₦airaland Forum

Lifestone:
To me this is the area that NLC and TUC should focus their attention on, improved welfare for her members, not dabbling into policy issues such as subsidy removal.
If government increases the price of fuel as it is now, let the Unions fight for commensurate welfare package to counter the effect.
Any Union Leader who wants to come troll policy issues should go and contest election and become President of Nigeria.

Increase fuel price, increase salary, cost of transportation and price of goods and services increases, inflation sets in, value of the naira falls, cost of petrol increases again and the cycle goes on. That is how a country's currency becomes toilet paper. Minimum wage will be #1m but a loaf of bread sells for #10,000. We will learn our lesson soon. China, Malaysia, Singapore etc did not attain their current height by listening to IMF and world bank, but all our mumu leaders, Tinubu, Atiku, Obi agree subsidy removal is the way. Let's ride on.

LeoDeKing:
Tinubu should be firm with his decision.

Criminals benefiting from the subsidy scam can cry blood, subsidy is gone, make dem go chop the one wey dey don save.

Funds for fuel subsidy will be invested in other sectors for the benefit of Nigerians instead of few criminals.

Yes, it will be difficult but for our good.

For those who said Tinubu is not their president, they can ignore this subsidy removal from Tinubu and comply with Peter Obi's contrary directive.

Cry blood? They can only laugh blood, and the laughter will be at you. They are made for life, and you will pay for petrol through your nostrils and whatever "gains" are made from your payment of the new price will be stolen by another set of theives. Una go get sense Las Las. Subsidy that was removed from kerosene and diesel, how many hospitals did they build with the proceeds? What has changed? Did you see any politician or oil marketer fighting against subsidy removal?

MetaBroadband:
Good morning mature men and women in the house. Please I need your help on this topic.

My Fiancee told me about how her biological dad abandoned her and her mum after getting her mum pregnant.

Her mum later married another man who adopted her as his child.

Now she's grown and I've proposed to her, I wanted to go for her official introduction and list collection.

Would it not be nice to hear the biological father's opinion? Should I just ignore the fact that the man is still alive and proceed with the marriage arrangement?

Although she said I should not bother about that, but this is Nigeria and as an Akwa Ibomite I don't think it's proper. Although she's against me trying to find out about the man's opinion. Should I care?

What can you say about this?

Note: she only told me that the man abandoned them, but what if it was her mum that actually took her away?

Years from now, this scenario may repeat itself, your would be son in law may find himself asking your daughter in the future if he should come to see you or not. Be careful with bitter women and their daughters, lest you end up sharing their beef and enemies

wirinet:
I don't see how any small business would survive on N700 per litre petrol.

But see how ignorant children are celebrating subsidy removal.

HacheNoire:
It’s a sacrifice we must all make. No going back!

The amount that has been siphoned through that program is enormous.

What should be on the table is the how funds will be channeled into programs and infrastructures that will cushion effect.

Well, the bad news to people like you is that the funds that will accrue due to fuel subsidy removal will be stolen by another set of crooks and no effect will be cushioned! Since we said corruption should be killed but you guys think fuel subsidy removal is the answer. Brace up, inflation starts today.

neutralmind:
I hope the cordial relationship will stand the test of time.

We have seen many cases in the past

Why is that important to you? What should count is stewardship to the electorate.

kamtrix:
But what of in a case where the lady is well cultured and we'll mannered. The kind that you will never know her parents are divorced unless she tells you? And she is close to both her parents

That kind is rare in Nigeria. Most of them are bitter and destructive. If my son brings a product of a broken home, I will sternly caution him ànd if he insists, I will tell h to just accept anything he sees.

Jennyclay:
I don’t know why you men are so heartless and wicked . You men already know you won’t marry her yet you kept on wasting her time. And if she was seeing someone else, the guy would have called her all such of derogatory names.

Well, reason I don’t put all my eggs in one basket. I’m wiser now!!

Lol women dump men for richer ones too, it happens everyday, twice on weekends. She should just wear her pant and move on!

Johans2023:
El rufai is joking. That association has been in existence before elrufai father was born.
This devil can't stop us from associating with our brothers.
They have been trying to take over zango kataf since but our God stopped them.
God bless Zamani lekwot our father.
The short devil didn't ban bandits that kidnapped and kills Kaduna people, his problem is katafawa.
If you are very close to the Short devil tell him that his forefathers tried it and failed, him and his hundreds generation to come will never succeed.
God bless Abin Atyap.

They are yet to get over what the katafs did to them in 1992. 😂😂

1Sharon:
As a child stay out of your parents relationship

Your dad may be poisoning your mind against your mum.

What did your father do? Something must have brought it on.

See this one! He said his sibling travelled home and witnessed it but according to you, it is the man that is poisoning their minds.

donbachi:
Wetin make some men live long..na the things wey dem see throwaway their face .
If your dad hasn't complained to you or siblings on same issue.comot body.cos anyday it starts to affect him,he will bring it to your know.but,for now.let it slide till she raises her hand on him.

Ignore this stüpid advice. Give her a stern warning and if she continues, then you and your siblings should step in and stop it in whatever way you seem possible. I warn you, if that man dies due to abuse, you guys will not forgive yourselves.

Creamypie:
Na so thieves don dey dress now. Like president pikin, come do stylish stealing for shopping mall so u can't suspect them

I hope the "as-you-are-dressed-so-will-people-address-you" crew will learn from this!

baby124:
Interesting to see Blair’s wife on that board. Many people have been saying that couple junket the whole Africa, looking for countries to take advantage of. I hope Tinubu is smart enough to shake off this people. Tony will quickly run into any African country and start holding meetings when no concern him. He’s no longer in office but na him pocket him de chase.

Wow! That's serious dude! I thought you were joking till I checked it up online. It's Tiny Blair's wife.

emperor4love:
What ur niche and freelance platform

I assure you, he won't reply you. This is just a useless post!

RenegadeX:
Another bad advice

Help her with chores to appease her lol

The way these ladies give advice that will further sink you into quicksand is hilarious

Imagine this silly advice from a vagïna person, help with the chores not for the sake of helping but because you want to eat her apple at night. Tufiakwa!

RenegadeX:
Op ignore this simpish advice okay. Don’t have any heart to heart talk with any mofo . See I have dealt with women and I know them like the back of my palm. I repeat don’t have any heart to heart talk. Start giving her woto woto. An eye for eye. Sometimes this bitches do not respect you when you act Christlike or behave as a Godly man. They want to see crazy and you should enjoy showing crazy.

You need to harden your heart to a point were if a bitch threatens to leave you. You open the door and kick her ass out for making that threat. Kick her so had that she falls and scrapes her knee on the floor.

That money you are giving her stop giving her shishi. Don’t help her do anything. When you come home buy fast food and eat in her presence. Do your laundry yourself and make sure you go out and hangout with friends and post pictures of yourself having fun and arrange one of your guys girl to hold you in a romantic way.

When you come back don’t respond to her questions or naggings. Don’t make any advance sexually behave like she does not exist.

Either of two ;Dthings will happen. Either she will come to her senses or she too will not mind you. If she doesn’t mind you then I’m afraid someone is giving her back to back the way she wants it. She wants to tow her mothers lifestyle.

I repeat drop that gentleman that you are forming they don’t respect it. This bitches are like children once you don’t call their bluff they triple down on their bad behavior.

If she tries to abuse you verbally give am better slap for her left eye

You will be surprised how that once a week will change to thrice a week

I am just like you Mr op a very good man that don’t like cheating but if you take my calmness for weakness and want to be disrespectful. You go collect woto woto. Ready to go your papa house or that useless dick that she wants to cheat on me with. Let her go and have it fully. I no send your papa

Exactly my perspective! I like your post die! The sweetest part is where you open the door and kick her out so hard that she falls and scrapes her knees.😂😂 I almost peed in my pants laughing.
I am going through exactly what OP is going through and I am doing exactly what you suggested and I am already seeing some soberness. I will not stop till I fix it. I tried the heart to heart talk that naïve dude was suggesting earlier on and it failed woefully. One bitter truth many of us fail to get is being nice is mostly not a solution to life's problems. Most times, when you want peace, you have to prepare for and fight a war.

being:
klass99, this is a recipe for disaster esp in marriage!! @ OP Take note two wrongs will crash the marriage in no time.. that's d direction 2 wrongs will take you.. esp with someone like her who did not grow up seeing a marriage work.

klass99 is absolutely right. If OP follows your counsel, well, he will save his marriage, at least for some time, the price he will pay is continuous suffering. He go endure tire!

seanfer:
If the states in those regions you mentioned are not reasonable with their demands the investor will move to where he/she is welcome. Here in Rivers State there are too many demands from LGAs, CDCs and community elders and youths.
Imagine the community elders blocking the entrance of an international company like Agip for days just because they feel that they are entitled to some money.
OPM had to stop the construction of free hospital and school the church was building in Okrika because the community were making unreasonable demands, they even gave the church 7 days ultimatum to provide their demands or leave the community.
Please tell me which serious investor will want to invest in such environment.
I know what the company I work for go through every month in the hands of community and LGA touts.

Guy are you serious about the OPM talk? The attitude of SS people is strange.

malcom1X:
Bro there are lecturers meant for this, he needs to talk to those lecturers.

It is that lecturer that will tell him what he needs to do.

Secondly you need to check your brother why would someone have 5 carryovers?
Is it money, gambling, girls, flexing or cultism.

You need to focus on the main issue rather than beating round the bush...

You need to ask him what the problem is.

Having 5 carry overs na normal thin for my almamater. Some get that much in their first year alone. I don't know what the big deal is in having 5 carry overs that anyone will feel depressed about it. In my set, out of over 50 of us that started from 100 level, I am the only one that graduated without a carry over, many of the are doing better than me today.

MrBrownJay1:
AGAIN: i am not out for wisdom, i am simply out to make sure my kids (aka my life investment) are safe, and so far my technique never failed me.

Well, OP's Mother in law will have to watch her investment from her husband's house, uncultured lot!

IamMobisola:
We all know it’s the mother’s of the husbands that do this mostly. Question is, would he have done the same thing if it was his mother?

His mother didn't do that, it's his wife's mum. Besides, how well do you women tolerate having your mother in-laws intruding that way?

fxexperts:
No wonder these women keep divorcing your sorry asses the minute you manage top take them abroad to civilize climes. Your reasoning can be so backward and wayward

Funny enough, it is your type that they divorce anyhow. The stories are all over nairaland by simpletons of how the interference of their mothers in law broke up their homes.

kodix:
One day you will grow old your sons and daughters will be married too and they will all have their own privacy,may be you stays in the same town and you will always like to storm in and say hi,yours is that you will be pushed inside a lagoon and warned not to cross in that house again. Think before acting!

OP did not say his mother in law isan old woman. If her daughter's are married, she should get friends to relate with. Was that how her mother moved into her house when she got married. This is proving to be an irresponsible generation.

ZIMDRILL:
dont jump into conclusion, its called giving space

why most people are rushing o conclude that he doesnt not want them at his house, he want them but not everyday

Don't mind them. Maybe that was how their maternal grandmothers moved into to their father's house.

MrBrownJay1:
well me and the 58 people who understood my point (and liked my initial post) think otherwise. i guess TO EACH THEIR OWN OPINION!



i know you are very young and immature believing that because you marry a woman, thats it, game over and now she is yours to do what you pls....but to me as a parent, i will have to make sure that you QUALIFY for my "responsible man" good book before i can allow you to just disappear scott-free with my daughter. if you (as a parent) believe that you will just disappear from your daughter's life the minute she says "i do" then so be it. i certainly wouldnt.
just look around you and see all the battered women, the abused women, the dead women at the hands of their partner, and realize that IF THEIR PARENTS HAD PUT MORE EFFORT ON MAKING SURE THEIR DAUGHTER WAS OK, IT WOULDNT HAVE HAPPENED!

as a parent, i am just making sure my life investment is safe, thats all! and if you (as her husband) cant UNDERSTAND that, then thats all on you to deal with it. i am not there to question your authority, i am not there to change your marriage, i am just there to check up on MY LIFE INVESTMENT!!!

You are even saying he is very young. If you who is ancient of days think this way the it shows your many years have not earned you wisdom.

ZIMDRILL:
most people are being biased simply becoz of attachment to parents and fear of telling parents the truth. Except for those who live with their fathers and mothers, the rest how often does your maternal grandmother visits your mother? is it everyday ? am most would say not everyday

The one of the reason why grandmother doesbt visit your mum everyday, is letting her live het own life while granny live hers while regular visit are there NOT everyday visits

Don't mind these weird people.

MrBrownJay1:
lets not assume anything and instead stick to FACTS....
A) mama lives very close by.... expecting her NOT to come over (especially if daughter is home alone all day) is ABSURD!!!!

B) just because you allow a man to marry your daughter DOES NOT automatically make him a good man/husband/father. is it?!? his actions in that marriage will do his bidding. you dont need to tell me anything, because if you are a good man i will see it. i dont need to hear yeye fairytales while my daughter comes back home with a black eye. AGAIN: it certainly aint written on men's forehead that they are wife abuser/killers or what not



so because thats what your mother/sister does, this should be the universal norm, abi?! so you now want to bring shamelessness to this issuees, BWAAAAAAAAHH!HH! NEWSFLASH: there is no such thing as shame between parents and their children (that they may visit)

Well, OP shares the same school of thought with me and my mother and sister. When you get married, you can ask your mother and father in-law to pack into your house and start living there so as to ensure you don't give your wife black eye.

MrBrownJay1:
so let me understand what you are saying:" a mother who lives next door to her daughter AND who visits her daughter who is alone during the day (or go to market with her) IS A NUISANCE TO YOU and/or is a nuisance to your marriage?!?!?!? how exactly? you are not even there? so mother being in contact with her daughter everyday, since they live close by, is wrong in your world i guess?!?!

are you claiming that you would rather your wife be home by herself than spending the day going to the market etc with her mother?!!?!? may i ask: how old are you again?

My mother lives close to my sister's matrimonial home, she seldom ever goes there! And they are quite close. They chat on phone and my sister visits them, most times with her husband! It is a sign of shamelessness for a parent to be frequently found in their daughter's matrimonial home, only irresponsible mother's do that and if they are lucky enough to have bold men like OP as sons-in-law, they will certainly hear the truth! And in answer to your last question about my age, I am old enough to knock common sense into your impervious brain!

MrBrownJay1:
again, i dont see why you would have a problem if your wife spent all her daytime with her mother rather than being alone by herself at home or at the market (while you are not around anyway)?! where is the issue?!?! explain the above to me as if i was a 5yr old...
WHY DO YOU HAVE A PROBLEM IF/WHEN YOUR WIFE SPENDS TIME WITH HER MOTHER (WHEN YOU ARE AT WORK)?!?!?!?!?! WHAT ARE YOU PEOPLE AFRAID OF?!?!?!?!?!

Both such a wife and her mother are crazy, they should fuçking make friends! It is only children that don't understand that sometimes you need to move on. When you daughters get married, bloody leave them alone and stop being a nuisance. I literally beg my mother and mother inlaw to come visit us. They seldom come though we keep in touch. When people are married, let them stay by themselves.

MrBrownJay1:
many parents who also "waited" are now mourning their dead children, thanks to abusive husband etc.... you dont need no invitation to come check up on your married child, and if you aint secure that she is ok in her new marriage, go there as often as you need.

You don't visit your married daughter everyday, it is crazy. If you are that paranoid then don't ever marry her out to anyone. Keep her in the safety of you house where no husband will ever kill her!

MrBrownJay1:
i trust him to be my daughter's chosen one, i wont trust him to be a good husband (SIL) until they start living together and he becomes a responsible husband. just because they got married, does NOT mean this man is a good husband, a good father or a caring man. this will have to be confirmed as they start living together. many people get married to people they never knew before. you only meet your true spouse AFTER marriage, not before. but hey, if you think that ABUSIVE HUSBAND is written on people's forehead then so many unfortunate people wouldnt have died at the hands of their abusive husband/wives. lets be real!






as i said earlier.... as much as it is a bit excessive you need to open your mind.... so mama that lives close by shouldnt come and spend the day with daughter that is home alone all day (and go to market together etc)? the same mama that will probably come and stay with you for months when you guys have your 1st children (in order to show you how to properly care for a newborn) na that mama you want to look down upon today?!

Well, she should wait til her daughter gives birth before she can come to spend months. Many shameless mothers-in-law around. Men like OP are there to speak truth to her.

sisisioge:
What a nasty SIL you are! It is well fa. One day you would have sons or daughters in law and learn how it feels to have your children's spouse be rude to you!

There are nicer ways to let her know she's too much in your face!

Should you be going to your daughter's matrimonial he everyday? What kind of upbringing do some people have? It is a terrible behaviour that is strange and unacceptable where I come from, but some of you think it's ok. Continue.