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Toydad:
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Abeg waka

inahlot:
Less than two months into our relationship and this has want to finished my life with sex.

I'm a per time student of LASU, so I'm often at home after closing from work except on some weekends, and we see almost every evening I close from work, but there's no anytime she comes over to my father house where I still stay that we won't have sex... the one she did yesterday was the most frustrating as I was very tired after closing from work and I have alot on my head with my school fees and some bills but she just won't understand, if I tell her no her reply will be don't complain if I cheat on you o, bcuz I'm asking for it now and you're denying me.

before I forget to add these, she is a graduate of noun first class in mass communication and very beautiful, an very encouraging and supportive both spiritually and financially and those are the reasons I'm considering breaking up with her... but fr I'm tired of the relationship PLEASE NAIRALANDs WHAT SHOULD I DO?

I aorey for you. Tou that is going to evening school, instead of you to face it so that you come out with a good grade . Attending an evening school is even a minus let alone graduating with a bad grade.

That you have sex in your father's house is not bad enough then you took a bold step to come discuss on nairaland.

You can see you have no respect for your parents.

Martinelli35:
I will make this as brief as possible. I left Nigeria to the UK around may last year and I have fully settled in the country and was looking for someone to settle down with, I didn’t want a foreign girl, so I looked for Nigerians only, the ones I kept meeting here were either engaged with someone back in Nigeria, had serious relationships with someone else or married. So I decided to look back home. A friend of mine introduced me to a beautiful lady who lived and worked in Abuja, she appeared to be doing well for self and was courteous as well. So we started speaking and everything clicked, she wasn’t boring at all and could keep a convo going for hours. We started dating and things were going fine until I noticed something which appears to be a red flag, but I keep doubting if am been too hasty in reaching a conclusion. Just a week after we started dating, she started complaining that she was really broke, that she was kind struggling. In my mind I felt it was too soon for this to come up but I nevertheless sent her 60k to help out. Less than two weeks later, she sent me a letter from her work place that stated that her salary would be delayed for that month . She started complaining of how she was in dire straits and wouldn’t be able to survive till then. I sha played along and told her that where I worked they even delayed my own by a whole month. I can take care of a lady I like no problems, but this incessant asking, is it not too soon in this relationship? This is someone am already thinking of settling down with. If with a six figure salary she can’t manage herself, is this not a bad sign?

what kind of attitude is that? Some girls sef. Tell her you dont have. How can one person be asking up and down. Dont use style to run. Are you afraid of her?

she may be lying she earns 6 figure salary in Abuja. I

Jergobright1025:
You are a heartless bitch... So the money he spent on her should be for free? In this life, as you take you must give
Bitches like you deserve the worst.

Just like your daughter.

mtcheeew stupid talk.

suasmablow:
I drafted this oath agreement for my girlfriend to take.
But after reading it when she got to my house for this purpose, she vehemently complained about all the points and outrightly refused to take the oath.
Are the oath points too difficult?
What should I do now?
Continue or end the relationship?

Are u okay or just overly obsessed with someone? Ask yourself this question' what will u do if your sister takes the oath with a guy with misplaced priorities?

Nairaland allow people see ladies in bad lights that is why u came up with this rubbish write up. what effontery?

GodWrites:
If a man is independent, he is free and qualifies to be called an alpha male.

Its not by how big your pulse is, but how self-sufficient you are.

To be honest it is being broke that make men come to rant "she had entitlement mentality". That is not an alpha Male but a broke guy.

philanthropic:
There is an "original husband", there is a comfortable husband, and there is a bad husband. An original husband is the one that helps fulfill a lady's destiny, but many or most ladies will surely miss this husband, why??

(1) Sometimes the original husband appears when ladies are not prepared. Things of the future and of destiny are sometimes not exciting at the beginning, and are sometimes difficult to discern. You see, when ladies in their early 20s are busy rocking their world, their original husband may just appear as a good, responsible and proper guy who wants to build a future...Whaaat!! At late teen and early 20, who wanna leave clubbing, sex and fun for a responsible guy? some ladies dump or reject responsible guys at that point, not knowing that destiny was probably about to be decided..

(2) Lust for Money. Many or some ladies will prefer receiving steady huge cash from a sugar daddy, than being with their future hubby who earns 150k monthly. At this point, a lady may sell her marital birthright to a sugar daddy and miss her young future hubby who may be a great CEO or manager in some years to come.

(3) Anger, Pride and Bad Manners. Some ladies react like tigers, some are thoroughly proud, some have character jaga jaga. These issues can turn off God's sent and leave them in perpertua singlehood, making them to probably think it is village people, and may lead them to meeting several prophets for marital cure.

lol. A word of advice, do not join some idiots to write what they dont know about.

will you in your right senses allow your teenage sister have a relationship in the true sense of the word?

ladies being unmarried sometimes have nothing to do with bad character. That is her path to destiny.
Dont write because some others are writing. These things, you wont get to know until when you have a daughter mature enough for marriage.

chinchonglee:
This statement is fallacy of hasty generalisation!
You are not in the marriage with them,. You dnt know what the marriage is passing through.. u are jst concluding based on mere pictures/social where everyone pretends to be happy....

Have u reasoned the case of tonto dike vs olakunle churchill
Nigerian needs to be real in their dealings... Not because of social media pics you generalise they are happy...
My brother too is wealthy got married to a somehow retired olosho. He literally calls home everyday crying... The divorce process is still delaying cos the girl and her family are still begging..

Do you also know the rate of known paternity scams in the country An olosho(at least 90%) never retires, they end ip fvcking out and getting pregnant for their outside lovers right under their rich husbands roof and trust me those rich husbands do DNA test in secret. Come to SYNLAB in lekki and see for yourself...

No woman will tell you are marriage is crashing hence we judge marriage based on social media pictures where everyone is faking smile... Face fact bro, ur statement is fallacy of hasty generalisation.



Also reason the case of fani kayode vs snowwhite!

see I understand you o, but most girls eat their cake and have it. I am a female and I know what I am talking about.

it is the one who tries to be something else at a later stage after being descent for most part of their lives get burnt.

BRATISLAVA:
He won't say he wants a hoe, but he is looking for women with the qualities of a hoe. He probably wants a sexually forward woman, who will ask him out, propose to him, give him money, who exposes her body etc etc. Aren't those what Nigerians associate with hoes?

All of the so called hoes can cook, clean and give mind blowing sex, which is essentially what men want, so why do you say he's not looking to marry a hoe? Don't your hoes possess these qualities too? Or do they wear a badge on their breasts that men should avoid them?

Nigerian men are to hypocritical. They want a hoe with the appearance of a nun. They are actually very attracted to prostitutes, patronize them, but act outraged when most of them will marry the same still.

This is men will continue to marry prostitutes and cry about it online. It's because you so truly crave prostitutes.

this is so apt!

Mosesvic11:
calm down aunty... na only hug na

it is not just about the hug. Hugging my husband like that shows you be free with him. Personally, I dont like that. Not because i am jealous but i wouldn't want my friend to throw jabs at my husband at all, with that hug, that is how it starts.

I know of someone who screams the name of her friend's husband cos of over familiarity.

wizdomnzube:
I was expecting for one dumbo to say this, and voila, she don show

If u be una be olosho make una dey talk this thing in time so we go begin quick dey bargain price. Make una nor dey disguise.

stop demanding for free sex all in the name of 'u no be olosho". what is bad is bad. In fact the person collecting money for sex is better if you ask me instead of being something close to a nympho

Kewellbanks:
I need a proposal ring for my girlfriend.

How much can I get one?

it depends on what you want. it can be as high as 50k and as low as 500 depending on what you want and what you can afford.

Tookool:
Girlfriends of Yahoo boys, hope you're seeing your mate

Do well to always preach this same message to your mates stealing up and down.

Akuruoulo:
Madam is sex one sided game.
u no get small shame

you wey get shame I don see you. why should you ask for sex when you are not married?

gentlegenius:
Sense always taste bitter in the ears of senseless people.
I challenge any of you to follow this man on social media and observe his posts for just a month, then come back here and call him names. Even your own conscience will attack you.

when it comes to relationship he doesnt sound well. Most girls from their area never want to marry from there cos of they they treat their females. If not for civilisation, men from urhobo, Isoko and that axis are not good for marriage.

wizdomnzube:
I still dey talk am.... before babe go see my money chop she better go buy kayamata put for ur kpekus. And the crazy thing be say even with the kayamata, my money nor go touch ha hand.


Make una go hustle, bunch of lazy girls.

and please dont demand for sex.

Alphaman007:
Woah. I finally finished after weeks of reading. Hands off to harddon, Davidthegeek and staliwise.

This thread is life changing and has totally changed my perspective.

lol most of the advice you get here is a reflection of the economy. people are pained and instead of venting anger on Buhari you manage the situation and turn to beasts to a fellow human.

one of these stupid things you call red pill costed my cousin his relationship which he still regrets even after years of getting married.

Reno should leave love talk and face politics. when it comes to love he should shut up.

people from his area are known for not showing care to their wives.

awumen:
She grew up right in my hood,know her in toto with her whole family. Always a quite and descent girl.

yes very descent.

awumen:
Who u b, wey know her as a kid? Festac festac festac. Identify ursef. 5th Avenue,?

nope but I know her very very well

benn94:
All is see is skin bleaching...

she didnt bleach. The quality of the camera is very bad. MBGN pix was at night. she has always been fair. I knew her as a kid.

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggarrrr
Tell them..that era of searching for a beautiful girl don pass....now we real niggarrrrs dey search for girl way fine plus the ones way rich or get ambition
Nope....after we real niggarrrrs don stress ourselves to huzzle and bomb all day and all night..we will now settle for broke ass woman...that ain't gonna happen...

All through out last night.....I sit down on top my bed dey huzzle...no sleep....then if the money fall out now..I go come mumu spend am on top one broke ass girl

Na which work u de do with system? cos any hussle wey no legit I no want follow chop the money.

jondon11:
So I met my girl about a year ago during the start of the lockdown. We bonded real quick...she's easy-going, sorta smart, mad sexy and funny. Two months after we started dating, she moved in with me and began shuttling between my place and her sister's.

I work from home and my place is structured such that there's not much to do to maintain it. Although I work from home, I go out now and again for business and during my time out I run most of the errands...my girl ensures that it's only when I'm going out that she gets whatever she needs, from the market or errands around the area mainly cause she's often in a pant and bra watching a movie or just being lazy. She's a good cook but a lot of times I found chow coming late or not at all, and there was always raw food to prepare...sometimes her excuse for not cooking could be she couldn't get one ingredient or the other either because she didn't have cash on her or some other reason...there's mobile money just outside our gate and if she doesn't have the money she can call me to make a transfer but the main issue was laziness. I swept and mopped like 80% of the time, ran errands like 100%, cooked like 20% or the time (starved like 20% or sorted myself out someway), she did dishes 80% of the time and I brought like 100% of the money we lived on.

She is doing her MSc and our relationship started during the lockdown so she wasn't going to school. She was job searching (more like job waiting) so this gave her a lot of idle time which she spent watching Zee World or being on social media. I soon found a way to engage her in the job I do from home, and with the money she had saved in the bank (over 400K), she started work with me. I purchased a laptop for her for this purpose and so she could develop herself in other areas via online courses but she didn't do much work...working like two hours daily, very late at night...I sometimes complained but tried encouraging her as much as possible, especially when she made some success.

I'm sure you'd ask why I stayed in the relationship despite all of this? I was pussy whipped, had no other options given the nature of my work, saw some potential in her ( I know, a stupid thing to say) and thought I was in love (I'm 29 and shouldn't have been that stupid).

Fast forward to December last year, we discovered she was pregnant, a month pregnant. Told her we should keep the child and get married...she suggested we could abort since we weren't quite ready but I said what was a couple more months gonna make a difference?

Since then till now, we've been quarrelling non-stop, one issue after another of which it's mainly me raising the issues. Maybe it's the tension that comes from knowing I might be starting a family with so many unresolved issues. I've raised my concerns and told her she'd need to be more responsible in the relationship if things will work and even though she tells me she knows, I know deep down she doesn't mean it or might not be up to the task of being a married adult. From some of our talk she expects I'd take care of all the financial responsibilities and have suggested a couple of times we get help for chores (we've moved to a bigger space now) but I told her in clear terms that that's not how I imagined my life...having help for chores and the likes, besides, it's just a two-bedroom flat.

I've purchased some of the things we'd be needing for our wedding and we're supposed to do an introduction this coming week but I'm having cold feet and just want to call it off.

I'm bringing this here to know how I can manage this situation...I can be lazy but I'm a really ambitious person so this pushes me but my girl is not just lazy, but unambitious. How do I manage the situation...there's a child involved now and will need to consider the child but at the same time, I can't take on this much stress nor have my ambitions cut short because my partner is lazy.

What can I do??

you better be careful if what you wish yourself. she kept the baby only at your instance. I am not saying abortion is good. after keeping the baby, you are coming up with lame excuses.

better watch.

Asour:
Your judgement of the matter missed an Important point.

She may not have married because of a purported duplex but a certain level of expectation.

Someone who can lie about owning a duplex (who would be found out almost immediately is certainly a chronic liar — the foundation of his commitment to her was built on lies).

Could he also be a Thief claiming to be an Engineer? Etc.

If the story is real may God guide them through this.

Exactly! for me the lady should divorce the man. A chronic liar is something else.