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Liorcadin:
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ur IQ level is apparently very low to make any meaningfull contributions in this forum,reason u resort to mediocrity ,however, it is our collective prayers that b4 the year comes to a close, that sence will cross your path because right now u guys are obviously at loggerheads

Mekudi:
After I finished my degree, waiting to be posted for NYSC , everything became tough, in fact my mom and my younger sis make life tough for me by seeing me as parasite at home, I searched for job and the highest pay was 10k teaching job, I said no I won't do it, I won't settle for less, it get to a stage where my mom started hiding foodstuffs from me, she will only cook food for herself and for my sis, after 4 months of waiting to be mobilised and not been mobilised due my result that isn't ready in sch as a result of my inability to pay 5k reg fee in my final year. I called my friend that live in the city that I want to come and stay with him while I search for some jobs and work pending the time I'll be mobilised, I get to the city, my friend too was managing in his friends single room, with me then we make 3 in that room, I got to know they were Gee boys, they will me laughing at me whenever I went out to submit application letters, they were not rich but they are getting money for feeding and partying weekends, I told them to teach me work but they couldn't, so one day, I spy on my friend phone lock pattern, copied the contact on his well paying client, nurse the client for 4-5 months without him giving me kobo, always telling me he is broke but always giving my friend money, but today, I'm building my house from him, Livin fine, got married , bought my car, taking care of mom and my sis and my maga still paying till date ,may he not fall victim of Coronavirus .

N.B, he started paying me the same week my friend told me to leave their room as they were seeing me as a lower class to them as I couldn't afford to drink and dine with them

so you really call this a testimony? Reaping from another man sweat...is this the legitimate hustle your mate are doing? Just know that karma is real an whatever u sow that u shall reap, if not now, in future

XhosaNostra:
Made up for what? Why would I be afraid to say my truth? Abeg.

i don say sorry nah... U too dey vex

XhosaNostra:
Why do think that? You guys have this tendency of projecting things on people.

I've said it already that I don't care who the person is, my nature is to fall way back. Status & money doesn't impress me or make me act out of character either.

A while back when I was still a student, I worked casually as a waitress to make some pocket money. I wasn't making a lot of money, but I was getting by. In that line of work you meet a lot of well-to-do people, especially if you're working for a 5* establishment like I did. Anyway, this guy, a lawyer was interested in me. He had his own law firm & was obviously very wealthy going by the car that he drove. I didn't care about any of that, I didn't want him. I got fired from the restaurant because I refused to serve him for always making lewd comments etc. That's the kind of person I am. Your money is your money, but one thing for sure, it'll not make me treat you any differently just because you have it. I have my own standards that remain the same no matter where I am or who I'm associating with. Yes, I'm very rigid & very unlikely to change my beliefs.

nice hearing this if at all is not made up as some sort of defense mechanism... Good to know we still have some right thinking an sane females around... My bad though

pansophist:
You didn't read to understand. I have already answered your question. So below is an excerpt from what I wrote before.



From the above excerpt, it is clear that I have already answered your question. I must be convinced of the greenlights I am receiving from a woman before I initiate and start romantic negotiations. In other words, I will be the bus driver, but you must be ready to jump inside let us go. I can't do that for you, and will only drive when I am sure there is a passenger waiting to board.

With this method, you will eliminate time wasters, leeches, being perceived as weak trying to ''win'' an inexistent love. Also, you will not be at the mercy of women who will use your affection as leverage to milk you dry financially, as an orbiter for a constant ego boost, and an emotional tampon that soaks all her negative emotions, while putting you on the hook, giving you a false hope that something may come out of it. This is the best method men that respect themselves get women, not the opposite.

I hope it is clarified.

well said bro... Noted

XhosaNostra:
Too many questions.

1st let me explain something to you, perhaps you'll understand where I'm coming from much better. Say I like a guy, right? The way I see it, those are my feelings ( my "headache" ) & just because I feel them is not an indication for me to act on them or start expressing them. I keep a lot of things under lock & key. I will never desert what I consider to be common sense & my dignity because I have "feelings". I'm an extremely proud person & my pride alone will never allow me to chase after ANYONE. Don't care who they are. If they don't make an effort, I also won't bother. Those feelings, that are my own beast to tame, I can always deal with them another time, without burdening somebody else with them. They're mine to handle, after all.

not really against your view cos is very concrete an generally practiced by virtually all the female folks.. But I guess they will be some shifting of stance if it were some rich famous celebrity offering you his card.. U will likely do the first calling

pansophist:
Since I operate on the idea that women are the chooser, I'll only shoot my shot to the demography of women who have already chosen and found me attractive to begin with. The typical protocol of approaching a girl, such as, trying to "prove oneself", woeing, taking her out, and all those loops jumping is not for me. I'll never do that. So as a rule, I am always self-improving, to maximise the number of women that will find me attractive, and the number of men that will respect me base on my personality. It is from that pool that I'll pick my friends, and also a potential partner. My current relationship is almost five years, I got her through this method, and I have never for once doubted her love towards me.

When I was about 15 years old or so, my mum told me that she has already loved my dad before he approached her, but had to shakara a bit (playing hard to get), to give my dad the false illusion that he worked for her. It is of no surprise that over 35 years and counting, my mum still love my dad deeply, because it was something she desired from the beginning, and she adviced me and my brothers to only go where we are appreciated romantically. So its green light before approach.

u have not still answered the question.. Would you rather resolve to playing your cards close to your chest by waiting for her to take the first initiative by putting a call across or would you take the manly approach by first doing the calling?

ubunja:
it's all the same truth. If you want to be the Prize you act like the prize. Remember both man and woman can be the Prize. I aim to make men the prize.

When men take numbers and initiate the calls, the lady is the Prize. And on the Miseducations we don't want that.

I have heard about that Robert Greene book.

i think you are wrong bro.. You can still initiate the call an eventually become the prize, by making her know an see the stuffs you are made up of when you guys start flowing..she will definitely be the one coming after you,over here, money need dey involve o

I think the ippis platform has been on for a while now an is working perfectly in every other government sector including the, health sector.. So the lecturers need to calm down an those grey areas will be perfected in a short while an their full benefits an outstanding shortfall would be rectified... If they think this platform would be reversed, then they are in for a very long day

letusbepieces:
Masturbation is a necessary evil in the world.

Sex is something everybody struggle with, whether u admit it or not.

There are going to be times wen you are Hot but no female around.

Instead of becoming a rapist, u opt for self help. This is also the same reason, why we have gay people.

Sex in all forms is addictive. They become addicted to the act of masturbation or homosexualism.

I always put homosexuals and masturbation together becos they are bot acts of self gratification.

you and wisdom are really at loggerheads

itsme01:




Joshua schooled in Mayflower shagamu, Nigeria is what makes him thick .. in a competitive sport like boxing, you need confidence and the best way to boost your confidence is to go to your root, visit where you grew up, see thing that helped shape you

to me any time I feel abit down I just drive around my child hood neighborhood , I visit my primary school, secondary school and other places that seem so big and scary to me back then and I see how tiny it had shrunk or how old I have become.. this to me is the best therapy a man can ever have.. it works 99% of the time

many Nigerians calling Nigeria shithole do so because they are poor and disadvantaged , if you can gurantee your own comfort (inverter/solar , good estate, little change in the account and good ride) you would understand Nigeria is a very very lovely place to enjoy your life,


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God bless you sir

unstoppable51:
Goodnews! God wants you to be successful and prosper materially in Christ

(3Jn 1:2) Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth.

Even more than our earthly fathers, God cares about our whole being. He doesn’t just want us to be sound spiritually, He wants us to have healthy bodies and prosper financially also.

I know there are lots of people out there who are trying to make it look like the only thing God cares about is your spiritual life as a Christian. The way it is put, you would think that having a desire for the good life (a life of prosperity and abundance) is a sin in God’s eyes. However the Bible tells us a different thing altogether.

(Psa 35:27) Let them shout for joy, and be glad, that favour my righteous cause: yea, let them say continually, Let the LORD be magnified, which hath pleasure in the prosperity of his servant.

God takes pleasure in the prosperity of His children. It gladdens His heart to see you prosper.

In a bid to warn the brethren against greed and the love of money, we most times cross the line and warn them against having money and make being rich appear the same as being unrighteous.

While it is true that some of the believers in the Bible were poor and may have even died that way, there is no denial that there were those who also prospered abundantly even after they have trusted in God for salvation. For instance Abraham:

(Gen 15:6) And he believed in the LORD; and he counted it to him for righteousness.
(Gen 15:7) And he said unto him, I am the LORD that brought thee out of Ur of the Chaldees, to give thee this land to inherit it.
(Gen 24:35) And the LORD hath blessed my master greatly; and he is become great: and he hath given him flocks, and herds, and silver, and gold, and menservants, and maidservants, and camels, and asses.

I singled out the case of Abraham because of his significance to our faith. But there were others also who prospered before and after their salvation as believers.

Material prosperity does not always mean one would be stinkingly rich. But it surely means you would always have enough to meet your needs and that of those around you. Your name may or may not appear on Forbes list of richest people in the world but whenever there is a need, you wouldn’t have to sell a kidney to meet that need. That is the Bible’s description of material prosperity. Not a life that is constantly in lack, debts and penury.

One can be rich and yet righteous same way he can be poor, wicked and very ungodly. Being rich or poor has nothing to do with righteousness or holiness. It’s just a matter of choice.

I have seen people genuinely serve God to the best of their abilities when they were poor and still maintained that in the midst of abundance. Never accept poverty as God’s ultimate method to keep you humble, holy and righteous.

So how do you achieve success in life as a believer especially in this dispensation of Grace?

When it comes to achieving material prosperity or success in any endeavour as believers, the Bible’s laid down pattern or process for getting that is works through grace. You can call that a grace empowered labour or labour working by grace.

It is not just by grace alone (without any form of your effort as in salvation) or purely by works (as in your personal labour alone). It is actually by Grace through labour. The two are so interwoven you can’t separate one from the other.

Before you get mad at me for even mentioning the words “works” and “labour” with regards to our achieving success in life, let me show you something real quick from the scriptures.

(1Co 15:10) But by the grace of God I am what I am: and his grace which was bestowed upon me was not in vain; but I laboured more abundantly than they all: yet not I, but the grace of God which was with me.
(2Co 11:23) Are they ministers of Christ? (I speak as a fool) I am more; in labours more abundant, in stripes above measure, in prisons more frequent, in deaths oft.

Now if you paid real attention to those verses above, you’d discover Paul in talking about his success in ministry and how he achieved it, never ceased to mention how he by God’s grace laboured abundantly for it.

He never credited it to his efforts or labours alone, neither did he also credit it only to God’s grace (without any effort from him). He always put the two in their right perspectives.

You know the common misconception people have about grace and works (labour) is that they are complete opposites of each other. It is not always true.

The only time grace is completely devoid of works in the scriptures, is with regards to salvation. After salvation, grace empowers you to labour and achieve success in whatever field you want. That is what Paul meant in those verses above by saying that Grace was working in him causing him to labour more abundantly than the others. It empowers you to work diligently while you are on the earth.

That is also why in heaven, we will be rewarded not for the grace that we received freely from God but for the labour and work we personally did with it.

(2Co 5: We are confident, I say, and willing rather to be absent from the body, and to be present with the Lord.
(2Co 5:9) Wherefore we labour, that, whether present or absent, we may be accepted of him.
(2Co 5:10) For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ; that every one may receive the things done in his body, according to that he hath done, whether it be good or bad.

Now when we talk about being successful in our ministries, businesses and careers, we don’t become passive claiming we are leaving everything to grace. Yes, God’s grace will take care of that but it is going to do it through you.

So if you are not actively involved in the work to bring the big picture God has placed within your heart to manifestation while trusting in His grace, you make the grace of God a vain thing. The same way you give work too much credit if you claim success and material prosperity is all by one’s efforts alone.

That means in aiming for success or material prosperity in life, one would need to work as though grace never exists, and as well trust in God’s grace as though there is no such a thing called labour.

God’s grace has empowered us to prosper materially and be successful in whatever field we may find ourselves. In co-operation with that grace, we work hard and smart, bringing to materialization that prosperity and all round success.

I hope this blesses you.
Glory to God!

Source: https://www.feedmejesus.com/2019/03/success-and-material-prosperity-in.html

very wonderful an inspiring piece... More grace bro

freethinker01:
This is the girlfriend I hope to have. I haven't had any girlfriend in years now and I've never been happier.
@op, if having a gf is a driving factor and it's what motivates u, it's very pathetic and totally unreasonable. What should be your driving factor is how to enjoy the good things life has to offer, being there for those that helped you to where you are and striving for happiness. If you think you find that in a girlfriend, your case is quite beyond redemption.

God bless you man..

infogenius:
Sexy corper.

With all her exposure through the university she can't read through the lines if a man wants to have carnal knowledge of her.

Education is not all about going to school and reading books but using the acquired knowledge to analyse problems and situations.

God bless you

Inteltower:
you fool, be mindful of what you say about God.
if you don't have understanding stop displaying your pathetic ignorance.
He is God and if he demands Satan in his presence Satan will obey (See the book of job)
didn't he use Israelites enemies from time to time to punish them (Egypt, Rome, etc)
you fool for both evil and good things/beings he can use; Isn't he God ? (See book of revelations about the four horse men)
didn't he send the angel of death to kill every first born male in Egypt ?
didn't he send a lying spirit to an Israelite king who surrounded himself with many prophets
didn't he send the 10 plagues to Egypt
or destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah ?

you ignorant fool am asking you isn't he God ?
if you were a god in his shoes how will you punish mankind for their sinful ways ?

answer this and find the truth
do not attract God's wrath with shallow ignorance that fly out of your mouth


gosh some peoples understanding are really wack and darkened that they snare their souls for condemnation

Lord forgive me I can't stand fools that are not looking for truth but argument like the Pharisees.

ur insult an tantrums were very unnecessary you know.. U could still pass your message across without them

seanwilliam:
I know the feelings bro.. like u go begin wonder what next to do..
My brotherly advice.. Dont try to further your education now.
1. Learn catering
2. Use the money to set up a betting shop
3. Start digital marketing
4. Start selling domains or drop shipping
5. Start data selling business
6. Buying and selling of stationeries
7. Start DJ work
8. Start shawarma business
9. Start pos shop
10. Start dry cleaning
11. Pull head together with your friends and set up pineapple, tomato and ugwu farm
12. Learn phone and laptop repairs
13. Start agent work in buying and selling of land
14. Learn graphics and set up foreign fiverr account
15. Start online clothing business , posting it on nairaland and WhatsApp
16. If you get better physic join bouncer
17. Open computer shop close to higher institution
19. Learn photography and make up
20.. HUSLE
..

I really took out my time to post this.. the bitter truth is looking for job without connexion is futile.. there is no harm in trying sha.. it is either you have connexion or extra value.. do any of the above to keep body and soul together..

you too much abeg

PotatoSalad:
Not really a date though, but this happened last week.
I was bored and asked her to lunch after work although it was 5pm. She said ok.
Picked her up from her office and we went to the mall. As we were eating quietly, she saw one of her church male friends at some table away from us. She left her food to go greet him. From greeting him, she pulled up a chair and started gisting. I was just there alone eating quietly. After eating, they were still gisting. I said no wahala.
One of the guys that cleans tables came and asked if i was done. Her food was just there. I said, hold on. Picked up the meat in her plate and said go on.
Stood up and walked into shoprite to buy grapes and drove home.
Guess she came back and saw clean table. She called and was sad and apologized, told her she left me, I got bored and left.

ur the man

egopersonified:
Some are born great, some achieve greatness, some have greatness thrust upon them.

Dream and work towards them. Life is looking for who to bless. There is so much abundance on the earth to tap from, if only we will concentrate our energy towards them. Start working, keep planning. With hard work, dedication, perseverance and patience we can achieve most, all or surpass our dreams.

God bless you real good for this inspirational piece

mosho2good:
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Life is not about finding the right person, but creating the right relationship. It's not how we care in the beginning, but how much we care till the very end.
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Some people always throw stones in your path. It depends on what you make with them; a Wall or a Bridge? - Remember you are the architect of your life.
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Search for a good heart, but don't search for a beautiful face, coz beautiful things are not always good, but good things are always beautiful.
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It’s not important to hold all the good cards in life, but it’s important how well you play with the cards you hold.
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Often when we lose all hope & think this is the end, remember God and pray, it’s just a bend, not the end.' -
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Have faith and have a successful life. One of the basic differences between God and humans is, God gives and forgives. But the human gets and forgets. Be thankful in life...
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If u think it is your alarm clock that woke you up this morning, try putting it beside a dead body and you will realise that it is the Grace of God that woke you up.
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have been a silent but ardent follower of your comments for some time now an I must confess you are truly a genuis, ur input are not only laced with humor but very educational an inspiration filled. May the good Lord bless you real good, an may his fountain of wisdom never run dry in your life..

ubunja:
They won't easily dump you. Isn't one of the biggest reasons guys avoid sex with virgins that virgins tend to over-attach to you after sleeping with them?

Its more difficult taking a girl's virginity than having sex with her. Ask any girl and they're more likely to have lost their virginity to a Player /Bad Boy than to a good guy. It's a trend. It's a pattern.
Only a few girls have lost their virginity to men with money namely because girls lose their virginity out of blind teenage love not out of money or profit. And by nature any girl will drift towards the Player. Its something hardcoded into the female psyche.

And girls don't just lose their virginity to anyone available. Because good guys will decline taking a girl's virginity without marrying her. And some are squeamish and hate the sight of blood. Either way, the bad boy ends up being the one chosen. Also because the Bad Boy/Player appears to be more experienced sexually to girls than the good guy who usually has the moneys anyways. Girls want to lose their virginity to someone with experience who knows what he's doing.

Its very important to note who takes a girl's virginity cause that guy or his type will always be her weakness going forward.

Women only chase money after chasing love has failed. And because women chase players first their quest for love is always doomed to failure. By the time they give good guys a chance they're in gold digger mode and don't give a fvck about love and their heart is for sale to the highest bidder.

why are ur articles not always on the front page?

Dpharisee:
Ask some men who married the so called beautiful girls you are imagining, they get tired of them at short notice if her character is bad, they won't even notice the beauty anymore because of the hell they are passing through in their hands, it is people outside that will be reminding them that their wife is beautiful.
Haven't you seen on Nairaland throwback pictures of wives of celebrities looking so ugly and now they are transformed by money into stunning beauty?
Make money, spend it on her if she has the qualities you need and you will be shocked at the amazing transformation you will see in her.
As Igbos would say, Character is the Beauty of a Woman not current looks. Good women are hard to come across these day's.

God bless you real good

bukatyne:
And of course living the life.

Men are living the life in polygamy: Women would fight to cook for you, fight for your attention, fight to sleep with you, fight to even care for you

oftentimes,am left wondering if is really a lady behind this Monica, ur assertions an judgement are usually so unbiased an neutral... Not the typical naija egocentric females

kiddkash:
when i don't know, and someone teaches me, i always make an effort to learn. you should too

for ur mind.. That bulshit u put there is factual.... SMH

kiddkash:
when masturbating, male body releases testosterone and endorphin it builds muscles.
women's body produces small testosterone which is why men always have muscles even
without going to the gym. like that south african athlete caster semenya. this is why she
was banned, the level of testosterone her body produces is the same amount a man produces

oga we don hear... Must u quote everyone b4 u pass ur message across?

victorian:
Op are you ready to train your Gf in school?

I bet she's done with ssce, so are u honestly read to pay her school fees in school if she takes jamb and pass
Because with what she said about the other guy, he's ready to train her and marry her join.

But with you Op, all u have is love to offer. Nothing concrete.

My Pastor will say: if two people hold their hands together walk to a shopping mall and tell the seller selling foodstuffs that we are in love, please give us soup ingredients with meat parts free ,because we are in love. Na Security they will use bundle both of you out of the mall.

You can walk with your Gf to rent a flat and tell landlord say, please we are in love, give us your flat for free. We are just starting life.
I think u know already what the landlord will do to both of you.

So Op, leave I'm in love one side and ask yourself are u ready to start investing on your Gf, so she enrol in the university or polytechnic? So she can be self independent and not get swayed by any dick and Harry, that offers her such luxury. Because furthering her education is like luxury to her ears. She wouldn't want such rare opportunity to pass her by, from someone she has a crush for.

And we all know what the answer is.

So guy, your babe has already chosen her destiny helper. Let them be. Give your blessings and you sef forget woman for now and hustle make it in life.

Because love without money is dead! And that's the truth.

how is it the duty of op to send her to school? Is she an orphan?

pocohantas:
Peak of which career? All these small boys sef. You think life and love is dy/dx.

i often log into thread like this just to get ur weird input..an trust me u never disappoint... How u go about dis savage replies is what I can't fathom.. Apparently why u have lots of sad followers


Will really love to cross part with u someday

bolayei:
Ogbeni forget the girl. From reading her message and yours it shows she ain't on your level. Get a girl with good comprehension not this one that can't write simple English correctly.

She is seeing someone already

God bless u for this... Thought I was the only one that spotted it

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pocohantas:
Download any Westlife album.

You will need it in these turbulent moments.

U ehe....

johnkey:
Poor people shouldn't even have kids, bringing innocent souls into the world to suffer them.

Poverty is still legal nah..

James39:
See the minimum and maximum should be 4.

I can't give birth to 1 boy and 1 gal.

That's my take. I don't care what others think.

if your parent were so careful not to go beyond 2 kids you won't be here typing this. I'm sure you are not the 1st neither the 2nd.

we are 10 in numbers and we are doing fine.

weird mindset of this nature is what is caging this country in economical crossroads

U mean to tell me, this is the small rat that has been insulting guys upandan dis forum forming feminist




Smh

locust:
Fvck this shiit!
I ain't giving up!!!!

this one u dey quote urself.. Hope all is well