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zone77: hw wuld u no dt a gal is bored or tired of his guy

She does exactly what the boy described by orinkila does. Very simple.

Billyonaire: I was madly in love...and I mean it....sexually attracted and it was marathon(ic)......since then, I zeroed my mind from e-Love.....

see when you have that signature screaming am billionare what are message are u passing around? you even spent less than what she expected.
and if that is how u wooed her on fb then i dont think u should moan.

[quote author=emöfine2]“primitive energy”...now that Pendo is certainly a new and fascinating term [/quote]When you set foot in Kenya mention the word primitive energy and everybody will
2 weeks ago Korean air published an article announcing their scheduled flights to Nbo. In their effort to woo tourists,the article encouraged them to come and see 'primitive energy' on African soil.(in the wild,park and stuff .
Now that word caused a major uproar, they were forced to immediateley withdraw it from their websites and apologise a million times
I think everything got lost in translation but kenyans viewed it as an insult to Africans.
Well we use that word everytime somebody spends energy doing something silly.
like dating a ghost

that's truly bored guy up there.
Girls get tired too you know? I mean a girl with her own mind.
The kind of girl you described above lacks a mind of her own because she needs to be busy doing her stuff while you do yours.
I mean 24/7 together means you got no life.

[quote author=emöfine2]Sometimes in real life we are guilty of repelling against another even through no fault of the individual(s) in question....we may not like another person even for doing right...

Then here some people meet online...the people one may have otherwise disliked or ignored offline or may have never given a chance may be the ones to hold such people’s interest....I guess sometimes when there is a veil of anonymity we are all for that limited existence on a balanced podium (no one is above another and no one is below another) until we talk...
That's why I love forums because they give all an equal platform without having to gauge them by their physical looks.
They give voice to the voiceless or looked down upon by the society.
They also silence the noisy.That way everybody is helped.

And it’s true some of the vibrant characters online may be timid offline and vice versa...and it is true that some people indeed tailor their personality to appear more popular or even unpopular...but for the fact that there are some people online that we may have never had the chance to speak to or even wanted to have shared conversation with due to some personal bias or even witness their thoughts as a spectator...for those instances is it thus understandable (excluding caution for now) that romances occur at such a rate online?

Yeah I would say so. This is what emofine.
Some love seeking characters online are on a revenge mission while others are truly desperate.Hurt by the world sorrounding them,hurt by the people they interact with daily.They want to explore the unknown world.They dare to give it a try.Now these type care less about the outcome.
Caution lies with the person being sought not the seeker.
There is that other category that we may admire because of their online personalities.We assume their online character is equal to off.
I don't think its difficult to tell cz patience and cover wears off in the long run and the true person comes out.
In that case, I will stick to what I said which is, people who are moved by words are likely to fall in love FAST with such people before knowing their true character.


But can one have genuine chemistry online and even if it may appear so will that necessarily translate offline?
Depends on what they seek,their motives and determination really. Like I said,caution must be exercised when dealing with people online.
Not all are fakes.Some truly deserve a chance.But work hard on moving it to the next level.If not,then don't start it because you waste so much time which should have been spent pursuing a meaningful relationship.
Before it gets intense make sure there's possibility of meeting each other.

And should that in which we call “love” have a barrier?

Why should real love have a barrier? I believe that real love can cross any.The Romeo and Juliet kind? That is what,so it's shallow to judge the depth of one's love online. You wanna test online love? suggest it goes off.
The only barrier can be distance so work hard at bridging it.

Finally, do some people look down on the online romance?
Why do those seeking online look down on offline romance?[/quote]

[quote author=emöfine2]I appreciate your insightful comments Pendo and that point you made about daring was rather interesting...

“but online relationship if not followed up with offline is a waste of emotional energy” - very valid point.


You are correct but then again that is all or largely what we have to go by online – at least in the initial stage.

So Pendo, would you say that those who usually fall for words as opposed to actions are more likely to find "love" online?

And even if one does try and prove their selves online wouldn't that be seen as character flaunting?[/quote]I asked a married person why he was teasing me and he said he was trying to be daring! whatever he meant. He likes trying risky unreal things.
Reason I doubt that people seeking love online are single .Most are in serious offline relationships.I think they prefer something exciting, out of the ordinary,something they can't get but still want to explore. What do u call that if not waste of energy.Primitive energy actually.

I bolded the online because there's absolutely nothing physical in online chat.So true that,people who fall for words are likely to fall in love online.
Very fast infact if they find the man who has mastered the art of online seduction. Words seduce and charm but what is the point of sweet nothings if not followed by action? It's a waste of dictionary language,time and energy really.I find it very tiring because I have tried it even when I knew it wasn't leading anywhere.
Have you ever interacted with a dumb person offline? It's very easy to understand and love them without them having to utter any word.
That's how powerful physical interaction is. I wanna see how you eat,how you walk,how you treat a lady,how you interact with people around you,how you spend,what you spend it on,how you react to pressure from around you etc etc.
Now those attributes you are not going to find online.

Now this is a new one emofine> 'online character flaunting' (I love the way u choose words)
I believe people do so for various reasons.Top most being 'trying to impress'. The only sad thing is, the people you are working hard to impress care less.
They may benefit from what you say but it ends online.You can go back to your misery after everybody has gone to sleep!
That is why I say it's better to be productive offline than online cz that is what you feed on and it makes you happy.
Let what you do online be an extension of your offline line.something like that.

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london2lasgidi: Basically, I don't think falling 'in love' online is real.. Online is different from real life; and judging an online character based on their online "intelligence" or superficial personality won't give you a comprehensive assessment of who they really.... We're humans, and we all have egos; and I believe most people come to forums like this to find a niche where they can endear themselves to people.......

I think you are very correct
I don't know if it's good or bad however because I believe that iron sharpens iron.You come to a forum as big as this,try to shine but discover there are smarter people and you are humbled.People learn from each other online.
Bring your ego here and it's shredded to pieces.That is how good online can get. Many times people fail to point out your stupidity offline because they fear offending you. But online we don't know you so we don't really care.
I also blve online stuff gives people a nice platform to speak their hearts to strangers esp if there's nobody to listen to them offline.
It doesn't hurt or cost them a thing so it's ok.
Is it wrong to endear yourself to people? Not really, esp if you aspire to lead.It's good to let them know the kind of person you are and allow them to interact with you.When we finally meet offline I wouldn't mind giving you my vote.

Whatever reasons people have for being online,if they do not have a real meaningful and fulfilling life off the net, then that to me is a major problem.

I believe that some do and for various reasons.
There are so many desperate people online.Young and old alike. If you get down to asking them questions,you will be shocked by their responses.
Many are moved by words. Many weirdos claim to fall in love with your words.They claim to 'feel' the person in a conversation but you and I know that some people have mastered the art of seducing people online.

It is wrong to assume that people pursuing online relationships have no real life relationships.Very false assumption because I have had all manner of people hitting on me.From married to those with live in gf.
It's more wrong to assume they have faults of any kind.We see pics of very beautiful girls and men flooding the internet.All in search of love.Surely it cant be that they aren't physically attractive.
My assumption is, they want to dare.They want to risk.Whether its good or bad is not up to me to judge.That depends on the individual.

Will give you an example.I converse a lot with people online. But many want to take it to another level.After some time of conversing they start using words like luv,baby,sweetheart. If you ask them to stop they claim to have fallen in love! fallen in love with your words. even if it's business.
I am the sort of person who likes asking so many questions at times it's such put off.Many times am told I have a tough personality online because instead of joining one in talking sweet nothings, I bring in other non interesting stuff. Stuff that one hates to hear but all aimed at stopping one from entertaining vain thoughts.There are people who ar enice to just chat with but online relatioship if not followed up with offline is a waste of emotional energy.
Thing is one must know their strengths and weaknesses. Its nice to be be accomodating online but I try my best to put all necessary blocks to make myself look less attractive online because I know what I want and it can't be found online.
That shouldn't be too hard.

One thing however is,I can't rule out online relationships cz I have personally witnessed two very succesful ones leading to marriage and eventually kids.
After all is said and done,the satisfaction one receives from real people offline is more than what they receives on.

Very handsome men in here
Is Royal V11 a guy?
It's gonna be difficult for the men than ladies cz they represent well

if i date a co worker i think i would seek a job elsewhere. I hate seeing the person am dating 24/7.

Babzilla: & I bet theyre dusty too

No way. I keep them clean. But that camel one like vodoo! LOL cracked me up!

coolzeal: Kenya is beautiful and i respect them so much for their effort to make Africa proud. Now my fellow Naija, you see how neat and organised Kenya is. How about we clean up our mess and give credit to whom deserved. Plus [b]Kenyan ladies are sweet and friendly. [/b]peace..

sasa hii imenirudisha.

Does it affect his ability to sire children?
If not then he shouldn't worry if he gets an understanding wife.
The only prob now is that he is exposed to public but I believe once he goes private he can deal with it.

This must be longest online voting process. Am soo lost. Now we vote again??

This must be that lady in search of nl hubby.

If you are talking about physical beauty then it's after she's had babies and managed to balance the stresses of life and work.
Those three take a toll on women's physical attributes, but some know how to maintain and keep themselves looking good.

I guess it's the best time to judge.

Why did u place Achuku and sholly in one group? Those girls are both very pretty and deserve to be in diff.groups.

Babzilla: Its just a dumb ploy by chics who want to feel cute. I remember this cow I had the bad fortune of meeting. She was trying to feel cute and she had like 100 teddy bears in her bed very dusty things. There was even a toy camel that looked like something from a voodoo shrine. and the fcking sow would wallow among her dusty teddy bears feeling really cute. and sadly most guys indulge this crazy trend. Usually after marriage when reality sets in, 2 /3 kids and she is damaged goods the man ceases buying her that crap.

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Ok,I am not obsessed so I cant have like 100 dolls.Max is 5 but I have 2 because of the sentimental attachment I have for them.Nothing else.

I have two big puffy ones.

A grey rabbit and a white and red bear. I don't know but u dare not mess with them.

Infact I tuck them well in bed. Check them on my profile

they choose to

I don't think so.It depends on how open and free you are with each other.
Some people take forever to relax and settle in a relationship while others are fast and easy going.They open up fast.
IMO, it's not really the length but what you share during that length of courtship that determines the course.Its what you share that will go into the foundation of the marriage.
practical eg.you may spend 5 years building a house of sand or 1 year building a stone one.

HBD cocoa. Have fun and be blessed.

gone searching again brb.

https://www.nairaland.com/luscioustrish

done. may the best win.

Killz I want to vote over 5 people. If not then I choose only one.

https://www.nairaland.com/luscioustrish

sexkillz: [color=#000030]I know she's Muslim. Ok, I'll add her then.
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Phew guess am right.She uploaded her very first pic together with age then removed it after some mysterious fellow preyed on her.
I think she had a hood on or something but those eyes I remember cz what shocked me was her tender age.

[quote author=Mrs.Chima]I am staying in USA.[/quote]LOL!!
@ op.I am moving to libya soon.Love knows no boundaries.

killz ur evil and nasty.stop mocking
By the way i think that is chillaz. She ws dressed like a muslim the first time i saw her pic and she's very very young.

http://www.wnd.com/2012/06/obamas-spending-grows-exponentially-in-kenya/

Now this is what we call politics! See the dude sitted there?

Al Qaeda is a global terror network created by the CIA, MI6 and Saudi Arabia to do the dirty work of Western powers, as Michel Chossudovsky, Peter Dale Scott and other writers have carefully documented.

I hate recolonisation but this I do not believe.

While appearing to do Washington’s bidding against Al Shabab, political sources in Kenya have told Global Research that Nairobi’s agenda is to annex a large swathe of Somalia’s southern Jubbaland territory, historically known as Azania. There have also been reports of Kenyan politicians surreptitiously striking oil deals with French company Total in this part of Somalia. Another crucial natural resource for Kenya in that territory is the acquisition of freshwater, which Kenya is in short supply of.

Now this is what I call crap. people need to travel.Kenya in short of fresh water supply Not the kenya that I know of. With all the rivers,lakes dams jeez!
The only salty waters is the Indian ocean the coast.Now that we dont bother with.

Annex off somalia Lol who are these journalists? It's never going to happen.Infact the somalis would never allow that to happen.It's criminal.
Look here Kenya is trying to restore peace in the East.How can they engage in acts that will make them lose face in AU?
We are trying to get this fellows back to their homeland and leave our country in peace. The camps are full!

Lemmie explain in laymans term why Kenya is at loggerheads with Americans.For one,our president doesn't take in crap! He refuses to be ordered around.
Two all if not most goverment contracts have been given to chinese.They are building the country.
When Kenya went into war with somali Americans mocked. They gave logistical support but they never knew we would be able to take on somalis, because when they did years ago they were deeply humiliated!
But Kenya together with the other forces have progressed and secured major key towns causing the shabs to run. Americans are shocked now.
Recently they 'offered I think 1 b shillings to our security forces to help us with the war but we didnt receive the news with dance and song.
Kenya said they funded the war using taxpayers money so there's nothing extraordinary in their gesture! Of course they were pissed off.
The thing is 'They want to show the world that this is their war!because strides have been made! But we are denying them the chance to take pride !.

Got it Mynd.Thanks for letting me know now.

[quote author=Mynd_44]Idowu is Badosky not debosky[/quote]what?? Badosky,Debosky? Id? I think am lost more