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Excuse me man!! permit me to ask this harmless question. If truly you were maintaining your distance and stopped all communication, how did you know your flatmate was calling and asking her of your whereabout?

Tears of Joy maybe... Who knows what he has passed through on this planet.... All the rejections, heart ache... before he found the star fish or Gold fish "

The wife should buy the properties and write him a cheque ...

What a petty issue

You really have to save more man.. because having a family is not a small responsibility.

But if you think you have a family abroad and you wanna travel and be with them, U will have a wake up call when you get there and realize you have to pay your own bill and fend for yourself and the moderate money you think you have will not be enough when exchanged into the host country's currency..

Is job ready for you over there? If not, How many months do you hope to get a job when you get there? Except if you have exceptional family that will take care of your bills though...

You really need to start saving now for rainy days man... No one can trust job security nowadays...

I guess you are wearing the shoes only you knows where it pinches..You have to advise yourself on this one..

What kinda Nonsense is this

You have stated what her frustrations were right? , so just think nothing about it.. you said it was a heated argument... So, it was said out of anger in that heated moment...

All the lazy "Nigerian Youth" will say... Amen

Fortissimo502:
Lol funeral insurance. Abeg na health insurance.

So you have not heard of funeral insurance or (cover) that covers all funeral cost and expenses for the whole family? Anyways google is your friend

If she actually went to church, is it not for the good of both of u? I heard "two became one in marriage " or is it not applicable in your own case?

Any ways that is why I don't attend marriage ceremony... When u all lie to each other in the presence of God and the officiating minister.. and you friends just clap and cheers for u... because they knew very well you won't keep the promise..

Just settle down bro and leave drama for soap operas

I just hope when u clock 50, u won't go looking for cats to adopt...

There is no where in the world that is ok..it's not even easy in developed world..

Just that some country's administration is better than others.. that's why it looks as if they were comfortable..

Do you prefer to be in oyibo's shoes where u got paid $6000 a month, in that salary, u pay mortgage, car insurance, funeral insurance, car loan, student loans pay grocery.. by the time u look back, u got $350 left..

Wife material loading... this one pass 25 yards..

If I say what's on my mind, u might not like it dear... U have done enough.. just move on..

This story reminds me of the one on the other thread that was camping on the floor of the boyfriend 's one room apartment just for nothing.. while the boy and the sister were sleeping on the bed.. There are so many good girls this days...

Why would you make your self uncomfortable like this over nothing ...is this also part of being a wife material?

Can't you be a little classy, just a little?...Can't u vist him and when it's getting late, you head back to your apartment till his living condition improves... ?

Tomorrow now, when the going gets rough between both of u, u will be screaming that u met him when he had nothing.. when u were sleeping on the floor...Now He didn't ask u to sleep there yet u insisted that floor was the best...even inconveniencing the younger sister...Please dust yourself up from the floor and go home... have a little dignity... haba!!!

I just feel like calling your father to come and see for himself how foolish his youngest daughter is acting

You are having a sleepless night over a beer parlour talks right? Okay let me add my own so that you won't sleep for 10 days... If you sleep facing down on your Tommy , you will be having a discussion with Lucifer.. yes he will be planning to make you a level 69 officer.. Do not be afraid though, that level is just a Junior position..And it is not the 69 position that u already know.. all u need to do is blink your eyes 6 times and pretty girls would be following you..It is the seduction... Gizzz I sometimes love beer parlour talks...

Have you considered the fact that she might not even want to be there in the first place?

She might be doing it just to fulfill all righteousness..

Take care of your kids please.. She did not ask for what you were trying to impose on her.. assuming she wasn't alive, won't you take care of your kids?

I'm not trying to upset you the more but there are two sides to every coin.

LonelyHeart627:
Thank you so much sir. Although it is not easy at all!!

I don't want you due to the fact that you may have done a lot of bridesmaid end up with any guy that is putting on trouser.... if you rush in, you might rush out... Just settle down and breath in for a while and think... You don't wanna go into a cage with your eyes wide open.

I grew up in Nigeria..I am cool and I know it...

You have your own life to live... your siblings have also chosen their own part.. all you need is to define your own and stick to it... I have no respect for anyone that forsakes his or her family.. good or bad..

You might be surprised that those family that you intend to abandon today might be the one to die for you when you least expected it..

All I'm trying to say is that you should be the architects of your own life.. don't let any one define it for you.. And my dear brother, marriage is not and achievement.... It's just when two people decides to be together..If your sisters decides not to be with anyone , don't feel bad about it.

Be careful what u ask for dear.. A lot of ladies wants to be in your position but doesn't know how to go about it..

Wishing you the best.

This is just one of those funny stories I like to read here on NL that reminds me so much about my roots... Please don't take it to heart... Just take it to be one of those comic relief..

Just wait when you give birth, you start calling him Papa John, Papa Sandra... so that there will be peace in Jerusalem..

Whenever she comes around, that's when you can scream it the more for her benefit

Nice... take care of him...He will soon join Nairaland..

If she has been complaining, let her draft a time table for u on which day(s) that suits her.. It will be selfish if you are doing it while she was not enjoying it.. Just talk it out..

The time table might be hilarious but it might help since you were the one that got it really bad.... And it will help you to anticipate any day it was your time

And the younger Sister doesn't have a cellphone to call for help ? Or did the man also locked her cellphone too?

What kinda children are people giving birth to these days.. she heard someone screaming for help and she has to wait till morning? Haha!!!!

I have never seen a Nigerian that died on natural causes.. even when it was a kidney or heart problem, someone must be responsible for it...

I remembered a cousin of mine that was building his house about 6yrs ago.. two stories building to be precised, i guess they used substandard material for it and it collapsed... My Aunt said it was one of my uncle that pushed the building down.... We kinda laugh each time we had a family calls and remember that.. how my lanky uncle can push stories building down..

Good for them...

hanked:
Cannot say if uttered out of anger but that's a strong and heart breaking statement. her behaviours now showed she meant it.

I don't really care if money was the issue.. what I care about is your safety.. u might be eating one day and choke due to the fact that the food or water went to the wrong channel... she might just stand there and watch while u struggle.. because that's what people with zero feelings does.. I might be reading too much meanings into such careless talk but... hmmmm..

Just let her clarify such awful statement so that you know where u stand with her.. U can't stay with someone with zero emotion for u man

I don't understand the part u said the feelings was dead... What's there to do salvage again qin a relationship when the feelings were dead...

Did she say that out of anger or was it the simple truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth so help me God?

I don't just understand how you plan to bring a new born baby in a toxic environment... Let me say the did has been done, please go for family planning dear... Wait for a little longer before u get another please...

I can't possibly say that what your husband did was right but you narrated the story just for your own benefit.... I know that before a police could be called over an argument, violence must have happened, and your husband was even the one that called the police instead of u. Meaning you were aggressive maybe..

You guys should find a mutual way to resolve this and above all, put the children first and act in their best interest..

This topic is really sensitive in a way..
I could remember the first feminist in the good book that couldn't submit due to her feminist nature.

The king, after getting drunk asked her to come and catwalk for his guests...

She was like what nonsense....Meee!!! Queen V. to walk elegantly and impress bunch of drunk fools..not in this life time... Though a lot of people will understand her reasons ....

dairykidd:
Lolzzz very funny u... What if u go to school get the cert & still no job.. I am not saying he should quit school totally i'm just saying he should not quit his dreams.. He can be a student and successful biz man at same time.. In these parts we put so much on acquiring certs witho really getting any real valued knowledge. We just love the title. When in the real world,making it never really meant getting a university degree. Follow ur dreams, get the cert if it will make ur parents happy.. But never give up ur dreams & happiness for anyone..even ur parents. They have lived their lives & they cant live urs too.. Even if u fail at first u dont need a certificate to fall back on.. Abi u keep job for somewhere If u fail keep pushing keep learning from those in ur chosen biz, get more knowledge and never ever quit!!!

My brother believe me this got nothing to do with attaching much importance to certificate... it is called tightening all loosed ends..

I will never advise any one to give up his or her dreams because I am an advocate of what ever makes one happy.... Any move he makes now will affect the future.. either good or bad.

He is 19, let us say he becomes a business man @ 23 and starts flourishing in business, he might decide to get married @ 28, children starts rolling in @ 30. If the business nosedives, due to economic or political reasons and no certificate to fall back on just incase, and maybe the house hold role changes where the wife now became the breadwinner of the home,....

If she isn't good or loyal, we might be here when he will create another thread captioned, " my wife thinks I am a fool because she's now the breadwinner "

This is the time to avoid such stories and situation.. Every one knows that going into business is not easy because of the uncertainties..but everyone needs some thing to fall back on if such situation arises..

Talking about rising again when you fall, if you don't have the right people to help you rise again, it will be a very long road to walk... Some friends / Family members might stop picking your calls thinking u want to beg one thing or another, if it was possible some might even try not to breathe the same air as you..it is just a life situation..

You needed some thing to fall back on if the business did not succeed. It is just the harsh truth.

Business is tricky some times.. Some try once and succeed... some twice etc. If you fall amongst the category that were not fortunate to make it blossom at a go, with your certificate, you can always dust it, look for a job for the time been, raise some money and continue with your dreams.. If you got no certificate, or no trade/ skills, what are you gonna fall back on, arm rubbery? I support your parent to some extend.