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She is just a kid.... This Y2K parents should allow their kids to grow up now haba!! 2 yrs, she is already in school.... In three years time u will come here again and ask if it was normal for ur 5 yr old not to know algebraic equation.. then those lying parents would tell you how their daughters and cousins started solving it @ 3.

Stop stressing that kid please. Let kids be kids

What is family without fighting screaming and slamming the doors..when together... It is the Beauty of it dear all over the world..

The only thing that you need to learn is when to draw the line... If things goes South for u, Nairaland will not be physically present for u...but guess who will be there.. ur family. .. but why are they there despite the fighting..? because they are family...

Things might the wonderful right now for u...U feel u are ontop of the world..( good feelings though). but no one knows what tomorrow might bring... totally cutting them off might not be a good idea...

I guess someone must have told him about father and son bonding... or he has seen it with someone and he feel as if he was missing out...

U too, for u to come up here to write it shows that u want to make an effort..

Growing up, there must be a topic u know that tickled his fancy, start with that... Don't bother about an awkward moment, because it will creep in when u ran out of what to say... Just keep doing it, eventually the discussion will start flowing normally... It only requires time and effort and some small cash to buy local beer or suya depending on how buoyant u are... Life is too short make it happen before it is too late...

By the way, remember kids does not come with manual, so no parent can claim to be the perfect one.. he trained u the best way he knows.. don't hold it against him..

lilmax:
lol

why haven't I seen the "you're insecure line" up to 10 times on this thread? because she's a woman?

@op your husband is immature and seem 70% jobless

married men do not go out to visit women, they hang out with their guys for football, drinks for fun, serious minded guys not the pressing brezz.and yansh crew

I'm sorry but if your man cannot see anything wrong with it then you're in big trouble

and trust me if you start visiting your male friends your marriage is heading to destruction

Maybe u did not read the part that says it was a holiday period... what if his so called "guy friends" traveled for the holidays,and there was zero option does that make him immature or jobless?

Trust is really dead in lots of relationship this days... Is there no correlation between an organist and a choir mistress.. be it single or married?

have u considered the fact that he told u because he got nothing to hide?... Why can't u just trust him for now untill u got a reason not to? haba!!

People sometimes try to fish out issues where there's none.... They keep on digging even when the ground is solid and protesting that there's no sinking sand they keep digging

Acidosis:
An achievement is something you aim at achieving and then you put in efforts to achieve that goal.

Anything can be defined as an achievement: including marriage, child birth, a degree, a visa, a car, a job, etc.

My brother I would have agreed with u assuming we are here to define Achievement in this particular matter.... I kinda feel sorry for the OP if he feels that he is so simple to let one word define who he is...Dying an untimely death will be when u basically allow the society to decide what u are and when to do things.....If marriage is his goal, he should go for it..but in the gospel according to St. Richy, Marriage will never be included as an achievement..it's just being with someone..The way u make friends...

Your sister is with u..@ the place where u and your husband is living....she was not paying bills there was she? ..... case closed.....

My only advice to you is to try and save for rainy days....

Disadvantage of not living in a boarding school 101

Anyone that lived in a boarding school most likely will not feel this way

Marriage/ Relationship is not an achievement.... if u were in it, it simply implies that u want to be with someone... If u don't want to be with any one, How does that make u a loser?

The annoying part of this gist was that the lady was sick... haba!!!! If u guys keep on moving her money, Basically u were indirectly telling her to go and die right? without money how will she treat herself?

This kinda story is not good for Xmas... it's not Christmasy at all... Not trying to be the devil's advocate but what if he was telling the truth... Some times things are not the way it seems... Don't be in a hurry to nail him to the cross... Some smart girls on this planet knows how to put someone in trouble some times... She must have figured out that u were the wife... and decides to hit him hard so that u will act the way u were acting now...

What I am trying to say is that u should hear him out.... He might have nothing to confess to u...

He is not disabled but physically challenged stop using the word disabled.. It sounds some how to the ear..

People that were advising u to take charge as the man, hope they themselves will be there to take care of your kids..

what your mother inlaw is doing for u is what some people get paid for... If she goes, can u afford someone to look after ur kids while u and ur wife were away? if yes, then let her go... if not, then talk to ur wife... Let her know how this whole thing is affecting u... just say it in a calm manner... then let her know that u can tolerate a lot of things but what u can't take is her giving ur stuffs out without telling u...After telling her that, get out of the house for 2 hours and cool off somewhere (not in beer parlour) because i know u might be boiling up to 89 degrees but trying ur best to say it calmly..Goodluck man

Also if u wanted space, then two kids are enough.. so that you won't be going through all these... your wife using kids to bring her entire village to ur home..

Sorry about your friend's demise... But it is the wife I am worried about...So she is not gonna say goodbye to her betterhalf...No last respect for her..., only for her to recover and u guys just pointed a grave to her... Are u sure this whole thing is a good idea?

I can't judge u man... but I will hate you if u infect that wife of yours expecially if she is innocent and faithful...

Recklessness is no longer 'invogue'..get yourself tested pls...

When u finally get married to him, are u guys gonna be eating grass? Hmmm!!

is your man not supposed to save a little for emergency.. He just got a new job that might not even pay as the previous... U are simply in a hurry to answer Mrs..

If I happens to say that u are a good man now OP...., It will sound sarcastic...

Some Question are not worth asking at all... If you are really curious, just ask your parents...They are in a better position to satisfy your curiosity

I Heard that old wine tastes better...But you can try the new one win if u feel it is ok.....Grasses are not always greener on the other side of the wall you know....

There's a saying.... the devil you know is better than the angel u don't know....

I would have advised that you stay on your own since you are doing better with a man..but since that is not an option... then.. do what you feel is right...

Tinosa:
I didn't need a pastor for that I saw d shrine after having several dreams with koro koro eyes. Everything is not all about pastors u know. D man even use hes own mouth to say he was .not using d shrine against us yet spills of blood do appear at our frontage. but unfortunately for him, my dreams showed me otherwise. I'm sure ur one of those atheist so u won't understand when d bible says we wrestle not against flesh and blood but against principalities and power. #if u know u know#

God has not given us the spirit of fear... but of sound mind.... U are just a baby Christian...if an ordinary harmless mirror is scaring u...

if u are truly a Christian as u claimed and are wrestling not against flesh and blood as u said.. Then grow up.. and put on the whole armour of God and fight... not by mouth and being paranoid....

CuTTiieAngeL:
What is the house of the lord turning into what is he flying for? who asked for a show?

He was illustrating how the coming of Christ might take people by surprise... what's wrong in that?

He must be really rich to be buying O level forms all the time...

yvelchstores:
U are too paranoid. I stay away from Ur kind cos if I carry Ur child and the baby cries, u will say I be winch. U suspect everything and everyone and that is the real bondage cos u live in perpetual fear. Only the word of God can free u from such affliction.

I agree with you 100% she is the type that breaks happy home if married into a united one....

First landlord blinded her eyes...But she managed to see it through her pastors I guess...
Now common mirror is now an issue... I can just imagine her family background...

stansaintly:
Thank you my brother. A lady up faced me as if I'm siding my brother. No, far from it cos I will have my own family tomorrow.

You did not do anything wrong man...U were only concern about your brother... any reasonable and family oriented individual will do the same... Only give your brother advice that will not destroy the family... I pray they iron out this issue peacefully... I for one I dislike anyone that can't keep or stick to an agreement.. it puts me off....

efighter:
I am a Muslim, I am married to a Christian. We married at her Church. We have been married for 7 years plus. We do have issues just as every other marriage but Religion is never any of our issues. If you cannot love a fellow Christian, how would you love a Muslim or an Aetist?

I am happy for you man...

But Love and keeping/ honouring a contract is a different thing.

I love you.. u cannot mess or cheat on me.. and i will never cheat on you...Contract/ agreement...

I will honour u with my body all my life....Agreement/Contract

We will not marry in your church or in mine.so that no one will get cheated as we start a new live together Contract / Agreement...

If someone goes contrary to that agreement, do you think the other party or partner as this case may be will be happy? Why was it so difficult for the woman to keep to what was agreed upon before the marriage and it has to be the man that was blamed for not loving her enough. ... Do u think the case of cheating on one's spouse was the only marital agreement/contract that cannot be over looked?

The last time I checked marriage got certificate..and it is contractual..

Nigeria is just the only country that doesn't believe in death... preparing for it is a taboo and un heard of.. that was why insurance companies that does health (funeral cover ) will never make it in that country... Just look at the condemnation up there on this thread...

sirfarouk:
How do you snatch someone's wife? When she's not a handbag.

I'm trying to figure that out too bro.. I might be wrong but I guess she went to him willingly... And wouldn't have the decency to admit it in public.... allowing the man to bear all the blame

Plant guns...

That snake look depressed

ogawisdom:
The agreement was for the purpose of the wedding only I guess, anyway what if she refuses to change church?

oral agreement is not tenable

Verbal agreement or oral contract are generally valid and legally binding as long as they are reasonable and were made in good faith... look it up anyway

ogawisdom:
The agreement was for the purpose of the wedding only I guess

The OP is the only one that can clarify if it was on permanent basis or temporal as u said..