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the case of Gucci Mane is just one out of a thousand... men shouldn't put blind hope on that, and you might never really know what really happened for him to be locked up in prison, or he might not be in a good relationship with his family for him to trust his wife with such amount..

was there any written documents signed? do you know all the agreements involved? generally speaking, it would be hard for me to trust just anyone with such amount of money...

I will go straight to the point on this one... the first one seems to be a better option... his son shouldn't be of any hindrance since he's not even with a partner currently... and also he's ready, your sister's options are getting limited, sooner or later, there won't be no options available and she will have to settle with just anything...

I don't know if she has used good men in the past, but this is usually how it turns out for them... even Regina marry man wey don get 6 wives before, so?

the first and last option seems viable, but the first one is still the best in these options available, you can never tell if the person that told her to wait till she graduates later get attached to someone else even before that time... one advice I will give your sister is that, she shouldn't be intimate with any of this men until they take the necessary steps... or else, she will become a thing to be used and dump because of how desperate to get married she will look to them... so anything they promise her will easily sway her off even when she's being deceived... she should also seek God's guidance..

but I hope your sister is also marriageable and has qualities men would want in their woman? and also, she shouldn't just look only at the financial aspect when choosing the right man for marriage... it's her poison, if she chooses wrong, she will have herself to blame if she makes herself blind towards what's really necessary..

mmadu5:
thanks boss i will try to put it behind me. but i kinda feel bad sha

you don't need to be, just do your own thing as you would have done... act like it never happened... she can't even raise the topic sef, unless she doesn't have shame....

and how is that your fault? sometimes you have to act like you don't care and don't even notice... did you remove her rapper? did you barge on her in the bathroom? did you enter her room and see her naked? so why should you be worried over what you didn't do... if she dey vex, na her wahala be that na... acting remorseful over nothing will only make you seem weak... all these drama should have ended right there when you looked away...

make she surf the internet or enter Instagram she go see different naked bodies .. but I understand her sha... if she's virtuous and not a hoe or hypocrite, she will feel embarrassed and disgusted with herself but acting cold towards you shouldn't be the way, it's her fault her rapper fell not yours, so Mr man, just move on and do your own thing.. don't apologise or even try to recall what happened to her to explain... leave it like that and let it die down and never mention it to someone else..

graceilina:
company is aware, I stumbled on a contract letter addressed to me after she forced me to quit. So right now the company is paying for a non existing staff

maybe she wanted to use you as a fall person so she can keep getting money for 2 workers, hence the reason why she wants you to quit....

One word - WOMEN!!!

VOsimhen144:
Abeg which kin training dem dey undergo wey be say after the training they transform from Beauty to Bimbo

lol that's just an exaggeration, I've met beautiful nurses, even flirted with few..

not entirely true but the thing is, studying medicine or any other related courses doesn't automatically put you in the position where you cater to people's health... you will have to undergo series of training and experiments before you can be a qualified doctor, so the experienced ones are the ones you mostly meet at the hospital while the young ones are still undergoing training...

go ahead with that plans you have... wicked people should be taught a bitter lesson... but you should have learnt your lesson to always have a plan B and not rely on anyone, especially a woman... her emotions must have get in the way when she gave you that request... this is why you should always have evidence, you didn't sign anything, if you decide to involve the law, she would win you... this is why she emphasizes on the court thing...

if she doesn't pay you, she need to be dealt with...

emmyboy162:
So my neighbor invited me to sleep over at her place last night because apparently she was bored
We talked during the night but did I do the right thing by not initiating any thing s*xual? 😂

1) sleeping over at a lady's space, a neighbor for that matter....?? guy, why you nor like yourself??

2) you didn't initiate anything, and you slept over at her place, another incriminating evidence she can use against you in the future... because no evidence from you...

3) you've successfully invited disrespect and see finish into your frame... she will start disrespecting you and seeing you as less of a man...

4) you shouldn't have honoured the invitation in the first place let alone have anything sexual to do with a neighbor...

two things might be involved here...

1) distant period

2) cheating suspicion...

how long have they been distant? if they haven't seen each other for quite a long time, the woman might have find what or who is keeping her 'busy'... women have needs too, if this is the case, the woman might be haboring thoughts like he's probably cheating where he is and stuffs like that if they haven't seen for a long time especially if she moves with slutty friends even if that might not be the issue...

but if it's just distance due to job or emergencies, and not for long, the woman might be cheating already and doesn't care about the husband anymore, because a good wife will always want to keep in touch with her husband... in situations like this, do not overthink the issue, just focus on yourself and make sure the kids you're raising are yours... when a woman is about to move on or isn't interested in the marriage any longer, these are the signs she starts giving off... from inattention, nonchalance and sexual unavailability...

Yamdey:
You can prove a point without trying to bash non-virgins.

it's not bashing, it's the truth, that's why it looks like that... the truth hurts and doesn't care... what I'm saying is, if you're not a virgin, don't try to prove a point on why virginity doesn't matter simply because you lose yours under a situation within your control.. simple! and don't try to talk down on why virginity isn't an important factor...

Aaaaarghmed:
OP you are a fool for taking back someone who dumped you and came back 2 years later,you are master simp.i have Always said it,if a woman comes back to you,she is a ticking time bomb and her next suprise will be a fatal explosion to you.you fit no survive am.some guys need to learn alot from me I swear

he's a grandmaster simp... he deserves a national award and recognition... the girl has been cheating on him even before she moved on, she still came back after frolicking around, the grandmaster simp still took her back... mehn I can't just get my head around that... like say women finish for this world... some men deserves no pity... he lost himself, the so called wife, and also his resources.. just imagine if he had went through all of that shit for himself or his family, wouldn't he be in a much better position today? but since some men prefer to learn the hard way under the delusion of not all women are like that, then they have only themselves to blame...

Mr man, no one is coming to save you... If you like commit suicide, you go still chop punishment for God hand... lmao, getting married to a hoe, your life expectancy is already cut short my brother...

gift2xl:
What about men that are virgins, what benefits are they to women.

virtuous women won't get angry with threads like this... but you see the damaged ones, they are the ones that's going to argue this obvious truth because they know a pvssy that has been fvcked can never be unfvcked... since they are damaged beyond repair, they will frown at posts like this....

when you see comments like "character is what that matters", "virginity doesn't matter", "virginity doesn't guarantee anything", "hope your sister is a virgin", "did your mom get married as a virgin?", and stuffs like that, naa them...

because virginity doesn't guarantee anything, I should go for food that has been perched by flies, spitted on by dogs, became an abode for worms abi? shey if dem tell you to choose between new car and old car, you go talk say since usage doesn't matter, let me go for old one or you go talk say since you can have accident with both cars, you'll rather go for the old one...?? you see how delusional their statements is... since nothing is guaranteed in life, I will always go for the best... if you want to go for damaged goods, na your own wahala be that... I have my choice, and I will choose...!

well well well... he realised his foolishness and decides to take back what he owns... after he has learnt the hard way... I would rather invest in myself, my family than someone I call girlfriend... men do foolish things when they are in love, but instead of the women to see this as a sign of his genuine love for them, they will rather use him till he has become shadow of his former self...

I won't be surprised if the reason they had to stop dating was because she was cheating on him which is quite normal to these people that refer themselves to "Gen Z hoes" ... but do you expect her to say the truth of what really transpired between them? lol, in a delusional woman's world, she's never wrong... even when caught in the act, it's all the man's fault... taking responsibility for their wrongdoings is never their thing, they will rather shift blame than change themselves for the better... yeah, the delusion is high like that...

Nice thread...

happy birthday bros.. God bless you

Jewessgratitud3:
Anything that makes you see a woman as stingy means you're relying on her money or depending on her for one form of survival or the other and that is why you will even know she's stingy in the first place.


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you didn't answer my question.. oh I guess you're lady, mehn my bad.. I'm sorry for even quoting you in the first place... anything you say, I agree...

jmoore:
You don't even know what a septic tank is.

lol obviously...

@ op, the thing with human is, when it is readily gotten and easily available, we tend to take it for granted, this is what lead to wastage... in a rural place whereby, getting water is like finding a lost pin in an ocean, you won't find this kind of behaviour... that's just human for you... until a restrictive practice is put in place like the example you gave, it will continue...

Jewessgratitud3:
You're calling a woman selfish because she no spend 5naira for you. She be your papa abi your guardian? It's this kind of mentality that make many of you enter marriage with zero naira in your account expecting the woman to bring to the table otherwise she'll be tagged selfish.

Look, never expect anything from a woman or use that a bases to chose a wife otherwise disappoinment will just be smiling at you all the way. As a man make your own money and be financially stable and bouyant to a level where you won't need to look on the woman's money.

Na wa o. Na so e dey start. If she starts giving now, any day she doesn't give, na wahala

lemme agree with what you said... but hope the man isn't selfish if he doesn't spend on the woman because he nor be her papa or guardian as well.?? because what is good for the goose should also be good for the gander abi nor be so??

this is why I say that most people just read without comprehension... the OP isn't saying men should depend on their wife's money but they should watch out if she's stingy... some women even at the point of death or emergency will never spend out of their money to get things done, they will never, they believe since he's the man, he should carry everything for head even if it means he should cut of his head to get out of the situation... I don't even want to look at a woman's money, but I won't condone a selfish woman because that actually says alot about her...

OP, number 4 on the list should be if she's not appreciative, that's actually a red flag...

This is why we keep telling men, women don't lower your standards, so why should you as a man lower yours? be ruthless in your choice of women you choose to be with... if she doesn't meet your standards.. dump her! she has to earn a place in your life, she has to earn it, not being given for free... she has to work for it if she wants part of it..

when you're broke and valueless, they ignore you because to them, you're below their level... when you've toiled hard, do the same thing to them... if she belongs to the street, just leave her there...

Biglittlelois:
The bolded, are you willfully blind or what, why are you trying to paint the mother in a bad light because she's against having anything to do with a married man? Op was first mad and angry after that discovery and the mum reacted same way too so what exactly are you driving at?

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you're likely a woman so I would rather save my energy...

sometimes it happens because the man couldn't control himself, sometimes it's due to the fact that the woman knows what she's doing... I've experienced such sexual harassment before... this lady keeps rubbing off her body with mine under the guise of no space...

for an average man, this is enough to get him hard because of the sexual signals it automatically sends to the brain, this doesn't mean the man calls for it... if women had something that's quite visible as the penis when erect in public, we would actually understand that women can very much as well be perverts... but because no evidence, we put all blame on the man...smh

Ishilove:
Shey this one na talk? Shey you didn't see where she admitted that she is dealing with trauma and is not mentally ready? Shey you didn't see where she is seeing bright, red flags in this man's character?

Una go just dey cap like it is compulsory to marry the very first man that proposes to a lady irregardless of character flaws and compatibility.

Wo, op, block his ass and work on your mental health. For all we know, he could be the problem and not the so called 'abusive wife'.

ehn na her choice because I nor know how the matter con dey pain you pass person wey wan marry lmao... if she's not mentally ready, she should stay single na, afterall the man nor dey force am..

sooner or later she will have to make a choice, and I hope she doesn't regret the person she later ends up with due to the "trauma and not mentally ready"... lol it's not that she's not mentally ready, it's because of the fact that he's married and her mother is against it, not because of the man's character... I don't see where the red flags you pointed out is located... tell me one red flag you noticed aside from the fact that he's already married which is not a red flag to me...

and besides, didn't you see where I said she should ask herself those questions in the post you quoted or you didn't read to comprehend?

Nengiraw:
I can’t really answer all that, he is still keeping me in a loophole, but the daughter part, he said he wanted me to know, that’s why he was in the room with her, when she was crying so I would hear her.

you see, his intentions might be good, you may never know, just tread carefully and seek God's help, anyway I modified my post, read again...

Ehn no wahala na, he's free to marry more than one wife, but your mom might be against it, which I understand but that doesn't make him a bad person...

did he hide this fact from you?

is he a good person?

is his family well-to-do?

is he treating his wife and family well?

does he have the potentials of a leader?

what is the relationship between him and his previous wife and does she know? are they still together?

if you answered yes to all these questions, you have nothing to worry about... but if you answered no, move on.. it's better to marry a faithful married man, than a deadbeat or toxic single man... As long as his wife knows about it, then you have nothing to worry about... if you were my sister, I would advice you the same... his intentions for not telling them earlier if he was married might be because he knew what your possible reaction would be especially when you guys haven't met, so he wanted you guys to meet before he made things clear to you, he didn't lie to them, he just didn't made mentioned of it until it was time for you to know... and he didn't lie to you when you asked...

most women needs to get off the delusion that they must marry a single man... we have less good and responsible men who are ready or even interested in marriage now.. if you're lucky to find one, you better hold him tight and treat him well irrespective of whether he's married or not, there's no harm in being a second or third wife... you can be number 3 and even be at peace than someone that call herself number one but her husband keeps frolicking with additional 7 ladies and prostitutes with no peace of mind... your choice... I respect men who married more than one wife legally than men who married one but keeps womanising... those second category of men take care of the concubines outside than their homes and children...

without the influence of drugs, gun and the likes and just only one person, it seems practically impossible but since men are physically stronger than women, after several attempts and tussle, the lady will succumb to the pressure due to tiredness especially if the man is well built and much stronger than her... but if not, it's practically impossible for an average man to rape a woman without the influence of the aforementioned or with the aid of another man...

Because how will you enjoy the thing sef after all the wahala just for pvssy? You now see why weak men and simps are dangerous to the society?? death penalty should be the wages of rapists and false rape accusers as well...

you did wrong with the first woman and also with the second woman... this is why we keep telling men, if you let emotions override your thinking as a man, you'll suffer greatly for it because no one would be there to save you when problem arises...

you've started spending on a woman even before she agrees to date you, even started taking up her responsibility whilst she keeps getting fvcked by her man telling you about being partially divorced bullshits or whatever...?? what the fvck man? is that how desperate you are?? is there no other woman you can talk to? is she your personal lord and saviour??

secondly, a woman you told your intentions straight away and she accepted almost immediately might be because of these reasons, she might be just tired of staying single for too long due to her biological clock, she's being in series of relationships with the bad guys and now she feels it's now time to settle down with a beta provider or she might be really into you, for this case, I feel the the first and second option would be the main reason why she accepted you almost immediately and even pushing to meet your parents... RUN O!

You've already told her your intentions, why won't she package herself to you? do you even know her that much? do you know anything about her past life? is she hiding anything dangerous or incriminating from you?

if you don fvck your wife like 3-5 times, na that time your eye go clear wella .. you go con be like say wetin I dey even enjoy for this marriage sef especially if you guys are into no sex till marriage... one of the main reason most men marry is sex and in the end, most end up getting disappointed if they didn't find what they expected...

you don enter am, endure.. and if you wan enjoy more, go marry another wife... you have the freedom to do that...

1) a woman can never love you unconditionally

2) see everything she does for you as a debt

3) she will always put her child before you.. given the choice to save your life or child, she will always choose the child..

4) women are not loyal to you but your power

5) your past sacrifices means nothing when she's about to move on

6) women will only help if they have something to gain from you, in most cases, greater than what you did for them... women mostly don't invest irrationally...

7) Do not expect loyalty from a woman who's not loyal to her body..

lol, the funny thing is, if a girl is really innocent, she won't be the one to say she's innocent.. if you're a man with game, you would know quite easily if a girl is truly innocent or pretending to be...

and by the way, if you're talking about innocence, it can mean two things.. one is, she knows all about sex and all of that due to internet and the media but she doesn't engage in it, this is still quite good... second one is full innocence where she's naive when it comes to that aspect... this is also very good but needs someone good to guide her to avoid falling prey to badd guys or else, no turning back when she finally gets to know about it..

Both sexes have nothing to gain and much to lose... for men, it makes them lose focus.. their chances of being derailed increases, while exposing them to various risks, loss of life and wealth... for women, it makes them unable to pairbond, destroy their mental psyche, high chances of depression and various addictions... this is why a man who fornicates would most likely engage in fraud, betting, drinking or gambling... for women, they engage in self-destructive acts like hookups, show of nudity and continue in this line until they are totally destroyed...

Fornication is not something you should be proud of... People engage in it, but the foolish ones are those who think they are actually doing worthy by engaging in the act... some even see it as some kind of achievement... Chastity and abstinence is still the way.. stay away from fornication..

oracle009:
Chat gpt

I doubt... You should be able to recognise AI developed texts from the way the grammar is structured.. it's actually very good but not professional... well, the goal is to sell the products, as long as it sells, who gives a fvck about the English or the way it was said...? nice one.