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Sagamite:
Babes, what I know is that the guys majority of girls pick in their prime are not the ones for them. They only realise it later when they are older (some damaged).

A good guy is different from a a psycho with good manners.

Sagamite:
I do not think people are really divorcing. I KNOW people are really divorcing because the stats are there.

I KNOW most marriages are not successful based on the divorce stats and my social clairvoyance.

Most marriages fail! I am not going to bury my head in the sand and live on lululand because someone wants a fairytale.

If I was to give just a tip of some of the reasons marriages fail before it even starts.

Women: Ignoring good guys in their prime and then when they are losing it become ATMs (Anxious To Marry) and then rush into marriages with a guy "that will do". Very few woman can claim to have married the guy they fancied most in their life.

Men: Chasing women like fooools and ending up with women that don't love them but ones that "love the way he loves her". And when he can't show her that attention or sustain it, she loses interest because she never really loved him. If a girl does not like you from the first few interactions, leave her the FCK alone!

Kai! O she maths now? Abi you be one of those Arts students that ran from maths?

20% is 20 out of 100, L'Oreal!

Sagamite:
1. Are you saying you vouch for the marriages in China, India or whatever as happy ones or they are more a social responsibility? In societies where all the parties are free, would they still be married?

2. The percentage of stay in marriage for the sake of it is high. I can say confidently that most likely less than 20% of marriages are happy and everlasting. There are several women staying in miserable marriages for financial reasons or low confidence because they know they are unlikely to get knew partners or even a better deal than what they have already. They see some of their friends alone that have divorced and can't find a new partner and stick with their miserable marriages and hope they can change it.

3. It is clear. You have answered my question. So your saying some people regret their divorce is irrelevant when discussing failed marriages. So this argument is really redundant:

Sagamite:
No 1, do you agree with the public statistic that 50% of marriages end up in divorce or are you disputing it?

No 2, do you acknowledge the logic that their are several couples out there that are in unhappy marriages but refuse to divorce because of one reason or another?

No 3, are you saying someone that has divorced that is regretting it later has not had a failed marriage?

Sagamite:
50% of marriages fail. More of those that do not fail are filled with miserable people just hanging on.

Hence, majority of marriages are useless.

I am not saying you should not have faith.

But don't sit down depending on faith and then pointing fingers at others as irresponsible for not following your blind action and then say your name is "Analytical". What the fck did you analyse!

Sagamite:
Del boy is a likeable conman that sells things to people under dubious pretense it is something else.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Del_Boy

Lying to me that many marriages are successful is a Del Boyish tactic.

If you refuse to use the majority of failed marriages as part of your assessment of marriage, then you are burying your head in the sand, which is exactly my point. Most people, like Analytical, bury there head in the sand and are telling people like me to join them to look under the sand.

So you are using "faith"? What is responsible in using faith?

Majority of the other 50% are people who refuse to admit the fact the marriage has failed or have adapted to the ills of it. Only very few minority have a good marriage.

So what is responsible about committing your life to something that mostly fail.

Swit up:
Akwa ibom isono,,, isono,,, isono,,,,, yaaaaaaaa. Ferrow broras and 6ixtas i dey hail ooo. Waris cooking in ur aarea. Infiat has any u eating 'edikikong' toray

Sagamite:
Many?

That is why we get so many divorced single mothers?

That is why there is 50% divorce rates minus all those unhappily married?

Are you Del Boy's sister?

What is responsible about putting your hope in something with over 50% failure rate?

What is responsible about it when you personally have even had some that had failed in the past? Because I can only assume most people have dated others before marrying?

Don't give me the junk Analytical was giving o. Logic please!

Sagamite:
This guy just continues chatting irritating rubbish.

So what if the principles that kept them for 30 years has disappeared? You want everyone to live in your lululand and ignore reality?

And since no one is perfect that means you admit no one will get a perfect spouse?

So you are living on hope then?

What is so responsible about tying your life to hope?

coogar:
i am not perfect but i have a perfect spouse

coogar:
exactly!
i shouldn't be held responsible for not doing my due diligence if my wife decides to quit after 30 yrs.
the most important thing is finding the perfect wife - either by luck or fortune or by hard-work. . . .[/b]stole that somewhere. . . .

[b]him: not every venture ends in climax!
her: a fact well known to many women.


for some people, yes.

coogar:
why should it lead somewhere? both of them don't want it to lead somewhere.
they want to enjoy being in love, staying together with or without kids and live happily ever after.

not every venture ends in climax.

Sagamite:
Maybe logic, un-orthodoxness, satisfaction, disagreement with laws, preference, if not broken don't change it etc.

Sagamite:
AFRAID!

FEAR!

English, woman, English.

We already corrected that tactics earlier in the thread.

Don't think you use of words will make a change.[/b]https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-859170.96.html#msg10098384

My friend, cut the crap! What is your understanding of the term "responsible".

You go school na?

Spewing tosh to impress women.

too bad if it does not cause a change, i used those words because they are the ones that can relay my message clearly, what on earth will make a man keep a longterm relationship with a woman in the house and later become a ''baby-father' without tying the knot as it should be' if not Fear' of the unknown, fear of committment. Being [b]afraid is a feeling of fear, having a feeling of aversion or unwillingness in regard to something, that is all i sense.

Analytical:
Coogar, how did they end up with whores as housewives? Reasonable other halves abound if you do your diligence to seek him/her! But most people won't. Who goes to buy something and won't seek for good ones to buy? There is seeking to be done in before committing to marriage.

OP is not only scared of the woman he might end up with, he is also scared of commitment. He is not sure if marriage is worth it and asked for reasons why it is. Read his posts very well. For your information marriage is practical and requires mutual hardwork and commitment for it to blossom. Mine is in it's 11th year and we are just changing to the 2nd gear!

Sagamite:
More dogmatic, illogical tosh.

It is irresponsible to date someone for long without marriage? Because? What is your understanding of the word "responsibility"?

So why do you run from risk of Singlehood?

Why is it compulsory I want anyone with me 24/7? Why do I need to exchange things on a daily basis rather than when I choose?

Dogmatic tosh.

[b]Most of my friends are well over 10 years of friendship. Scrap that. MAJORITY are. Some as much as 20 years.[/b]Cut the nurtured, follow-follow, dogmatic, populist tosh and think logically.

mightlove:
hey people, how we dey?
@ronky dearie: i have been down again oh, which is why i havent been logging. Had to go to the hospital again and run a test. Waiting the result, even though i feel better now after taking the drugs that were prescribed. I will gradually start working out again hopefully before the weekend.

Sagamite:
Lets imagine they do not crave it after marriage, I don't think the fact they stop craving it after marriage in any way increases the benefit for the man. I say a matter of fact, I think it makes it even worse for the man. So I really don't get the argument.

Women want the grand marriage.

Women tend to feel more complete with kids.

Women need the company more.

Women need the long-term emotional security a tie-in brings.

Women prefer the monogamy.

In the West, women benefit more if it breaks down.

Women benefit more from marriage.

That is not to say men do not or can not benefit.

D sage:
What of if ur in-law,gain admision into one of d univ in d city wer u resided&need to stay wit u,jst because ur house ar vry close to his/her school/because of convenenc.What wi u do abt such in-law.