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linked:
Don't be a door without a lock. It is clear that you are not committed to your present relationship. Now that's a big problem. It speaks more to your character than anything else. The problem is not whether you like the new guy more than your guy, but that you don't understand that commitment is essential in a healthy relationship.

Maybe you are not matured enough to know that in life you will always meet someone more interesting, more handsome, more wealthy, more nice than whoever you chose to date or marry. Las las I suspect you will end up a wretch if you do not discipline yourself with self control.

You should date or marry a person not because you have not found someone better than them. Rather it should be because you CHOSE to be with them. Even when you find someone better (which will definitely happen), it wouldn't matter to you.

well said

But why is one religion disturbing the peace of the country?

DayDreamer05:
At least, putting on clothes would shield some parts of your body from getting burned.


May be, you haven't fry potato immersed in water.

It's okay

DayDreamer05:
1. You don't wanna get burned.


2. Do you fast? If not, fill up.

1) does putting on clothes prevent being burned when frying things

2) No dangerous consequence, other than hunger? No p

Omar09:
You see this right here have put a lot men in early graves and prison! There is nothing like “But on a good day, if she says no and she needs it I think you will know as a man”. If she says NO whether or not she means it, you should take it as NO, no other meaning, just NO. Because in court, she won't be asked if she meant it when she said "No" or not, but would only be asked, Did you consent to him to have sexual intercourse with you? Men should learn to guard themselves.

spot on, very apt and correct. And that's why I made my stance known in my first paragraph saying something like this.

lecturer50:
Alright.

It is true.

But like handsomebeauty8 says: What if after she want sex (but said no) and you slept with her(since as a man you know she wants it), tomorrow she said it was without her consent therefore you had raped her?

That is how rape accusations are made in so many cases.

She says you have used her, you took advantage of her, you raped her, you harassed her sexually and etc.

I mean the thing is very complicated

did u pay attention to all my words? That's why I said strictly speaking, let the woemen be once they withold their consent, if u don't want to be labelled a rapist. They can be cunning you know.

Good and nice points. But kindly tell me what the consequences are, for number 1 and 10.

And for number 9 people should take it serious.

Good father. This sweet my head. Enough of all these carelessness, some of these badly behaved girls have parents.

As e be, e get.

7) Eat well (how could you forget this?).

Also, more sex if not with trusted person (e.g. wife) will cut short the person's life. Bye.

Mainly, they are woe unto men. Strictly speaking, if she doesn't give her consent, let her go, she will find the man that will not need her consent who may then be accussed of raping her as soon as the man messes up (if you don't want to be that man, let her be).

But on a good day, if she says no and she needs it I think you will know as a man. Conversely, if she says no and she seriously means it, again you will know and if you force your way this time, even if she doesn't come out to call you a rapist, you yourself will know that you are a dirty rapist.

Mainly, they are woe unto men. Strictly speaking, if she doesn't give her consent, let her go, she will find the man that will not need her consent who may then be accussed of raping her as soon as the man messes up (if you don't want to be that man, let her be).

But on a good day, if she says no and she needs it I think you will know as a man. Conversely, if she says no and she seriously means it, again you will know and if you force your way this time, even if she doesn't come out to call you a rapist, you yourself will know that you are a dirty rapist.

BarristerAlarig:
THE STORY OF A NIGERIAN MANUFACTURER

I run a manufacturing business and a trading business. 
The biggest challenge in my manufacturing business is not power, or infrastructure, the biggest challenge is getting honest staff. Everyone we hire is appears to be on a mission to steal as much as possible. Inflated invoices, recording less than the actual number of units produced. The worst part of it all is that all the fraud we've uncovered is not done by a single person, it's usually many staff who collude with each other, from production, to sales, to finance, even top management. There was a year I overhauled management 3 times in a year. But I've found a solution sha, I now use Indian management. So competent, so honest and so straightforward. I thought they were expensive at first with all the visa fees, accommodation, house staff, but now that losses due to staff theft have been reduced to a minimum, and efficiency increased, the Indian management has turned out to be cheaper than the previous Nigerian management. Now, all sensitive positions involving money go to Indians. Nigerians are only allowed in non-sensitive positions. I used to criticize companies like Dangote Group that hire so many Indians when there are many unemployed Nigerians, but now, I understand their decision. 

My biggest challenge in the trading business is the same, getting honest staff. The form of trading occurs in the open market, and involves staff having access to huge sums of money running into a few millions. I know how much I pay to security companies to provide escorts for the staff, not to prevent robbery, but to ensure that the staff go straight to the bank to deposit the money after the day's sales and not disappear with my money. This money spent on security companies is even enough to be declared as profit. We have to spend on CCTV, biometric scanners and other things that wouldn't not be needed if staff weren't looking for the slightest opportunity to steal. 

It got so bad at a point that my main criteria for employing staff was no longer competency but honesty. At least, competency and skills can be learnt, but once you're dishonest, you're dishonest. 

We always complain of the economy and how they are no jobs. I know people abroad who would have loved to set up job creating businesses in Nigeria but they can't because they can't get any trustworthy person to run it. 

I know people in Nigeria with so much money, they want to start factories and other job-creating businesses but they can't because they are occupied elsewhere and can't get any trustworthy person to run the business. So instead of investing in the real sector and creating jobs, they'll just buy treasury bills, while the thieves are shouting no jobs. 

Many big businesses would have been born in Nigeria if we could engage in partnerships, but we cant because you can't trust anyone. This is one advantage the Indians and Lebanese have over us in Nigeria. They can pull resources together and do mega-business, unlike Nigerians that because only one person must do everything since we can't partner, end up with small, tiny businesses. 

Start a poultry and they will be stealing your eggs. Some will even go
ahead to be killing the chickens so that they'll be allowed to take them home.

Start an entertainment/viewing/game center and they'll be pocketing
your money. On the days you're around at the business, the money
realized will be x10 of the money realized when you're not around.
Because they're eating your money.

Lease out a vehicle to a driver to use and watch as he'll finish you.

Start a restaurant, the same thing will happen. More than half of the
total food ingredients will end up in their personal kitchens.

Even ordinary provisions shop, they will find a way to steal.

You'll see them with that their evil, wicked saying "na where person dey work, na there e dey chop, na e make dem dey callam workchop/workshop"...... Just imagine, justifying theft at work. 

And you'll see these people point their crooked fingers at politicians when they're not any different. I usually say the reason most Nigerians haven't stolen billions of government money, is simply lack of opportunity.

Nigerians are the problem of Nigeria.

This is a front page material itself.

Zzor:
mtchew she will regret this later,nonsense

I really understand your view. This lady here is not jealous, she is saying the undiluted truth (but you boys/guys will never understand). To me, I will put it this way, she will most likely regret it except the man is extremely good/great. Even at that she will still realise what she did to herself. Don't do something like this thinking you are fun, u can only try to influence a man to speed up and propose (except you are very desperate then propose yourself and bear the consequence).

Nice

proxillin:
She has been mounting pressure on me to follow her to meet her parents. We have been in this relationship for a year now. Although she is not the only one I am dating. I am not sure of the other lady, but atleast this one is ready to marry me.

I am not sure if I genuinely love her or not, but a part of me love her..A part of me want to treat her bad, whenever I remember what she did to me in the past.

3 years ago, I started noticing and showing interest in her being my junior sister’s friend. I discussed with my sister who encouraged me to approach her that she had no boyfriend. We were on talking terms before which was an opportunity. So I leveraged on that to get closer to her. When she noticed I was getting closer, she started giving me attitudes, stopped talking to me. Finally she stopped coming to our house. She would give my sister thousands of excuses why she was not chanced to come to our house.

We met at a friends birthday party, to my surprized, she warmed up to me, greeted me. I though she must have repented. While the party was on, I asked her to come to my table and spend sometimes with me, she said “ok”. I waited for hours, she didn’t come. I later saw her in the room with the celibrant. I jokingly said to her “You dey whine me abi”. She just went off, started ranting, she said I should say whatever I want to say now infront of everyone..infront of her friends. “Why do you want me to come and sit with you?” say it now “let the whole world hear”. It was so embarrasing for me. I just said to myself “whats there..are they not aldult?..dem never toast all of them before”.

My sister was there, got angry and left us. She had already warned me to leave her alone. That I am interfering with their friendship. On my birthday, she replied to my whatsapp pictures with love and kiss icons. She went to facebook to like all my birthday pix. Facebook was alerting me as she was clicking. She finally sent me happy birthday..where is my cake..we started gisting again. She apologized for what she did that day, that she was not in a good mood that day (someone who met, joked and laugh with me, even agreed to come sit with me on my table).

We continued chattin for weeks, I made sure I didn’t get intimate with her. One day, my sister was playing with my phone, then saw our chats, read through our chats. She was mad at me. She confronted me and nearly slapped her for disrespect. She later calm down and explain to me that if I knew what this girl said about me on group chat, that I would shoot her if I have a gun. She said she didn’t tell me so that I wont feel bad.
She then show me their caucaus group chat discussing me. Tears was just coming out of my eyes. I felt cold. They were just laughing at me. My sister was just fighting for me shutting them off.

This lady said “how come some men behave like he goat. Why can’t he leave me alone?” “am I the only girl on the planet? Oh God I hate that idiot.” “Gosh, I can never be close to such person talkless of dating him” ANOTHER girl said “That’s how those guys are…you need to disgrace him more next time he try something stupid with you. Blahblah.

That’s when I closed her chapter. Blocked her on facebook, whatsapp, instagram. I moved on. My sister did photoshoot for her birthday and some of her friends came. I saw her and just greeted her, minding my business. Then I was dating another girl then, so it’s a win win for all. She stayed behind, when everyone left, she asked my sister to help her beg me. She knelt infront of me started telling me “she was sorry..she was being childish” This was someone that was in her 24 when I was chasing her. I said I forgave due to pressure from my sister. Since then, she will come to my apartment, do my laundary, cook soup inside my freezer. When she is coming from work, she will branch at my place prepare food on my table. At times she offered to sleep overnite, that she cooked till late in the night, which I will refuse.

But one thing led to another, one day, we had sex. And that changed everything. I couldn’t resist her again. But a part of me still hate her whenever I remember those disgraceful moments. Now she is 26, she want us get married. If I marry her, I may treat her bad.

In a dilema seriously and its giving me headache.

The fact that one day she waited behind to let everyone go and knelt before you to beg you should make you have mercy on her "forever" (that part nearly made me cry and I admire her for that). She is a human being with her mistakes. Bros, you are also not without your wrongs in this life whether to her or other people. There is no woman that will not do her own shakara, some may just be more than the others.

Okay

Nice

I like this, but a good CGPA is not an option but a most. If you know, you know.

Great

This is nice

Nice one

It is now a spiritual matter. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise, I know what I'm saying 100%. If you are serious about ending it, I have two options for you and you most take the one you choose seriously (if you do, you won't have to kill yourself).

1) Open your bible everyday, read one chapter minimum of two times a day, any book of the bible but read a whole chapter at least twice in a day. Then think upon the content many times before the day runs out, however long or short the thinking time may be.
2) Find a delieverance pastor who will cast out the evil spirit that is almost taking the best of you.

N.B You will need to take church activities serious, whether you choose option 1 or 2. Goodluck.

This is too commendable. Kudos 9th NASS.

May God help us.

Nice advice

SmartProf:
The Ambassadorial nominee when asked about his achievements told the committee that he was among those who conducted APC primary accross certain states in 2019. He didn't know that statement will irk Rochas and Amosun who lost out in planting their candidates for the general elections. If they had succeeded in planting their candidates then, I'm sure they would have given the man a hug or even a kiss for a job well done. Oshiomole really got a lot of people pained in APC, some haven't even recuperated yet.

one should be sensitive to people and things

NOC1:
Ambassadors to a country should be a member of the ruling party or one who is not against the ruling party.

Opposition as a USA ambassador to Ukraine was one of the reasons why Trump was nearly impeached.

Indeed

Nice one

Unfolding development

Thank God

We have doctors and nurses on nairaland o