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when I hear about some men saying they are looking for a life partner, most times what I translate it to is someone who's already comfortable with where he is in life... real men don't look for a life partner, they set up their life that they will automatically attract a suitable person that fits their mission... saying you're looking for a life partner is a sign of low value man, or someone who's not productive enough... if you're have the right qualities and valuable, women will automatically not be any sort of headache for you..

that said, if what you're looking for is a serious relationship, then I think you might have to keep digging for a long time because most of what you said you want of your woman is nothing more than just a fantasy... it's very rare... women will rather shake their yansh on TikTok than partake in anything productive or read books... you'll hardly see a woman to hold a reasonable conversation with without her getting bored... it's simply not their thing.. that's men thing...

and please, if want you want is serious relationship, do not say you don't care about her family background, don't make the same mistake that made many men regret or have suicide thoughts... a woman's family matters, in fact if you're looking for that kind of girl, where she was brought up and how will determine if she will be the one to match your energy... don't ignore any red flags.

purples25:
Did the thought that the trainer might be female cross your mind?

lmfaoooo... no female, I mean no absolutely fvcking female have ever gotten a female trainer!

lol is this a fvcking joke?? a woman will rather be alone than go for a female trainer.. this is why they enjoy the company of men and love having male friends than their own gender...

women hate each other because they know themselves..

purples25:
I don't have your will. I might need a trainer but I'm trying to be more disciplined.

even if you have a personal trainer, if you're not disciplined, nothing will ever make you work out... you have to change your mindset... if you have a man, your man should be your personal trainer.. any woman insisting on visiting the gym or having a personal trainer while she has a man and can conveniently work out at home is nothing more than a olosho...

purples25:
I like the idea of a gym, but because of people's narrow mindsets amongst other reasons, I would just prefer a personal trainer, or my own indoor gym equipment.

you actually don't need a personal trainer for any shit... life is advanced now.. so many apps and articles online for you to follow... you don't need anybody to tell you to workout, if you value your life and health, you don't need someone to tell you the importance of working out... I don't eat shit and I don't consume shit most people consume these days... just take a visit to the hospital, you'll never consume any more shit in your life... most people are spending thousands and millions on drugs now, some are looking for donations...

I've been working out for years now, I've never visited the gym for once nor have any personal trainer, and I developed the ideal body, if you see me off cloth sef gan, you go wet...

Shapeaso:
OP, why not ask your friends? Is nairaland now Police station?

I wonder ooo.... people will bring anything come here

you're the one supposed to be scared... what if she has evil intentions abi you think say na only men dey do evil... this is why it's said that if women should start ritual killings, they will kill alot of men because at the sight of women, most men lose their sense of reasoning...

tell me if the person was a man, would you have hopped in just like that? I know there are still good people out there but we should be very careful... bad people are inventing new ways daily to perpetrate their evil... we should always be wary of free things.... they are often times very expensive!

Alright.. just read through and found out it's just another episode of relationship problems...

you saw the red flags in your dating times and went ahead with the relationship, so who's to blame for that? when people get into a relationship, they automatically stop thinking.. now you're suffering for it.. I'm sure there would be some guys who would have been 10x better but because that particular guy satisfies your fantasy according to the k-drama movies you've brainwashed yourself with, you said he was the one and your "ideal guy"... lmfao... isn't that self-deception?

you have 2 choices, divorce him or eat your own poison... if you divorce him, just plan where you would be with your unborn child and I don't think no other man would marry a single mother... this is the consequences of lowering down your standard, overlooking the red flags, being illogical in your ideal type of man, and refusing to remain chaste while in your dating years..

Zulum:
Sir you understood me well

She's kinda confusing some times doing good like nothing was wrong, but must times am not happy



Her dad said some womens have done jazz to separate us, is that possible?

But really she loved someone before I married her

lmao, okay let's go with your sob story and assume you've been jazzed, so you will wait until you get stabbed or killed by poison before the jazz commot for your eyes abi... lmao...

those who are jazzed won't be the one saying they are jazzed... don't end up the same way Samson ended his life..

Zulum:
I have done that on several occasion

Her reply will be do the worst

Zulum, I'm sorry but you're fvcking weak... She says those things to you, and you're here still talking about love, whining like a child... she might have even be wobbling another cock right now... your wife doesn't respect you, shouts at you in your own house, wishes you death, and you're saying you still don't know what to do, until she carry knife shook you for belle when you sleep abi? don't worry, I hope don't carry your news yet because even your enemy sef gan nor do pass this one...

divorce her dirty ass, take back your son, if the wahala too much on the son's custody, leave the child for them, go live your life in peace, your life is already full of problems, you still allow a problem live under the same roof with you... are you even sure the child is yours? smh... when we talk about red flags day in day out, you guys think it's just words, who's now crying and suffering for it now??

if you're not the owner of that space, leave there, divorce her, cease contact with her and her parents, take your child with you, but before ceasing contact with her parents, make sure they know what she did and don't tolerate nonsense... live your life in peace, your life expectancy is already short as a man, don't let a woman whom you're feeding and adding absolutely nothing to your life make it shorter... don't be a fvcking pvssy..

IconicR:
The sad thing is men with potbellies complain the most. You don't have any escuses for having potbelly if you are below 60 as a man. If you ain't very fit with a visible sixpacks as a man below 50 then you don't have right to ever complain about a woman's weight

yeah potbellied men can accept any shit type of women they want, men who value themselves and take care of themselves won't settle down for any fat shit...

obesity is a disease... if you're fat, you better start working on yourself because most people are just fvcking lazy and delusional...

Or11:
I no dey jealous, I even want her to cheat sef so I will have a reason not to be afraid to get caught

stay away from fornication... the price you'll pay will be greater than the product you bought...

PerfectStranger:
I even heard some are now purposely taking in then abort at the 4th month just to add weight

it's simply because they are foolish, no need to sugarcoat any words... some of them even translate the word 'fat' to 'curvy'.. bunch of delusional fools...

dump any fat girl as fast as you can... don't settle for any girl who can't take care of herself... don't raise fat kids either...

If you don't take care of your health while you can, you'll spend your rest days in agony..

SAMBARRY:
You have no idea how lousy and unruly these apprentices are till you have your own shop.if they are not stealing your money, they're stealing your goods or bringing men into your shop and leaving buyers or they're disrespectful TO buyers when you're not there and in your presence show fake respect

then if they are not doing what you ask for, or doing something behind your back, then you release them.. is not by force to make them work with you or make them undergo this inhumane punishment...

this is simply just cruel... anyone that goes against your words, you either deduct it from their salary after several warnings or make them stop working for you... life is not supposed to be hard...

saintbillion:

man thats life support. We all need it to be okay

change 'we' to ' you'..

saintbillion:

how do u guys cope without A?

how the people with good life and not brainwashed cope...

lol the way you're even saying it as if it's oxygen... lmao...

A and D... no singular benefit... just causing more health complications....

yes... that's even the best sef for men...

why not? she will be the one to provide for me, sure I will cook... she will be the one to get everything I ask of, the money I make will be mine alone while she sort out all the bills.... I enjoy my rest at home, sheybi is to ensure the house is clean no wahala... go and hustle for me outside and see how easy it is...

feminism is a blessing in disguise for men... mehn I so much love equality... all burdens and working as a slave for women is removed...

Reelmii:
This is for girls that date fraudsters..dating someone that calls himself killaboi and u think he won't kill her one day....


They will be alright....see how that fine girl just wasted her life

most women are foolish, at the sight of flashy things, their brain leaves them... "I want a rich man, I don't want a broke man", na so e dey always end.. they won't even bother to find out his source of wealth..

Jazmine10:
You can not lay the sin of one on another. So, whst if this man is supposed to be the husband of the younger sister? She should loose her own matrimonial home because of the sins of her sister? God don punish you kill you because of the sin of your papa? I don't know how some of you nairaland men reason or is it nairaland is littered with underage boys?

this is why I see Christians who say Jesus died for their sins as deluded... even when Jesus himself didn't say he came to die for any sins... every man for himself...

you saw a potential big waving red flag and you're still talking about love and marriage?

I love men like you..., it shows you see beyond the dangers... you'll go far in life boss man...

it shouldn't be of surprise especially to you pansophist, you know how these games work...

relationship these days is all ábout vibes and what the other person can benefit from each for the time being before going their separate ways... in fact, some marriages is nothing more than friends with benefits...

you have already explained the basis for rejections from people invited to these shows, it only shows you that kind of mentality and perspective people see relationship as today which was not the case when relationship was based on valid reasons... we see some of them here as well, constituting nuisance all round the thread...

it's just bunch of miscreants and low IQ souls..

Silentgroper:
Y'all should cut this niqqa some slack...

No be talent dem dey use blow for music industry these days..

exactly.. the people who discourage and criticize others are mostly those who ain't even trying... in Nigeria today as you have said it's not only talent..

in fact you can be singing total rubbish and still blow... we have so many musical talents but only few are known... if you don't belong in one cult or another or have some connections of people at the top, you ain't going nowhere... even if you manage to get the limelight, the light will be dim and you won't get any international recognition... most people don't know what goes around behind the scenes, they only get to see what's shown to them on the media... a lot of dangerous games are being played by these people most people look up on...

you have to join the devil if you want to eat with the devil, and sadly, that's the situation of things in the music industry these days... not just in Nigeria...

MrColdsweat:
The sad thing is these modern women are to raise the next generation of humans.

this is why women don't deserve total freedom... they are chaotic in nature... the ancient men who understands this part of women restricts them into getting into a lot of things... women are just like children.. spare the rod, spoil the child... they will go chaotic and hence, destroying everything on its path...

just imagine the next generation of kids from women like this... total chaos!

this is very good... well done

this is one of the devastating effects of addiction to pornography and masturbation...

you would feel something for the women in the scenes, but won't feel anything when it comes to real women because you've programmed your brain to be only attrcated to what it sees on screen.. it's just like smoking...

you better stop or try to reduce it as much as possible or you'll be on the path of no return...

Lurdd:
Don't judge me bro
We make some mistakes in life

this is what losers mostly say... making excuses for their own undoing...

instead of learning from other's people experience, they prefer to learn the hard way... you're a nairalander for that matter, how many times have this been discussed here week in week out?

you're of the people that feels theirs is always different until it happens to them... like I use to say, life will surely teach everyone when their time reaches...

🤡

You lost everything to betting, you still lost to simping...

bro, I'm sure your father might have disowned you by now if he heard what his son was busy doing...

sorry, not sorry, you should be sentenced to life imprisonment...

Adachizzy:
Nice writeup but the line you talked about a wife taking care of a man when old age comes, I disagree with it.

There's no guarantee that a man will always be the one to be carried around in old age. There's also no guarantee that he'll be the one to die first. There are women whose husbands take care of them and their age related sickness.

All in all, men should treat their wives well because it's the right thing to do and also to maintain a healthy and peaceful home. Nothing beats coming back to your peaceful space.

Men o, women o, respect yourselves. Tomorrow is pregnant.

you're the only one who commented right... you see that OP up there, is just a self proclaimed clown 🤡 we all know here.... she's just heartbroken, frustrated and lonely...

shey na only men dey get sick or na only men dem dey abandon? your last statement where you said a man and a woman should treat themselves well is the ultimate point because a man can still treat a woman well and end up being abandoned as well... most times, due to the fact that women are unpredictable is the reason why some men marry more than one wife to avoid bullshits like this in the future, at least if one leaves, one will stay...

and please, a man marrying more than one wife and taking care of them and the kids is not an act of irresponsibility... it's not the same as sleeping around or having side chics... in fact, it shows he's disciplined... as long as he carries out his responsibilities...

OP, go and heal yourself, men are not the cause of your problems, you're solely responsible for the choices you make in life...

guobe:
Many guys have done more than buying phones for their toasters and I don't think that will remove anything from them if they are capable.Person wen broke no fit do that one.

you don't get it... there's nothing wrong in buying phone for anyone or helping anyone, but the question is, “why are you doing it?”, “who is this person to you?”, “what makes this person deserves it?”

what is your aim, and what do you hope to achieve? your answer will tell you if you're being foolish or not...

guobe:
lol but no be bad thing to toast girl na.

lmfao, so he's still at the "toasting" stage and he don already buy phone... whether your story is real or not, I can't help but laugh because simps will never cease to impress me.. they've done much "wonderful things" than that... nothing wey simps nor fit do for pvssy

he should be sentenced to death by hanging...