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ImaIma1:
Why are you laughing now?

I was laughing because anytime I tried to read any of his/her Bible submission, I feel like I took some drowsy drugs..I feel confused.. so I don't try anymore

sisisioge:
Hmmmm....what does your company's policy prescribe? Just go and meet her and tell her how wonderful she has been to you and how much you appreciate her leadership, then tell her that an opportunity you have been longing for for your career growth has presented itself and you would like to take it. Give her a notice period and assure her that you will happily ease the process of handover to someone else she employs to take your position. Also assure her that you would continue to do your job diligently while there and would continually be an ambassador of her brand.


On the flip side, be ready to be possibly excluded and disliked by her o. Most owner managed companies can't handle voluntary disengagement. Good luck buddy.

Please don't tell me you are one of the Human Resources managers... some that I know are not human and they lack resources

Klass99:
Proximity has a way of creating the right conditions for things to happen.

Knowing madam is just upstairs during a hoorny episode, will be an easier thought to act on, as opposed to having to dress up, take a ride and get to the destination.

I am just thinking out loud, not saying this will happen.

ufotunang:
....but even if he has his own accommodation...the cousin can still come and visit his wife where the wife is staying...a visitation... and with frequent visitations anything can happen...it's just for him to tell the wife to resist his cousin if he wants to tempt her to have sex with her...she should not allow it..iso if the wife is discipline and have self control he will not allow him to sleep with her

ImaIma1:
Kobo's understanding and interpretation of the Bible is obviously twisted. No point in engaing in an argument. It will just rip you of what you already know. And that is the point of the "twistedness"

ALOCORA:
Reading all opinions have cleared a substantial part of my frustration.

I deliberately twist the case the other way. This is a true life situation in my home/marriage
1. 17years of marriage
2. Married my wife as a muslim lady then
3. She started visiting churches when i was out of the country in 2018 just for 3 months
4. All sort of pastors will invite her to mountains for prayers.
5. Started attending sunday services in my environ. Estate.
6. Going to vigils on fridays
7. Going with the children when am not home.

In all of this situations i let her know that i will not be able to bear her practice but she was adamant

Fast forward, she has turned to prayer warrior now, most nights she will not allow me sleep.

She even packed all her things and moved to the children room.

She brings her pastors to our home mostly when am not home for prayers.

She has turned our children to her new faith.

Any little matter in the home she calls her pastors to report and they could not even call me , the church is in my estate i know all of them

Now my concern is
1. Is it morally right for pastors to encourage a woman whose husband is of a different faith and who they new quite well is a Muslim to attend their church without confirming the husband position.
2. Will it be seen as excessive or inordinate if i choose to part way with her as she is no longer submisive to the marriage vows and peace but to her pastors.
3. I am a moslem and have chosen to be abide by my believes while i also understand her rights too but i will rather live with a woman of a similar faith as that was a condition i set for my marriage.
4. She has not be submissive since her going to church.

This has degerated to crisis in my home since last year september while i have chosen to stay away from her.

How dare you twist the whole thing

Honestly, what she did was wrong by taking the kids to her new faith without informing you or discussing it with you... And the pastor has no right to force your wife to attend church service....She attended on her own freewill without informing you... pastors have no say if the congregation will or will not attend church service...

So you know, Christianity does not teach women not to be submissive...Can two work together except they have agreed?...

In my opinion, religion should not be the reason why both of you should go your separate ways. But if you are not happy anymore with the relationship, instead of committing murder and we have another Osinachi's husband in our hand, file for a divorce based on irreconcilable differences.....

cj1900:
This is another idea that I have never really thought about. Thanks for that advise, I will explore it further.

JovialJune:
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How far your bend-down boutique business? Hope you don't chase away customers with your dictionary induced grammar or you only show your word cramming talent here?

You love fight mister man, when everyone has forgotten someone like you exists, you come out of nowhere to exchange words with yourself, be calming down, if you lack drama in your life, fight with the walls around you now

Klass99 it's been a while, been seeing your mentions, was on ban so I couldn't reply.... but now I'm back....for more trouble seeking as usual

How was your cool off period? And they have to lift your ban on a Holyweek?

Klass99:
Ahn ahn Richy, did you not receive the memo that men are not emotional just logical? Some forum men will have us believe only we are emotional, but of course we know better .

There is nothing new in the original post that most of us (sensible women) didn't know already, the real surprise for me, is how majority of you (men) like to carry on as if you are not made of flesh and blood, and you are incapable of tears or showing real emotion.

Always acting macho, claiming logical and forming voltron up and down the place, but in reality what most of you want is to love and be loved, to be touched, held and cuddled.

Make una dey fool una selves there, when e choke you either communicate your needs or quench. Either way, we move. No time for grown men who don't know how to ask for what they need.

Some of us are just cool and collected though deep down, the pain is so unbearable... it's safe to say some hides their emotions better than others.. And unfortunately for me, I don't know how to hide my emotions... My family will only look at my face and they can tell when I'm sad.. Even in my place of work, I'm always cheerful but some times it's not really easy...

It will take a lot to make me cry though...The last time I cried, I was 11.. the first day I set my foot in boarding school... The school was serving Amala and dry Okro soup for dinner.. I have never seen Amala before, nor ever tasted dry Okro...I walked out of the dinning Hall in a dignified manner with hot tears as I was imagining what my siblings were eating at that time... That was my last cry... It's memorable

If they say men don't cry, it might be true because many are extremely good in hiding emotions not that they don't feel pains .. trust me we all do...

eyinjuege:
The suffering, torture and the death of Osinachi was due to one person only- her husband.
100% of her death goes straight to him.
Not her extended family, not the society, not even her for refusing to leave.
He alone made the decision to kick, blow and hit her with everything he could