sapphiere: By male, I don't mean your dad, brothers, cousins or uncles. Those ones can make sacrifice.
I mean a male friend.
Mine, the most expensive gift I ever received from a male was a BlackBerry phone in 2011
Mine was a gold rolex watch. Funny enough, I didn't know the value of it but whenever I wore it, people would always comment that I was wearing a quality watch. God bless him
ogohiochola: My friend and his wife got married since 2015 and the Marriage is blessed with 4 Children but there's no True love, he feels nothing for her and she's like a stranger.
What can he do?
Op are you sure you are not the one? All these my friend this, my friend that. Op never leave your wife, pray to God to renew the love you once had for her
Freelane33: SORRY mates . I WILL NEVER LISTEN TO ONE SIDED STORY .TELL US WHAT YOUve DONE WRONG THAT WARRANTS THE ACT
Even if she has done anything wrong, cheating is NEVER a solution. If you are tired of the relationship, it's better you break up with the person than cheating on the person
tutudesz: The Clark-Fuludu Bekederemo family of Kiagbodo Town, Delta State, wishes to announce that Emeritus Professor of Literature and Renowned Writer, Prof. John Pepper Clark, has finally dropped his pen in the early hours of today, Tuesday, 13 October, 2020.
Prof. J. P. Clark has paddled on to the great beyond in comfort of his wife, children and sibbling, around him.
The family appreciates your prayers at this time. Other details will be announced later by the family.
Signed: Prof. C. C. Clark, for the family. Mr. Ilaye Clark, for the children.
Emeritus Professor of Literature and Renowned Writer, Professor John Pepper Clark is dead. The poet is the younger brother of former Federal Commissioner for Information and South South Leader, Chief Edwin Kiagbodo Clark. In a statement signed by Prof. C. C. Clark, for the family and Mr. Ilaye Clark, for the children and made available to Vanguard Tuesday, Professor John Pepper Clark died in the early hours of today.
Sometimes, I blame the ladies, they know that the guy has no plans of taking them abroad, some even know that the guy has a white wife and yet go along to marry him, later the feeling of loneliness sets in. When they see their friends going for family outing, the feeling of jealousy sets in
Missis: Assuming you are married to a man who works as self employed selling some wholesale items that fetch him 70k every month and you have three kids with him.
Meanwhile you the wife work in a private institution earning 60k as well as selling things online that fetch very little like 10k to 15k everymonth.
So you have adviced him to get something else doing to augment your joint income because the money both of you make is barely enough for both of you and three children. You suggest you both need to add more sources of income to your present jobs to move ahead in life and advance, send your children to better schools, maybe build a house, to just upgrade yourselves generally.
So after suggesting different jobs for him he refused to do anything else except his wholesale business because he believes one day he will suddenly make it big from selling his market.
You give up and start your own third business which is part time catering and start making some considerable amount of money from it so you buy new clothes, shoes, nice snacks for your kids from time to time.
Your husband sees all this and tells you to also buy gifts for him from your 'plenty' money. Tells you to not buy new things for only your kids but you should buy also add his own.
How will you react please?
This isn't a made up story please. It's very true, I just want to know if the way I responded was reasonable or if I was wrong.
Nothing wrong. Generally, both parties are to buy gifts for each other na
SecretSpy666: Greetings Nairalanders, I want to seek for you peoples opinions regarding my family challenges.
I'm from a broken home. My parents divorced when I was a child of two years. I'm the only child from their union. My father and mother abandoned me and remarried to other spouse each. I passed through hell growing up with relatives who insulted me with all kinds of names and I was treated like a slave to their own children.
Because of public outcry about my dehumanizing treatment, my father came to village and took me to the city. It was from fry pan to fire experience as my father's new wife was maltreating me. At a point, my father asked me to leave his house that since my arrival, he don't have peace with his wife.
I packed to the house of a relative and work in a block industry to help myself. Most times, I slept in a CAC church close to the relative house as the two-room apartment is not enough for his family. My mother never care if I was alive. She never call me nor reply to letter I sent through someone to her. I continued working in the block industry and started a part time programme. I completed the part time programme and did my NYSC and master degree. I got a job with University of Ado Ekiti with the help of a course mate, managing myself now and surprisingly my mother and father started calling me often.
Both of them have 6 children each with their respective second spouse. Mother want his son to come and live with me, I refused and my father too have been requesting for financial assistance which I also refused. I don't want to have anything to do with both of them. My father's daughter recently called me to help her with school fees, I bluntly told her to ask her mother what she did to me and caught the call. Since then, she never call.
I'm alone and have just two friends. I don't have family. All of them calling now are just looking for what to get from me, not that they care about me. My mother never call me once to ask about my welfare even when I sent my phone number to her through her relative. I wrote WAEC, completed degree course before she started calling me and it is only to request for one thing or other. I'm planning to get married without telling them and build a separate family.
It's a pity you have to go through all these. Just forgive them but have nothing to do with them because if there's another chance for this to happen again, they will still treat you the same way. Humans don't change
sampete: Sometime ago last year, I gave my girlfriend some money to startup a restaurant business and she has been managing it well without issues.
She was doing so well that in no short time the business expanded, clean working and classy looking environment. Her workers were quite trained and they were neat as regards the preparation of the food they sell.
Trouble started last week. I got a frantic call from one of my Girlfriend's workers and she told me my babe got arrested by the police with some of her workers, she was the only one who eluded them.
I quickly rushed down to meet up with her as she wasn't coherent on phone. Getting there, she told me that earlier that day one of their regular customer came in to eat. According to her, the guy looked sick. He went on to ask for swallow and they served him.
Midway into his meal, this guy brought out some drugs to take and then he finished his meal. Table was cleared but the guy remained seated. Then few minutes later, he was observed to have laid his head on the table, eyes closed and they thought he was sleeping, not knowing the guy has passed off.
After like 30 minutes, one of my babe's worker decided to wake him to leave so that other customers could make use of his chair as everywhere was filled up. She raised the alarm when she tried to wake him and he was not responding. The guy was quickly rushed to a nearby hospital where he was pronounced dead.
Two hours later, my Girlfriend's restaurant was raided by the police on the suspicion that he poisoned the guy. All the food she cooked that day were seized and taken away for testing. And she and her workers have been in jail since and all efforts to see her has been unsuccessful. They won't let me see her and they won't tell me the results of their investigations so far.
I just don't know what to do. The food they claimed was poisoned was served to others and no one complained of even stomach pains not to speak of dying. I even ate from the food earlier that morning.
The way the whole case is going is so confusing and murky and it seems the guys family are well of and they are looking for someone to blame, innocent or not.
So guys, please what do I do? My girlfriend is all alone, no notable family to speak of, who could come out to help. Her parents are late and she isn't close to her relatives. I'm all she's got.
So sorry for this. Which State is she based so that we can know what to do
[quote author=emapeteum post=93879578][/quote]I no get strength to argue with you. But just take time and read your Bible, Christ did not come to abolish the Old Testament. Even Christ who said we should pray for our enemies did not tell us the exact prayer we should pray.'Pray for your enemies' is an ambiguous statement. God is a God of mercy and also a consuming fire, (people forget that easily)
emapeteum: I think Daddy Freeze attacked on certain doctrines of churches around has actually exposed the hypocricy of our pastors.would Christ respond the way our pastors responded to Freeze criticism? A food for thought!!!
My dear, calm down and read your Bible very well. Read about Prophet Elisha when he commanded bear to eat up the children that abused him, yet when he was buried, his corpse raised a dead man! There's nothing hypocritic about it, it only goes to show that Pastors are humans, you can't keep biting them and expect them not to react. We need a deep understanding of the Bible
NCAN911: My uncle na business man he only comes home at night! I am serving him.. We go to shop by 8 and comes home by 5:30 or 6
It's a pity. There's no excuse for infidelity but most men should know that buying and taking care of your wife without supplying her emotional needs can cause these. Some men believe that once they provide for the woman, they don't need to solve her emotional needs but it doesn't always work like that. May God help us
DebbieBianca: Daddy Freeze has shared lovely photos of his family, where his father, mother, wife and a child were seen, in respect to what the founder of Salvation Ministries in Port Harcourt, Pastor David Ibiyeomie said about him.
Recall that Pastor Ibiyeome on Sunday had threatened to kill Daddy Freeze for insulting Bishop David Oyedepo.
According to Pastor Ibiyeome, Daddy Freeze was insulting Oyedepo because he had no father and that if he had one, he should show his picture for the world to see.
Ibiyeome said Daddy Freeze had no wife as the one he has had left him.
Pastor Ibiyeome said that the day Daddy Freeze insults Oyedepo, "I will deal with him and arrest him. Who gave birth to you? Do you have a father? Show us his picture."
“Oyedepo will not talk but I can’t be alive and you insult my father. I curse the day you were born. I will tear you into pieces you bastard. He is insulting him because he has no father. “You can never insult a father if you have one, be warned. A man whose wife left him, has no good job, will be insulting my father and people will be laughing online. I will never be alive to see such and do nothing again.”
Daddy Freeze to prove Pastor Ibiyeomie wrong decided to post pictures of his family and loved up video of his parents.
E pain am eh. At least someone has 'freezed' Daddy Freeze mouth for a while. Make internet rest small on top religion matter wey he dey carry for head. Pastors are humans too, talking bad about them in order to trend it's a no no.
Zealoy: Hello guys pls I will like some advice from mature minds here, there's this girl am dating she's very pretty, sexy and hard working, she loves me so much that each day that she didn't hear my voice it will seems to her as if the world is coming to an end
The problem is I didn't love her equally the same way she loves me, initially I only wanted her for sex but she's getting too attached to me, and there's one certain man of God that warmed me to dump the girl am dating, which is her, my problem is how am I going to let her go without actually hurting her feelings cuz I know quite alright that she might hurt herself if I end the relationship between us. She's dangerously in love with me and I fear it will end in tears for her.
You are very wicked! Why did you ask her out first since you know that your Pastor must approve your relationship? That's how people bring curses on themselves!
Whiteball: It's a bit lenghty so bear with me.I'm in my late 30's very very eligible for marriage but still single.Alot of friends in my circle are married but up close and personal stories coming out of their camp and experience av had in d past isn't encouraging ,so i just wanna have a baby mama(These lady's arnt loyal).
Pressure from Family n friends to settle but am not giving in. so this particular friend of mine(now a true definition of born again- i wont mention name) changed my mindset and promised to help me get a 'good wife material' through his fiancee.
I yielded and i reluctantly gave him d permission . I'v never met his fiancee one on one bc she stays in a different city and each time she comes visiting her guy am always busy but we speak on phone.She gave my number to her friend (my hookup) we got talking but i told her point blank that am a christian but not a born again like ur friend fiance -i club i drink socially but i dont smoke,to my surprise she told me same here! (hmmm red flag bc i was expecting otherwise since her friend was a born again). I told her no problem.
This week my guy's babe visited town ,i was very busy still but was able to meet them at d park when she was travelling back. she was already inside d bus when i drove in. she came down from d bus to greet me since passengers were still boarding ,she's beautiful i must confess with nice curves but was wearing all those long born again gown and holding a bible .I told my guy despite leaving 'd world' for us he still got good eyes,we laughed and joked she told me her friend(my hookup) is prettier i said wow cant wait to meet her.
Something strange happened,i noticed an old time friend in d bus which this babe was boarding we shared pleasantries and exchanged number he asked if my babe was travelling with them i told him she's my guy's fiancee not my babe he complimented her beauty also.
A minute later she said she doesn't wanna travel with this bus which they have already paid for again, she will rather wait for d next bus that her spirit isn't in line with d bus .. I was confused and asked her to explain she said she doesn't want to go wit this one bc she's having a strange feeling concerning d bus but i should allow my friend inside d bus already to travel with them its fine -It didn't make sense to me,if u think this bus will have an accident i should at least alert my friend to come down too she said i shouldn't worry.
My guy waited for her fiancee to catch d next bus while i left for work.
The next day was weekend and i decided to go visit another friend(lets call him guy B) of mine so we could hangout . It's a big compound with plenty room n parlour self contain.when we were about leaving the compound together i saw an eye catching figure come out from another apartment wearing bump short,transparent shirt that was revealing all her breast going to dry clothes on d ropes...Behold it was my friend's fiancee!!!.
I was shocked bc yesterday nite i called my friend to confirm if his fiancee finally got a bus and had arrived her destination he told me yes and thanked me for showing up and for my concern. Someone that was suppose to b in another part of Nigeria was in another part of d city ? . Immediately she turned and saw me,she was shocked n her clothes fell off her hands. I didn't say a word i just walked straight with my guy B to my car .
She ran towards me and drew me privately and said i should keep it privately she will explain on phone .my guyB confirmed to me that she came in last nite and that's her boyfriend apartment i refused to tell him anything tho.
The reason why she left that initial bus begin to make sense to me now.
I need advise please ,ordinarily i will look the other way but the guy in question is my very good guy and a born again christian engaged to her,weeding is two months away. The lady also according to him is supposedly a born again but this dressing stated otherwise... tho i didn't catch dem 'doing' oh.
Hmmn! Please save a life and tell your friend. What if she is pregnant for someone else or even have STD, will you be happy if your friend get such infection? Please tell him, at the long run, he will be forever grateful to you
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I have never done it before but I gave it a try mid of this year. I met him on this forum. Me wey dey form tough girl, I just fell yakata for him! Was scared on our first meeting but I found out he was a likable person. He didn't have anything like the guys I normally hang out with but I loved his resilience and thought that we would build our own empire. It didn't last because I noticed that he only needed me to cure boredom and never wanted to know me better. We broke up.
ItsTerah: I know I'm going to get alot of insults from you guys and that's why I didn't use my original Nairaland account for this, but please hear me out and give me good advice.
I'm the kind of girl that doesn't love easily. I don't think I've ever fallen in love before. I have dated just one guy and I broke up with him when he tried to rape me. I'm still a virgin and the reason is because I have trust issues. I know that if I have sex with a guy I'll become very attached and my heart can easily be broken. So I'm waiting for a guy I can trust.
I recently just started dating someone. I'm not in love with him but we've been very good friends and when he asked me out I just had to say yes so that I wouldn't lose him. I've still not had sex with him and I like that he respects my wishes. My boyfriend loves me and although I don't love him equally I've opened up to him about how difficult it is for me to reciprocate love.
Then there is this other guy I just became friends with. I won't lie, I'm sexually attracted to this guy. My sexual attraction to him intensified when he opened up to me about his kinks which are similar to mine. He told me he has feelings for me and likes me alot and can't get me out of his mind. I admitted I am sexually attracted to him but that I don't have feelings for him. I know he is sexually attracted to me and has made advances at me and even asked for nude pictures all of which I refused. But I still talk to him. He knows about my boyfriend and is aware of my situation. Occasionally he flirts with me but I try not to flirt back. I've tried to bury my sexual attraction to him but he is just so physically appealing. I've made it clear that I want to be just friends and he seems okay with it. I know I'm principled enough to not allow him have sex with me I'm wondering if it's safe being just friends with him. I enjoy talking to him and don't want to end our friendship.
My dear, hold the one you have and forget about this make he no shock you
I'm sorry for bringing up to this platform but is of necessity for me to bring it . I've been hearing it from people but I don't know how they do feel about it. I've heard stories about how a lady cheating on her guy and a man cheating, but all these stories I do see them as fantasy or something that is not real. I've heard about a lady killing herself because of her boyfriend and I've heard about a boy taking sniper because of a lady.
Recently, I was in love with a lady in my office and this lady she is 35 years of age, I am 37 years of age and I asked out, we started dating after a period of time, she told me about herself, after all in the place of her work, she has dated about three different persons that she had sex with them. People in the office do gossip about her because of how waryward life. They do call her prositute. With all that, I still love her.
Before I came on board, she told me about her neighbour and all what they've done like touching and kissing was the highest they have done and I said ok.
We started dating and working towards marriage. At a time, we got intimate. I never knew that she was still seen her neighbor. She do go to his room to charge her phone. I never knew that they were having sex and she was having sex with me. she always claim that I'm the only person she is having sex with but I have this kind of feeling that she is cheating on me. I do always argue and challenged her faithfulness and at the end, she will put up a defensive mode accusing me that I didn't trust her.
Some days ago, when i challenged her with evidence of cheating. She confessed to me about how she and her neighbour been having sex and I was heartbroken, that night, I slept in a house I couldn't get it, I never knew that I love her so much, that was a period I knew that I was deeply in love with her. I feel like dying, I feel like everything is over. I love her so much, I want to marry her. Few days ago, I travelled to meet with my parents and discussed my marriage issues with them, I told my girl about it but she didn't blive. With all these, she didn't feel remorseful. I wish I had never met her. I am in pain.. What should I do? I am a confused man now.
Please move to front-page. I will appreciate it. Thanks.
So sorry about the pain. There are plenty decent girls out there but you guys choose to go for the slay queens. This is the effect. Don't worry, with time, the pain will go.
maduxs: Admin please bring this post to light. I have an albino girlfriend, we have been dating for a while now but the fact remains that the stigmatization is too much. People discriminate against her so much.
Every time I'm walking with her people looks at us as if we came from another planets. All my close relations and friends I told about her discouraged me from getting married to her. Everybody is against me, they told me how can I introduce albinism to my lineage.
I understand that she has a very poor visual acuity, she is prone to skin cancer, she will depend on me to get some certain task done especially under sun.
She is a very good girl, what I'm looking at is what is inside her I mean her personality even though she is obese, she gives me peace of mind.
Finally she is also a petrochemical engineer, and very brilliant person though her albinism has been disadvantageous to her from getting a better job. I just proposed to her against all odds even though I'm all alone.
Should I go on to marry her? Please I need advice from people with mature minds.
So far she has a good character, please don't let her slip away. I have friends that are albino, the favors their family get because of them is huge
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