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@Poster at some point you have to get tired of being the teacher, Sha

Let it go

I'll admit peer pressure. My boyfriend was happy with his virgin girlfriend and he was not going to rush anything, but then I brought it up.

^^^Stunning Love it, I just love beautiful people

@Na2day stop asking questions, all you have to do is set the date and I'll be there

@chamotex, when I reincarnate you'll get a chance to be my first. Dont fight @Na2day we all get our turns

@Ujujoan, its not my nerve trust me, maybe my miseducation blame it on the posts/topics I've been reading. easy now

skydeep:
What do u guys think I should do know since many a post have criticize my action?

^^^ WOW, You are such a pumpkin, after all the crap and poo that was posted in response you choose not to pick offense and take nothing personal, how schweet is that man.

Well I would suggest you stop taking things from men you do not have any intentions in dating whatso ever. This is how it start and then you end up being that girl who builds relationship on material things. This is what makes a lot of men start taking woman for granted actually. If you think about it a man will not buy you anything he cannot afford therefore much of it is never a loss, as long as he is aware that you are easily entised. Its possible that this man has already branded you a gold digger. The only way he can get your attention is through material things.

You can return the phone or you can keep it that's your decision alone, just have a frank chat with him and put this thing to rest. Dont ever allow yourself to be bought or act like an opportunist, no class.

Otherwise stay as sweet as you are.

Onchedu:
Learn this trick of being the woman that keeps the man she wants:

When a man is at his low points, move closer to him and be there for him. Reassure him and make him feel like he is still worth something and will come out of the phantom zone eventually.

When success hits, become elusive and make Urself the prize again. U don't want to appear too available to a man whose levels has just changed for the better. He'll want new clothes, new furniture, new cars, new everything and he just myt end up feeling like he needs a new woman too forgetting U helped him through the dung he just came out of.
U can be that new woman by making it clear without being nasty or immoral that U can actually want new things too and that myt include a new man, "or maybe not?"

Supply and demand. Know how to control those and keep the balance in your favor and U'll have better opportunities at keeping the man U want.


For the guys, U want a tip? Don't ever let Urself get caught up in a web of a woman's emotions U didnt spin. If U spun it, U'd know how to move thru it and catch your meal. If she is caught up in those she created herself, stand back at a distance and spin new webs and guide her into them. Don't follow too deep, lead and when unsure of what's happening, stand aside.

^^^WOW!

Onchedu:
A man's true character is best found in prosperity rather than it is in adversity. People of insufficient means aren't necessarily nice people. Most are just nice cos they feel by being nice good fortune will smile on them.

^^^Today I learned something, thanks

I really dont like those memories because my experience was very embarrassing. I was giggling throughout and I couldnt help it. The guy would say one thing and there I was kwekwkewwe. This was my way of dealing with my inexperience, hiding the emotions and really not knowing what to say or do. It was terrible.

rhymz:
Funny Enough, a majority of naija babes see relationships that way, Lopsided to their favour.
They claim they want to take you out but you end up paying the bills, they cook a very good meal and invite over, by the time you are through with the meal you realize it's a scheme to ask you for a favour. It's her birthday, she expects you to take her out or host a party for her and still buy her an expensive birthday gift; it is your birthday, they still expect you to take them out and celebrate your birthday and your gift is "I had a good time" or some fake backside chinko stuff. And when you decide to host it, their only contribution is just cooking for you and that's it. Naija babes are serious liabilities when they want to be.

Its hard being a 9ja man really, just when I thought SA guys were having it hard with them SA chicks and their psuedo sense of independence not to mention their big mouth. 9ja man have to deal with false virgins and children almost their age. Girl can we please give our men a break. LOL!

@Poster I suspect somebody must have took a piss in his Kellogs that morning and he decided to take it out on you. He doesnt sound like an unreasonable guy as he gives you the money whenever he can. My problem though, why is it an expecation on your side that a boyfriend should be responsible for your financial needs? Please dont be that girl.

@bigrod can you calm yourself down

Uc.Lloyd:
Na wa o, See casting, Well, i'll take all as a compliment, See, she cheated on me the 1st yr, i forgave her, 2nd yr i forgave, then the remaining two, i just found out, Plz, i never cheated on her becaused i loved her, And yes, she did do something grieve for me, no 4 us, because it was OUR mistake.

She made me have trust issues, and is affecting my current girlfriend, My pain here is, i took her very serious, to the extent of introducing her to my parents, She knew i had plans to marry her, why did she then cheat, she talk say na sex make her cheat, say na when i no dey and she feels Hot, Deep inside i dont want to help, but out of human sympathy, am contemplating, More advice plz, am yet to make up my mind

I dont understand the last bits of the message above but I am asuming they have to do with her s3xual dissatisfaction (I stand to be corrected) this is the reason she may be cheating. Ask her what makes her happy s3xualy and what you need t ochange in that department. Otherwise its hard to give you any advice because you said you dont love her anymore. Maybe you should move on, or hang in there there's obvously a reason why she keeps coming back. I only hope its not simply because of a the prospect of being a married woman.

Give her and her relationship space, you dont want to risk looking desparate it can be a major turn off. Stay friends and keep it platonic dont be the body guard. Who knows thing may work out for you in the end.

Oh! another thing do not be her relationship counselor, because when things are peachy in her relationship she will not tell you.

LOVE.4BUG:
welcome on board!!! where have you been

Thanks man, been hopping from one post to the other, apart from that took some time out for the arts festival locally. Now am playing catch up here @ work. Hope you good too apart from the sad news you just shared, lols. you in that pic?

sesman:
I dont think the poster is mature enough to have a committed relationship with any guy, she is just kidding herself,

Why do you say so?

This is Tragedy

rokiatu:
damn the girl is dramatic. Two years difference and she's acting as if the guy has murdered someone
na wa for some girls.

@poster you really do not need any advice here, you have already told her. What's next?
if she love you she will come back.

^^^Agree, drama, drama, drama.

Long finger nails on a man is one of theeee most disguting things ever. Gusy must just keep their finger nails short period

Whether you stay with him or not this is one man you will never be happy with. first he is married now and second you will forever wonder if he has intentions of bringing his wife to the US, OR if he really is not in love with her and just doing it for the family. Do you honestly want to tell me now that you are okay to share a man? You may end up in a polygamous marriage, is that what you want for yourself?

If your answer is yes to my last two questions then continue the relationship, and if the answer is no then move on. It will be hard but in the end you will be fine.

@Poster please be informed that it is not in a womans nature to cheat but the second it crosses her mind its the inevitable. You also need to know that she will never stop until she is certain of what she wants.

lashontae:
@rhymz-J's a nice guy but nope, FALLING I would find myself cast into WW3 with roomie! He's not even my type! I would want to have a bear or a tiger kind of man, not a gentle teddy. I like aggressive men(not to me, o). Nywayz, I think u get wot am trying to say, I probably just mentioned him because of his relevance to the events that have happened.

@lashontae, I am afrai but all I could hear in your update is your love for J. @Rhymz is correct you have the hearts for him. J may not be your type but you are curious mmmmm!

Clever decision all in all, keep away from roomie she's got potential to bring out the worst in you.

Stay with guys B he loves you. I know its hard to be with someone you do not love and I am not sure why you actually do not love this man, wish you had told us. Guy A & C's grass may not be as green as you seem to imagine. Treat guy B very well as you do not want him to develop resentments in the future about you not being sure of him. He is not blind men can see right through us, and they always know when a woman loves them. Right now he is doing all he can to prove his love for since he realizes that you are not a 100% into him, appreciate him. No one is perfect and dont ever search for perfect man, there's none.

What if you go to guy A or C and find that it is you that's not enough for them. People cahnge as they grow, things may be different.

Do not ever leave a man for another. Leave because its what you want to do for yourself, to be on your own and to find yourself. This may be your best choice right now if you leave guy B, to start on a journey to personal discovery. Your man will find you either way and whichever one it turns out to be.

Otherwise you can roll a dice and take a chance on what your heart and mind tells you to do right. You are guaranteed two possible outcomes either it works out or not and whatever the outcome regret nothing. Choice will always either pay off or not get ready.

@Poater, He is on his way, just make sure you came back here and tell us all about him as soon as he arrives.

SA Goddess:
0 years, any takers?

eeeeh! whats wrong with SA Girls? eeeh! guys make it two if you are interested, you get two for the price of one Lol

Personaly I think Love is as love does. There's nothing feelings about it but a choice a thing of the mind. We make up our minds about everyday, To love or not to love its a choice.

Then again you might wanna read from Scott Peck and his attempt to define love, book title: The Road Less Travelled.

@Poster love gets better with time. Keep giving absolute and pure love and see the mumu that took you for granted come begging for forgiveness, that's love we learn more about it as we grow. Some people find it overwhelming and they end up doing very stupid things in the process trying too hard to avoid those overwhelming emotions. We'll guess what we cant keep running from the natural forever, someday love is gonna catch up.

@ Poster, i hope Love finds you well in the soon future.

Its hard for me to say or make a pick 'cos the list started to sound like a list of relationship chores for a man. I'll pass

xynerise:
FAT LIE! Gals are automatically hungry when u ask them out.

hahhhaaahhhaa! suddenly remembered why I am still on NL, Thanks for that bit of laughter.

dobodobo:
I hope you are not too UGLY

@dobo, you again

waooo:
Try to find out why she said no to your date.

I think so too.

@Poster what are you doing? Why girls why? everytime I open the blog there's always another girl letting me down. Noooo girls nooo stop it.

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That was my head banging on the key board

james1:
@lashontae.peeps are waiting to hear some story from you.
Will you tell us the latest?
@NLers.control ya mouths'o.cos if everyone stop bringing their stories here,NL will be very boring;peeps will stop visiting,Seun will make less and less money,where do these fun killers come from?
Abi una wan make them ban una?

okay fine just chillin'