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Lucyliz:
Please I am really scared and confused right now. I need serious advice.

It happened when I and my boyfriend broke up due to some misunderstandings, we were not engaged then.

We broke up and didn't contact each other for weeks. Then I traveled to Ogun state at my grandma's place for somethings. I met this guy and we got along well. We go on outings, had fun and eventually had sex. After that it dawned on me and I regret it. I ignored him for some days and later came to my grandma's place to look for me.

We talked and he told me he want us to start a relationship. I declined and told him I have no feelings for him.

After a week I left Ogun state and came back to Lagos.

Afterwards I got back together with my ex and now we are engaged. We haven't picked a wedding date yet but we planned it to be next year.

Fast forward to last Month, my fiance told me he needed to rent an apartment for one of his friends coming to lag to stay permanently.
He got the apartment and the guy came to lag..
I didn't get to meet him until after a week...
I was in a mall with my fiance and he called him telling him he need to go out since he was bored. He came to the mall and behold it was this same guy I met in Ogun State. I knew I was doomed .... I got really scared and nervous at the same time cuz my bf never mentioned or showed me his pics before...

He was only looking at me without saying anything except to my fiance... I was even scared of leaving their midst cuz I was scared he would tell my fiance....

Later that week he called me with a different line and told me it was him. I ended the call immediately on hearing his name....

I can't tell my fiance what happened btw us or he would never forgive me...

The guy has been calling but am not picking his calls am scared of what he might say...

I told my friend abt it and she asked me to have an agreement with the guy never to tell my fiance but am really scared about everything and confused....

But then I remember have seen his face on my fiance phone before but didn't pay attention cuz he was on lowcut there...

Have been acting funny around my fiance especially when the guy is there and he is starting to suspect something is going on...pls help me...

I can't lose my fiance and I don't want the wedding called off...

Pls kindly advice but I can't tell my fiance cuz he often tells me he can't have a taste of what his friends have tasted...

I can't stop thinking and crying...

Pls help me I beg u all

Meet the guy. Discuss with him. DO NOT MAKE ANY AGREEMENT WITH HIM.

Personally, I think you should tell your guy. But. Be prepared. He might call off the wedding. Or have trust issue with you over a long time. But I feel it will be better than hearing it from a third party. But that depends on what you and the guy you had one night stand with discussed.

Shit happens sometimes.

This is commendable.


Meanwhile, most teaching hospitals in Nigeria are death trap.

I can say without remorse that most Nigerian girls are "hungry girls". They can't engage in meaningful rapport without acting beggerly.

On the other hand, if you meet 10 "beautiful" Nigeria girls, at least 4 of them are Olosho.

helinues:
Imagine ooo.. A southerner for that matter from Enugu state.. Buhari is shielding Northerners from prosecuting corrupt people from his region.

In Ipobs voice

The dude ignorance is extraordinary.

Question: do you like her enough to date her? If no, just be her friend. I met a lady online (an African-American) last year. I was like an open book to her (I don't do Yahoo and I don't have intention of scamming anyone). The bond grew quickly. She planned to even come to Nigeria. It turned out that she wanted a suitor. I am VERY single. But when I weighed my options, I couldn't be the suitor she wanted. I wasn't planning on lying to her to get to US either. The whole died down. We still talk sometimes though.


So if you truly like her, date her. If not, the lies wouldn't be necessary.

More like the most expensive joke in Sudan.

I had kick off some sort of bonding with a girl before, only for me to see her friend and I was more attracted to her. Not that she was super beautiful. But her kind of person sat well with the kind of girl I wanted. I knew I wouldn't be comfortable rolling with that girl (the one I was with ) while seeing her friend around often. I broke up with her. But the most painful part was that I couldn't go for her friend. because I understood the implications of that. It was like a thorn in my flesh then (seeing something you want and you couldn't go for it.)

When you hear, "he is everything I prayed for". Just know say the guy is already made. Don't quote me o. I never wake up from sleep.

It's demonic,lolzzzzzz. I think you are under peer pressure. Stop rolling with bad girls. Lol

RapportNaija:
Oga where you see theory for here. I said I came here to confirm, you start to yarn okoto. Abeg o.

Bros your information is sketchy. Who is your uncle? How does he know about the "notification"? Etc.

In all these rumbles, I know there is someone somewhere that has the EXACT information about this recruitment.

Enireqx20:
The question was not about me intially but now that you've made it about me, of course I'll stick with my poor boyfriend. The supposed rich guy might lose everything, while the person that's poor would get rich tomorrow. It's a different case if I wasn't in a relationship with anyone and I met the rich guy first. However, there are always red flags when relating with someone. You simply pick the person you can tolerate whether he's rich or poor

Sticking with the poor guys huh? In naija? I believe you.

I want you to know that when it comes to money and suitor, the decision goes beyond you.

Is like a governor saying he wants to marry you and you are planning to stick with your bf. Your family fit disown you. Make we not even talk about your friends. That's if by some miracle, you were planning to REALLY stick with your bf in the first place.

It's one thing to be poor, it's another thing to sink into the abyss of hopelessness. Many Nigerians are sinking into hopelessness. We are gradually losing our humanity.

Some folks will never understand the meaning of happiness until they leave this world. Because they can never seize to do what is "acceptable to others".





If it makes them happy, I pray that God should help them in their union.

ednut1:
Just drink sniper na mr doom

People need to watch their words. How do you feel telling someone to go and drink poison? Do you know if he is already on the edge?

Etr3y:
My babe is seriously praying I get the APL... I pray to be faithful to her once God answers our prayers

Smiling. Nigga don dey reason plan B for ground. Na wetin dey make some women dey pray say make their hubby dey broke be this o.

Almunjid:
A Prophet is not Without Honor Save in his place ..

Guy, the sentence is correct, only that it's in old English not contemporary English. You'll understand it better if you're familiar with Shakespeare or the Bible, King James version precisely.

The word "Save" means except; with the exception of, or unless. (dated; no longer used in contemporary English).

A prophet is...
Not without honour (honoured)
Save (Except)
in his place.

My guy that was not my reason. I am well acquainted with old English. The "not without" negates the meaning of the sentence. The sentence now means a prophet is with honor in his (whatever)

Stalwert:
[s][/s]

Always expect foolish posts like this. Akintola just proved the be million times better than whatever CAN aspire to be. CAN always support humiliating Muslim girls even when it is non of their business yet MURIC did not tie their perverse mode of reasoning.

whatever MURIC is saying is best known to her. Her objective is clear. It is for Muslims. Nobody seeks support from MURIC. Nobody seeks sympathy from MURIC.

Let her face the issue of underaged marriage and begging that is rampant among Muslim north.

Righteousness89:
[s][/s]

Foolishness abounds in the heart of a Child, but the Rod of correction will drive it far from him..

Recieve Divine Rod!

Wèrè

Horlufemi:
Agriculture, cheap labor etc

Agriculture does not generate revenue to the central purse. Govt does not tax Agriculture in Nigeria. Proceeds from Agriculture are individual gains, which are by the way very meager for sustainable endeavors. Especially the kind of agriculture Nigeria practices.

Inception:
All these would have to be Nigerian used as per the budget of the OP

Omo 2000-2005 RAV4 naija used na rusted iron na

ZooOga:
They can't pass that law and get it signed fast enough with all the loose and reckless mouths running around the country.

People don't just think before they talk. Politicians are there, death sentence is not passed on them. What is hate speech? Why is that it's now that we talking about HS? Why did Freedom of information signed during GEJ time instead of "hate speech prohibition"? Do you know the menace Lai Mohammed and co caused with words ? Why was Buhari not arrested for for publicly inciting carnage after he lost election in 2011?

madmohamed:
they will die in Nigeria not in Biafra mad people

Dummy Nigerians wouldn't seize to amaze me. The mofo that is sponsoring the bill if searchlight is shown on him, you will be shocked the billions he has looted. Who supposed to get hanged by the neck if not corrupt politicians? What could have incitted more carnage than Buhari's barboon speech? Let's use our brain this country oo.


I am not from East but people have right to decide who and how they want to be governed. What is north bring to the table of the Commonwealth of Nigeria. How much does north generate for Nigeria? About 70% of all the VATs is from Lagos. Oil is from SS. Tourism is from the West. Business is from SE. Apart from the Christian NC that coming up gradually, what is north bring to the table? I will tell you. Religious bigotry, mass illiteracy, terrorism, kidnapping, procreation the list is almost endless.

Nigerians have the right to ask for how they want to be lead. About 12 states in north jumped at Sharia law. VATs from "alcoholic" south are used to fund the north. How else will you define hypocrisy?

Hamilton1:
Afonjas nd Fear fear, de will Run lik Hyena hearing sounds of guns, i knw dem well

Nigga you know nothing. I don't want to refer you to anyone. All I can say is that you know nothing son. Warriors behind keyboards. Once again, you know nothing.

Young03:
Ah boys get mind oo

Arm robbers at CBN Benin city shooting

Obviously those niggas do not know what CBN is. Firstly, "money no dey CBN like that oo" . Secondly....I will pass on that

Righteousness89:
A Prophet is not Without Honor Save in his place ..

Hope u'll understand this..

... somebody asked you to correct your stupid English. You ended up adding "jara" to nonsense sentence.

Young03:
Arm robbery attack right now at CBN Benin city

I de there

so keep of akpakpava road

But CBN just deny say no attack on their facility in Benin

OlamigokePhilip:
Good evening @OP.. I am just seeing your post, It's great that you've found the solution to this problem.. Welldone.

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This is a very good idea. There are currently no active NIGERIA tech community to share important information. However, you need to really push your site so that it can be known. We I am free, I will check it out.

You can start by employing tech article writers to create some nice topics around it. Who knows, they could hit front page here on NL.

damilare214:
I need a Python Programming teacher in Ibadan. I live around Ring road.
Thanks

Let me know your budget. We can work on weekends. I don't want to drop my number here. Just send me a pm.

sweerychick:
Whose Fault Is It Anyway?

Good evening nairalanders!

I need serious opinions on this issue, as it has bothered me so much so I decided to bring it up here. It's about my younger sister and her girlfriend.

About 2 years ago my younger sis girlfriend met a guy that indicated interest in her, according to my sis her friend wasn't into this guy, in fact her friend was using him from the onset, my sis said that her friend told her that she doesn't like the guy at all because the guy according to her was a teacher in one private school and he isn't really what she wanted in a man.

But this guy loved her and my sis recounted one time the guy paid her tuition fees and gave her money for her project work. The guy was always there for her but her sis friend never liked him sometimes my younger sister will tell me that she should go for him she thought she was joking but little did she know that her girlfriend was serious.

When it was obvious she couldn't play the guy anymore, she had to confront the guy and told him face to face that they can't continue together, that she can't put up with him anymore and that he can have my younger sister as a friend since my sister is her roommate.

The guy was shattered and devastated, and it equally shattered my sister as well because my sister knew how much sacrifice the guy has made for her girlfriend. So the guy would meet my sister and start begging her to talk to her friend, and each time my sister tries to talk to her girlfriend to reconsider, she would turn it down.

So the guy gave up his efforts but maintained communications with my sister.

As time went by my sister and this guy became close, and they were good friends, so early February this year they guy got a contract job with Exxon mobile for 5 years at Akwa ibom, and he is now asking for my sister's hand in marriage. He's so serious that he has brought wine to my Father with his family members.

My sister told him let her put it in prayers. Because she's currently doing her NYSC.
Upon hearing the news of my sister and this guy, her silly girlfriend that rejected him because he was low, is now beefing my sister and telling the whole world that my sister snatched her boyfriend away from her. it was so bad that she even tried to re establish communication with this guy again.

My sister told me that her girlfriend sent a message to this guy and told him that my sister once had an abortion when she was in her 3rd year, and some stupid lies. But she said that the guy knew that her girlfriend was lying and decided to block her. This got my sister infuriated and me also but the guy begged us to let her go That she's just desperate.

But I'm really really really angry now because she has been spreading malicious lies about my younger sister. And my sister is planning her traditional wedding with this guy by January So please I need suggestions on how to deal with this issue because I don't see my sister at fault here, and I only see a wicked and desperate friend trying to cause wreck in someone's happiness..

Mods I really appreciate if this topic is on front page because it's a serious issue..

First the story is about you. Don't worry this is a faceless forum. So your secret is save. Unless your bf is on NL. Secondly,this your story looks too straightforward.

See, I don't know you or "your sis" as you call it, but I know that MOST girls in University do abortion either before, during or after their programs including your silly friend. And you are not exempted either.

Finally, I perceived the nigga is a dummy. How can a girl be using you for years without you knowing? He was a dummy for allowing himself to be used by the foolish girl . He is a dummy for going for you. Answer this question sincerely, if he did not get the contract, will you marry him as a teacher? If things goes bad tomorrow (God forbid) wouldn't you create more problems for him than your friend would have?

All I see is a young silly man who does not understand the politics of life. And please, if you aborted, which something is STRONGLY telling me you did, do well to tell the guy.