg no much insult
In the recent 1 year, I met a woman from our church, i was just liking her but all of a sudden i started coming close to her. Shes married, I am close to her children, theyre little tho and her third child of about 5 years is my jokingly best friend.
I know her husband, i do come to her house steady, not far from mine
Her husband is cool and dosent cause muvh problems. The thing is that, now and earlier I took her as my Second Mother aka "Momma"..But in the recent weeks and months, i think this has exceeded a mother to vhild stuff. Although i term her my mother, buh i now feel deeply in love with her.
The affection is much; I Love her so much
Please dont see this funny, Im soon gonna be 18 and she may be around her late or early 30's...I know she loves me too, Ive always seen her jealous of my personal life, like someone who cares a lot. Guys im too close to this woman, same with her.. Not sure how much she loves and cares for me, but guys i need your advice to me.
I havent gone so romantic with her, apart from trying to kiss her at one time, which i later didnt do
Let me know your mind about this feeling

Pleas Admins I need this to be on the frontpage for better suggestions please

Quick question...

Are you mad?

omaira:
Well, I feel very happy to have my own fair share of this day to day breakfast that’s served on relationship. But in this case, I wasn’t dumbed rather, I tried to make peace with her while I stopped loving her.

It all started 2 years ago when I met this girl, she was everything I had always admired in a woman, I talked to her and we started up as friends and after a period of about 4 months we started dating. Meanwhile she had a guy in her life oooooo but I didn’t even care as I just wanted to be in her life.

Initially, I had thought she was from a very wealthy home considering her beauty and looks, she always dress nice but when I started dating her, I automatically became the bread winner in the family. She was dead broke but I never mind, my likeness for her didn’t change a bit... I mean, I still liked her even more.

After 5 months of being in a relationship with her, she had an issue with her boyfriend and they broke up. The first lie she told me was that the boyfriend found out about me and this caused their break up. I hardly believe mere words so I didn’t believe her, I only noted those words she said with hopes of finding out the truth someday.

Now!! I ought to become the only man in her life right ?? oya come and see gobe!

After a while, she moved in with me and this was when I started to understand what the noun called “woman”. Relationship ought to be pure and sacred, but that’s not what it is now ooooo as the first red flag I saw in her where lies, Jesus!!! The girl tells lie at every glimpse, I started to trend with care.

One day I realized she was arranged for hookup, I swear, my head big that day... my girl friend that lives with me in my house wants to go have sex with a guy she has never seen nor does she know. Well, as a man who is eager to know, I confronted her but didn’t break up with her as I was curious to know what relationship really means.

Confronting her made me feel she’ll have a repentant mind set but guess what? The story just got more interesting. 3 months later she cheated on me, and yet again I caught her. She apologized and I forgave her almost immediately, I didn’t even show any sign of anger at all. As I felt she would this time have a repentant heart.

My dear nairalanders this girl has been cheating on me up and down, that I can’t even mention, I keep catching her and she keeps apologizing.

Please Note: I am financially doing very well as I am able to provide for all her needs, there is something I always brag about that there is nothing she ever asked from me that I didn’t provide.

Believe it or not, our sex life is perfect as I have seen a chat she had with a friend where she confessed nobody has ever had pleased her in bed like I do, I can stay in bed one hour and I’m a very romantic man.

She has never caught me cheating as I have always been faithful to her.

I’m saying all these to make the readers understand that the relationship actually lacks nothing. But still this girl finds it hard to close her legs.

Well, [b]the last time I caught her having an affair with a married man, we quarreled and settled [/b]but believe me, the love is dead and buried.

So if you’re out there and you find a woman that’s manageable please adore her and make her feel special, the specie of a virtuous woman is going into extinction gradually but we’re yet to notice.

Just feel like sharing my own experience and I’m curious to see the comments that will follow.

You actually have a deep sense of inferiority complex.
That lady has used reverse psychology to damage your sense of reasoning.

A serial cheat that you ought to dump and move on with your life... no, you are quarreling and settling.

Oga, you are not in a position to advice anybody. Go and take care of your wounded mind

Ebenman:
I meant a lady 3 months ago. After we talked, she began to show interest in me, but she wasn't my standard, so I wasn't feeling the same way.

My standards are:
1. At least she must be a graduate
2. She should be self-sufficient (earning something reasonable)
3. At most 5-6 age difference between us
4. Looking calm and understandable
5. She must be an average-height lady

This lady, in particular, is an NCE holder, working as a teacher, earning little because of her level of education. She is just in her early 20s, and I am almost 8 yrs older than her. She is from a poor background and has 2 other younger siblings. She is also not tall and looks like an average girl.

She is very decent (a virgin) and loyal to me. I have told her severally that she is not my standard and I wasn't interested in her, but she refused to listen and began to feel very insecure. Maybe because I earn well and she knows I will soon get married.

She now comes to my house almost every weekend because I am very accommodating. Recently she has been telling me to delete the pictures of other females friends, in which I asked her on what grounds I should do that.

Note: I don't want to invest in a lady that is not my wife, and I am afraid her family will see me as a rich guy from which her other siblings can benefit if I proceed with her.

Should I block every contact with her, or should I forget about standards and risk and look at the good side?

Please advice

Your standards are also too high for nairaland... I think you should seek advice from Dangote or Bill Gates.

MaryAye:
After taking the advice of meaningful nairlanders on this https://www.nairaland.com/7341050/he-wants-date-he-doesnt.

This is the aftermath.

I arranged for a meet-up with him to discuss my supposed assumptions. He told me, "he doesn't hate my child, but he feels my son was gargling like a mewling child."

I asked him to elucidate. Which he did and I politely told him that if he gargled, it was because he's still four. I think he should give my son time and establish a friendly relationship with him.

It was like my pep talks rattled him and he immediately slapped me that I have insulted him and trapped his pride. I was like, what!!!

This was a harmless discussion. Why did you slap me? He started apologising. He said he didn't know what came over him.

I told him to leave my shop. I told him I will call him when I'm less angry.
To me, I wanted to pipe low and take his word for it. He asked for some money to take bolt home because he didn't come out with cash. I went into the shop and gave him.

After that day I didn't call him or wanted to have anything to do with him. To my greatest surprise yesterday, he came to my shop and started assaulting me so that I can't leave. I was like, I never wanted to date you before. I was just considering your proposal.

That little tussle was what led to him scattering the fruits I bought. My neighbours came to our shop and before I knew it, he has raze all my goods.

My neighbours called the market chairman and they bungled him to the police station.

What is wrong with men this day? I didn't collect anything from him. Thank God I took the advice of nairalanders. You guys helped me to identify this before going into it.

Thank you, all.

Are you serious?

You decided to have something with a crazy person and you are blaming men?

Aunty, Channel your blame properly

Agozskey:
I met this girl 5months ago... We are currently dating, buh the problem is dat we argue alot, really, my friends don't like her too because they claim they know her more than I do, she even admitted that one of my friends have sucked her breast before we started dating, she has an ugly past... She told me her first boyfriend raped her and got her pregnant buh she terminated the pregnancy, her current ex came into the picture and she keeps telling me dat her ex accepted her like dat and so she offered her body to her ex just 4 months of relationship... Well I met her and fell in love with her and we started dating, buh I found out that she chats her ex, there was a time she even posted him on her WhatsApp status... She loves his posts and still her ex tags her... We quarrelled about dat, we played a game about who is more between us and our exes... She said
*Her ex kisses better*
*Her ex spends more on her*
*Her ex is more serious minded*
It got me upset like WTF... She apologized, I waved it sha
She makes time to see me sha, I won't lie buh these past few days, if we are chatting she will tell me she's tired she wants to sleep, around 8pm buh her last seen will be 10pm... I quarrelled her about it
Just yesterday we didn't speak to each other through out, I called her buh she was saying I did her bad... I got angry with it... She now told me I'm childish and immature, and I'm making tinz difficult for the relationship, and I'm boring �... And I told her dat I need space abeg, so guys I need ur say on this... And pls I'm not a simp... B4 una go dey form grab grab 4 me.... Thank you

And please, I'm not a simple?

The moment you said 'I fell in love with her', I knew you were finished.

Sorry oooo

JackDaAlienz:
Omo we busted village yesterday, we are in my grandmas place.
After lunch, i was shocked when my grandma told my dad to go outside and buy recharge card for her.
See man wey dey form hard man for house
Dem dey send to go buy recharge card

I couldn't help but hold my laughter when my dad went out to buy recharge card

E really shock me, my dad is a Big man ohh
As well respected thats why im wondering why his mother (my grandma) still send him on errands

There are things you should never discuss outside

Goodmarlian:

I am almost 30 but but yet to stand financially as a man despite being hardworking and ambitious,i have being on the streets hustling since 18 no parents or siblings to help ,I don't want to blame the Government or economy but I hope Gods grace finds me someday ,my agemate cousin who where both born in the same year and month is getting married soon meaning he is now capable of feeding more than two mouths while I am still hustling for daily bread,to make matters worse he didn't even call me to invite me i heard from my sister meaning I am no longer important to him ,I know it because I no get money if not him for don call me.
I discussed this with my friend yesterday and he told me assuming I have started Yahoo as he advised me years back I for don hammer by now but I don't want to do yahoo because of my active conscience.
I have being depressed for days now,my girlfriend came around yesterday and she brought about the marriage issue like she knows what I am thinking again.

When your mates died, did you also get sad that you did not join them to the grave

gameova:
Imagine Nigeria without Christianity Or Knowledge Of Anybody Called Jesus still practicing Our traditional Religion without any Colonial Interference. Will we all (now Christians) have gone to hell when we died?

Did colonial masters introduce Christianity?
Did they also introduce Islam?

Anobella:
There is this lady I came across at my place if work one thing led to the other we started dating. Right now I am in a relationship with her and she loves me so much.. she is an hustler ..

I was having a conversation with a friend then I told him my girlfriend is from Benue we Yorubas usually generalize ppl from the south as Igbos ..

My friend was like u wan marry igbo girl I pitty I asked why and he made me understand how complex and demanding their culture is..

I have heard several stories of Igbos poising themselves all because if riches . Brothers running after brothers property leaving the wives to suffer.. they did the same thing to her late dad .

I know a lady who told me that if she cheats the husband will die she is from Anambra. I was like wetin consin ur husband..
M not planning to cheat I also hate it
How they make u pay the mum's bride price before getting married to the daughter and all that ..

She is a virgin and this is one of the main reasons I haven't gone intimate with her despite the fact that she wants me to..

My mum said she has no problem with her but she is only scared if their culture to..




Now m confused and I don't know what to do ..

I hate anything that gives me problem do u guys think I should continue the relationship or stop ..

Pls mature comments no insults please

How do you expect mature comments when you posted this trash?

Are you sure you and your friend went to school at all?

You had the guts to post the tribally tainted vituperation online?

Juliusmartin01:
Thanks very much bro.. thanks for the advice.,God bless you.,I really appreciate.,I’ve tried so much for this so-called girl.,is it about cloth or wigs all this material things.,I can’t just bear it anymore.,I just have to let go.,thanks soo much!

You know you just told a lie. You are not letting go. In fact, you can't let go... you will still chat her up, and call her... you will keep on trying until you hear there is another guy in the picture... until she has finished you completely, then your eyes will open, you will start saying that women are wicked.

You have a deep case of inferiority complex.

Better leave that nonsense you call relationship

KanwuliaExtra:
Please! Her right to freedom of expression.
Move on!

People's right of freedom of criticism. They also have the right to criticize her and call her out.

Mathematricks:
Pls I really need your help guys.

Just this morning, I was given 1.5k as tfare to go look for work and after all said and done, I was left with only 600. Cos I really went to a lot of places.

But the onus of the matter is that I just bought 2 #50 biscuits (#100) some minutes ago. And I'm now left with only #500 for tomorrow.

I'm afraid I will finish the 5h on biscuits this night. I don't know what to do.

nlfpmod mynd44

You are not addicted.

You are indisciplined and uncultured.

Karen2024:
My boyfriend ditched me for another lady few days ago. Now he discovered she's a chronic cheat and he came begging me to forgive and accept him back.


Should I accept him back? I still love him.

August 16.... my boyfriend betrothed me.

August 31... why I love alpha males

August 31... my boyfriend dumped me.

September 3... should I accept him back after dumping me for another girl.



What is your ambition in life?

Okealaaye:
The man must be a Biafran IPOBian of Afghaneastern beyond the Great River. Anyone can see here that he's as restless as the floating dry leaf on the Imo River. That's "dem regular trademark" They change party like the heathens they are. No commitment to loyal values anytime. Imagine their so-called Reformer now claiming excellency more than the politician to whom he was a running mate just three years ago. And with whom he shared the same political party until two months ago or so. He abandoned the party of his fathers and joined in the ranks of the very people that taught them a lesson in asymmetric warfare. For three years they threw Nigeria into turmoil, the same Nigeria they now claim to love more than the rest of us who defended the Federal Republic with our sweat and exertion for the three years their Provocation lasted.

Behold the writeup of a cheat

Hollybratt:
same with me, but i see alot of ladies on this forum, who insult and make fun of gays. Being gays isn't a sin, everyone has what his/her body is attracted to. They shouldn't be blame.
IRMC

'Being gay isn't a sin...'?

To some of us, it is a sin, It is unnatural and despicable. Nevertheless, that shouldn't be a reason to insult or abuse.

Rozross:
Solely plan on the 100k first before thinking of what the other person brings to the table. Any man with such “bring to the table” mindset does not go far in life, let’s be realistic for once.

Does not go far in life"

You are the harbinger of life... the protector of humanity... the seer of tomorrow, the director of men's lives...

Ogbeni, how much will she bring to the table? Answer question and stop sentimental conjectures without statistical proof

Naijanascam:
And yours are being delayed for the wider audience..... when you hear do not judge know it very well that the Sayer is an accomplice

Let's watch and see.
Memorize my name and profile, you will need it soon

Naijanascam:
We all can't be milked together.....I know you are somewhere milking your own subjects.... continue for the days of reckoning are fast approaching and remember that the judgement will start from the church

Your own judgement has started already.

Soon you will know there are sacred things and things too high for you.

Your judgement has started