₦airaland Forum

Beetee1:
to be sincere with you madam, your husband needs your support at this time, not forgetting that the deed has been done and you cannot undo that. More so, your sister is already taking the side of your niece irrespective of the fact that the allegation was true or not. the simple way of you getting to know the truth from your husband is by you making him to trust you, comport him and make him feel relax that it's no big deal though you worried in your mind. fight for him to and make your sister know that though she claim her daughter was a vergin before coming to you and you too trust your hubby that he can not engage in such. with this I'm sure if really he's guilty, he will be ashame of it and come out plain for you. Don't forget, he's the father of your four children. you still need him. This is your cross, you need to carry it.

Will you do the same if it was the reverse?
People preach what they can't do.

The woman was betrayed by both husband and niece. Even if she was raped, a 19year old girl should have confided in her aunt to avoid repeat.
Both the man and the adult girl are despicable. There's no naive 19year old in Nigeria.
Knowing the truth is very simple for the wife: demand the test result from husband. Failure to show it confirms both things: she's pregnant and he's responsible.
If I'm the woman, I won't bother with either my husband or the girl. Let them complete what they started.

Pubichairs:
and u think I gave her such advice..without facts or do u think I made that out of ignorance.wise up

What you call fact is subjective. You can't use a few experiences to condemn a whole group.
Each person must be judged on their merit.
If I had listened to my mom's disapproval based on where someone comes from, I won't have married my awesome spouse.
Think person not group

Pubichairs:
Sister I would advice u to heed to ur parents advice


You are definitely entering a one chance marriage


Mbaise men are wayward...u dated him for three years..u still don't know much about him


u will regret ever marrying a guy from there...my word of advice

Don't mind this one. Every tribe has the good, the bad and the ugly.
Don't run on stereotypes

salford1:
It all depends on luck and favour. Some of my colleagues (all Engineers) got excellent jobs within those two years and are on ILR now. I also know some grads from Canada schools working in security jobs on a three year work permit after their programs.

However, Canada has a more robust immigration system that favours graduates. One can be lucky to even find a fastfood restaurant that will offer a PR via provincial nominee for flipping burger in the kitchen.

Flipping burger

arinola2504:
ops, people might make jest of you here and even call you lazy but belief me, i fully understand how you feel cos have been there, mine is even worst, i cried for almost a month blaming myself of going to school and getting a good grade with no good pay but everything is very much better now.
my first advise for you is to have it at the back of your mind to leave your comfort zone (ur house/state), Lagos might be stressful and trash but there are lots of jobs (it doesn't matter what you study in school), there is a page on facebook and instagram "AFRICANBIOHUB", follow them for real job update and request they review your cv for you(they will charge you like 1500 or so for that) and get a meaningful cover letter (i can help you with that) before you start applying.
you can be applying at the comfort of your home and travel for interviews when invited for one.
My brother if you work on this, i promise you will get a job before the end of this month (even if it is a marketing job with a far better pay and you wont stop applying till you get that your dream job), don't listen to people that says there is no job, there is, people are not just putting in their best effort.
my own case i have no family in lagos but i was determined nothing will stop me even thou as a lady, i keep scouting about and after 6 months of doing a marketing job, i was able to get an apartment and even change my job to a better one, don't just relent, you're A MAN, nobody will help you until you help urself especially in this nigeria
I BELIEVE YOU CAN DO BETTER

African biohub

Stanchriss:
Using his construction company to siphon state treasury asap

It's a win win for Umahi.


This is the governor's thinking (has some economic basis with a dose of emotional reasons).

All things being equal, construction work and all public works have great multiplier effects on the economy as this entails a huge cash inflow into the system plus many people are employed as the project lasts and opportunities for training abound.

You will notice that the massive construction works in the state have been a great stimulus to the economy of Ebonyi state.

The construction of multiple flyovers is a more emotional project. In the governor's words, he wants to tell the rest of the nation....especially nde ijekebee that Ebonyi people are not as backward as they keep saying... He mentioned the flyover in Abakaliki/ Afikpo road as one that was designed to confuse and confound the people who look down on Ebonyi people.

His companies do the jobs. He massages the people's ego, makes lots of money and is praised for a good job.
He wins on all fronts

Is it because of Supreme court verdict?
Please cut us some slack.
This charade will also come to pass

pocohantas:
As if you'll buy anyone. Last last na 03 Corolla go end all this talk. People wey go buy am, know the difference.

This is why I'm addicted to Nairaland

henryhemon:
It's stupid to think because you re a Christian you cany6be prosperous,infact Jesus said that I have come that thou mayest prosper in every way. Have you heard what Tyler Perry did during the hurricane that happened in Bahamas?? Without prosperity you can't serve God better Qed. Be happy in your poverty. The only problem is that you don't chase prosperity, when you chase God n do all worship him truly prosperity will chase you n you will get anything you ask[b][/b].

At the bolded. I don't think it's the same God that we worship!
So the measure of your relationship with God is how prosperity is chasing you and how you get whatever you want?
When will Nigerian Christians learn to read the Bible by themselves? We worship God because that's the right thing to do, not that we are after what we can get from Him.

naijadrivablog:
Your analysis and bible portion you quoted isnt all to it.

David's foundation is right, why do I say so? For all we know, Jews serve the Living God and David also has good relationship with God.


In Africa, our ancestors served several gods and most has directly or indirectly convented themselves and generations unborn to several deities. They did these for they knew not God Almighty.


When they die and those their juju is not served, they torment their lawful captives (yes, oaths, blood sacrifices etc were made) and for you to break free, it is either you accept Christ (personal liberation) and continue to live right and possibly do a deliverance or carry out family deliverance in which those gods, totems (ofor), shrines(physical or spiritual) are done away with.

If your ancestors did what kept you in your present conditions (Biblical, remember that the sins of the father is transfered up to third generation), you have to break free from such faulty foundation.

The sins of the fathers are visited up to the third and fourth generation of those that hate God.
But if you receive God's forgiveness, you become His child and enjoy His blessings.
I won't serve such a wicked deity who, even after I have made peace with him, will unleash evil on me for the sins committed by my ancestors.
Europeans committed atrocities against other races during slave trade. Are their children suffering for it?
Which race didn't worship idols?
It's only in Africa that we mix godliness with superstition and witchcraft.

Mariory:
Fake news! Show the whole video.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ttcI28iOhok

Upload the whole video.
What you shared isn't playing

fortran12:
What sort of reportage is this? So partisan.

Show us the unbiased reportage

The dominant tribe is.......
No be me go tok dat one

Davash222:
You no go carry that your small nyash go sidon one place

Hohohohho

Samakus:
I saw it but decided not to post that evidence yet. Good that someone else is seeing it too as some people are beginning to think there's more to my investigations.

Adajiboyy, can you please explain to all and sundry why you opened another NL account named Tableturns and begged with the same bank account number you posted in your latest begging post if you're not a serial beggar who post touchy messages to draw pity and receive stipends for emotional Nairalanders?

The internet never forgets

You just got yourself an admirer today!
Thanks for a great job

Sunofgod:
Who no dey steal for naija?

I no dey steal.
I'm in Naija

MrColdsweat:
We have to go back to eating natural foods and not this modified junks the West keep poisoning us with.


Lots of Young people with heart diseases this generation.


Go back to fruits and vegetables.

Good suggestion. The way Egyptians smoke cigarette is alarming.
The rate of lung diseases must be high too.
They love sugar and cigarettes

rentAcock:
The easiest way to have white teeth is to first buy a very good whitening toothpaste like Crest 3D white. Then make sure you brush your teeth once in the morning, at night and most importantly, immediately after each meal. Also use a mouthwash like listerine at least twice a day. And if you really want to impress people, buy the Crest 3D whitening stripes, 1 application and you will immediately see decade old stains melt away.
I go everywhere with a tooth brush and small sachet of toothpaste, that's the way to do it.

Come and participate in the Nairaland Quiz and win N5,000!! today at 2pm

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Is the Crest 3D thing the truth?

What a beautiful way to start the day!
I've had a good laugh

I've attended one wedding that didn't happen because the bride didn't show up. The groom printed invite and thought he would blackmail her into marrying him. It was supposed to be in the village and she refused to come.

Glory glory

pweshboi:
See wife wedding gown... Chai very lovely.
Nah so some bride go open breast wey the gown no go fit accommodate self
#BeautifulBride

She does look decent and wholesome

Good thoughts! I was wondering if the 5 governors can't establish one security outfit as the SW governors just did. Instead of each state running solo

lilytender:
BSS-Biafran Secret Service is still looking for Buhari in Japan while Fulani and Igbo herdsmen are ravaging their villages. Yoruba's talk and do, not empty chest beating like the drug traffickers from the potopoto republic of drugs and crimes

Are you happy? Has posting this massaged your fragile ego?
Then, good for you. Enjoy!

inoki247:
Nobody owe anybody anything even if u are from my Village I no owe u abi na u b the Oracle wey dey my family house wey dey feel entitled....

Really?

osazsky:
its painful being the second ,u are our helper and should nerver be compared to the head,u were made out of us,na we thay driving seat na,if ur son or bro wants to marry a mother will u agree,nobody is saying u should not go o,u will remain a single mother while d man continues his exploit without cautioning na u go lose,go and watch f movie war room,its a true story and learn what a wife should do when faced with challenges not running like chicken, were are u running to ? Ur fathers house or a friends house

It's your type that will die quietly in his sleep. The wife will make it look as natural as possible.

I feel sorry for husbands that throw their cheating in the wives' faces. Except extremely rich husbands like Ned Nwoko

CeterisXVII:
And the man who cheats is....what??


Why? Didn't you cheat on her first?

The man who cheats is called an entitled, hypocritical Nigerian husband

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What's this? Was it posted in error?

Why did they show only the woman's face?
Hypocrites

seguntijan:
https://educeleb.com/requirements-becoming-professor-nigeria/

60 publications in peer-rated journals is not beans

joseph1832:
if you believe the Bible then you'll know Heaven is going to be one very dry place.

I still want to go there

joseph1832:
if this is so then people who say they saw or had visions of pastors in Hell are very correct, according to what you posted if they did not repent and flee from their sins they will be condemned.

So in essence believing in Jesus' sacrifice on the cross isn't enough.

Believing in Jesus isn't really enough. Even the devils believe and tremble.
Salvation is worked out with fear and trembling.
Why God wants to destroy this world is because of sin. How will He let in sin into the new heaven and earth He's creating?
That doesn't mean I believe those dreams and visions.
I believe the Bible

Oritsewhandey:
Try these, below:

1. Collect whatever monies he gives you.
2. YOU MUST establish a sustainable business, as
QUICK as possible.
3. Take that business as your 2nd husband.
4. Try build a mini 2 or 3 bedroom for YOURSELF.
5. NO WOMAN FIGHTS A MAN & WIN!!!
6. Moment your husband goes with other woman,
move to your QUICKLY BUILT flat.
7. Never worry. Being Grass Widow is just temporary.
8. Your child still BEARS his/father's name.
9. Change all your online IDENTITIES. To forestall
spiritual attacks from the 3rd party.
10.
DON'T REFUSE ANY MONIES HE GIVES YOU AT THESE EXTRA TIME. YOU WILL NEED THEM BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE.
11.
Don't fight his attempt to marry outside. YOU CAN NEVER WIN OVER SUCH. Think business. Think fast.
12.
Build your business. Build your mini flat. Move on.
13.
We went through same thing. Except by God, if you don't listen, the collateral damages MAY RUIN YOUR LIFE & CHILD's too ( God forbid that)

I am an Architect today by God's grace & MY MUM's life-threatening agony to sail us through.

Wake up & stop whining. WHEN LIFE THROWS YOU A SOUR LEMON, MAKE A LEMONADE FROM IT.

God be with you, my sister.

Good suggestions, but is marriage all about money and economic survival?