I gave birth 9 months ago and for some reason, my mom never expressed interest in visiting me and my child. She is a new wife now and I heard from some family members that when she wanted to come, her new husband said ‘your daughter has other people around, why are you worrying yourself’.
I did not take it personally at all. My mother has never been a dependable person. Me and my mom still talk everyday and my child is always on her status. This is her ONLY grandchild.
My mom’s elder sister’s (my aunty) youngest child is moving to my area. My aunty said that she’ll visit me during the move, and come and hold baby. She reached out to my mom and even told my mom that if they plan it, they can visit me together. My mom and my aunty are VERY close. I even consider my aunty my second mom in a way.
Suddenly, my mom starts calling me, saying she wants to plan her visit. I say okay. But with work and everything, my aunty will get here before her. She started telling me not to let my aunty into my house, saying that my aunty is a husband snatcher etc. she said my aunty will destroy my home. I tell her I don’t care about that. She started calling their mutual friends and telling them to tell me that my aunty is a husband snatcher. I did not fall for that.
Frustrated, she called my aunty and said that the truth is that my husband is uncomfortable. She said that MY husband is not from our town and that my husband’s people don’t like visitors. She said that I did not tell her about this out of respect.
My aunty called me and was apologizing, saying that she did not know. I responded and said that this is a lie. I even put my husband on the phone. Here’s my mistake - I sent her a screenshot showing my mom saying that she’s a husband snatcher and that’s why I should not let her into my home.
My aunty and I now agreed that we should let peace reign and that she won’t visit. She said she will still like to see me and we can meet somewhere. MATTER SUPPOSE TO END.
My mom decided to bring my aunty husband into this. She told my auntys husband that his wife is not respecting my husband’s wishes. My auntys husband now sent her my screenshot saying that he knows the real reason and that your child doesn’t even support you.
The screenshot has shattered my mom. She feels betrayed. My siblings who live with my mother are calling me a betrayer. I want to salvage the relationship between my siblings and I, not so much my mother. I have not spoken to any of them since the screenshot.
What do I do? How do I approach this.
lol! Abeg ignore them, they would come around later. It’s sad that your siblings don’t even know who their Mum really is until she showed them shege
adesegun121: A new statement from the family of actor John Okafor, aka Mr Ibu, disclosed that one of his legs has been amputated to keep him alive.
News surfaced in October that the veteran actor was ill and required financial assistance to aid in his treatment.
In the statement shared on the actor's Instagram page Monday, it was revealed the actor had undergone seven successful surgeries, including the amputation of one leg, in a bid to keep him alive.
seunmsg: Attention seeking sore loser who can't accept defeat. See his crooked and lying face like egg wey wan break. No amount of lies and propaganda will change anything. Bola Tinubu is already president and you Peter Obi the criminal liar and opportunist will never become the president of Nigeria.
I hope you are as great as he is. When history is studied, Peter Obi’s name will be mentioned but you, who knows how you? Instead of you to think of how to make your life better and impactful, you are here insulting politicians that will hug themselves and sit at the same table. SMH
Tokotaya: Microsecondnews Reporter November 6, 2023 2 minutes read Nigerians berate female content creator for showing her n@ked body to dispatch rider (Video)
Photo captions: SwizzyBellaNaija SwizzyBellaNaija opening her towel for the delivery man to see.
Some Nigerians are calling for the arrest of a content creator with the name SwizzyBellaNaija, after she uploaded a video of herself showing her n@ked body to a dispatch rider for content.
The Abuja-based content creator who is blessed with a huge bosom, said she did the ‘experiment’ to see the reaction of the dispatch rider to her endowment.
According to her, she ordered something online and when she sighted the male delivery man coming upstairs to her apartment, she arranged with her photographer to film him.
She announced that she would like viewers to see what his reaction would be to a ‘set up’.
Once the man was there, she told him she wanted to show him something and he should follow her.
When they descended to a landing on the staircase, she asked the man to stand away from her. She then opened her towel for the man.
“Why you come dey shake?” she can be heard asking the man.
“I’m not shaking anything” the man responded calmly, appearing unfazed.
But when the material got online, it did not receive the kind of reception Bella was expecting.
Many netizens thought it crossed the line, and was tantamount to s3xual harassment of the gentleman who was only there to do his job.
Many argued that if the role were flipped, the women would be shouting about s3xual harassment.
Some reactions:
@OllikBrown: “This is serious harassment if it was to be the other way round, press and media go don carry am”
@Dapor4: “Oh my God!! How is the innocent man feeling right now? This is sexual assault and it should be taken up. The world isn’t safe for men no more!! I can’t shake right now, I’m busy, i will shake later..”
@abazwhyllzz: “I’m so páined watching this video. Imagine if that dispatch rider is married what will the wife think about him if she gets to see this video…..This girl needs to be arrested”
@Updateboyx: “Imagine It’s a guy with one random girl hawking groundnut. This app for don catch fire…. werey lawon people yi”
@d3estiiny: “Men need to start taking actions against women”
@abazwhyllzz: “This is pǔrè sèxûal harássment.
What men face in the society, Omo innocent dispatch rider. If this was to be the other way round it could have been something else. I hope the authorities involved do something about this please”
Following the backlash, the video appears to have been pulled down as it could not be found on the lady’s page when we checked.
The title seems funny, right? Well, na reality. I received my salary yesterday in the evening 7pm or thereabouts but before 6am this morning it has finished.
Na only 5cups of rice, 3cups of garri and 2cups of beans with grandnut oil i bought the money don finish. No even for Maggi and sugar can you imagine? This Life no balance shaa
Some private companies are slave masters they don't care about minimum wage na only nlc dey make noise.
Funny enough, in the main contract, your salary will be up to 50k but as the Company is subcontracting to this Agency, they may have cut your salaries drastically
Maize247: Political struggles of this woman changed positively after she got married. She's really a fighter
Exactly! In the Nigerian society, there is an unwritten rule that a woman can’t attain a high political post as a single lady. In fact, a divorced woman has higher chances than a single lady. It’s sad.
richmond500: The essence of these policies is to kill importation business and make Nigeria a production country. Your business is not the only business that is dying, many business that depends on dollar has closed down and more will close too.
Time is coming when Naira will hit 5000 to a dollar. When this happens, foreign products will be difficult to purchase and we will have no choice but to buy made in Nigeria goods cos even a pair of foreign pants will be so expensive that only politicians can afford it while the rest of us will wear plantain leaves.
It's so annoying that the average secondary school student knows the dollar to naira exchange rate, that shows how we depend so much on the dollar and killing our own naira. Until we patronize our own companies, we can't grow the economy, this painful stage is called the transition stage from foreign to local, the govt is not the problem but the time it takes Nigerians to accept the Nigerian goods will determine how long the pain will last.
In the next five years, we will fully accept our own economy and in the next ten years, we will have an economy that will beat France and Germany cos we have the market already.
It’s only the poor that will embrace the local economy cos the rich will still continue to import things. Do you know that there’s a bread that comes every week to Nigeria from Europe and it’s being bought by the rich? But the poor will be left to buy the bread made with poor quality flour. If everyone embraces the things produced locally, it would have been a different thing. It’s well
SIXTEENTH: The kind of joy and laughter's going on those 3 ex convicts mind will be very massive because by mare looking at them one can tell the hardship and living on same diets repeatedly and rational everyday. Praise God, the lawyer and the judge their leniency, freedom at last.
They are not ex convicts. An ex convict is one who has been sentenced for a crime and served his/ her jail term. In their case, they were not discharged but also acquitted.
In a 10-minute video shared with Sahara Reporters, Chioma Egodi, (who gave a negative review of Nagiko paste which she used, one of Erisco's tomato products in the market), shared the threat to life, made to her by the company boss.
In the video, she also shared how she was detained and released on the grounds that she signed a pre-prepared letter under duress, as against her own statement of what really happened, as the only condition with which she would be released.
Under pressure from everyone, including her husband, she had to sign that letter and spent some time in the hospital recuperating, before she went back home.
Gbadugbakun: I was discussing with a friend and I asked him this question and he told me sometimes he wears his own for 4 or 5 days before washing. So guys how long do you think a guy should wear his boxers before washing it.
Mods you can put it on the front page.
4 or 5 days? That means your friend is dirty. It should be at worst 2 days but I recommend every day washing
I am in a dilemma and I need advice on what to do.
A bit of background about myself: I am a 29 years only child from a very poor background. I work for an IT firm which i joined in 2019 as a graduate trainee.
My total income is around 490k (400k from main job, 90k from a writing side gig).
My challenge: Recently, My host have told me to look for my accommodation and I have been searching for houses. Unfortunately, the places closer to my places of work is expensive.
I work in VI and the cheapest mini flat I have seen in close vicinity is 1.2M at Ajah.
I also have have a building project I am undertaking in the village that is at roofing stage and my parents have been pressuring me to settle down as the only child.
My dilemma is this, If i go for the house at Ajah, it will eat a bulk of my savings, thereby making it impossible for me to complete the building project or even start the process of settling down.
If I go for a cheaper but farer location, I will be spending more time in traffic.
Please, how do I manage this? Go to villages around if any to rent an apartment. Please how did you get the writing gigs? I am interested. Thank you
silvoclaira: I need help on this one. Its One flat, three shops. Two Notice to quit has been served since July 2021 from the lawyer to all occupying tenants which rent has been overdue. They all continue to refuse to vacate the property. The lawyer have served them ''notice to quit'' twice but they still come up with one excuse to another. What do ome do at this time
There was drama at a Nigerian party in the UK over the weekend after the celebrant ordered guests who refused to buy Asoebi to leave immediately.
The visibly angry woman waited until the guests started eating before she ordered those without Asoebi to leave. She went on to say that if they know they want to get to the age of 70, they should leave immediately.
The guests had no choice but to grumble and leave.
🤣🤣 party that was for fundraising una wan chop food finish and go without dropping anything
Bharekta: A 21-year-old student has sent her Flatmate [male Nigerian student ] packing for asking her an intrusive question whilst she was only trying to make him comfortable.
This is one sided. She didn’t tell us the conversation that led to that question. He can’t just ask you that question from the blues
HanisahZuwy: I don't know if I'll ever get a man to marry me. I look so older than my age. I'm in my twenties, but I look like a 53 years old woman. Even men and women old enough to be my father and mother will be referring to me as ma. Some of them are even people who are older than me with 30-35 years. Most people doubt me when they ask for my age and I tell them. They feel I'm lying about my age. I feel I'm more than the age I tell them. I know some people look older than their age, but I don't think any could be worse than mine. Mine is that bad!
I don't know why this is so. I don't know why I look so older than my age.Why is it like that? Is there any one here in this kind of situation? How does that make you feel? Please, what can I do to remedy this? Is there anyone here like that? Or am I alone? What do you normally do to help yourself in this situation? I would like to hear from you if you're in this.
You will definitely get someone who would marry you. But yet again, you need to dress attractively without being immodest and also try to exercise a lot., smile a lot too. It can help improve your appearance
scoobyblogspot: My colleague resumed the office today complaining very bitterly, so we got talking. He said his elder sister got a property somewhere in Lagos, she stayed there with her husband for a while, had a talent before they both traveled out of the country. The other tenant also, relocated leaving the house empty; since nobody was now managing the property some hoodlums started breaking into the premises to steal properties bit by bit.
One of the hoodlums was caught and arrested, so my colleague’s brother went to the station as the bale was informed of this act. The police asked him some question which he detailed the them as he was standing in for his elder sister who was far away in London, so they took the criminal to the market where he sold those items, unfortunately know was recovered, the stolen items where valued at about N1,9MILLION naira.
The criminal was taken back to the station and apprehended, so my friends brother was asked to come on Saturday 23rd September for further action, he couldn’t make it to the station due to his work so he went to the station on 25th of September, the police arrested him collected his phones and locked him. Arrested and locked him for what? They didn’t say anything about it, only for the police to inform the family members that he needs to be granted bill with N150, 0000. Is this a joke? I’m so confused right now, how can you arrest someone who comes to report an issues and even want him to bail himself with naira.
There was pandemonium at the Supreme Court this morning owing to a mysterious fire that forced a 7-man panel of Justices headed by the Chief Justice of Nigeria, CJN, Justice Dahiru Musdapher, to scamper for safety.
The apex court was on the verge of concluding hearing on a suit involving First Bank of Nigeria, when a Senior Advocate of Nigeria, Chief Amechi Nwaiwu, SAN, spotted the uncanny fire that was gradually engulfing the left wing of the court.
The development occasioned palpable panic in the court room which was full to capacity with over fifteen SANs in attendance due to some political matters slated for hearing today.
On sensing that the fire was becoming menacing, the CJN ordered a stand down of the case, as the seven justices hurriedly retired to their chambers, with SANs and other court users scampering for safety through the double exit points in the court.
It took the effort of lawyers and court officials to curtail the situation, though its remote cause has remained a mystery.
Blaming it on the electrical wiring system in the court, a clerk who spoke to Vanguard decried that occasional spark of flames during proceeding has been a recurring decimals at the apex court since last year.
The court abruptly rose around 11:55 am due to the ugly incident and reconvened around 12:20 pm.
Those in court included Chief Wole Olanipekun, SAN, the national President of the Nigerian Bar Association, NBA, Chief J.B Daudu, SAN, Dr Alex Iziyon, SAN, Chief Lateef Fagbemi, SAN, Onyechi Ikpeazu, SAN, Yusuf Ali, SAN, among others.
Source: Nigeria Vanguard
Make una dey collect correct information. The CJN is not Justice Musdapher Dahiru and Chief JB Daudu is not NBA president
officialwdhtv: Friends mourn as a cow reportedly kills KSU fresh graduate
Friends and family are currently mourning one Anone Felix who was reportedly killed by a cow just days after he graduated from Kogi State University (KSU).
Felix went viral last week after photos of him prostrating to thank his father, a motorcyclist, hit the internet.
According to reports, Felix was riding on a bicycle with his two friends when they were attacked by a furious cow on rampage.
He was said to have sustained severe injuries and was rushed to the hospital but he sadly gave up the ghost a few days later. He was said to have died in the early hours of Saturday, September 23.
Undilutedme: Hello nairaland family. I trust you guys are doing fine. I have a little problem and I need a piece of advise on how to handle it.
I have a very wonderful mother. She's caring, sweet, compassionate, name all the good characteristics of a good woman, she's got all but there's this problem I'm still having with her. SHE NEVER APPRECIATES ME, NO MATTER HOW HARD I TRY. My mom will never appreciate me for anything I do, even if she does, she does it nonchalantly like it doesn't matter. She compares me with friends at every slight opportunity she gets.
There was something that happened. Momsy travelled sometime around this year and stayed for close to two months and she has a shop that she manages. The shop's generator has been bad for sometime and it's really stressful for her selling with dim lights but she refused repairing it again because according to her, the generator is consuming her money because of too much repairs every time. So I wanted to surprise her, I called a friend that fixes generator to come help me fix it so when she comes she'll see that it has been fixed. My friend came and fixed it. When momsy came back and I told her that I fixed the generator for her, she told me that, she didn't send me to fix generator for her and that she is not going to use it. According to her "I send you make you fix gen?. I say I nor wan use the gen again". I swear I was really hurt.
On another occasion was during the just concluded UTME exam. My friends wrote before me, a friend of mine had 330 so I told her, she was very happy. She was like, I pray you get something like this. Fast forward, 3 days later, I wrote mine and result came out. I scored 314, when she came, just happily told her, instead of being happy, she just hissed and said "You nor fit get reach 330?". My spirit just died immediately. She likes comparing me with my friends.
There are many occasions things have happened but I'll not bore you with unnecessary talks. It's really eating me up emotionally and psychologically. How well can I make my mom appreciate me more?. How can I please her?.
Ps: Please nobody should throw insults at her. I beg you in the name of whoever you serve. Thanks.
You should learn to ignore her rants. She knows that you are hurting, that’s why she keeps doing it but if you show her that you don’t care, she would stop
Family › Re: My Mom Refused To Do Omugwo And She’s Causing Havoc by Prettychild(f): 8:56pm On Nov 07, 2023
