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coolzeal: Don't pay attention to the post on this trend my dear, they don't really know how well off and organized Kenya and other African countries are, because they're so blinded and act in ignorance. They're angry with Goldie because she fell in love with Prezzo who happened to come from Kenya and more also, they think Kenya is what the western media has fed us with. Kenyans are nice people and very friendly and we are all Africans. So Prezzo does not represent the entire population of Kenyans and same can be said to those who has posted with anger on this forum. Nigerians are nice people and we all rep Africa. Truly stereotypes and prejudice sucks..

sawasawa.

I represent Africa everywhere I go.It just saddens me to see us talk ill of each other yet poverty and corruption trails us everywhere.
The more Africans hate each other,the more they refuse to trade with each other and the more poor we became because we go west who don't give a damn.
I like open minds cz such bring progress to a country.

may the best man/lady win

justdream: tanx very much for your advice. for the records am not a pervert, just that we have been very close family friends for long. i got attraceted to her, thats all.

This is why I said there is a thin line between care and love.

Please for the sake of u both, channel ur energy elsewhere and avoid her.It's natural to fall in love cz men are visual.
But don't let ur feelings numb ur sense of reasoning.
Marriage is not about 'feelings'.Feelings don't sustain a marriage.Marriage is responsibility and hardwork, something that needs to be cultivated in that girl's heart and mind. Right now she's riding on puppy love not matured love.

She also has got her life ahead of her,education,social life please don't cut it short cz chances are that this wont last.
Find another lady and avoid her after uv told her and asked for forgiveness cz Honestly, you are mentally old for her.
Forget about her body and how matured she looks.Her mind is what is needed to run and sustain a marriage.

If teenagers are grabbed by men ur age,what would be left for teenage boys?

where is that resident nairaland somali?

Idowuogbo: Pendomania y bother? He is obviously a psychopath. D angry emoticon used at d end speaks volume.He shud b locked up in a black room wiv treatments.

oh I didnt see it.He really really wants to marry a teen but he is fighting his conscience that's why he is asking the forum.
well at the end of the day, at least he was advised.
The 16 year old girl will be posting here in 10 years to come, complaining about how she left her old husband for her agemates because he was more a father than partner.
Or better still, she will be searching in the dating section as a sugar mummy since she will be having 7 kids but a very wild mind and body.

justdream: AM GAINFULLY EMPLOYED AND THINKING OF SETTLING DOWN.

Chance? can't rule it out but maybe small. See the bolded? That is where the trouble will brew from.

At 30 you are employed and thinking of marriage.
What do u think a 16 yr(is it even legal)is thinking of right now or in the next 10 years? when ul be 40 and she 26?
You know,there is a very thin line between love and care.
She is still in her teenage, can't even classify her as a young adult yet.Give her time and space to go through the very crucial young adult phase or else ur gonna have a wife that wants to go clubbing/partying daily with friends.And it will be wrong to restrain her.
You don't rush ahead of time but live each stage of life accordingly. Now that uv lived through ur stage,Don't choke hers.

I read intestines!!
bt true.

Idowuogbo: Jesus christ ur love and ur personal saviour!

I likey!

u rember ur son's (k) thread on 'dying for the one u love?' and how he faced bullets from nl men?
we got many killz u know.

he died for me.

GreenJ: @OPS: To me i really believe some people are compatible for different reasons, that is why some pastors
will tell you see the face of God before venturing into a marriage. The fact is that some people are
living under generational courses [color=#990000][/color]and will never know and some get them self into things that will keep
hunting them until they are being deliver.

What are these 'GENERATIONAL COURSES'? Where are they taught?

-wife's star
-generational courses.

wonder what the next poster will come up with!

I know u meant curses .But if you believe in God u should understand that when he said 'It is done,' He meant everything.Curses inluded.
I know the different theories because curses exist, but you must also know that one cannot curse God's annointed or what God has blessed.
Read Balak and Balam story. You can however open doors to curses by playing around with witchcraft.

Remii: .

Are you kidding. Weeping Goldie is worse than Dana crash or Subsidy scam or Bh? . FYI, I was in Tanzania weeks ago, nobody asked me of Goldie but Nollywood actors, Dangote, BH and our footballers.

NOW THAT IS HOW AN OPEN AND PROGRESSIVE MIND REASONS.CONGRATS BRO.
Nobody talks about goldie in Kenya either. The only news we get are of bombings and oil stuff.

panams: Goldie why are u still talking this way? Being over emotional in a game? I'm speechless. Know that love itself is a game. How can u say u were Goldie in Susan @ d house? Do u hv several bodies? How could u allow Kenyan, Prezzo to deceive u? He's still married, so stop believing he's left his wife. Remember also that majority of Kenyans are HIV positive, so stay clear from Prezzo to avoided any eventuality. Kindly repackage urself,n control ur hyper emotions.

I repeat again this is what IGNORANCE does. Seriously I can't believe people are this ignorant.It shocks me.

Tell me Panams.How does it feel like to hear people label all nigerians as scammers and drug lords?
How does it feel like to be denied visa on that basis? Hurts doesn't it??
Am telling you that is what what is out there to the world. But I have nigerian friends who don't shoot drugs or scam people.
Your mentality needs a serious upgrade because I know a different Africa and most of these countries u look down upon are something else development wise not BBA wise.

Embark on a 'tour de Africa' and carry camera and notebook. Then share with us what u saw.

And for the close minded.Please allow the poor girl to breathe.
You have called her ugly, foolish and all that because u assume she represents the average nigerian girl.Well I don't think so.
BBA is not a CULTURE show.It's more westernised than African.None of those housemates represent Africa AT ALL!
Those kids using 'f****ck language,fighting,cursing,naked, don't repre.African culture. So I wonder what goldie was supposed to do diff.
Some of us tearing apart her would have been evicted on day 1.

BBA is not even a parameter to gauge the supremacy/development of a country!!jeez. This is why most of us are assuming that all kenyans are like prezzo and that all nigerians are dumb like goldie.That kind of ignorance is inexcusable and deserves no mercy.
BBA is also not a Beauty show!!Goldie/Prezzo can never win a beauty show, so spare them the insults. Am sure they are aware of that.
BBA is a MIND GAME. The best mind wins.
Cease fire and let her just enjoy her life. Does she sing? Buy her music and promote nigeria.

If any other african country wins so what? it's just a show that won't increase jobs in any country.

it's COMPATIBILITY not COMPACT.

bestprize247: I need your opinion on how to consel a friend. My friend has been married for 6 years, all that years he has not known peace & promotion. He was told by a pastor that his wife's star is stronger than his and has over shadow his star. Conseqently, he cannot progress except he submits to the wife. Sexually, my friend is misrable. His wife has never kissed him for 6 years and when they make love, its like paying a prostitute. His wife conplains of work and tiredness as a reason. Recently, my friend found female friend, she told him emphatically that in as much as they are friends, things will surely start going well for him. Ever since they met 2 months ago, my friend has experience progress
and peace for real. Infact, the new friend kissed my friend passionately. My fiend is confused and I needs my advice wether to continue with this new friend through whom he is progressing and feeling like a man or call it over? What will you advice?

1. What do u mean by 'wife's star?

There is something about your backgrounds affecting your beliefs and progress.The mentality is not good enough to help u decide how to handle this.
Everything started on wrong beliefs.
Unless u both come out of that cocoon it's not easy because what is needed here knowledge.

its not a nigerian thing either.

slimyem: ladies feel more confident and relevant if they get to meet thier partners family.
In my opinion,its a step that should only be taken when both partners are willing and have agreed to seal the deal...not before.
It complicates issues especially if they have to part ways sometime down the line.
It creates a false sense of belonging esp.for the lady.some families don't care how many partners their peeps bring home..every girl/boy would always be welcome!
It makes one prone to a lot of unnecessary assessments and judgements...and subjects one to almost unavoidable obligations.
.
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If you are in a relationship,stay away from each others families..do your things...have fun ...enjoy the relationship while it lasts and if for any reason you have to part ways,it'll be less complicated.
No unnecessary explanations...
No unnecessary judgements..or unnecessary poke-nosing or trying to settle or unsettle whatever is/is not there!
Keep it simple..just you and me!

I like that.

I think am blind. Some time back I would have said handsome.
I have seen and met very physically attractive guys but it all ends the moment they open their mouths to speak.
Made me 'almost' conclude that majority of handsome guys are empty heads,speak hot air,since they harbour the thought that they are 'irresistable'.
The ones we don't get physically attracted to instantly tend to be more interesting,therefore,I listen first to what and how they say it>Communication tops.
The rest will be based on that.
And vice versa. I am more inclined towards what comes out a person than what is on them and I prefer one does that to me as well.
Blind? yes I am.

I can never utter such words since I know no condition is permanent except God alone.
i love you is enough for me.

consequences.
either way he suffers.Find another job then and walk with ur head up high.

u guys are still here? lol!

onatisi: i no know my broda,wettin vex me pass be say kenya man i repeat kenya man !chineke .make she waka go kenya go marry that swahili monkey called prezzo

Do you call yourself African?
I think u shame ur fellow country mates by referring to another African as Monkey.Why should a nigerian call a kenyan monkey?
Aren't we all black? Travel and discover Africa for urself please and you will be shocked.
This is why I keep saying Africans are pretty ignorant of each other and will always remain slaves and poor cz we hate and tear each other.
Exactly what inferiority complex does to Africans.Very sad.
And you blame whites for manipulating us?
West knows lil about East,East knows lil about west,North cares less about South but we criticise very fast.

BBA is a such a pathetic show and doesn't represent the true Africa culture imo.
You need to relax because the nigeria/kenya I hate today may be my refuge tomorrow. And the African you call monkey may receive u better than ur fellow neighbour.

Idowuogbo: Pendomania u are surely using d African swagga to reason today... Well said Mama!

@ african swagga.anything that works without compromising ur morals,Use it.
Honestly my employer is a multinational and I can't even count the no. of HR's we have.
One needs approval from more than one person to qualify for a position and most of it is done abroad not local.
Whatever the case.Its a Job vs Morality issue here.
It requires wisdom to handle such.

Man up! and stop being played.It's not macho.
You know it,tell her straight and move on. Stop wasting ur energy.

luke4top: Hi house, please am losing my mind, i need advice. I am a man of 32yrs a graduate with a 2:1. I have been in a relationship with a lady for more than 3yrs and we are suppose to be talking about marriage. The problem is dat i dont have a job and am still living with my family. Recently i met a lady in my church and we are friends, i told her am looking for a job and she asked me to give her my CV, which i did. Later i got a mail from a multinational company asking me to write an online test, which i wrote and passed, i was called for face to face interview, i went. I was suprised to find out that she was the HR. She told me dat i did well at the test and will be offered a letter of appointment but one the condition dat i will have to marry her dat she really admire me and my intelligence. The issue is dat i need the job desperately cos am not happy with my state, also i can not just forgo my relationship of 3yrs though my GF has been complaining dat i dont take care of her and i love her. What can you advice me, take the job and date the Hr or forget the job and stay with my GF!

Which multinational is this acting so local? Nway let's assume it's real.

Be open and tell ur girl so that she's aware of ur moves.If she's cool headed she will not throw tantrums.
Then go ahead take up the job.You are not marrying her before u start working! are you?
Shine and network very very fast with key people in the multinational. Just make ur presence felt.
In the meantime do not fall into her trap.You will need wisdom to handle her like fake illness,ur on medication etc each time she tries to corner u alone.
It's called maximising the moment by taking advantage of the position, even if it lasts a day. Focus on networking,excellence and exposure nt her.
After uv made ur mark and won few crucial key minds up in the organisation ,drop the bombshell.
Try lines like, your people are trouble some,u have gangster brother,a sis with 4 kids out of wedlock that u need to support and an Aunt who is a witch.
You couldn't share with her because you love her too much to break her heart, but if she doesn't mind a crazy family then she can have you.
Rem to tell her that u are not in good terms with ur gangster bro and he promised to revenge by destroying ur future family. You reported to the cops.

Let's see if she will be ready to marry or fire you.If she does,you have ur built up network to fall back to.

I am nt so sure though. But I would do the same if a man tried that on me.

sometimes I want to comment on a thread but on reading through replies,I get lost. I dont know what to post anymore.
It dries me up.

noiseless: Asante Prezzo, karibu jaribu! On a seriouse note, which one of those in the pictures is goldie and which one is prezzo? because the person with no hair appears to have boobs,lol!

lemmie translate that 4 u.
[b]Thank u prezzo,welcome try'[/b]it doesn't make sense.

Why not let the girl be?? Why do people say she embarrased nigerians? cz she was thick to know game?
Is goldie truly the face of nigeria? I don't think so.Neither is prezzo the face of kenya.They are there representing themselves.
You can't judge a whole country based on a single individual in BBA house of all places.
BBA is the wrong place to judge a country. Gosh!

I think africans take BBA too seriously. It's not like its going to put bread on my table,increase jobs if prezzo or goldie wins.

Just let the girl be. I think u guys are used to winning, it came as a shocker. I dont know but i like her.
BBA is a game.you play it ur way.if u dont u lose.You become emotional and compromise that's why people like karen won.
prezzo has his eyes fixed on the money.Goldie had her eyes fixed on prezzo.

Now if you say goldie is ugly and prezzo too,who is fooling who?
They are both ugly but one was ugly and smart.
Those people in the big brother house do not represent Africa so stop being hard on the girl
They represent themselves cz I wont share the money.

[quote author=Inked_Nerd]@OP: Well, I used to enjoy reading people's perspectives on certain issues but now it just feels like everything is watered down [/quote]But you are one of the posters who post sense. I truly enjoy reading ur fact based points.
if people like u go mia we are left with lefu to make us laugh nt inform.
come back.

So how does one handle this habitual drunkard that walks in the house very late,kids are asleep,ur bed all white linen smelling vanilla and he has pee and vommit from head to toe plus a trail of no. 2??
Uuuhm where does he sleep? me thinks a mat just next to the door would be more honourable for him.

oh mehn,if u were where i am ul have landed urself a job.
a friend is searching exactly for somebody like u.

congrats really,it's a tough thing. Would rather construct a road than do it.

No they aren't. Different categories.
Jokers
Players
Good advisers
Comedians
Bitter/angry /revengeful/annoying
Happy/lively/encouraging/hopeful
Learned
Not learned.
Boys
Gentlemen
scammers
Kind
Rude
Tall/short/fat/thin/dark/white

list goes on. like somebody said,filter.

https://www.standardmedia.co.ke/images/friday/pul_121208_01.jpg

The lady above is prezzos wife! and they have a child together! That is a photo of their wedding.And yeah he's truly loaded as in rich.
They had issues that befall 'prominent personalities'(daisy is a daughter of a senior former MP in goverment)as usual but prezzos still refers to her fondly.
I thought prezzo said it at the very beginning and even showed them pics.
I wonder why goldie took him serious. The prezzo that I know was there for a show nt goldie.

Normal is ok

Don't want a lion roaring in my ear drums