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code66:
Probably Chinese under water wall .... anything Chinese can't do does not exist. World war 3 loading ..FTC....like for US and share for CHINA

ezechidera:
Money has been a symbol of status and power for thousands of years. And for thousands of years, women have desired wealthy men.
It makes sense…money makes the world go ‘round.

A man with money provides stability and a better standard of living. He can support children. He can offer new experiences.
We, as men, know this. It’s why so many of us work hard, dress to impress, and buy possessions that display our financial status. We want to position ourselves as high-value mates over other men.

However, some guys take this too far. They shower women they just met with absurd amounts of money. They pay for fancy dinners, lavish gifts, and high-end vacations.

The thing is, overspending doesn’t always get you the outcome you desire. It can be a viable option when you’re looking for a short-term hookup or a one-night stand…but when you’re looking for a more substantial connection, using money to attract women only sabotages your chances.
I’m here to argue that money buys you attention, not affection.

It will influence less than you think

As I said, women value money…but the value of money is relative.
Money matters much more when it directly impacts your survival. It carries a lot of weight when it’s the difference between having food and shelter or starving and being homeless. It matters less when it will just buy you a newer smartphone or designer clothes.
While there’s still tremendous poverty in the world, global living standards have increased significantly.
The influence of money is also dictated by scarcity.

Not only do more people have a stronger financial foundation, but for young, attractive women — money isn’t that hard to come by.
Women have their own successful careers and independence. Some have also been financially supported by their family. And it’s easy for beautiful women to get men from bars or online dating to spoil them.
The point is, throwing money at women isn’t going to be enough to make them stay with you.

You send an unattractive message

But even if your money doesn’t buy a woman’s loyalty, what’s the harm? Isn’t it just another tool at your disposal?
There’s always a catch: when you do this, you’re NOT positioning yourself as a genuine, long-term romantic partner.
For a woman to seriously consider you, she first has to become emotionally attracted to YOU. She should want to connect with you for your personality. She should desire your confidence, character, kindness, and sexuality.

She must value you as a potential lover first and foremost. Then you can eventually be a provider as well.

When you’re trying to impress a woman with money, what are you conveying?

You’re telling her that your primary value is what you can offer. You’re showing her that your real assets are…your assets. Not you.
And the fact that you give up those assets so readily to someone you barely know tells her you don’t really value yourself. You are desperate. Because any man who has worked hard for his money wouldn’t give it up so frivolously.
When you position yourself as the guy who buys a woman off, she won’t see you as the top-shelf guy she wants. She knows how it feels to be truly attracted to a guy, and she’ll know that she’s not attracted to you in the same way.
You’ll always be the backup plan whose primary role is to provide for her. She may settle with you because it’s easy…but not because she’s in love with you.

You lie to yourself and overlook important people in your life

Maybe you’re still trying to justify spending your money on these new women.
Maybe you have a lot of money and it’s not a big deal to part with some of it. You just want to be a generous, nice person to a woman who may not be as fortunate.

Every time I challenge a guy who makes this claim, he eventually reveals that yes, he does have ulterior motives.
Deep down, you’re still trying to manipulate a woman into liking you. You’re not as innocent and charitable as you think.
Just think: you probably don’t do this with other people in your life (especially the ones you don’t want to sleep with).
If you really want to be generous, think of the people who have cared for you and invested in your for years. Don’t they need your support? Couldn’t your friends and family use some help? Aren’t there charities you care about who could really use that aid?
So the fact that you’d rather spend your money on a woman you don’t even know tells me you’re not doing it out of the kindness of your heart.
And if I can see through the ruse — women can, too.

You attract the wrong women who will leave you

What type of woman do you think chases men primarily for their money?
By placing yourself as a financial provider first, you’re likely to attract women who value money over genuine connections.
These are women who care most about living a lavish lifestyle. They will pretend to be invested in you as long as they get that monetary value.
You’re also setting her up to consistently expect that kind of spending because that’s what she wants out of the relationship. You’ll have to keep financing her lifestyle as long as you’re together.

I’ve seen these types of women gaslight men, use sex as a bargaining chip, threaten to leave, and cause endless drama.
I’ve watched guys keep buying their women big homes, fancy cars, luxurious vacations and loads of high-end jewelry. Almost always they run out of money…even the rich. Many multi-millionaire athletes and celebrities have lost their wealth due to fruitless spending on women or through divorce.(mostly in the western world)
Eventually, you’re going to run out of money or your woman is going to find a man who she’s both attracted to as a person AND/OR has money. When you have nothing left to offer, there’s no reason for her to stay.

If you want a casual hookup, be forward and obvious

So when does using money as your primary value work with women? When you’re looking for quick sex and not much more. Also, when you’re looking for a relationship based on what you both can provide for each other (money, sex, attention) and not based on deep emotional connection.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with either of those scenarios. You just have to understand the dynamic and expectations, and not delude yourself into thinking something substantial will materialize.
The best way I’ve seen men handle this is by being super forward about wanting a casual, sexual, and almost transactional “sugar daddy” relationship.
These guys approach women and immediately start pampering them. They buy them drinks, offer rides in their sports cars, take them shopping, and wine and dine them at the best restaurants. They even plan spontaneous getaways.
But at the same time, they’re extremely bold and sexual. They tell women they’re just “looking for some casual fun” and “a good time”. They say they aren’t looking for a relationship. They flirt openly and don’t hesitate to make a move.
This places your intentions and expectations above board with a woman. She then can decide if she’s down for that kind of arrangement and whether or not she’s attracted enough to sleep with you.

If she’s good with this, you’ve got a mutual understanding between two adults. Spoil her as you wish and have some fun sex in return.
If you want to date her, don’t lead with money
If you want to date a woman (for real) or find a long-term healthy relationship, you need to change strategies.

You have to offer your personality as your primary value.

Focus on building a connection by listening well and being an engaging conversationalist. Show her your courage by being a more assertive leader. Turn her on by flirting with her.

You alone should be enough to attract her. If you can’t accomplish that, she’s just not that into you.

Let her recognize your financial status passively. She can learn about it when you tell her about your career. She can see it in your car, your clothes, or when you invite her back to your place. She can even feel it in the way you carry yourself.
That way, she sees your potential as a provider without it being the ONLY thing you have to offer. You’re showing you have self-worth by not trying to win her over with your money.

This doesn’t mean you have to be a cheapskate. You can pay for a drink or a meal on a date. You can pay for her museum ticket or take her to a local music show. But you shouldn’t be doing anything extravagant during the first few dates with a woman you’re serious about.
You can invest your money in her after she’s invested in you. That means she shows you interest, vulnerability, and emotional intimacy. Give yourself time to see if you connect to who she really is, especially after the initial infatuation wears off.
And even then, I would caution being the man who constantly spoils his partner. You should balance being fiscally responsible with indulgence. Because if you don’t value your money, why should she?

Once she sees you as an ATM, you’ll never be the man of her dreams.

^^^story

Bro everytime I spent up to 6k,(6000 naira), I get pucccccy.
so We dont under stand yor logic sir!(no oofencse)

Guwf:
Help me wish my beautiful wife happy birthday, love you honey

Stephen2324:
What tribe did ur parent warned you not to marry from?

Hackportal:
A lady who was seen in a video giving blowj*bs at a club has apologized to her parents after it went viral.



The Ghanaian lady was seen in the video giving patrons blowj*bs at a nightclub situated somewhere in Kasoa Ghana.

She has however now apologized to her parents over what played out at the nightclub. According to her, she never anticipated the video would go viral and had no ill intention of hurting their feelings.



The lady was heard saying;




Watch video BELOW
https://loadedpulse.com/lady-apologizes-to-her-parents-after-video-of-her-giving-blowjb-to-men-in-a-nightclub-went-viral-videos/

daviesmania:
Good evening people!
There's this babe I've been seeing in the last eight months. She's so pretty, romantic and above all she's so silly satisfying on bed. But the only problem is that she throws up immediately after sex and this is so annoying. We've tried every strategy to stop it but is not working.
We're thinking of visiting the hospital but I believe I can also get some help here.
The unfortunate thing is that if this doesn't stop, then I might have to walk. Please help us if u can.... But my real question here is, Is this like an illness?

Bro..the good knew for u is she pregnant & u gonna be daddy
....they bad knews is it is no illness..juss get ready for expense (THANK ME LATER)

daviesmania:
Good evening people!
There's this babe I've been seeing in the last eight months. She's so pretty, romantic and above all she's so silly satisfying on bed. But the only problem is that she throws up immediately after sex and this is so annoying. We've tried every strategy to stop it but is not working.
We're thinking of visiting the hospital but I believe I can also get some help here.
The unfortunate thing is that if this doesn't stop, then I might have to walk. Please help us if u can.... But my real question here is, Is this like an illness?

Truvelisback:
That u like a particular thing doesn't mean everyone likes it.

Truvelisback:
I'm not a gay and i don't do those stuff.

BeeBeeOoh:
The Commander, 14 Brigade, Nigerian Army, Brig Gen Mohammed Bello Wabili, spoke during the flag-off of the army exercise in the state.



http://saharareporters.com/2021/10/06/no-hiding-place-criminals-%E2%80%93-nigerian-army-begins-%E2%80%98golden-dawn-abia-distributes-books

ODEHOYIKOCHO:
I have a girl I have been with for a while now. I am thinking about what i can do to make her happy.

She has dumped me, but I still want to make have something because my life depends on it

good lock

ODEHOYIKOCHO:
I have a girl I have been with for a while now. I am thinking about what i can do to make her happy.

She has dumped me, but I still want to make have something because my life depends on it

hisexcellency34:
My cousin just bought eggs in London today and observed the expiry (Best Before ) dates of the eggs were stamped on each eggs as well as the case.

Can't we have the same here in Nigeria to avoid situation where you have five eggs. You cracked four good eggs but the last one was bad and spoilt the whole thing.

OliveDeveloper:
Good morning peoples of great nation I borrow my neighbor pot about 3 weeks ago to cook for their boyfriends and due to lately enter at night as man I don’t ask her we’re about the pot since then . So today I decided to cook pap (Ogi) and I ask her she said she has returned it back in second day and I said when becs I don’t think so he said I should go and check my room very well and I said okey after some Hours, she when out and i decided to go an check her kitchen unfortunately I saw my pot there used it to cook what can I do pls advice me because I Dey vex now ooo

bro spek to Harry Potter....he sell pot!!!

OliveDeveloper:
Good morning peoples of great nation I borrow my neighbor pot about 3 weeks ago to cook for their boyfriends and due to lately enter at night as man I don’t ask her we’re about the pot since then . So today I decided to cook pap (Ogi) and I ask her she said she has returned it back in second day and I said when becs I don’t think so he said I should go and check my room very well and I said okey after some Hours, she when out and i decided to go an check her kitchen unfortunately I saw my pot there used it to cook what can I do pls advice me because I Dey vex now ooo

Stephen2324:
What tribe did ur parent warned you not to marry from?

DrFunmisticGlow:
you didn't say anything about buying the woman biscuit, you implied eating biscuits in front of her. Stop confusing us with lexical ambiguity abeg!!

joshawesome:
Good morning happy people of nairaland. I will try to be brief as possible. During the lock down my elder brother was seriously ill, we all thought it normal malaria and typhoid but getting to the hospital he was diagnosed of kidney diseases at it last stage(CKD).we all brace up and gave him all the support needed during the stage from one dialysis section to another something thrice a week. It became worse and no improvement at sight, I literally do all thing for him, from bathing to feeding and carry him around the hospital but he faith he will come out of it. During the process he used all of his life saving to the extend of collecting and seeking financial assistance from people because the doctor advice to undergo kidney transplants. On 2 April 2021 we went from dialysis, nurses were complaining that I allow him to drink a lot of water because at that stage he have a daily water intake and also needed blood. He did the blood transfusion and the dialysis but he had a breathing issue, the nurse place him on breathing machine the oxygen got exhausted and he was normal. We went home by 12am, on getting home we ask for water, I told him to wait because I can even hear noise of water around his thoracic cavity. He was having difficult I had to call one of his friend so that we can take him back to the hospital but he gave up the ghost and we bury him that the same day because that was his wish. Due to his name , I was confused and angry at myself and everyone that we lost him due to 5 million needed for the transplant. Months later I was able to get over his death a bit and went back to school,wrote the exam and graduated with first class even though the examination I didn't prepared much due to what happened. It was just God hand at work ( It only a fool that say there is no God). Now the problem is that I can't sleep and remember my brother death that I should have done more. His death is like 5 month from now but it still fresh in my memory recently. My brother play a vital role in my education from paying my fee and monthly allowance and advice. I was thinking of using drugs so that I can sleep at time but talk me out of it. Pls how can I re again myself and also am an introvert I don't have people to talk to and I hardly go out

SilasIBB:
Silas M. EL-JADUNMI

SilasIBB:
Silas M. EL-JADUNMI

DrFunmisticGlow:
There's nothing wrong with buying biscuit in front of a babe. Cut your coat according to your cloth

Blessing185:
Please school d walnut head some more..

Truvelisback:
There are so many reasons that Propted people to become smokers. Here are some of my reasons based on my observations: 1.Some people became smokers because they saw their friends or people smoking.
2.Some became smokers because they want people not to see them as kids anymore(i no be small pikin mentality).
3. Some became smokers because of their life challenges. So, they felt smoking will ease them from emotional and mental stress.
4. Some became smokers because they wanted to give it a try unfortunately, they became addicted to it, etc. How did u become a smoker? What was ur drive?

Suckin pucccccy sir & smoking weed at the same times sir: best conbination ever((THANK ME LATER))

MyOleSolksjaer:
Dear All,

I need your candid advise on these matters that touch the heart. I got married last year to the mother of my beautiful daughter sometime in August last year during the COVID lock down. The marriage was against my wishes and due to parental pressure. Prior to marrying my wife, I was doing a good job by making sure I take good care of my daughter and the mom. My daughter just turned 2 in July and has already started going to school. My wife and I met online and started dating immediately after our first sexual encounter. Along the line she got pregnant and we started having misunderstandings. We both decided we will keep the baby because I made a vow with God not to abort any child with any woman I impregnate.

However, to cut the story short we both agreed we won't get married and her parents were cool with it as long as I take care of their daughter and my child. Then came COVID and during the events of the lockdown, I entered into a relationship with a Chemical Engineer that earns a 7 figure monthly salary. The relationship lasted for months but my mom never supported the relationship and did everything to make sure I break up with this lovely lady in a bid to marry my baby mama. I was against it knowing fully well that she is very quarrelsome and dramatic. I had inner peace with my lockdown girlfriend. Till now I still miss her and want to be with her despite being married to my wife who is always looking for ways to suspect me for one thing or the other. She has even threatened that if she catch me cheating, she will cheat back.

My marriage for the past 1 year has been full of problems, drama, and even attempted violence. My wife just graduated from Uni and is about to go in for her NYSC. I am even praying she gets posted out of Lagos preferably the North. This marriage has drained me of all my resources and has taken away a lot from me. My wife doesn't appreciate the good I do for her and my daughter. She is always quick to judge me and criticize for every small mistake I make. She nags all the time and always want to pick a fight for bullshit reasons. I don't find my wife attractive anymore and I have lost every desire to have sex with her from the first day we married in August last year.

She gets upset when female colleagues at work call me. I had considered resigning because we had an issue over my boss at work who always calls me for work related stuff. I am not on good terms with my mom because she engineered this marriage against my own wishes. My wife and I don't have a good relationship. It has gotten so bad that we don't sleep in the same room anymore. I had to leave the house for some time to stay in an accommodation provided by my work place so I can have inner peace and regain my sanity.

I am so pained because of my relationship that ended abruptly. I tried getting back with my Ex whom I still love but now she doesn't want to have anything to do with me despite how much I still love her. My question is, should I still try to win my ex over or find another woman? As for my marriage, I consider it dead and over. I don't care what my parents particularly my mom will do. I don't bleeping care anymore. All I want is my love to come back to my life and end this toxic marriage.

Bro stay in the mariage....juss find side chick to fok sir..too many lightskin & half cast womens out their sir....even for 2k!! (THANK ME LATER)

anochuko01:
Good afternoon ooo!
Please I need female friends in Kano. Its my second month here, so I need a couple of friends to make my stay fun.
Just Friends o! I no dey find girlfriend (yet)
Kindly WhatsApp me on
Zero8028one7305seven


PS: I don't do club stuff and all its like.
Maybe movies and Hangout to just chat.
I'm trying to get off my introvert nature and step outside my comfort zone.
I don't mind the religion, as long as you're a forward thinking person. Thanks!

anochuko01:
Good afternoon ooo!
Please I need female friends in Kano. Its my second month here, so I need a couple of friends to make my stay fun.
Just Friends o! I no dey find girlfriend (yet)
Kindly WhatsApp me on
Zero8028one7305seven


PS: I don't do club stuff and all its like.
Maybe movies and Hangout to just chat.
I'm trying to get off my introvert nature and step outside my comfort zone.
I don't mind the religion, as long as you're a forward thinking person. Thanks!

SuS124:
Hi y'all I don't know how you might see this.
I really need help right now.
At the moment I'm seeing my period and I'm having a very heavy cramps.

I just steady a new job at Fudie Mall Plaza, opposite Chida Hotel, Jabi Abuja.
I work in a super market there. It's just the 4th day I start the work and I go everyday including Sundays.

Transport have been a heavy task for me. I left work this afternoon at around 12pm because of my condition. My boss was even murmuring thinking I was lying about the whole thing that I'm seeing my period and having cramps. I told him I want to take some pad from the store so he will subtract it from my salary but he refused telling me it's too early to start having credit book.

I have two hundred naira remaining with me which I used to transport home. I've been home lying down helpless. Please someone should help me. One thousand naira will go a long way for me this moment.

I'm a bonafite member of this forum but I have to open another account to post this to keep me Anonymous because of the shame.

Please if someone can just help me I will really appreciate

Even if it's a loan. I will pay up in a week time please.


Name: Suzan Bisola Adejare
Bank Name: Ecobank Nigeria
Account Number: 8108628778

Lily4star:
Now all they do is thrash, once you tune to African Magic Epic, If the ladies are not tying wrapper on the chest then the movie is yet to start, while others gather big 9ja celebrities together with clueless storylines. Phewww

Gurumaharaji:
My old secondary school mates do meet annually and party..I seldom partake in it bcoz it is always a show up celebration where all the successful ones brag and intimidates those that are still struggling...I was cajoled by one of my mates to come that he will come wit one of his pretty cousin for me, we attended a single sex school so it will be an all guys celebration except those that are married or acquainted that will come wit their love ones...True to his word, Godwin came wit his pretty cousin, a damsel, an illogically beautiful lady, having all the necessary flesh and curves in its right proportion..I didn't waste time to remind him of his promised to me coz I couldn't trust the preying eyes of my mates at the party.. Godwin had already spoke wit her at home, he just pointed at me as the person he told her about, the girl didn't seems interested coz " I no sey I no fine" but nigga has to compose..She instead fine one of our mates interesting and they where getting along gisting, drinking and laughing seriously and ofcourse smooching ontop of my car boot..I couldn't take it any longer, I jump into my car and start it abruptly before they came to their senses..that was wen the lady realized that the car did not belong to that nigga but me..I left the celebration frustrated coz I was so much captivated by that lady's beauty. I woke up in the morning to see several of Godwin's Miss calls..I called him back and he said that his cousin was sorry about wat happened and that she wants my number..he send hers instead to me and I immediately call her for an appointment..we met infront of her school, I wanted us to just stay and chatted inside the car but this lady bluntly refused that we should enter an eatery that is opposite her school gate..I obliged not knowing that I'd meet the shocked of my life..This lady started ordering foods, drinks, meats, ice cream and shawarma as if I picked her up from IDP camp..Omo shame catch me, and I wasn't having enough money to pay for all her demands..I had to call my younger bro to bring my ATM to foot all the bills accrued.. Immediately I paid the sum of N15630.00 this lady told me that she will want to go and drop the food in her room and get back...I called after an hour but to no avail, I tried and her line was switched off...Omo hot tears wanted coming down but I had to be man enough..I traveled back to my place of redeployment coz I'm a serving Corp member. I called Godwin to explained wat his cousin did to me but dey moderfucker found everything funny and was just laughing at me..After months of no communication, the lady again appear from nowhere and message me on Whatsapp that she is broke..Omo vex catch me I wanted insulting her whole ancestors but I controlled myself and told her that I'd come back home during the weekend to give her money...I had no plan of traveling but I had to come and make a statement..I invited her to a friend's house..I promised to give her 25k after I sleep wit her..The lady joyfully open her kitty cat for me to untangle..I carry all the vex in me and nack this lady in different styles and rounds until my dick couldn't release sperm again... Infact, my friend's elder brother had to dash me a chilled coke afterwards that he enjoyed some commentaries coz dey lady was in a state of euphoria throughout shouting and moaning loudly..Now everything been set and done, I collected her account details to transfer the money I promised her..I told her that my bank had issues that I'd just withdraw the money and bring to her..I left her to shower and I zoomed off..after several hours of waiting, the lady bug my phone wit calls but I refused to pick, my friend already knows the game plan told her that he want to make use of his room..she now beg him of 500 naira to tp herself back to her house but he said he can only give her the money if she sleeps wit him, she insulted him and left but latter came back coz she has no money wit her...He too enjoyed his time wit her and gave her the 500 hundred...Now she went and told Godwin her cousin that I called her to my friend's abode and that both me and my friend raped her and this old college colleague of mine is threatening thunder and brimstone..I'm more thuggery than him in terms of street wise, so I no fear him threat but I want to be clear if I commit any offense punishable by the law of the country. Thank you

MangekyoAlt:
You keep replying me with trash.
Didn't I tell you earlier that some nuclear weapons can destroy countries that aren't bigger than states? You are just too dumb for my liking. What is the land mass of Haiti? Is it bigger than some states? Is it bigger than imo state? If yes then a nuclear weapon cannot destroy it. If it isn't bigger than imo state, then it should get destroyed.

Meanwhile, if I am disgrace to your country, I think it's quit good compared to you who is a disgrace to nature, to the entire human race!