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descarado:
Is that possible?

Of course...

Don't f with someone you can't marrrrryyyyy.....

peacefull:
Thank you so much!

I really hope so too!
This virus is too much.

Oh! Nigeria is very hot now?! Like summer?
In Japan, after Spring is summer and really really hot!

Please always take good care of yourself and stay safe!

And I always wanted to tell you that your drawing is amazing!!
I love it! I saw it when I read your diary.
How I wished I can drawing like you! If I could drawing like you when I was a student, I never disturbed my art teacher

Thanks! I'm glad you love my art! You have inspired me. I'll continue to practice my art.

Take care of yourself too, dear.

peacefull:
Thank you so much!
I really appreciate you!!

Japan is good season now!
Spring! Not too hot or too cold. Very nice weather!
Coming soon cherry blossoms will start to bloom.

But corona virus is disturbing us.

What about Nigeria? Your place?
Hot? or cold?

Good to know life is going well.

I hope corona virus goes away soon.

Nigeria is very hot . But we shall survive.

peacefull:
Insecure?
I think this is new English! Thank you so much! I learned!
I appreciate you!!

You are welcome dear.

To be insecure means to lack confidence.

How is life in Japan?

pryme:
No it's not,

Women are chaotic, few stand by their principles.
Women cave easily to peer and social pressure.

What if the man you choose to get on with does not have that money or things are not working out yet for a delayed period, will you still accord him the same respect?
When your peers are hanging out with men with money?
On the other hand men with money are cat calling you?
Will you still take this decision that it's not about money in the grand scheme of things?

With the fact that women are "comfort creatures" I don't believe it's never about money when everything is put under scrutiny.

A man with money today can lose it tomorrow.
A man without money can make it later.

About the test of time, we have no choice but to abide by the rules of whatever fate life has given to us. Okay, so, if, out of peer pressure, a woman runs into the arms of her rich admirer.....and then the man sleeps with her but gives her no money? Won't she learn to survive on her own by force?

So, following a rich man does not guarantee money forever. What if the man becomes poor? How many men will she run to? She will get tired of trying to camp with rich men.
At the end a woman just has to survive through whatever circumstances she faces.

DrFunmisticGlow:
the one thing that stands out is thier sense of entitlement. It never entered their minds that you just aren't attracted to them?

The niggatry of it all!!

This is the main reason why 'nice' guys never get the girls, because they feel that since they are nice, girls deserve to fall at thier feet. This also goes to those 'church going sisters' wondering why they are not married yet.

People can smell insincerity, and it's repulsive.

Guys can be mad o.

Some would use every means available to get a woman who said no. They get mad when you say no, even if there was no serious intention that they had for you. Quite insecure.

pryme:
I take this with a grain of salt.

That's fine.

peacefull:
Some Nigerian men believe money can buy love?
Money can get everything what they want including women and their love?
Some peoples believe like that?
Why some peoples seems like attacking her? Because she said no to men before?

Or am I misunderstanding?

I like purples25!
I like what you write! I should say what you wrote?

To me, of course money is very important for life.
But not everything money, money, money.
Money can't buy everything especially someone's heart

Thanks Sister. They are insecure.

dermmy:
But that's what you ladies have made them to believe. An average Nigerian lady would always go for the highest bidder. Money is a big factor when considering your suitors. That is the message you ladies keep passing to guys out there so I don't blame those guys for coming back to woo her after they have made some change. Even if the Op did not give them that impression that money is what she's going after I am very sure those guys have had experience with some ladies in the past where they got that impression that money is what you ladies want which is always the case in a class society like Nigeria.

You know this so don't pretend... Can you date or marry a broke guy? Can you start your life with a guy who has nothing? No, you ladies want a ready made guy so don't blame those guys, that's the impression the ladies in the polity have given them.

Lots of women marry broke guys by the way.

Rich people are very few around here.

gbowoade85142:
once bitten twice shy,
shebi you say you no do,
ehn see jumoke, bolanle and titi chopping the guy with ice cream and vanilla
who you epp?
ntorr!!

Lol you're funny ...

dermmy:
You didn't tell us why you rejected their proposal in the first place.

The fact that they came back to you trying to win you after they have made some progress in life means you gave them the impression that you were only interested in money in the first place and that's the life of most Nigerian ladies. Relationship is a superstructure and it is the substructure (economy) that determines that your superstructure.

Stop pretending as if you don't like guys who have money.

They gave themselves impressions. One was of a different religion and tribe which i could accept but my family would not.

I was just not attracted to the other, and even with his caustic and secretive attitude, I'm still glad i didn't date him, company or not.

needanswer:
If you are truly CONTENTED then I commend you, cause most girls aren't contented with what they have or what their parents have, or even with what their partners have.

In another scenario, maybe you havent seen the MONEY or GIFT that would move you. While sharwama, indomie and eggs and those little things may not move you, a guy buying you a G-wagon worth millions, gifting you a duplex on the island or giving you millions in your account to be his girlfriend or wife MAY move you. I imagine if these was what those your admirers offered when they returned it would have been a BIG TEST FOR YOU, cause if you turn them down some OTHER GIRL will gladly accept them with open arms.

My price is love and affection, and something that is going somewhere. But sex is the thing that most guys want.

I just stopped laughing.

Something I'm used to happened today. A guy that I had politely refused last year came to me this morning. He immediately told me he has a job now. Told me the full name of the company and everything else. Then he started asking me aggressively about where I have reached in life and all that.

I chatted normally with him, I told him I was happy for him. Later, he asked if he could call me at a certain time. When I told him he could, he started saying that it was not so before, that before, my anthem was that he cannot reach me for various excuses.

I laughed, because, I now understood the whole issue. He believed it was because of money that I didn't allow him access to me anyhow. I just told him that he shouldn't worry because my phone was bad. He continued to reply in a sour tone. The funny thing is that I have no business with his money, because I am sure that none will land in my palm...so why would i be tripping because he got a job?

Another guy I rejected politely acted normal at the time. But after years he came back, asking me with full spite about my marital status and my job. Lol. He told me how he has a company now. I knew that was true because I had seen evidence of it growing and info about it in public over the years. He insisted that we should be dating now. But it couldn't happen because i knew he was just bitter, and thought that i should fall now because he has made it.

Guys, its not all about the money. Some women don't use your money to survive. Some have parents and don't really care to be bound in chains because of indomie and egg, credit, or sharwama. There are more serious issues. E.g the relationship should be going somewhere. Sometimes its tribal or religious, maybe she knows her parents wont accept you. Why would a woman smell what she won't eat, just because of your feelings?

Guys, take a chill pill.

I was in a line at the ATM one day. I tried to look at all the people on the line. I saw a grown man playing with his own mucus dribbling very thick from his nose. He was making spit bubbles and smiling. And he was on the line. I think other people moved away from him. His clothes were a bit brown. But he had been dressed normally. I was horrified because it was in public. In private, it's a different issue.

Another time, I had to pay change to a taxi man. I told him sorry about not having change, I got out of his car and called hawkers, so I could get change. The taxi guy did not allow me to get the change. He kept insisting that i should give him the whole money, that i should bring it first. I gave him, thinking he had change and was only holding it because he was annoyed. He then attempted to speed off with me holding on for dear life to the outside of the car. People started screaming until he stopped with me holding on. He was not sorry at all.

Once saw a taxi driver beating a woman with a child, who he didn't know, to stupor. Nobody saved her until the driver of the car I was in stopped and moved the crowd away to get the man off her. She was unconscious when she was saved.

So, people outside are not normal. One has to be very careful. They do terrible things.

What if the man decided to carry that his hand, and rub it on her face? Force that hand into her mouth? Stab her? Bite her? Punch her? These are risks. She was right and brave, but next time, just move away asap. If you can report to a sane man or strong men around, report. Or move away first and raise alarm.

Rape happens. Ten twenty or more times, it happens. But then no one believes it.

95 percent of men feel life has been a joyride for women. Women enjoy everything. They believe that a woman claiming to be raped just enjoyed her sex life and now wants to lie. A woman gets told repeatedly that no one did anything to her. She should stop trying to play victim. Women always love to play victim.

As for me, learning not to tell anyone anything again. Nothing happened to me. Simple. I enjoyed my life. All my life as a woman has been perfect. Right? I am not saying shi shi again.

If there is a God then he knows everything.

I totally understand.

It happens.

Wonderful.

Does not make sense. Went to a bar to find an angel...how? Went to a bar to observe people, what are you doing there, and why are you on other people's case?

If you are such a good guy, what are you doing in a bar in the first place?

Its like you think you are settled and clean. That's why you are going about judging and observing people.

I really don't know what you expected to see. You can't even understand the situation truly, just by looking.

I pity any good girl you will jam because you yourself are not okay. You will handle her with a tainted mindset which, ironically, you got from the same sinning you condemn others for.

Silentgroper:
do not be scared of nl guys, like d fellows on bbnaija thread would say " All na cruise"

Lol thanks. I get you.

EMEKUSBOY9:
Please na

Abeg o.

EMEKUSBOY9:
OK, tell me where u want to meet your man?

Since u are God who design destiny

I'm not hoping to meet one from nl sha. Before he turns everything to a gender war.

lefulefu:
chai!
In the year 2021 someone family still arranging for wife for him

It happens.

Favourchris:
It's easy to give out.what u didn't sweat for

She also had a part in the creation of amazon. Its in the article.

You see that its not all about money.

Slapping a woman with money cannot buy her heart.

Especially men with zero respect for women who throw money at them. You think you have caged someone. Not talking about Jeff Bezos tho.

EMEKUSBOY9:
Why not marry him na.....

Not someone I met on nl.

No one is worth your peace of mind.

Well, you could allow your family to arrange a nice young lady for you. If you can go with that.

.....Its not always about love, you know.

I don't know why people act irrationally. No reason to do that. Except you became lewd.

Watching a male lizard on heat chasing the female in our backyard now. When both of them saw me, they froze with shame.

daddytime:
A very lame and classless sponsored campaign by the gutter mouth FFK.

So cheap and childish.

On point. This is sponsored.