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Before crass and/or opportunistic women start to see themselves in her image, she didn't say she's crass and opportunistic. Of course, there's nothing "simp" about her husband. They're just a conscientious couple who identifies with feminism; if her account is correct. And feminism, just like other movements similar to it, has never been a problem since people from both weak and strong ethical leanings identify with it; so, any problem associated with it has to do with the individuals involved.

Plead:
It wasn't recently. It happened last year around July or so, just that some miscreants kept bringing it up to shame her.

Your last paragraph, who are you referring to? Lordko I guess.

Plead/Elder0001, the effeminate and disingenuous bumpkin, calling white black to curry favor won't help you in any way; it didn't help you in the past too. Unfortunately, you don't learn from your experience. You and your ilk, everywhere, do always make me laugh.

Well, I understand that the systematic name-dropping of Lordko by you and your ilk, in this thread and other places in this forum, isn't done only for the purpose of vilification for closure but also to boost your infamous monikers - for she that seeks closure for heartbreak, refer to my personal text on my profile here for a more effective healing dose. Anyway, two of you, in particular, can continue enjoying the name-dropping privilege as fans of more than three years, provided that it'll help lessen your hurts.

Meanwhile, it's on record that Lordko has never initiated familiarization and admiration with anyone in this forum right from the inception; instead, the reverse is the case, and he's been the one running away from other people's attention. Also, he's never sent a PM to any Nairalander before; instead, the reverse is also the case. Of course, there's nothing wrong with people who do all these things.

On the other hand, about Mariangeles/mariahAngel's post, even though she didn't answer your question to clarify whether she referred to Lordko for whatever reason, no, it couldn't have been him.

Of course, you know my policy, I don't join issues with small-minded people - I only clarify things where and when necessary, like in this case. To anyone who's suffered heartbreak from me, refer to my personal text message on my profile here. And for those who meet the standard of the message on my profile signature here, you're safe with me.

One thing your ilk has in common is a poor marketing strategy. You've demarketed yourself before any aristocratic (established, refined but not stupid and discerning eligible man) man who may read through this your available and ready to mingle with an aristocratic man advertisement through your sententious and conceited disposition/presentation, which points to your character regardless of the glossing. I don't expect you or any other small-minded person to see through your shortcoming (the deriding aspect of it is nauseating) or acknowledge my submission in good faith. Universally, discernment and truth are meant for a handful of people.

You only stand a chance with a servile man or an opportunistic man who, as a small-minded man, knows how to wreck women who're small-minded like him disingenuously.

Plead:
He asked a simple question. Would she date or do the same for you if you were broke? Think, brother!!

Don't go and be useful to yourself; keep looking for a woman who'll assume you as a responsibility. No wonder they're always breaking your heart. Effeminate bumpkin.

Direct your mention to small-minded people like you.

Balderdash. A conscientious broke woman is better than an opportunistic and/or crass woman who holds the key of the universal wealth. You can take the former out of brokenness/poverty, but you can't stop the latter from from being toxic or meting out pernicious acts against you.

Summarily, a conscientious woman is deserving of a purposeful relationship from any sane man regardless of her financial standing.

Robertgreene1:
interesting...igbo girls re something else when it comes 2 cheating..gold digging nd frustrating their man with insatiable demands nd nagging...all of Dem that I've known all my life..from my sisters o..2 my cousins o..2 all my ex(s) o..infact all of em apart from my current fiancee of cus(na God himself sent me that one 2 help me fufill my great destiny in life)...I just look at em nd be like..."I just pity d man that will marry these ones"..

Let me assume that you aren't a bona fide Igbo man or you're mentally unwell because I don't believe that a sane and bona fide Igbo man will make this kind of assertion. However, shame on you and your ilk for your sententious, crass, and opportunistic disposition on Igbo women; if you're a bona fide Igbo man in good mental health.

Don't bother to pick on me because I don't have spare time to join issues with a small-minded person like you.

Married women who cheat do so because they aren't conscientious - and they're in multitude. Every opportunistic woman - and man - is inherently an embodiment of cheat married or single, while every self-absorbing one is susceptible to cheat subject to circumstances.

The reason isn't far-fetched; a thing like this is bound to happen once a wife's core interest (and vice versa) in her husband is based on his material/physical possession. Once the material thing that's the object of attraction isn't appealing to her again or unavailable, her "love" for him will automatically die. However, when a wife's core interest in her husband is based on his attribute/immaterial thing, her love for him will never die, provided that he remains true to himself.

Summarily, a husband's ability to maintain and sustain his wife's core interest in him is the only sure way to continually command her love. Every aristocratic man knows this secret; thus, the reason why the most important thing he observes in a woman of interest is her core interest in him and establishes if it's something he can cheerfully sustain and maintain in the short run or long run.

I consider it petty and inhumane for anyone who holds a conviction that, aside from rape or death of husband/partner, that a woman who's a single mother automatically doesn't deserve their help.

Irreconcilable differences can make a woman who has a child to separate from her husband/partner with whom she once shared a good understanding, and by extension, will automatically become a single mother. Now imagine a situation whereby a woman becomes a single mother in this instance or similar instance and in the cause of it loses her source of income or her estranged husband/partner who was responsibly paying her alimony becomes bankrupt. The salt of a sane society is conscientiousness - not self-absorption nor servility - as far as I'm concerned.

His conviction will only make sense to me if he didn't engage in premarital sex prior to marriage, and if he's been faithful to his wife, else he's a hypocrite.

The only kind of person that doesn't deserve my help - on his or her volition rather than mine - is he/she who possesses opportunistic trait, because an opportunistic person always sees every benevolent act of others towards her as either a product of the potency of her shenanigans or a means the doer intends to achieve a selfish desire.

2cribz:
No be infinity or lexus gx be that
So dis man no get money

Your thought process shows that you're a true personification of wretchedness and/or materialism.

This is a simple case of an opportunistic woman who was outwitted by an opportunistic man. My pity goes to her husband - who's wittingly or unwittingly servile or undiscerning - and her dead child.

PowerGlory:
I was in the said burial a d witnessed everything that happened.
1. The man died mysteriously in the house with wound on his head and the wife and children never told the man's brothers after 24hours but hurried him to the mortuary.
2. The man was a retiree of CBN a d pays the wife N100k and children N50k each every month but they starved him of food. It's his brothers that feeds him.
3. This same daughter asked his out of their house when he came to ask them why they beat up their father.
4. The said girl is in Law School and still behaves stupidly.
5. The man built a house but the wife a d children insisted that he'll be buried behind the house which his immediate brothers and kinsmen object that he be buried in front of his house.
6. Despite the money given to the woman she cooks with firewood upstairs.
7. The woman and children were asking the man's Will to be read while the corpse was still in the mortuary.
8. Anyone that cares should come to Oguta, Imo State to verify for himself or herself.

Thank you for this. Wherever you see an Igbo woman who complains about the Igbo culture, study her, and you'll see that either she and her entire family personify evil or she's a crass and opportunistic woman.

It's a known fact that once you resist a crass and opportunistic woman - or man - from carrying out her nefarious acts or meting out her perfidy against you, she'll automatically project herself on you and term you an oppressive and wicked person. On the other hand, non-Igbos who criticize the Igbo culture are naive, disingenuous, or outright enemies who take pleasure in casting aspersions on anything Igbo.

Separate a few evil individuals - there are evil individuals in every tribe and clime - and crass and opportunistic women who're married in Igbo families regardless of their parental tribe or the unmarried Igbo ones, you'll see that there's nothing wrong with the Igbo culture.

Conversely, she means that her perfidiousness - she's mistaken her perfidiousness for smartness - has been working on her husband. My pity goes to the husband who obviously; doesn't know that he's a frenemy as a wife.

Those of you who've doubted OUK's story about his encounter with Awolowo are uninformed or disingenuous. OUK has been privileged to dine and wine with world powers and leaders since 1983. He had the privilege to interview and interact with Margaret Thatcher and other world leaders in the mid-late 80s, how much more Awo. Time was in the mid-late 80s when MKO Abiola's Concord Newspaper and Iwuanyawu's Champions Newspaper, despite the mighty of their respective owners, used to contract him independently and rely on him to interview some world leaders for their papers due to the depth of his connection and contact with global leaders. Don't think that he's been late Mbakwe and IBB's most trusted boy for nothing.

Ishilove:
Watch out. Some insignificant specks of internet bits will say you are arrogant, needy and dull or whatever. (I couldn't understand the crap the fellow wrote because the English sef no balance).


Leave her. Eye go soon clear and body go tell am.

Too much foolishness abounds here for my delicate constitution.


*unfollows thread.

Stop nonsense forming; 6 writing issues you've in this small text should be reason enough for you to be ashamed of yourself. Thus:


Grammar
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1Wrong or missing prepositions
1Faulty subject-verb agreement

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Nairaland is one of the places where people like you who aren't qualified to lace other people's shoes always feel fly. Local champions and wannabe woke people. Point out a single writing issue in my post above and get a USD1,000 prize from me within an hour.

MhizLewa:
Why waiting for them to "school" you.... Can i say congratulations for having "more" friends ? Lol! Can be easier for some dear,.... Remember people are different huh! Besides, if u read through the post, u will deduce I recently moved from a place to settle here newly....

Back to ur question..... Lol! ��� U call urself an introvert.... claim havin lots friends and yet still question why an introvert like me seeks socialisation possibly from having friends Like seriously sis? � Dnt make me question ur thinking faculty pls!

Hugs & kisses dear!

Don't mind her and her ilk. The arrogation of sophistication, purity, and strongness (goodness in general) to themselves is their new-found modus operandi and marketing strategy, even when any discerning mind can always see through their neediness, hypocrisy, dullness, feeble-mindedness, and greed - typical crass and opportunistic elements.

Don't allow her succeeds in making you feel inadequate because you're better than her and ilk.

Meanwhile, consider building your social life around associates rather than frenemies called friends, and focus on making your boyfriend/husband a true friend. One major hallmark of unresourceful and opportunistic people is their accumulation of too many frenemies called friends or longing for too many of them.

The only kind of person who doesn't worth being placing confidence on - not to talk of trusting - is an opportunistic/self-absorbing person because it's expediency over principle to them. So, unless you're part of the few people who possess the power to dissect others and tell what they can do at any given time, you'll certainly always be a victim of their shenanigans.

Credit to them, you'll enjoy them if you're ready to kill your conscience and take to servility to remain in their book - merrier if you're resourceful - doing so will make them see you as part of "self."

Somebody other than the bank staff that attended to you, the sender, or you could also have picked the money; since the sender passed the money transfer information to you through email, so all of you are innocent until the real culprit is exposed.

And yes, some people need only the MTCN or even the sender's name without MTCN to collect your money anywhere in the world, USA, Canada, UK, Nigeria included, the Western Union official rule notwithstanding. So, the sender's been either naive or hypocritically disingenuous with her vituperation on all Nigerians.

The quickest way to resolve this kind of issue always is going to the Western Union official office in the country, not to their agent or their agent's representative; there they will call your sender to confirm that she knows you, and after that, they'll tell you an exact office where the money was picked. This doesn't take more than an hour to resolve, but things are done differently in our country.

The truth is that unless established that the bank staff who attended to you cashed the money directly or indirectly, you've no case against the bank and Western Union after knowing the office where it was cashed, but with the petty thief that cashed it; that's if she/he picked it with a real ID, and you'll need the police/EFCC to fetch him in this regard.

bukatyne:
@bold:

I am talking about Yorubas.

Personally, I would prefer a fair system where everyone is taken into consideration.

Happy Birthday mama de mama, a true conscientious woman. Wishing you many more years ahead with God's unlimited blessings in all forms. Actually, were it not that the new marital law of Nigeria forbids a married woman to receive an automobile as a birthday gift from a man other than her husband, I would've ordered one for you today as a birthday gift - let's blame the law.

pocohantas:
Oga, see person wey need $5k. Do giveaway!!!

You're behind that moniker; that's an indirect way you want to use collect my money. Come out straight with a letter of apology so that I can help your ministry as always. No letter of apology, no help.

pocohantas:
He won’t dare try it with those ones. Any day e try am, that with be the end of his conscientiousness and ethical leanings.

LOl, Poco, my little girl, forget all your gragra. I know that you're still in love. It's nothing to be ashamed of, and of course, I remain the same mighty man you fell in love with some years ago. Stop hurting yourself, and relish the fact that I've helped make you a better person in some ways. And as you know, hurting you have never been something I enjoy doing. And don't worry, I'll still try my best to facilitate your . . . as I promised the last time.

People like klass99, with her low IQ, won't understand why I give you kid gloves treatment always, despite your shortcomings.

nuelyoyo:
LMAO, just try using words synonymous with 'conscientious', it will make your comments more interesting. As for the 5k USD, there are lot of threads on NL about people in need. You can ask for their full names and account details, they need your money more than I do.

Wonders shall never end; imagine this local champion who obviously can't score up to 4.5 bands in IELTS test or 131 in GRE Verbal telling his lord nonsense. I knew that your first mention was an indirect way to make me notice your existence, like your ilk before you. Well, I have noticed you; however, you and your ilk should take several seats back. And no, you need the USD5,000, so come and solve one basic CompTIA Network+ question for me and take the money to better your life, since you're tired of hearing "conscientious" from me.

Direct your mention to small-minded people like you until you're sane enough to associate with me. Bumpkin.

nuelyoyo:
Lord ko, don't you get tired using the word 'conscientious' Na wa oh

I like it when men wish to hear something different. Since you're tired of hearing "conscientious" from me and I'm in a generous mood at the moment, let me help you hear something different from me with a prize from my magnanimity. You stand a chance to win up to USD5,000 within the next two hours. To start, tell me your full name.

sisisioge:
Lordko...you had to quote me to advise him despite not even contributing to the thread or attend to the mention of my moniker? Are you truly interested in advising the OP or still witch hunting the women folk? You have lied before against a babe that sent you CV that she was toasting and chasing you to marry her until you were bursted and deactivated your Lordko moniker. Now you decided to advise OP by quoting me to get me provoked. Whew! Your sickness is really beyond your small mind

@ OP find your own go front, let Lordko not deliberately look for fight to derail your thread.

To harlots and opportunists, truth means a lie and will always give an unwavering support to their ilk, that's understandable. More so, to them a moniker on ban means a deactivated moniker. Truth hurts. Lol. Well, I didn't quote you, I quoted the person, possibly your alternative, who recommended a bad market like you to the OP.

By the way, a conscientious proponent and practitioner can't be a party to the witch-hunting of an opposite gender; I only loathe harlots in particular and opportunists in general. I doff my hat to all conscientious men and women always.

Direct your further mention to small-minded and frustrated people like you.

hresso:
Sisisioge

You don't seem to have a good intention for Access1125.

@Access1125, beware of who they recommend for you or who may DM you because this forum has the largest congregation of opportunists and harlots, active and retired, in Nigeria, and STDs like HIV don't show for face. Wear your discerning cap and silently look here, or elsewhere, for a woman of virtue who possesses the material things you need in a wife since such is your main need. This tactics you have employed will likely leave you with an option of a pretentious woman choosing you as a husband, which doesn't end well. Put yourself in a position where you'll be the one to choose a woman you'll make a wife and get in touch with her without this kind of display, because in the end, it's majorly your sacrifices that will sustain the marriage. So, you've to go for a woman who possesses the immaterial things/values that are worth the sacrifice, not some opportunistic elements who'll ruin you even in abundance.

bukatyne:
Open your mouth na.

My guess is right.

Which is why is it funny when Igbos compare inheritance system with Yorubas or cite Yoruba men willing properties and lands to daughters as an example.

Yoruba does not have a 'oriaku' system of marriage. A child (irrespective of the source) is valued more than a wife. So that a prostitute with a child (proven to be the husband's and accepted) has more 'standing' in the family than a legally married wife without a child.

Notice how the man's family doesn't contest the son's right to inherit or bring him mother in: they would be content if she extends her benevolence to them.

The wife's regime has passed.

Your assertion that Igbos do value a child more than a wife isn't true. Assuming that the dead man in this story is an Igbo man, his action - whether good or bad - doesn't represent what the entirety of other Igbo men can do, because there isn't a centralized Igbo culture in this instance.

Another Igbo man in his stead might have willed all/lesser/bigger percentage of the wealth to the wife, regardless of the fact that she didn't bear a child, depending on his ethical leanings and what the wife means to him.

Another scenario could be that they're running individual financial races, so in this instance, the wife has all of her properties to her name and the same as him. Therefore, it would've been both illogical and inhumane if he had willed a major part of his estate to the wife, who's likely going to remarry, than to his son who'll sustain the family tree.

Most of these things aren't one size fits all; instead, they're usually done based on their individual merits. Where culture is just, it has never been about how the dead did their things; rather, it's always been about how the living chooses to do their things.

Logically, it's within her right to either deny or give her baby papa's parents succor. Humanely, however, she must give them succor because that's the conscientious thing to do. Summarily, her ethical leanings will determine her action - and her son did the right thing by not abandoning her.

pcguru1:
Guy u suppose no comment, all these Shalaye dey show say e dey affect you. just tint

Stop projecting yourself towards me. I wonder how the words of my rejects or their lackeys will affect me. Lol.

By the way, I'm too generous, so I don't deny people both their say and way at the same time. I always allow them to have the former; yet, that doesn't mean I shouldn't have my fun or express myself or reservation where and when necessary - if that's what Shalaye is, I don't care.

izzou:


[color=royalblue]Which kind mouth you get sef?[/color]

A born effeminate ass-licker. Don't go and face your driving job; stay here and be wasting away your time and ass-licking my reject, a small-minded woman with a histrionic personality disorder.

If it were not for your small-mindedness, I would've made an arrangement a long time ago to fix you somewhere so that you can be useful to yourself and Igbo people.

Nairaland is one of the places people like the opportunist you ass-lick who's barely surviving is striving so hard to use themselves as a standard of what success and sophistication are, lol. The good thing is that some other Nairalanders know me intimately offline, locally and internationally.

Your reply/mention will definitely be for small-minded people like you.

pocohantas:
Nobody disturbed you for relationship, Lordko. Na work the girl mail you CV for.

Refer to my profile personal text for a reply befitting you and your ilk. The guilty is always afraid, and accusing me of being behind the haunting monikers you and your ilk created to vilify me won't help your matter. Of course, direct your further mention to small-minded people like you, until you're able to permanently get a man of my standard and position in your life either as a spouse or relation. Local champion.