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It's just a cultural thing...

It's just like how people feel addressing someone by their first in name Nigeria... it's seen as one being disrespectful. .. you have to call the older person uncle, aunt etc..

That was one of the challenges I went through way back when I travelled out of the country....

I couldn't just figure out how to call my boss then (two decades my senior ) by his first name..... I recalled then that it sounds pretty weird to me.. call him sir, he felt I was insulting him by making him old... but when I became familiar with him, I began to address him as sir just to annoy him..

Nowadays it comes natural as if I was born to call people by their name.. though a little challenging when in Nigeria association.. u don't know which of the elderly ones that might like it or not...

enemyofprogress:
I ate that simi girl with passion

ATE?

ThothHermes:
That's how it works. There cannot be two captains on one ship. Check divorce rates in the West.
You cannot be falling a man's hand in the presence of his children.

Just get some helmet man.. Nairaland female warriors are gonna come for you head soon...

This is what I tagged revised standard version story.... This lady omitted a lot of things here... He was driving yet he sent you to buy something...

There are lots of stuff that didn't add up here... The man would have given us the King James version of the story

When someone is sincerely looking for advice you should try add add important detail..I believe that man might give something so different from this

Good actor those days... Circle of doom... Fatal desire etc..

YoungFr:
I sent the money about two or three weeks ago, I sent the money because Nigeria Hospital can't be trusted, they may request deposit before taking the delivery. I don't think they capitalize on me having a mle child because I'm just 26 years old and I take both make and female child equally. If you read my previous post you will understand clearly

26years is not "just " U are an adult.. capable to vote and be voted for.. able to make a choice and stand by it...

But since you are not capable of distinguishing between right and wrong, let me help... As a married man, promiscurity is no longer in vogue... it is Gomorrah

Sorry about your loss..

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That's not the only thing... They also needed landlines owned by the government to make official calls... Using mobile number to make official call should be a NO NO in any country in the world...

UjuJoan2:
The wife may now want to leave her home in order not lose out to another woman. But he will be living with a very bitter and sad woman.

U are right... but OP will really really have to figure this one out on his own... It's a tricky situation if not handled properly, I foresee a toxic environment for a long time..

One whole week of silent treatment and being grumpy?... That could be really exhausting... Is he eating her food? Or is not eating included on the one week package...

The couple were perfect match... made in heaven... Why.. because they got EGO problem.... No one wants to be the first to admit of wrong doing... I can imagine the kids walking on glass... or tip toeing around the house

If I was to be in your shoes i will have a DNA done first just to be sure. ..

If it was confirmed then I will assume full responsibility...

There are lots of women out there who are training a loved child without bringing the said child home... Understanding with your wife is the key... U will disintegrate the home if u considers bringing the child to your main house where you are... Except if your wife is mother Teresa..

Can't believe some people still think that wearing attractive clothing will make a man not to cheat

Firstly..How old is your brother

secondly..how long is he planning to stay @ your place ( Months or years)

Thirdly... Do not be too scared to show him or tell him the situation about your account balance... Even a child understands when money is not available not to talk of someone old enough to have a girlfriend... Don't be a nag but be realistic about your financial situations with him..

How I changed
I became a host AKA usher in Church...U know how big hillsong church is right? Yea.. so I signed in to be the one giving seats to worshippers..

It practically helped during my presentations, job interviews etc... I never liked wedding but a friend wedded about 3yrs ago, the MC while they danced for 5min, asked people to join the couple on the floor, no one was willing,
I checked myself.. I looked really cool.. I just joined them....then everyone started coming out... if it was those days nothing will ever make me come out...
Introvert is good but sometimes you find yourself lonely in a crowded place... which some might mistake u to be proud

My literature in English teacher way back in Secondary school would have given a lot of people here Zero for writing "out of point "

The guy clearly stated that he wants to know how to deal with the issue between him and his mother in law..

But almost every one is getting ahead of themselves here talking about the wife. ...or am I the only one that read the comprehension wrong?

So who will pay for the underwear they forced him to wear. ...the crowd?

What's the big deal about telling people that you were pregnant?

Your family are not in a better position to tell your sister how to plan their family...it is between husband and wife...

She got pregnant and did not tell u... U too got angry and "fall pregnant" so that u won't tell.... haba!! Is it a competition?

Crying will not solve the problem... I believe Nigeria still got law relating to this... and people still study property Law

Ignorance at it's best...

So she told u that u can't get the virus if she was taking the medication right?

You were looking for sincere advice. ..Are u really ready for my own version?... OK here is my input...

If you were my my younger sister, I would have demanded that you tell me as if I was a 5yr old why marriage should be a top priority now @ 24.. I guess U started shopping for husband @ the age of 22.. from US suitors to Malaysia ones when u should be looking for a way to make a good career..

If you get married now, what saving do u have? U just go into marriage empty handed and u expect the man to take care of u from common sanitary pad to cloth that u were wearing. Are u not indirectly handing him right over u..since u have nothing to contribute financial wise..

U are in your finals (good news) but why not wait a little and get a job or has he promised to open a lucrative business for u? If not, then I am very disappointed that u got a smart phone but u can't think smart. trying to go into a union empty handed. I was made to understand that the daughter of the land are getting smarter but U? ... And to think that adults like your father was even supporting u over this....

Look I like when people do something that makes them happy as long as it does not hurt anyone. But u are about to make a cool mistake but if u think that getting married will make u happy then go ahead...

As for thinking that Your mother does not want you to get married, that is just a stupid thing to say.. Assuming you were working and were giving her money, I would have said otherwise... But your typing was based on someone who was clouded with infatuation on the fact that the "Guy was taking care of u" and u don't want to hear voice of reason..

What a matured lady would do will be is to have a mother and daughter conversation and find out the reason why your mother was giving cold shoulders to men that got no house... She might be trying to save u from the mistake she made in the past. Find out about it and go to your Father for confirmation... then u give her the assurance that it will not be like that.. My guess was something happened to her in the past that she does not want any of u to go through...

I'm guessing you gonna act like u can sweep from Abuja to Lagos all by yourself right?

And God help u you saw his mum in the kitchen..u Jump in and start cooking and cleaning just to score a mark right? Even when his female siblings are in the sitting room holding TV remote control watching Soap opera right?

Please do not reset your default settings..from introvert to extrovert just because of a boy and his mother.be original..U are cool the way u are.. If they don't like u and he loves you, he will fight for u.. if not u know the nearest exit door..use it..

It's like cinderalla story...apart from the child birth... I'm guessing you are the sensitive type.. Just hit "I don't care button" and u will be just fine

U keep telling them to endure and stay on in an abusive relationship over there in Nigeria right? Hmm !! I'm Just wondering, maybe Nigerian judgment seat in heaven might be different from others all over the world.

If there's no love any more in a relationship.. and the reason they came together in the first place was the fact that they can tolerate and live like one.. if that bond is not there anymore and either of the couple has done all they could to salvage the relationship it did not work ... why stay on it? Is it the fact that u enjoy telling the Christian women to suffer, or that the pastors love it when they bring their family problems to them so that they will feel so important?

luba9876:
You what is your longevity?

I like your question or should I say answer..honestly...

Just wondering the name of this particular disease u mentioned... U have mentioned the characteristics/symptoms ( which could be talking from sunrise to sunset ) U didn't tell us the name of the disease

On a more serious note, he is in a wrong job.. What is he doing in chevron when he should be in a radio station..
firing all sorts of question to people especially the politicians... a guy once mentioned how his name appears in every noise making list... he became a radio host/ presenter..

tensazangetsu20:
This guy's sex tape is on xvideos . Just type his name in the search bar

Is the boxers custom made... how did he know it was his?

kingreign:
Go for deliverance

Yes!!!..Before I opened this.. ...I kinda know that some one will say this

Can you give me two reasons why your cousin doesn't want the guy to see the text messages?

goslowgoslow:
Have you ever been to the US before? I doubt if not you will understand. You people condemn your country every time as if America is heaven. I live here in the US, you can get shot at anytime for no reason. Almost every body here has a gun. Do we live like that in Nigeria? Granted we have serious issues regarding lives but here is worst. Don't you hear about cases of innocent people being killed in the US inside churches, clubs, schools, malls etc for no reason? At the end in some instances the killer(s) will be released under the guise that he has mental problems.
You should stop living in a fools paradise.

U lived in US.. yet u can do anything to remain there despite the fact that it wasn't safe for u...
Maybe u should go back to Nigeria where it is safe then...

Auladimeji:
Yes in term of violent, remove north from Nigeria, we are safe than Americans

How can u remove Northern Nigeria... is it not Nigeria... Anywhere around the world knows Nigerian unrest because of the north

decatalyst:
Thats why it is scary to go to the US!


Too much freedom of this and that brings too many issues and avoidable pains.

And Nigeria is better? ... Where human life doesn't cost much.. almost a zero value