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judedwriter:
Firstly, I am glad you are married, because sex outside marriage is wrong and has its severe consequences.

Secondly, I don't think this your topic is suitable for this platform. Most people here are sex addicts and can do anything for sexual pleasure even outside marriage. Your description of sex here with your wife is too sensitive because most here are youths and unmarried.

Thirdly, sex is a covenant!

Sex makes two as one. Can two walk together except they be agreed? You have to come in agreement with your wife on how both of you will satisfy each other. Be ready to compromise and she too as well.

Talk, talk and talk about your struggles, strengths and weaknesses and be ready to
tolerate as much possible and improve when necessary...

Why? You two are now one. Sex in marriage is selfless but outside of it is selfish.

oga go an sit down......he brought it down here to have varied views....I repeat again , go an sit down

pozehnani:
Tell you thank you for what?

Reminds me of long time ago, when I told my ex, have you not come? After he got up and dragged me closer again. He said " what's wrong with you " lol...
I just told him, abeg abeg, e don do. No peel my body for me,

Anyways, it's your cross. I wanna believe you saw this coming while dating but you didn't think anything of it. You were enjoying it. Now you want to back out. Please carry your cross.

My 2 cents to you. do the little you can and leave it before you die for nothing. She'll move on to another banger.

hope u have finally consumate ur relationship with ur short boyfriend....

Ishilove:
When Mr Available becomes Mr Right.

Aunty, short people too get persecution complex. They feel the whole world is out to bully them because they are 'summarised'. Besides he is not mature enough to handle you which is why he is listening to what people are saying.

How come people even have a say in your relationship sef? Who are these 'people' and how come they are so familiar with you that they are running 'football commentary' on who you're dating?

u mean they feel summarised ....have learnt something new today...

Klass99:
So.....leg and waist dey pain you people, but una always want to knack. Somebody cannot even cuddle you people small to watch TV together, your gbola must rise and the next thing is to start pushing for knack .

good to know am not alone on this....as a guy, anytime my babe just cuddles me a little , my kpola go just rise, an she go complain say she no one do, she only want cuddle, I go kukuma tell am say if she no one do make she just dey her dey oh....cos my prick no dey hear word

Beverlyjean:
Non of them...
Married someone else i met in Boston

what a life....wish u all the best dear...

Beverlyjean:
Age of consent in France is 15... a 16 yr old is not 10yrs

hello dear, I just went through the thread you created way back march 2015 about being stuck in a dilemma btw two guys, I must confess am really impressed with the response u got there esp from acid talk...

So my question is , which of them did you eventually settle with an how is it/did it go?

No offence

Premiumwriter:
spoken like a true coward. what makes you think the op is the one that will go six feet?

You see how fearful of a fellow man you are? Your advice comes from a place of fear.

The point is not that you can't fight dirty because of a woman.

You can't fight for anything. Not even for your life. You are too fearful to face any opposition

ur simply too wise an smart bro....more wisdom

czarr:
That guy has been detaching himself emotionally from you little by little and you failed to notice it. It's not easy for a guy to move on to another lady if he is emotionally invested for up to 5 years.

Here is what I believe, he is paying you back for something you did to him in the course of your relationship, he felt hurt and betrayed, he may even have discovered something you did behind his back and chose not to confront you but just to waste your time as revenge. Did you cheat on him in the 5years period and thought he won't find out, after all what he doesn't know won't kill him.

It's easy to be an angel when you are 31 what about when you were 26 and you still had market value, did you do something that you thought he may have forgiven you because he can't do without your hot body.

Think hard and well, nobody is that terrible of a person,it's just that some people don't forgive betrayal.

oil dey ur head bruv....

illumined999333:
Submissive spouse it is for me.
When I was younger, I was very interested in how smart a girl is. Yes smart women are cool, but I don't want a woman who wouldn't listen to me cos she thinks she is right.

Smart women actually have a mind of their own, and this could be good. But sometimes, even when they are wrong, they fail to take corrections cos they do not think they are wrong.

ur right bruv.....my own be say,as long as she can construct simple English an express herself well, am good to go....to hell with IQ

lolu2019:
She should keep her iq.submissiveness is d real deal.i am d manager of d house.

Cutehector:
There has never been a woman who was shown excess love and pampered well who didnt submit naturally..

Pamper these girls brothers, make dem loved and give them hot sex, they will submit naturally.

ur very right bruv....except say she no love you

adenodi002:
Same person like me, my EX want to visit me today and i have no money left with me, i have been waiting to see him back because will're not that bad to each other will only breakup because of the distance when he got addmission. Someone gave me 1k yesterday i told myself this 1k is nothing to host the bae, i move down to bet9ja shop and use that 1k to stake zoom soccer of 10.00 and i won 10k. I just go colllect my money this morning

Nah knacking remain

gay

Lifewasgood:
Just try to rollover 2odds with 1k for 10 times and get 1 million naira from your 1k. In my 5th roll

easier said than than done, when you get to 100k, fear no go gree u stake

chidan1214:
Nah so 1 for Paris about 12 years ago say whether we dey lick ice cream for Africa as he see me dey lick ice cream for the student gathering.
Trust me, I answer ram say no say nah toto we dey lick.
Guy waka comot, nah so I bust laf

guy ur mouth no be here oh

cococandy:
Your wife needs to divorce you. Unfortunately she’s not here to read the advice. It would be thoroughly disgusting being married to a rapist. Excuse me while I puke

go an sit down with your biased an one sided view

Amotolongbo:
Many men do not know when to act as a boyfriend and also when to act as a husband.
A boyfriend is a boyfriend and should not be confused for a husband.

Anything you do as a boyfriend or girlfriend is done kindheartedly and just have the mind that it is an investment that may end up being a bad one and move on.
I invested on my man cos I was in the position, thank God I do not regret that anyway

If you know that you can’t withstand having a bad investment, don’t spend on your gf or bf
There is no law binding gf and bf. It is all affection and any investment in it isn’t different from charity.

this should be the best comment have read this year.....ur smart

KarinaLove:
You need Deliverance.

See the way you are bold enough to tell the whole world of how you Fornicate. Are you married...No!!! Yet you open your mouth to announce how you keep having Sex.

The sin of fornication has become your second name.
The sin of fornication has become a norm.
Your pride in the sin of fornication.

No wonder your life is the way it is. Nothing is working in your life anymore because you have sold your destiny through sex. All the Good things of life pass you by. You are now an empty soul. You work and toil day and night yet nothing to show for your labour.

If only you knew.
If only you knew.

**Spits**

in ur quest to being smart,you ended up being silly....typical case of a sinner castigating other sinners for sinning differently,but trust me, we can see through the facade...acting all sanctimonious an self righteous will take you no were.....and of course you know him so well to deduce that nothing is working in his life because he has sex. Ur ignorance is neusating ,I will advice you go enroll in some adult education to salvage what is left of ur miserable life....

paulolee:
sweet turf but I don see it anywhere near akpabio nest of champions..
this is 60, 000 bt uyo own is 30,000 n it can beat ours in terms of capacity but wen it comes to beauty and the qualities of both turf, I'll say dt ours is better than this, forget dis edited pics, i stay in uyo n do see dt akapabio beautiful edifice each morning n I kno wat m talking about..
with d right maintenance culture, akpabio wil still be appreciated in the next 50 years for erecting dt wonderful structure..
stadium wey make super eageles dey play its home games in uyo for the first time in the history of the state, u think its easy abi??
those guys above me jus de talk asif its easy standing a stadium..
akpabio spent almost $96m in building dt artifact n still being criticized by the people of akwa ibom dt its better he used dt $96m to make the state more economic conducive n create jobs than wasting dt huge moni on stadiums which I kinda agree with..

bro I also stay in uyo,you can't compare the quality of this stadium to Godswill akpabio stadium,even the playing turf....an $96m to build a mere 30k capacity staduim is just waste full an extravagant....I won't be surprise that stadium up there is not upto $80m

PerkyJay:
This problem na everywhere. Get a god fearing sidechick, your problem will be over. You will never bother your wife again. Your conference attendance will increase. She no go dey see you for house again.

unah no go kill person for this nairaland.....which one is God fearing sidechick

Mrkumareze:
Op, we are in the same shoe but mine is a bit different cos I have always have alternatives to things.. I got like 4 side chick out there.. infact I'm going out to have two today... Just let your wife be, if she wan chop her toto na she sabi... go out there, it must not be all about money.. I don't always tell my side chick I got a wife, I ball like single guys out there...

one question.....do you sleep with them unprotected?

Bukasint:
What a comedian. Because you went to 2018 post that made it a guy...most times people catch cruise on this platform just to make fun and get attention. If you go further you will still see where I posted more of that and funny enough that was a random picture I got from the internet. If you like hold onto your believe it's left to you.

then why should we take you serious now an not assume ur catching cruise

Dreytonisback:
I like girls that smoke
They're more trusted than guys that smoke
When a lady smokes with you , you'll see that real side of her sweetness and good vibes in a mature way
In fact I can kill for a beautiful lady that smokes with me

Wanna be my friend?

Lights up my kpoli in peace.

good vibes abi?....till dem smash bottle for your head...

Kubernetes:
1. Always look carefully at the toilet when about to sit on the toilet seat.
2. You should once in a while poor 2 or 3 cups of salt in the toilet as this will kill any any snake or it eggs inside the chamber or soakaway.
3. Always inspect the soakaway. Make sure its devoid of wholes or leaks around it.

do salt kill snakes?

TheOnlyUyai:
I will quote you tomorrow.

ok

TheOnlyUyai:
When I eventually win my 50million naira wey I go wreck from Alabi very soon, na to enter hibernation mode go be next. Nobody go hear of me again.

my instinct tells me ur a good football analyst/punter,abeg u fit drop me 2 shaw odds this weekend make I take hold body......but not English games oh

Datboredberry:
Closing the story.

I broke up with Moe... I ended the relationship because I've always wanted to... And because he totally hurt me...

He begged alot that I take him back... Which I did... But it felt like the only reason I had to be with him was gone...

He never knew about the other guys I was with... And all through, he sadly thought I was a god-sent angel whom he could never lose...

So I broke up with him again... And once more... After which I completely ignored him...

For a year, he kept on pestering my mom and younger sister with his messages asking how I was...

They had no idea we were together but loves him because of how sweet and caring he was...

Moe had become a family friend... One I wickedly wished would drop dead... Or be blasted off to another forsaken planet...

The last message I've received from him through my sister, was this year... Demanding she gives him my phone number...

I feel tempted to... I would give him a gist of the young woman I've grown to be... He would be so repulsed...

For some insane reason, every single guy I've ever met thinks I'm a naive fragile creature to be protected from the perverse world...

The world should be protected from me!!!

Even a girl friend called me 'slow poison' once...

She said unless I speak, no one would know how dirty and corrupt my mind truly is... Ouch...

As for Dave... I severed the relationship... We still hung out for a while... Moe, Dave, Miracle and I... A very sad company of teenagers; I and Miracle who had been betrayed on and with respectively and Dave who was still bitter with his unrequited affections and Moe who had been backstabbed, walking on eggshells trying to win me back...

Dave travelled to Lagos later on... Moe's still trying to get into NDA... And I'm here on Nairaland reminiscing...

I'm not perfect... I'm definitely not even good... And I'm sorry most people hastily assume I am... It's not my intention...

I've always tried to be nice and I believe in the quality of Ubuntu... A philosophy on which most of our African cultures have been built: We're humans simply for the sake of our humanity...

I don't know if my dad's actions damaged me... Or it was that of my depressed, sensitive mother who made me such a pessimistic, shallow person on the matter of love...

When I was younger, I swore to never fall in love... I'm not sure I have yet. Until I met Owen... And for a long time since, I've finally felt my age...

But in all my love stories, I'm never the good one...

I'm very much aware how I lied to Moe, and behind his back, his friends and I would make out... And when we split, I was still to evil to step down from the pedestal of self-righteous (which wasn't really) and confess my sins to him...or the very least, acknowledge to myself that I wasn't perfect...

But I was fun being the victim... He suffered from every message I sent... Every time I passed by without saying a word to him... He had his friends beg me for his sake... But deep down, I just wanted him gone...

The moral lesson I've learnt:

Don't be with someone you're not attracted to... Sex is as much a priority as anything else... I stuck with Moe cause I thought he was loyal, trustworthy... And yet I resented the relationship... A three months relationship!!!

I wish I had been with Cele or Steve or one of the other boys... I would have had my heart broken ... But that's the beauty of life... The risks we take to live... I think of those three months... And I regret every second sneaking of with Steve... We could have actually dated... And really enjoyed the other... Maybe fall hopelessly inlove...

Life is an adventure... It's short, unpredictable and filled with so much love and pleasure to waste away playing the game safe...

And for every hurt, which usually follows reckless relationships, atleast there would be the most beautiful of memories!

I'll always try to remember this... Until it finally ends up being my undoing...

I read ur story word for word an I must confess ur really smart an intelligent,ur command of written English is excellent...apperantly,ur in that stage in life you free to do ur thing,try new adventures,make mistakes an learn from them. But you need to thread carefully,cos there are some mistakes made at a Young age that can be very difficult to amend later on in life or worst case,damage you for life....so wisdom is very essential

othermen:
Using your platform to ask the presidency to awake to its responsibilities in providing security or development relevant to the people's need is not disdaining or hating those in power. Using your platform to remind the presidency of its promises during the election and how much it has failed in fulfilling the promises is not disdaining or hating those in power.

Not doing so, is hating the downtrodden and the people who cannot afford the lives of splendour that you live. It's hating those who cannot afford the private jets that you have or the armed guards that you possess, it's condemning them to death by bandits.

Jesus Christ spoke to power, and he was on the blacklist of several authorities(political and religious authorities) in his time, and he was eventually executed in a brutal manner because of his actions and words.

He denounced religious authorities (the pharisees), he overturned the temple that has become a money making venture, he sheltered prostitutes.

Speaking up to the presidency or urging the presidency to remember the downtrodden is an act of love, rebuking the presidency for not doing enough to protect Nigerians is not disdaining or hating the presidency, but an act of love for those who are most susceptible to murder and kidnap, which is the rest of us.

It's irresponsible to equate speaking out about corruption, weakening economy, insecurity and a load of cardinal others, it's irresponsible and an evidence of depravity or bereavement of compassion- to equate such to hatred.

Christ also had hatred within him; Christ had hatred for injustice, Christ had hatred for sin... but he only had love for the sinners and the downtrodden. But our bishops do not seek to follow the footsteps of Christ. They want to be in the good books of the authorities, they are scared that if they speak out, they may be investigated and their financial improprieties exposed, they are afraid if they defend the downtrodden, the positions of power they hold may be withdrawn; it would seem the positions of power is not from Christ, that they would abandon Christ teachings in order to be legitimised by a corrupt and inefficient, 'murderous' administration.

When Jesus told us to give to Ceaser what is Ceaser's due, he meant that we should fulfil our civic duties or responsibilities as good citizens. And what greater civic duty can we have than speaking out when we see many murdered by the cops in extra-judicial killings, when we see many suffering and hungry, when our roads are highways to hell... what greater civic duty can we have than speaking out, than by admonishing this administration to awake to its duties?

Apostle Paul in Romans 13: 7 wrote, 'we must pay the administration what is owed'... and what is owed this administration is genuine truth, a conveyance of tiredness of the state of a nation in disarray....but of coz if the nation is not in disarray, and there is no poverty or hunger or unemployment or diseases, how many would be in this gigantic churches that don't care about them, but only their pockets?

It is upon the shoulders and back of those most displaced by the administration inefficiency that the foundations of several churches have turned. The poor is told to give all they have as offerings in order for Gods blessing, the bishops takes this, and live affluently ever after... while the poor remains unfortunate..., the bishop breaks bread with those that have caused the misfortune... so it will seem the Bishop also have an interest in the disarray state of the nation, because it is the source of their affluence. Most of the prayers in our churches would not be in a nation that has the right leadership and where things work.

May the spirit of Christ be in the Church.

aptly written....God bless you

Goldiness:
It will be your turn next, then you know how it feels to be sick and need help, then you can tell them to do the same for you. Heartless beings.

you talk like an illiterate... You feel is everyone that is scared of death? Don't you know that there are some life that are not worth living? Obviously, religious sentiment has becloud your logical sense of reasoning

rita25:
NOW U GET IF YOU COME NAIRALAND COME FIND SOLUTION WE THE WORLD PPLE WILL DEFINATELY GIVE HIM SOLUTION WEDA GOOD OR BAD

at least try an give him something reasonable. Locking up his shop an working for his competitor is the least way out of his current malaise

tonididdy:
The height of defeat and disgrace

I swear the comment just shock me... An she get likes for am

rita25:
go and work for the new guy and earn from him learn modern arts from him,save from the salary he pays you and then build a bigger business than his........we are all hustlers in this shithole mehn

did u just say this? That the op should go work for the new guy? Anyways, nah him carry himself come find advice for nairaland

czarr:
A cheating woman wouldn't confess unless she is looking for a reason for you to man up and break up with her, she doesn't want to do the break up herself...before she cheated she must have been very disrespectful to you, it's her body and mind trying to push you away, but since you couldn't break up with her she has to do the next best thing, which is cheat and tell you, if you forgive her she'll still cheat and break up with you herself.

u are a very wise man, an may wisdom never depart from you cos personally have been wondering the rationale behind a girl cheating an coming back to report to her partner. Now have got the answer