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kokoye:
^^

Riiight on

So . . why do you think . .with a responsible family man, the wife comes first?


Maybe . . just maybe they dont love their kids enough?

I will be deceiving myself if i think i am number 1 on my hubby's list as opposed to our children, i don't want to be no 1, i want my kids to come first and that is just me, i know he loves me, that is the assurance i need, daily, that is.

Relocate your family, take them far-away, where  your parents will not have access to them, leave the house for them, there is nothing you can do about that one, let them eat it.

Why are you bothered? that he is leaving? God is removing trouble from you life and you are complaining,

My children come first, i don't know why, maybe because i am not the one that gave birth to my hubby!!!! , men will always find there way, but the kids there way is always back to your heart and home.

uche13:
Hi all, Thanks Hour-glass for that inspiring piece. At times it gets tiring jo and we just can not get to lacing our bots and wearing our work-out

wear especially when we seem to have reached a plateau.

@Modath

I tried Jillian's BFBM about twice but i did not really enjoy it cos it was so tasking esp after doing the 30 day shred.

[b]log for yesterday
1,000 skips, 50 bicep curls with dumbbells, 50 squats with dumb bells, 150 of other strength training exercises with dumb bells( don't know their names).[/b]Isn't it just awesome when people who know us keep saying stuff like " you have lost half of your body". "what did you do, please give me tips" and you get to give that very fake smile without saying a word .

Just the other day i went to see a branch manager who i am so familiar with in respect of one of the bank's cases. The man was so cold and officious and i was wondering why. As i was about to leave, he said "Ehen there is one , (called my name) who usually comes here in respect of this case, how is she?". I just smiled and said she is fine and standing in front of you. With his mouth wide open, he was amazed beyond reason and started the usual bla bla bla, what happened to u talk .

NIce one, 1000 skips, see me struggling to do just 150, nice workout you got going.

Goodmorning guys, hope we all had a great weekend??

@ HG, been doing my workout but too busy to come online to post, lost 3 ponds last week, am sure should have lost more, but i was indulging in all sorts of things last week Anyways am glad figure on the scale dropped and did not increase or else would have sat on it and wept .

log for yesterday; 15 minutes cardio kick-boxing and another 25 minutes zumba dance.

bigchief3:
Was it jeans shorts? and is there any particular reason why you always sleep with your shorts?

No it was not a jeans short, it was more of a ''khaki'' material, i just loved to wear trousers and shorts, more so we had guys living with us, cousins and uncles, it was more decent for me to sleep covered, incase somebody bursts into the room unknowingly and one is snoring away with legs 180 degrees apart.

Sagamite:
[b]Models are not human beings? What is different from marrying a model and marrying a fine girl that works in a science lab or as a secretary in a office? Is that also because the man is looking for a trophy wife?[/b]People can't marry a model because they are attracted to her and like her.

I know for sure some are married to the ''title'' or the ''job'', the purpose of marrying this models are usually for ''show-offs''or for their ''pockets'' only very few are init for the real thing.

Sagamilo, why the matter dey pain you now, are you guys related? He should just pay the money, because if he is not careful, he might pay more than that to her.

dayokanu:
Word. The kids might not be too proud to tell their friends that my mom is a housewife When their friends are saying my mom is a lawyer, Accountant, doctor Engineer.

It would almost be like saying my mom is an illiterate.

OP Tell him you want to test it out and if its affecting the kid, you would quit in 3 months immediately, gradually he would get used to it.

Also get a maid for housework so you can have time for the baby solely.

@ POSTER just repeat to your hubby word for word, what DK has typed here and lets know what his reaction will be, but before you do, cook the best meal, give him the best Kpekusing, then ask him when you know he is all smiles and relaxing. I tell you that his reply will be ''yes, go and work for a while,'' if not, come back and we will tell you another route to follow.

^^^^^ Idon't know oooooo, maybe i need help

armyofone:
while you guys are at it abt shopping and staring at the clothes and trying them on,nothing to carry afterall.
but tell us about the shopping for food part.
now, do you leave her to do that alone too and the bring in all the heavy shopping bag home and put them away alone?

My dear, i don't shop for food ooo, my hubby does it, and i am so glad, i am just too lazy to shop for anything, especially food.

I prefer my hubby's natural perfume, i love to sniff his singlets and boxers (wierd me) but the for the artificial perfume, Lacoste Green, love it.

I really cannot count how many times thieves came to our house, then we were living in Jos and that was way before the religious war that is now eating jos away, we had to leave the house finally and thank God my daddy decided to move all of us to IB, now there was this particular robbery that stood out for me, the guys that came, were upto 7, they beat up our gate man, stabbing him in several places, i was so glad that my younger sisters were away at college and i was the only grown arse lady then (17) at home, though i had uncles about 2 of them that hid in the ceiling, only God knows how they got there.

So after their harrassing everyone, and doing away with things that they could lay their hands on, on their way out, one of the guys pulled my hands and took me outside too with them, and he attempted raping me, thank God, i had shorts on, i would always go to bed with my shorts ( i never ever play with that), the guy tried pulling my shorts, he was beating me and giving me slaps, to unzip my zipper, for some reasons the zipper got stuck and he could not and i could not get it unzipped, so he kept on hitting me, with everything he could lay his hands on, he would lift me up and hit me on the floor, if you know Jos well, you will now how rocky some areas were, to cut the whole long story short, i was almost passing out, when one other guy told the guy to leave me alone, that he could see people coming out and he did not want them to get caught (talk about divine intervention) so the guy left me ooooo, i was not raped but i was beaten to stupor. But i thank God for everything.

kokoye:
^^^

How can you prove those kids are the only ones with such names . . remember it is Naija o.

They will produce birth certificate and ID in no time. . . gbeyo!

Yeah!! you are right in an aspect but as long as the children bear the late husband's name and it has been comfirmed that they are his, that case will be tough then. becacuse it seems as if the man bought those properties for his children whether the money used are the wifes' there are no documents to prove that.

agiboma:
wow she needs to consult with a lawyer

My dear, lawyers cannot do anything in a matter like this ooooo, the properties are in those children's names, how will the lawyer fight this That lady na proper Mugu!!!!!

^^^^ what is funny about what he has said?

My liver cannot allow me read such a sad story, so i just clicked on the last page, May the girl's soul rest in peace!!!!!

I support the hubby jare, go all the way, that is nonsense!!!!!

She should leave the properties to the other children, since she was foolsih enough to buy lands in the names of unborn children, Ode at 40, if she goes to court, she will loose the case hands down.

^^^ Nice one there.

Hi Guys, where is everybody

Logs for tuesday; 35 minutes cardio waork out.

yesterday; 45 minutes cardio, no dumbells for me this week, it is all about cardio and lets see what the scale will say by the end of the week!!!!

SHE SHOULD WEAR THE RING HER HUSBAND GAVE HER, NO MORE TALK. why didn't she join money with her husbands' in the first place to buy tghe ring she really wanted she should wear the ring her hubby gave her like that, whether she likes it or not.

^^^^^^^

^^^^ was it that serious because i refused to click on that link.

davidylan:
No. However selecting a man on the basis of his ability to provide you with gucci bags alone is Unclad greed. If a woman doesnt want to wake up in the morning to drink garri what prevents her from aspiring to climb the career ladder on her own? I for one am sick to death of women crying about "equality" on one side then categorizing men purely on the size of their wallets.

Like a friend said, choose a woman based on her ability to COMPLEMENT you not on the basis of you being her sole source of financial support. I for one cannot imagine marrying a woman who does not have her own career but whose only means of climbing the social ladder is merely by virtue of being a wife.

Are there still women like that this days

davidylan:
the exact type of women the OP wants to avoid at all costs. To many of these greedy women, its all about what they can "eat".

So trying to secure your future, so that you don't wake up one morning and be drinking because you don't have a choice has become greed

That is why it is good for everyone to learn 'kungfu' fighting, everything is changing rapidly, we all need to change with it.

debrief08:
Agiboma, in ma case ex had low sp3rm count and wouldn't stop smoking when we tried IVF, it failed, but to publiclly save face he constantly humilated me in public when we went out. When the pple ask he had a ready answer. Anyway I had a baby immediately I remarried, so it answered d questions.

he was letting out his frustration on you, because he sees himself as useless and not man enough to impregnate a lady, hence he was showing you his masculinity by throwing around blows, he is very lucky you are not my sister, i 4 don organize for him, nonsense!!!!

Siena:
Sure! Any idea what the winning lottery numbers would be this weekend?

Which one do you play?? so i can get you a ( the) winning numbers.

Konnektions146:
am also asking this questions , i ve seen someone who supposedly speak and pray in tongues but commit an act that i cant even imagine,yet , wen the person prays , it looks like she is in heaven already.

as a roman Catholic, i doent really do all dese violent kinda praying but i know how much i appreciate God.
i am always very careful with issue concerning GOD but in dis case people are just trying to make OP look like he doesnt know wat he wants or does, I am sure GOD would never want a broken home though it happens,

let us try and balance our lives so as not get in mess. for me, i dont need anyone to brainwash me or make me feel guilty of something i never even tot of as some people are making OP believe here(kinda blasphemy)

It is all about your relationship with God, Speaking in tongue has nothing to do with making heaven, infact that is not a yardstick to making heaven, let no one be deceived. we all know our own heart and what we do,

Ujujoan:
I've not decided on this issue yet. My husband and I haven't quite gotten to the stage of joint investment (aside from a joint account), but I really dont think I want to invest with him. Not because I dont trust him or anything, but I like doing my own things and I beleive I'll be better off!

As for my children, the best leagacy I will give them is good education and sound training. They can make their own money themselves!

I like this thought too, i am a ''think big'' kind of a person, i will like my hubby to do his thing and i do mine, i want his business to grow beyond borders with me supporting him, And me doing my thing. build houses and renting to people, open up a shopping complex and rent out to different businesses, build a hotel (classic exquisite one), have a school,( last on my list though), but there are many things a woman can do to establish herself too.

^^^ you are welcome!! any other question?