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@Poster I dont hear you mention anywhere in the story that the girl had a gun on your brother's head in order to get him to commit any of these acts with her. So I'll take he did it all out of his own free will

yagbaboy1:
ok check this out, my girlfriend does not respect me because we are of the same age and according to her,i collected her from my friend. so now am angry and i want to go cloud 9 with her systa. she going cloud 8 with some hommies. how ok is that? if she now am dating her systta,what should i do? no be small tin oh

Maybe if you and your girlfriend stop going around with your heads in the cloud, you might realize you need to break up

@Poster, you either want to or you dont. The women has made it clear to you what exactly does she want from you.

WOW! sigh! This is what they mean when they say life is difficult. This story is making my head spin. @Poster I can only say good luck and may the choice you make in the end be the right one for the both of you.

I am dump found hey!

SA Goddess:
What is the difference between a girl and a girl child? Perhaps I am having a blonde moment this morning!!!

ALl the best OP, I wished to have a boy, dreamt I was having one before the scan, it was confirmed a month or two later, he is the light of my life!

Whats wrong?

queeneve:
Hold the FUGGG UP,

I know yall JUDGING AZZES aint sit up in this damn thread, POINTING NO GOTDAMN FINGER AT THIS YOUNG LADY just because she SPREAD HER LEGS and got her some dicc,

Now if I can recall it TAKES TWO to make a baby AND JUST BECAUSE she spread her legs, DOES NOT MEAN THE MOFO need to go up in her,

See this the kinda chit I am talkin about when it come to DOUBLE STANDARD, it okay to call a woman a dummy cos her KITTY was purrin but a MAN THAT FUGG HER is SCOTT FREE cos she spread her legs?

If you see a damn DOG WITH A HUNDRED DOLLAR BILL STAPLED TO HIS AZZ, it dont mean YOU CAN SNATCH IT OFF OF IT!

I am so disgusted at you mofos, SPITS!

^^^^THANK YOU! I WAS GOING THROUGH THE LINES MYSELF AND IT GOT ME THINKING, WHAT THE HEK!

@Poster not just 9ja men. It seems to be a growing trend round the world. I still dont know why it happens, but I guess its one of those "Love is where you find it" hey!

@ rokiatu you know I hear what you are saying but then there's something I am battling with in ma head, and perhaps its the same thing you may be refering to. Ok my battle with your statement is that "I am not sure why cant he/she ask for a girl". I was told that God said we should ask him for exactly what we want and he will take care of it.

But then again I am thinking you may be right in your response in that, God may give him/her what is good for him/her whatever the gender of the child that he may end up with. It is up to God      

But still I am soooo tempted to ask @poster to pray for that girl child he/she wishes for.

This topic and the replies is about to make ma day

Watch that space

Guys you were saying? carry on, I am all ears.

Agibecky:
NEVER MARRY THE PERSON YOU DO NOT LOVE AND YOU KNOW YOU WILL NOT LOVE.

Marriage is better, healthier and safer between a couple in love or who love each other.

mariage de convenance has done humankind more harm than good.

Thank you for this.I hope a lot of people take heed of the embolded line. Then perhaps a lot of married people will stay together forever in peace, and that the single people will realize that there's nothing wrong with their singlehood. Its all a matter of being with the one you are most comfortable with, either alone till you find the one and that is if you are looking or with someone you could find when it all makes sense.

I dont know who f*^#d up this world making people belive that marriage is the end all and be all of your life. Today marriage is being treated like something of a conquest. While on the other hand I'd like to belive that inner peace, contemptment, goodness and kindness should be the quest for human kind, and wherever you find it so be your happy life.

@adaybola, thanks for the honst story a lot of girls would not admit to such. I've always been one to maintain that you are where you are because of the decisions you make, therefore regret nothing. There's always two possible outcomes in the decisions we make and that is it will either work out or it may not. Whats important is that Whatever the outcome be prepared.

You did nothing wrong leaving him otherwise I believe you wouldnt have seen the beauty in him anyway. He was going to be that guy who constantly tries to please you which in the end he would have grown resentful of it. Who knows you would have been the cheating wife, which by the lines in your post it tells me that's not who you are. Meaning this relationship could have brought out the worst in you.

What you should learn from this is that, he came into your life to teach you to appreciate people in a deeper sense. Not a bad lesson at all. You dont know the reasons why they had an attraction to each other and why they decided to get married.

Just because your search is not yielding the best results it doesnt mean your match will not come. Maybe this is happening so that when he comes you can then appreciate him more and better. Bless yourself and see what happens.

Woke4all:
^^
Ujani wena?

^^^hahaha! it wasnt me. @0hsisi said it first lols

Agibecky:
Love is not by force.
It is by choice.

You can make her to come again and again and again. But her heart may be in Abuja while you are rocking her in Lagos.

A girl moved in with a celebrated Nigerian guy and he fell in love with her. But one day she politely told him that she was not in love with him, but with her ex-boyfriend and she was returning to him. He thought she was joking. But she left and never looked back.

A guy is dating you and sleeping-with you weekly, but you are actually playing second fiddle, because he is in love with another girl who only visits him when she is on holidays.

You cannot force anyone to love you.

Check emboldment, Is this where I laugh? 'cos that's funny guys LOL!

@Poster you might as well tell us your thoughts on the guy in question then

Firearm:
hey guys,

You dont have to refer to me oh. I am not the guy in question.

I noticed you mentioning the newpaper article in your post but somehow silly me I ignored it. I must work on my attention to detail

@Poster you are full of nonsense actually. Its people like you who I believe have got no business whatsoever getting into relationship because of their selfish ways.

Just listen to to yourself and maybe you will understand what I am saying here.

-I wasnt ready to settle down
- I dumped her and left her devasted
-I found another girl to make may point: HOW CRUEL
- I dont understand how she managed to get over me so quickly: EXACTLY WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE
- Was I cheated on: GET OVER YOURSELF, YOU DIDNT CARE ENOUGH TO KNOW THEN, SO WHY NOW
- I cant seem to get her off my mind: HELLLOOO! ITS OVER. I PITY YOUR CURRENT GIRLFRIEND
- I cant stand the thought of her with another man. WHEN YOU WERE THE ONE WHO LEFT HER IN THE FIRST PLACE MXXXXX!!!. U WERE HOPING SHE REMAINS CRUSHED FOR LIFE BECAUSE YOU ARE IN CHARGE OF WHAT HAPPENS IN HER LIFE RIGHT? JUST TO SATISFY YOUR EGO AND TO LATER GLOAT IN HER MISFORTUNE
- I regret not making her mine when I had the chance. AT THIS POINT I AM STARTING TO THINK THAT YOUR CURRENT GIRLFRIEND IS ABOUT TO GO THROUGH EXACTLY THE SAME THING YOU PUT YOUR EX THROUGH
- I dont think I am going to get over my heart ache: IS THIS YOU ASKING FOR A PITY PARTY?

So many I's, I this, I that and nowhere do you mention that you are actually happy for her since you left her to find a suitable partner. She finds one then the whole thing is still about you. I mean just how NARCISSISTIC can you get.

I beg get a life

0hsisi:
Seriously since I came back,I'd been looking for TOH and mukina2
where are they?
Has Mukina finally married mcrackles?
He has disappeared too
How about Uche2nna my brother
I don't know most of these posters all over the place
How about sistawoman?
maybe I should just go away too
all the older posters are gone
Pataki is no longer here too
4 play is gone
Olabowale is gone
even abuzola is gone

all the people that I started with are gone
The place is now filled with lunatics

These lunatics can be fun trust me. Forget people from the past and join in the crazy madness

She should be stoned

M glad I come to visit family today after a long time, only to be met with such awesome newness. , , To the new soul and bless

^^^yeah! as you were saying, I am still listening, carry on then

kaysquare:
My BF and i have been relating for 3years now and im convinced he luvs me very much.But as more and more he's luv grows,so is my luv for him decreasing.i have come to realize that i dont have true feelings of luv for me.maybe i thought i luv him when d relationship commenced but now i've seen clearly that my feelings are mere infatuation. Hirtherto,this guy in question has been so much good to me.he's been sincere and faithful though there are still some of his xters dat i dislike however i understand no one is as impeccable as God,thus we cant have a perfect character.

Now d bone of contention is d fact dis guy is ready to go down d aisle with me.he wants to have me as a wife but i dont know how to make him understand that i cant love him the way he deserves to be loved.right from d beginnin of our relationship,av not been reciprocating his luv cuz i thought real feelings of luv will emerge later which never happened.In the last few months i hav done a lot of things to frustrate him,to make him leave yet he still politely reminds me of d extent of his luv and dat if im actually tired of him,then i shld say it to his face rather doing it indirectly,But i really dont know how to face and tell him dat i dont want him anymore!

My dear readers,im not tryin to dump dis guy bcuz i dislike some his characters or cuz i dont luv him dat much but it is because i want him to have a woman dat will luv him wholeheartedly as a wife cuz he deserves dat very much.i know i cant give him dis kind of luv and im also tryin to avoid any marital problem dat may arise if i force myself to marry all in d name of not wanting to break his heart.i want him to have peace in his heart,in his [b]home and marry d woman dat will satisfy him in all ramifications.[/b]If i now face him to explain these points and y i want to quit a 3yrs relationship?wont he take me as a wicked person or as a heart breaker? or shld i go ahead and marry him since i know he truely luvs me? PLS ADVICE ME I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO.

Check my amboldments, You love this man enough to let him go and be with the one who can make him happy. This is the kind of love you have for him, a perfect love. All you have to do is tell him and any reasonable man will understand. The problem with truth is that it hurts. This may hurt him but later in life he will thank you for this kind of love you had for him, love that's not selfish.

Dont be hard on yourself. Truth is the good way to live your life and good luck with your future, and regret nothing.

Actually, your girlfriend is laughable. But then again I pity her

mmmm! the question of inner beauty. I have my reseravtions lol. On a serious note though @poster the only time you will find the answer to your question is when you start understanding who you are first, what you want out of a relationship, what you have to give in a relationship, what kind of a man you want to be especially where women are concerned, as well as understand what you want from a woman.

You will then notice how quickly issues of beauty/ugly/vanity fall away, and notice how easy love actually takes over.

@Poster welcome to the world/land of the living. It is only when you realization that you are capable of LOVE that you know you are truly alive. Keep on giving love there's always somebody on the receiving side. Its only a matter of time till you find your match.

It takes two - three maybe four to tango I guess.

donspony:
Apart from their vuvuzelas and beach ball jabulani

it was a great world cup.

I surely know that is better described as tribalism and not xenophobia, just saying though.

Yeah! same difference you know, just saying

I bow down to my fellow SA countrymen. I believe this continent needs more of these kind of tournaments to break the cycle of xenophobia and the rest. However the xenophobia issues is deep rooted in issues of poverty and people talk about it as if it is the only thing that happens in SA alone. Ask a Congolese man who has stayed in Zimbabwe and how unwelcoming the environment is. The Congolese people still struggle for acceptance in Zambia.

Egyptians who would rather be associated with Europe and would practically do anything to avoid sharing identity with black Africa.

Xenophibia still happens in our backyards you just have to check the pages of this forum and you will understand what am I talking about ask the Igbo's, the Yaruba's and the Housa's. This reeks xenophobia. South African's even in this day and age still battle with issues of acceptance of nationalities among each other ask the Xhosa's, Zulu's and Tswana's

The issue of xenophobia is not as superficial as it may seem and should therefore be treated as such, otherwise be taken to the politics section. Each African country battles with it, so can we sharrrap a bit about Xenophobia and say big up's to SA for being the best host unders the circumstances and when it was least expected of them.

@Pooster let me see if I hear you correst. What you are trying to say is that 9 years age difference is ok for a relationship but not ok for marriage?

@poster what is it with you and pu$y all around the world? damn man! I think you got what was coming to you . So where's your next find pu$y destination? girls had better watch out.