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Siena:
You haven't answered my question though. Are those who don't "speak in tongues" doomed to hell? I'm just curious.

Nope, they are not doomed for hell.

That is nice, will tell my dad, thanks for the info!!!

^^^^ My dear, i think she should tell her husband, that is a serious thing, she needs to open her mouth and tell her husband, infact she should bring the topic up infront of her mother-in-law.

Hey Guys, hope you all had a nice weekened

Logs for sunday, 30 minutes belly dancing with Laila Inla, nice!!!! had fun.

Monday; 30 minutes full body cardio workout, got them on you tube, they are so effective loved it.

HG, that link was an eye opener, i was thinking i was becoming addicted, though my goal is what is driving me to work hard, but i am not close to the addiction mark, thank God!! how body

@ Poster it is not a good arrangement, don't agree to it, especially early in marraige naaaa!!!!

Hmmmm!!!! this is a serious matter, it is better the woman tells her hubby instanta, about what the mother has said, And she should have her own properties, who says a woman cannot own her own business and have properties all over the world in her name and her childrens' names.

@ Gunshin, don't let anyone deceive you, what your wife has is a gift, would you like it, if it was you that was speaking in toungues and your wife was not comfortable with it

Do you know how long she has been praying for that gift

What kind of a husband  are you, if you cannot support your wife in everything Are you not supposed to respect her gift and support her?

I will advice you to restitute, and ask for forgiveness From God, Since you go to church often am sure you are farmiliar with the passage that says '' any sin committed against The Holy Spirit will not be forgiven''. if i were you, i will tread with caution.

I have an aunt who has been married too for over 15 years without a child, hers is due to fibroid issues, she takes in and after couple of months, miscarries, yesterday she called and we were talking, she asked after my son, though it was a smooth conversation, i still felt bad for her.

SAGALULU, this your post too long, haba!!!

Not everyman can be stronger than the wife, the guy should just leave if he can not condole her beatings.

Signing in too,

agiboma:
lol but judging on this woman's charecter i dont think she will care much, such she does not respect her marriage vows

you think so hmmmmm!!!! nobody wants to share her man oooo. 1st to do, no dey pain, na 2nd to do, eye go red.

kbdrim:
I would suggest a teenage section on nairaland. u certainly aint reasoning like an adult. If u dont really know what a career really is, I dont know the basis upon which ur entire arguement has really beenA CEO tomorrow is most likely to see his time as a bank teller as a job not a career, Let us not mix things up, How many CEO's started their banking careers as bank Tellers, Over 90% of bank tellers cant develop careers from that JOB.

every job/work you do now or anyone does is still just a job, you can carve your career from that same job and it will still remain a job, a career path is meaningless without a job. And your 90% of tellers cannot develop careers from that job is based on which survey?

kbdrim:
IMO and again I cud be wrong, Sacrificing Family for a career as a teller doesnt make sense, That is a ''job'' for school leavers in developed countries

Even sacrificing your family as a doctor, does not make any sense too. i was just saying a teller today can be a CEO tomorrow and can decide to have a career in banking.

davidylan:
i think hbabe is lazy period.

Secondly i here a lot of folks bandying the word "career" around. Are we really clear what this means or are folks who work as bank tellers also claiming to have a "career"?

So a teller cannot have a career in banking?

let her organise a pretty young girl for the girl's hubby, lets see if he will fall or not.

Funny!!!!!!

innovestor:
I have been reading other comments but this one is the single one that has provoked me to comment.

TV, you have received many rebukes because of your comment, but i must say i agree wholly with your point of view. The aim of this thread is to save a marriage which is what i think this advice will do. For marriage to work at times like this, drop pride aside. Other (seeming foolish) comments of locking up the husband in jail, sending him to emergency unit of a clinic will only end up destroying the marriage.

I for one do not say what the man did was justifiable as i do not subscribe to men hitting women (i have never done that and never will). but if you want to save your marriage one person has to have a heart of reconciliation. Forget who started the fight. Forget pride. If the man is not forth coming there is nothing wrong in you making the first move. In doing so. you also make it clearly known to him in a gentle manner as well that what he did was wrong and you would not want that to happen again if he loves you and wants your marriage to work. I bet you any man in his right sense will apologise to you for his wrong doing and the marriage continues in an even sweeter level.

Waging war of your husband is waging war on yourself. Paying back wrong for wrong will get you no where. I just spoke my mind. Its up to you to call me names and discard my suggestions or accept it. You are not foolish to make the first move at reconciliation. Wish you the best through this trying time.

And you are saying all these because you are a man. if it was a woman that slapped the husband, all you men here will tell the man to kick the woman out of the house. Marraiges will only survive if we all practise empathy.

agiboma:
Lol i dont believe in spanking but i cant wait to start giving him "time outs" i even got the little chair for him, but he just throws it all over the place and uses it as a ladder to climb o nmy son is also 18 months how is the talking coming along?

oh yea, he has started ''time outs'' in his room oooo, once i ask him ''DO YOU WANNA GO UPSTAIRS?'' he shakes his head!! and i smile to myself,( so you know what you are doing is wrong right)!!! Yeah!! i am beginning to make sense fropm what he says, he knows how to say NO well,other words or things he says are;
mimi- give mi
mimmy- mummy
chewy--1,2,3 etc, all of them are ''chewy''
chekky - take it

And so many, that i can't remember now,

moremi2008:
$$$ has no ethnicity! Some women would get married to a rock or a tree for the right amount!

Na so!!!!!

agiboma:
lol ohh boy sounds like a normal day in my household ahh yes these temper tantrums

Argh!!!! Agiboma you can say that again!!! you really need to see him when he throws tantrums, i still see him as a baby ( 18 months) can't wait till he turns 4 or 5 by God's Grace, then he will know his mum is a no-nonsense woman, i don't do ''spare the rod and spoil the child thingy'' not my thing at all.

moremi2008:
That's what they all say until Dangote/Adenuga requests the digits!

Dangote (not so much, not into hausa men) but Adenuga (maybe)

moremi2008:
LIES!!!!! You wan do, jor!

Me ke? i no get power ooooo

pLEASE, IGNORE MY QUESTIONS, I SEE SAY NA ONLINE RUNS BE THIS, WAS TRYING TO HELP A FRIEND OUT.

@ poster, where is the location of this job, what type of company is it and what is the salary like?

mutter:
Gosh I admire the patience and endurance of some mothers here. i would never carry a child that cries unnecessarily. I would simply deposit you on your bed and close the door. When the child realises it cannot achieve anything with tantrums it stops them very fast.
I do not believe in growing out of a phase but i rather tend to follow the nib it in the bud approach.

If you have a son like mine, you will eat a lot of patience and swallow it, my son can cry for an hour non-stop, and this is not an exagyration, last night he was crying for nothing (actually he was crying over his fathers ipad) and his father was not home and put me incharge of his ipad, i usaully have him put his things away before he leaves but yesterday was just an exception, and my son was angry that i kept the ipad frrom him, he cried and cried and cried, throwing-up all he had eaten, i picked him up took him to his room, left him there for 5-8 minutes, he was yelling and banging on the door, (still he was still crying) i took him out of his room, put him on my bed and turned on the tv, thinking he would keep quiet, i left him all by himself in my room with the tv on, (for where?) the little man kept crying oooo, he was watching the cartoon and was crying bitterly, this went on for 45 minutes, i just stopped the exercise i was doing, took him to the bathroom and bathe him, (then he stopped crying only because i went to carry him) that boy is just something else.

dayokanu:
Ronke

I cant agree with you any less. I left Nigeria in 2008 but my cousin travelled to Nigeria last year and if you see what I heard about naija girls and their sexcapades You wont believe

Actually he believes now that 95% of girls are into "runs"

They even told him its a normal thing for girls to do runs.

He was like some of these girls who are not full time ashi who stay by roadside or brothels might have slept with 50-100 men before they are 30yrs

I just pity some men who from Obodo Oyinbo would abandon all the girls here to go and look for "fresh ones" from naija

Na dem I pity pass.

In 2010 in NJ, I met some younger guys and they were telling me that since I am new in town incase I need female entertainment, there is one fresh from Naija girl they can give me, This girl they are talking about was a "fresh innocent" import to America by one 40yr old man and all those young boys about 26-30yrs around the area don sample am

Dayo you can say that again, again and again,  you know i thank God for where i am today, maybe i would have joined in the ''runs'' stuff, and that is only because i have big aunties and cousins ''runsing'' about, iAnd i don't mean some cheap ladies, i am talking about highly placed ladies. that ought to be financially independent with the type of money they are making at their jobs, 3 of the ladies i am talking about have already built houses and well furnished in lekki, and they have been calling me to come home that we will ''hook'' me up, i just look at them and laugh, because i feel they are empty inside, that is why they  are into all these nonsense runs.

ileobatojo:
How can you vouch 100% for anyone but yourself? Have you followed them around 24/7 during those 30-45 yrs? If they have any secrets to expose why should they tell you? It’s between them and their spouses. I didn’t say specifically that these men have cheated. It is the idea that someone else but themselves is vouching for them based on external things that I question. One can just never say never.

you are right one cannot 100% vouch for anybody, but you can 100% believe it when someone candidly says he has not cheated before.

HG, we are still in the vehicle ooo how are you?

Logs for yesterday, 50 minutes 'taebo explosion' with Billy Blanks, no exercise for me today ( my thoughts though) might end up doing yoga.

Everyone pleas enjoy your weekend.


@issaq, start with a long term goal, don't think you will loose all your weights in 2 weeks, i am talking about a 4 months weight loss goal (since you really do not have too much weight to loose) with everyday workouts and a not-so complete change of meals, youihave to introduce more of protein and less of carbs, though you need that for energy, drink water, i was adviced to drink more water and it has helped me.

ileobatojo:
I agree. The individuals involved are the only ones that can vouch for themselves 100%. Nothing wrong with trusting that your hubby will never cheat but to vouch for one’s dad AND father in law is a bit much.

Why can't you vouch for them There are men that have been married for 30- 45 years and have not for one day cheated on their spouses. ( they are few, don't get me wrong, but such men exist.

debrief08:
Hmmm, One of the younger staff in my office got married about a year ago, I remember while planning for the wedding I called her in one day to give her my personal contribution and she told me the gift was an answered prayer because her account is empty, I lectured her about the folly of spending all her resources for a one day even and told her to plan financially well with her fiancee so they wont be in debt. She told me the whole wedding responisbilities were solely on her head as her young man was not working. I remember telling her then that she should have had a smaller less expensive wedding. One year later, they are in a messy messy seperation, he said she said blah blah blah, the guy accuses her of still seeing her old boyfriend who is also married, the lady accuses him of being a lazy drunk. He has come to the office once to embarrass her and I pulled him in to talk to him, boy was I sad that day. He claimed he married her because she had promised to send him abroad for his masters and she had failed to do so. She on her part said she didnt get the money she needed to send him abroad and had gotten him 2 jobs which he rejected because he is only interested in going abroad, yet all he does is eat, sleep and even sold his wedding ring when she stopped paying him allowance. He said she was still seeing her sugar daddy and she told him to deal with it since he cannot keep a job and support him. To say the least I was scandalised. I later found out that in their area their public fighting was a normal morning activity.
I was really sad because I had always told her to calm down about her wanting to be married before she got married, she was 29 then and felt like the world was ending cos she was single.
We have so much work to do on our kids oh

My dear, girls like that are plenty on the streets, my younger sister served in GTB bank last year, and she was telling me how a custonmer bought a car for a colleague of hers who is married, and the lady was bragging that she was going to tell her hubby that they were all given car loans to get new cars, majority of Nigerian girls and women are so wayward. that parole thing has taken over.