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Havesomesense:
It is the duty of a man to provide for the family, women consider financially buoyant men for relationships.

Imagine if you lost your job/business or your income reduced drastically.

Will your wife love you?
Will your wife be jovial with you?
Will your wife give you her palliative as usual?
Will she disrespect you in front of the kids and others?
Will she watch you starve when she has food in the kitchen?
Will she keep reminding you that you are not contributing anything?
Will she start seeking other mens' attention?
Will she Change?

I need honest answers.

The answer to these questions depend on how you treated her when you had money and power.
Secondly, how you tried to stand again when you fall.

If you treated your wife so well when you had all it takes, majority of them will tend to reciprocate this.
Remember that no matter how well you treated them, women are not wired to be financial providers for men. They may try but the longer they do it, the more angry they become irrespective of how much they are getting.
Based on this, when you fall, try as much as possible to struggle back to ur feet.
Once the woman sees that your are trying your best to get back to your feet, she may worry less in taking care of you.
When you remained where you fall, my dear, the love that woman has for you will start dying irrespective of how well u treated her before now.

MyOleSolksjaer:
Dear All,

I need your candid advise on these matters that touch the heart. I got married last year to the mother of my beautiful daughter sometime in August last year during the COVID lock down. The marriage was against my wishes and due to parental pressure. Prior to marrying my wife, I was doing a good job by making sure I take good care of my daughter and the mom. My daughter just turned 2 in July and has already started going to school. My wife and I met online and started dating immediately after our first sexual encounter. Along the line she got pregnant and we started having misunderstandings. We both decided we will keep the baby because I made a vow with God not to abort any child with any woman I impregnate.

However, to cut the story short we both agreed we won't get married and her parents were cool with it as long as I take care of their daughter and my child. Then came COVID and during the events of the lockdown, I entered into a relationship with a Chemical Engineer that earns a 7 figure monthly salary. The relationship lasted for months but my mom never supported the relationship and did everything to make sure I break up with this lovely lady in a bid to marry my baby mama. I was against it knowing fully well that she is very quarrelsome and dramatic. I had inner peace with my lockdown girlfriend. Till now I still miss her and want to be with her despite being married to my wife who is always looking for ways to suspect me for one thing or the other. She has even threatened that if she catch me cheating, she will cheat back.

My marriage for the past 1 year has been full of problems, drama, and even attempted violence. My wife just graduated from Uni and is about to go in for her NYSC. I am even praying she gets posted out of Lagos preferably the North. This marriage has drained me of all my resources and has taken away a lot from me. My wife doesn't appreciate the good I do for her and my daughter. She is always quick to judge me and criticize for every small mistake I make. She nags all the time and always want to pick a fight for bullshit reasons. I don't find my wife attractive anymore and I have lost every desire to have sex with her from the first day we married in August last year.

She gets upset when female colleagues at work call me. I had considered resigning because we had an issue over my boss at work who always calls me for work related stuff. I am not on good terms with my mom because she engineered this marriage against my own wishes. My wife and I don't have a good relationship. It has gotten so bad that we don't sleep in the same room anymore. I had to leave the house for some time to stay in an accommodation provided by my work place so I can have inner peace and regain my sanity.

I am so pained because of my relationship that ended abruptly. I tried getting back with my Ex whom I still love but now she doesn't want to have anything to do with me despite how much I still love her. My question is, should I still try to win my ex over or find another woman? As for my marriage, I consider it dead and over. I don't care what my parents particularly my mom will do. I don't bleeping care anymore. All I want is my love to come back to my life and end this toxic marriage.

Oga, let me tell you.
You are the one that is making yourself unhappy in that marriage. YES, you are the problem.
You started dating this lady. you told her you love her and may have promised everything to her.
Boom, pregnancy came. All the love u have for her flew away.
You were dating her and got another 7-figure-salary-earning girl. Your love switched gear.
Now she is the one you love and you want to ditch your baby mama for that one.
Your baby mama became a nag, unappreciative and all.
When you started dating her, you did not realize that she was not earning 7 figures.
When you were climbing her up and down, you did not realize that she will not be good for marriage, still you had unprotected sex wt her.
When you were making vow not to abort a baby, you forgot to make vow to keep your dick under check.
Now you want to dump her for who.
If you don't want your problem to be double, ignore the advise of the first commentor of leaving this girl for that 7 figure ex.
You want that one cos u think she has money.

My advice for you is to take your mind back to those things that attracted you to this your babymama/wife and revive them.
Find one or two things to love about this woman. Build on them and start loving her again.
Forgive whatever you think she has done wrong.
Call her and make peace wt her and I bet you, you will see that she is not even as bad as u thought.
Stop filling your head with the thought of other women. Love what you have.
She threaten that if she catches you cheating that she will cheat back....daz good.
So don't cheat on her if you will not like her to cheat on you.
She will remain faithful as long as you are faithful to her.
Be a good husband and father.

Sunday2021:
you are just a foolish propaganda. Army normally bring down their flags at 1800 hrs (6 o'clock evening) every day and remount it at 0600hrs (6 o'clock morning) every day.
No military barracks, I repeat! No military formation will bring down their flag before 1800hrs. Go back to that your so called place by 7 o'clock in the morning and see if the flag is not flying.
If you are really proud of your ipob bastards tell them to give order for every institution in the south east to mount biafra flag let see.

I don't argue wt a full blown fool like you and a son who does not know his origin nor who his father is. So go ahead and prosper in your foolishness.

Quiny32323:
Big lie, they are the real cowards, I mean your ipob. Igbos are not that stupid to destroy their hard earned wealth like your stupid comrades that don't have any pin to loose in the east.

Wen we see a true son of the land, we know. Please go and sit down and ask some questions.

IfnobeGod20:
The case of this ragtag Is a minor thing to FG. If FG has their time, head will roll. Forget the nonsense you wrote there, by the time Government wide its long stick on them, devil will reject their corpse.
I heard troupe are now going towards Nnewi give them few days, you will be the same person coming here to shed crocodile tears. Because government just fold hands to allow them enjoy field day does not mean they own the field.

The same way your government folded their arms and allowed the Boko Haram field day. Please also advice them to unfold their arms and give them same treatment you wish for IPOB. Blood sucking hypocrites.

This was what we were crying before now. We begged then not to push the Igbos to a point of taking up arms cos we know that they are not cowards and not push overs. We know that they don't care about your position or name. Once you fail to do the right thing, they'll deal wt you instantly.

Now, that time we prayed that never come has finally comes.
This country will know no peace.

When I know that this is going to be serious was wen I saw army base in my place bringing the Nigerian flag down just like the IPOB ordered. E don happen.

Pumpumking:
Ok So sayin u soport racist poor pastor who can't speak English becoz he poor?....bro r u ok sir?(no oofeensese)

Get yourself this book... How to write and speak correct English.
That book will be of great importance to you.

Pumpumking:
every body see the pastor is a racist except u...do u were glaaases without lense?...the racist pastor racist a man simply coz he have dred lock & becoz the man can easily take his woman.....
so u tink its ok?...Bro, are u ok as in are u reallly reallly ok sir? (no ofense)

I'm allergic to poorly constructed English grammar. I'll respond once you writes better.

trutharena:
This is exactly what most people are saying.

Why do you have to hide or censor those comments that did not say the things you want to hear?
You people should continue fooling yourselves.
One day, it will be your turn and others will be playing this same politics on top of u guy's heads.
Continue.

Charmingrascal:
Until people understand that your appearance doesn't necessarily determine your character.
What is wrong in having dreadlocks

You are lying.
Your appearance (especially that one you imposed on urslf and not the one situation imposes on you) tells much of who you are.
You can't copy a lifestyle that you detest. You copy the one you like.

Pumpumking:
#

the pastor is a racist!!

Hater of Pastors and Christ.
In ur village, I hope it's Pastors that conduct marriages in Court Registry.
Meanwhile, what has racism got to do with two persons of the same race?
Mtcheeewwww. Go and get educated.

Offpoint1:
I honestly hate making calls, I hardly call ANYONE, in fact the last I spoke with my mom was 6 months ago... Is worse with my siblings and relatives. I can go a year or more without calling them.

I don't pick any call I didn't expect, neither do I return missed calls.

I hate sending people wishes, be it on social media, text or physical.
All my social media handles are in ghost mode, except my business WhatsApp.

I hardly reply messages on my personal WhatsApp line.

Although I get really busy most times, but I don't
think it's an excuse enough. I've tried changing, but it isn't working.

It seems the only place I reply to people is on Nairaland, I've never clicked a "Like button" on the internet before... I have phobia for it.

How can I adjust? I spend 99.99% of my free time Alone in a quiet place soul traveling to universe.

You grew up in a family that love doesn't matter.
You don't care about ur parents and they don't care about you too.
You don't miss anyone and no one misses u cos you guys were not taught about love and you have never experienced not practiced it.
This is an abnormal lifestyle.
There will be a point in life when you will need ppl's attention and you will get not. Your pain will not even be on the situation you are passing through at that moment, but on the lack of ppl's presence.
What kills most ppl (esp. Whites) in the Western countries is lack of attention from depressed person not even the depression per se.

joyandfaith:
And wicked people use chaotic situation to attack their perceived enemies.

Our God will keep shaming dem. All the evil doers and haters of Igbo tribe will surely go down.

Rexwalters1:
What hospital does Ipob run? Not to worry, DSS will parade the colleagues in a few days time, so we can know what branch of the medical field was aggrieved.

You have always bn shamed. You will receive it again. Remember to quote this your comment wen it happens.
Evil doers.

Sergio101:
This is not the action of herdsmen, I don't think dey can operate freely in the afternoon like that in Anambra again.
Also it ain't IPOB (that am sure of). If it's the usual unknown gunmen that sacks checkpoint...... Definitely they will burn his car after their actions. Ask yourself, what will IPOB gain by killing their own Agbalanze. Please let's be using our heads.
Definitely not DSS.
A closer case to his death is pure assassination. Definitely the the man was assasinated by Powers above him or within his range

My suspicion is on his colleagues. Those in the same field with him. Many of them may not be happy with him especially in using his big hospital for charity. They felt he's spoiling market for them.

bobontop:
My wife is fond of kissing my 6months boy in the mouth. I personally don't like this and I have told her to stop it but she refused.

This issue in causing a serious argument in my home and I want to take a serious action since she has refused to stop it.

Please I need advice from experienced parents.

I was abused sexual as a child by a cousin staying with us and there are cases of incest around me. I don't want any of this to happen to my son.

The teenage girl staying with us always sees my wife kissing my son in the mouth and I am afraid she my copy it and start doing it.

Please am I wrong? Am I over reacting? Is it a normal practice? Please advise me.

You should've told her not to deliver the baby through her pnssy.
Please allow that woman to connect with her baby.
Stop putting dirty feelings into that woman's head.
You may not understand the joy of a woman with her child.

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Zonex1:
presently am a truck driver working for T.S.l dats transport service limited... really which to leave this country to the UK pls hw can I go about it n hw much will it cost

Na so ur desperation come reach that you have to post your Drivers License here as if na Nairaland dey employ the truck drivers come send to UK. Nawaooo.

Cousin9999:
It's wild that you have so many young guys there complaining about a lack of good jobs (trade and professional), but they ignore trucking. They would rather be dealers apparently than drive a truck. And if cheap foreign labor was dominant, then Brexit should have made them take those opportunities. That's what happens whenever the US clears a bunch of cheap labor illegals out of a company.

Not so easy for you to get most of those jobs especially as an African.
Their Truckers is not like what we have here. Where truck drivers are mainly left for illiterates and those that take it as a last resort wen difficult to secure decent job.
Another thing is, how long will it take you to get your driving permit or license.
You even need to understand the terrain and have a very good grasp of the traffic laws.
Getting drivers license is not as easy as what we have in Africa.
Many of the companies may not even want to give u the opportunity to driver trucks as an African. They may prefer white employee.

SmartPolician:
This response really made me laugh and that's why I am reacting.

The message is simple: All Nigerian governors are corrupt. There's no exception.

However, Ganduje is being maligned because he was caught on camera stuffing his agbada with some U$D and his son reported his mother.

Despite that, we have seen pictures of massive infrastructural projects the man is executing across Kano State. They are all over Nairaland.

My point is, we have to give him some credit because he's chopping and working. Other governors are saints but are doing practically nothing.

Secondly, the institutions are so weak that governors can afford to loot the entire treasury and get away with it. Yes, that's why he deserves some credit.

Weak defense. You have unstable moral thinking this way.
He is corrupt and the peanut that he gives back does not make him better than anyone.
Assuming a Scammer hacked into your account and steal N1m from it and transfer recharge card of N3,000 to you, you will clap for him?
Or a kidnapper gets ur family member abducted, collect ransom, finally killed the person. He comes out to dig borehole for ur family in memory of the dead person, you will clap for him.
This nonsense defense you are putting up here is so absurd. It is an insult to morality.
Come to think of it, are there politicians supposed to be talking of infrastructures like road constructions, flyovers, and water projects by now. They should not be clapped for when these are provided. It shouldn't even be part of campaign promises.

We should hail them when they put up things that will improve the economy. Raise per per capita income. Increase GDP. Work on climate change. Improved security etc.
So, you better start thinking right. This kind of mentality is what it giving these old men the mind to keep misbehaving. And it's so pathetic that this kind of comment is coming from a young man like you.

SmartPolician:
In April, Jaafar Jaafar, the journalist who exposed the dollar videos of the governor fled to the UK after facing harassments by both state and non-state actors.

There are corruption scandals hanging on the Gandujes. However, that man is obviously working hard and we all see the results. The question now is, "What are those governors who have no corruption scandals doing with their state revenue?"

See human being ooo..

Oga are u alright at all?
See the reasoning of someone also tagged himself as a human being.

Pharaoh4rin:
Go and check. It was not narrated. I read through. I'm not like you that hardly read anything except picture is involved.

Hahahahahaha.....poverty.
So that video is not part of the post.
All these boys coming online with Free Mode data or 10Mb data bonus.
Go and get data bundle of at least 1month so that you can also watch attached video on a post.
Pls borrow data and watch that video and you will get the details of what happened as recounted by Reno himself and stop talking like a silly boy.

Pharaoh4rin:
I didn't read where his attacker(s) defended him.

Why it is good to read before commenting.

thesicilian:
It started with the television which he called "the devil's box" suddenly becoming a "ministry tool".
Now it's limo rides and jets. If you ask they'll say their God is not a poor God. My question is, the poor members who donate their sweat and blood for the ministry to move forward daily, is their God a poor God?

Start from your government who even have to force you to pay weda u like it or not.
Let them answer you that question, den you can come to ask the person that never forced people to give and you even see good things that are done by the money unlike the government that will collect by force and also beat you join without anything good coming from them.

SarkinYarki:
Gas is not measured in litre though..

Exactly my thought.
I wanted to ask if the liter price is the same as the kg price.

Pharaoh4rin:
Reno, you're not as street-smart as I think. You should have expected an attack.

You are not as smart as you thought u are.
If you are, you would've known that he expected attacks and that was why he had to hire a licensed VIP Bodyguard.
It was the presence of the trained bodyguards that prevented Reno from the attacker getting to him.

Where is MTN Project Fame?

Tonytonex:
only if the owner of the car catches her. She will run away na.

That's not Nigeria. She can run, but can never hide.
I beliv wen that thing happened, ppl around must have called police and they will come within few seconds.

She was trying to avoid social media shaming if caught.
She ended up appearing on the media with broken back and damages to be paid to the owner of the car.
Finally, the person she was running away from will still see her.

booz:
Wives are fond of asking husbands the question; ' Is sex food?' just to make the husband look like a pervert and most times to kill his drive.

Husbands, please when next your wives ask this question, show her pictures of 'small girls with big gods' and explain to her how sex is worth more than food, it's worth Mercedes Benz G-Wagon, duplex, foreign getaway, iPhone 13 pro max, designer bags, shoes, watches and the likes.

Abi, what do small girls give to their big gods to deserve the 'huge returns'?

Hence a husband deserves enough of it from his wife, to EITHER or BOTH parties satisfaction.

Childish.
Unmarried young boy with no experience of what marriage is coming here to talk trash.
Do you think that marriage is same as boyfriend and girlfriend issues.
Even in bf/gf relationships, you must show some level of respect.

How can you show your wife pictures of prostitutes to challenge her to to have sex with you.
You think every woman is you daily regular girls you pick and drop anyhow.
Nonsense post.

Idamond:
My face is always OILY and it also cause PIMPLES on my face because of that I stop applying cream on my face, and the resultant is causing pimples on my face..

even after taking my bath in less than an hour oil will pop out from my face even if I'm under an air-conditioned...
please how do I stop these.

I had the same issue.
I tried everything and nothing worked.
I met one dermatologist. He told me that the easiest thing to do is avoid food that has much oil.
He also told me never be in lack of white powder. Especially a non medicated powder.
This has really help me and my face is smooth with less oil.
Once I noticed that the oil is coming, I clean my face and apply the powder.
I also wash my face frequently.
Use shower gel instead of ordinary soap. Shower gel tends to clean better.
Stop using any bleaching soap or cream, it will leave many black spots on ur face.
Wash your face as many times as u can daily and keep applying the white powder.
Just apply it normally, you mustn't allow it to be whitish on ur face.

Note: You have to be patient with this method. Don't expect that you will apply it today and see result today.
When u start, you will see that there will be sign that it will work