₦airaland Forum

GogobiriLalas:
Your headline is 'How can I do away with my wife', the second part of the heading is an afterthought. Bros any accusation leveled against a chicken is an excuse to murder it. Enjoy yaself

So true! The chicken part. He's looking for excuse to justify his making his side chick his wife. DOA!

Ishilove:
Errr, you are. Or at least you once were... https://www.nairaland.com/4927309/which-addict-wish-end-2018/3#74224997

Don't mind the silly fellow.
He's a hypocrite deceiving his family and his Church that he's a decent born again Christian who doesn't smoke or run around with ladies.
But he can't pull such a screen over his wife and she needs to let those who are blindfolded to know his true colours.
Let him commence the divorce proceedings and everybody will know that the wife was right all along: he's a fake!

Op, listen! If you want to genuinely worship God, drop all that hypocrisy and maintaining a decent man appearance. We can deceive the whole world but self-deception is the worst deception.
Nothing is wrong with your wife. Many things are wrong with you. Fix yourself or keep living in denial. It's just a matter of time.

olawonder:
I think, from own observation, the S’Esterners are ppl who love business and especially money but prefer not to go about achieving these thru legal means but in all sorts of dodgy ways! Any govt who tries to curb smuggling, bribery, forgery, faking products and illegal activities will definitely face unending criticism from the S’Easterners, period! All these brouhaha about Fulanization, religious discrimination etc, are all deceitful...

When their godfather thief was in power, he did nothing for the SE in terms of development and infrastructure, he’s favoured over Buhari simply because he open ways to all the criminality mentioned above, creating a mirage of economic prosperity, meanwhile the country was nosediving into its current doomsday! They know this is the truth but again, watch how they gonna come here with all their stupid, irrelevant and obnoxious analogies!

Olawonder, are we living in the same Nigeria? So Fulani herdsmen, Ruga, Python dance, 5% etc are all things that should endear the man to Igbos?

AllenSpencer:
Cos its trash!

So says the almighty evaluator of NL!
I thought it's an honest question and people are free to give their opinions.
The answers may help oga's image makers.
But I doubt if they care to listen. Just like you, they're arrogant and narrow minded

madridguy:
Igbos don't hate buhari. Forget PDP online miscreants.

God bless Said Baba

Igbos don't like even those who like Buhari.
The man isn't making any effort to be liked. Just like you

AllenSpencer:
[s][/s]

Why did you cancel another person's opinion without offering your own?

This is sad.
And it's the second time

Alanine1123:
I don't think they are students of UDUS maybe thay are advance YAROS.
I am southern currently a student of the mentioned sch nothing like protest in the University and we are currently on holiday..

Exactly what I think too.
They are not students.
They're no where near hundreds.
They were hired, as usual

I think he never had a son.
He was looking for better ways of immortalizing himself

I read this somewhere and it seems to explain our security challenges in Nigeria.

I don't know how true. This was copied




Bandits”” were created by Gen Mohammadu Buhari Rtd to oust Jonathan
Bandits are not Boko Haram nor Herdsmen

It all started in April 2014 when Mohammadu Buhari assembled his ardent supporters, promoters and strategists to determine how to remove President Jonathan Goodluck. Prominent amongst them were El-Rufai, Gen Danbazo (Rtd)……..

A decision was reached to consult Miyetti Allah cattle breeders association for assistance to boot Jonathan Goodluck out of office. Consequently, the National Chairman of Miyetti Allah was engaged to bring in foreign mercenaries. Within a month, 2,000 Fulani fighters were brought in from Mali, Senegal, Niger Republic, Chad, Libya to name but a few. Further 4,000 fighters were stationed in Niger and Chad on standby.

On arrival, they were assembled in Kaduna under the sponsorship of El Rufai and were addressed by various Northern Leaders including the Sultan of Sokoto, Gen Buhari (Rtd) etc.

Specifically, Gen Buhari in his address told the fighters that “the British handed Nigeria over to us the Fulanis at independence. The land (Nigeria) belongs to us. We must reclaim what belongs to us.” He added that at the event that Jonathan Goodluck won the election, the Fulani machinery must fight until they regain control of the country. He assured them that the Nigerian Army was behind them.

The mercenaries received initial training from the Commandant of the Nigerian Defence Academy and were sent to 6 camps in Ekiti State, Benue State, Katsina State, Kaduna State, Zamfara State and Borno State.

In the camps, brand new pick-up trucks, generators etc were provided them. Nigerian Airforce helicopters were used to provide them essential supplies like food, water, drinks and even arms and ammunitions.

Evidently, Jonathan Goodluck lost the election in 2015 through a well orchestrated election organised by INEC under a Fulani Chairman, Professor Jega. Gen Buhari (Rtd) was sworn in as the president. This saw the emergence of a Fulani president through a dodgy election hence the planned violent war was averted.

Contrary to expectation, the mercenaries in the various camps were abandoned, no more food and essential supplies. The relationship between Miyetti Allah, El Rufai (now a State Governor) and Dambazo broke down. El Rufai arrogantly declared that they were not needed anymore and they should go back. Consequently, the killings in Kaduna commenced as a warning to El Rufai but it did not bother him. He declared that he had paid the people carrying out the killings and they did not want to stop. The Nigerian police did not bother to call Gov El Rufai to give further clarification on this.

The Mercenaries at the various camps decided to go about to find food for themselves by robbing people, going into farm lands and kidnapping. Miyetti Allah made several efforts to contact El Rufai and Dambazzo to appeal to them to provide money to return these fighters to where they came from. All efforts proved abortive. The mercenaries at this point vacated their organised camps and took to crime.

The criminal gangs which emanated from these mercenaries were at this point described as “Bandits” in order to differentiate them from other notorious terrorist groups like Fulani Herdsmen, Boko Haram etc.

Following the untold destruction and killings which the bandits carried out especially in Katsina and Zamfara, the Northern leaders in conjunction with officials of Nigerian Government requested Miyetti Allah to intervene and remove the Bandits from Nigeria. Miyetti Allah returned demanding 150 Billion Naira to settle the Bandits and evacuate them. The Government turned the offer down and restricted itself to the payment of 100 Billion Naira.

Shamefully Godwin Emefiele raised 100 Billion Naira for the settlement as a condition for his re-appointment as the Central bank Governor.

Miyetti Allah collected the money and purportedly distributed it but nothing changed.

In a bid to control the damage, President Buhari directed that RUGA initiative be setup to create colonies for these fighters in every state in Nigeria.

My questions are:
1. Should Nigerian communities accommodate these criminal elements?
2. Why has El Rufai not been called to clean up the mess he created?
3. Does this explain the President Buhari’s silence?
4.Is this conspiracy of the North gone wrong?

Interesting discussion

Why did they push this news to front page? Can't we just enjoy the euphoria of our victory without having annoying news to rubbish it?

zibya:
I concur, it is also time for the governors in the north to ban all goods coming from the SE by air and land too. Two can play that game

Great idea! Let's see how far we go

freeze001:
Now? He and others you don't know have been in the business for a long time. Now they will cash into the market in Nigeria as proper businessmen since FG has decided to convert private business into government business.

I learnt that Igbos who tried to venture into cattle farming were attacked by herdsmen and warned to steer clear of their monopoly. I don't know how true it is

Damod88:
I wonder if Nigerians actually have common sense. They sometimes make references to places they have not been as though things work perfectly in those places. You are still likely to find pastoral ethnic groups in almost all the countries of the world, including the developed ones, doing the herding thing. But the difference is that some of these countries have enough grazing land due to rapid urbanization. For instance, Argentina has the pampas which happens to be one of the largest open grasslands in the world ,which was why the country was able to develop its meat and dairy industries. This is also the situation in leading exporters of diary products like New Zealand and Australia. These countries have the advantages of large uninhabited land and weather favourable for the cultivation of alfalfa, the best quality grass for feeding cattle.

No matter the statement from a politically motivated ethnic group, cattle business will still remain the business of the Fulanis for many reasons. The Fulanis have been doing the business for centuries and have in the process become accustomed to the hardships and the techniques required in cattle rearing that it is unimaginable any other tribe will be able to compete with except a Superior technique is introduced.So the statement by the Igbo youths is just to seek attention. Just imagine the survival rate of their cows despite having little or no scientific knowledge. What this means is that they have this traditional techniques of animal husbandry that you and I not born into pastoral culture do not have.

For those who are saying people should go into cattle business are saying it just for the sake of saying it. I Hope they understand it is not a business you can just start like, for instance, opening a shop. It is a business that is demanding in terms of attention and knowledge. It might not be rochet science, but, definitely ,it has its own challenges. It requires research into the varieties of cattle suitable to a given climate zone and also the best quality grass to feed the cows that will be largely immobile. These are things that an average person, not born into pastoral culture and also of little education, will find difficult.

For the Fulanis to be displaced, we need real investors .However, Nigerian business people are not likely to be interested because it takes much longer for any investments in diary business to yield returns.This is in addition to the risks involved because here we are dealing with life. Nigerian business people are more interested in oil, import and politics than in any business which has to do with production because the returns on these businesses are quicker and huge. For those who are saying the Fulanis are going to be put out of business are either ignorant or don't know what they are saying. However, there will be some individuals having few cows in their gardens as they presently do in the south, but they will still not be enough to reduce the monopoly of the fulanis.

The final solution to the persistent herder-farmer crisis will come when Nigeria becomes fully industrialized.Industrialization will create many opportunities for the people, including the Fulanis, leading to many traditional practices and businesses being given up for modern living. Bouyed by the hope of finding better jobs in cities, the fulanis and other ethnic groups will prefer to give up their traditional Businesses for a much better life. This will encourage large scale livestock agriculture that we often see in advanced countries. But this is not going to happen until we become industrialized and advanced in knowledge.

No meaning whatsoever.
I learnt that some Igbos started and the herdsmen invaded their farms and threatened to kill them.
Government offering it as ranch will make even me interested

mosho2good:
You will never know getting a "Wife" is a big issue until you are finally ready to settle down.

Then you will realize that, Not all fishes are eatable and easy to catch.

It doesn't matter if you have many female friends or few, in fact, the more female friends, the more confusion.

It's then you will remember that, Chinyere is homely and calm but short and lazy
It's then you will remember that Juliette is Beautiful and educated but Rude and can't cook well.

It's then you will know that Kemi is Tall and cooks well but she will kill you with sex.
It's when you are ready you will even start analyzing your current girlfriend.

Finding a wife is not a day's Job. You won't understand this until you are ready. Some might just get tired and marry anybody that's available.

May God give us the wife that will complete Us and not the one that will Confuse Us. Amen

This is what keeps me on Nairaland

Drabeey:
First of, #ILoveLagos

But truth be told?

This is a very sad news



Drabeey was Here

Drabeey was here, Drabeey was here
Doing what? What exactly is your contribution beyond announcing that you were on?
Or that your own version of madness?

roman1755:
When my elder brother died, we couldn't get the atm pin after serious search. I have to come up with the idea of downloading the bank mobile on his phone, I logged into the app and registered with the atm card. I clicked for transfer and an one time password (otp) was sent to his mobile number. I continously used the otp as they were been sent to transfer 680k out of the account. The remaining 200 naira I used it to recharge my line. I was lucky the app registration didn't require physical visit to the bank. I purposely didn't want to mention the bank involved

Nigerians are sharp

toprealman:
Not too young to......

Lie

peacengine:
If u know u know

I don't know. What should I know?

This gives me some little hope for this country.
Just a flicker of hope. So our opinion can count

Kc3000:
HE CIVIL WAR THIS TIME
Basil Okoh

(“WAR WILL SOON BREAK OUT IN NIGERIA. MARK MY WORDS” – Olusegun Obasanjo.)

Another civil war in Nigeria has become imminent and inevitable. The reason for its inevitability is simply because Muhammadu Buhari, the Northern Nigeria Fulani oligarchs and the wider network of Fulani in Sub-Saharan Africa have concluded plans to adopt Nigeria as the homeland for all Fulani in Africa.

They have realised that the wandering and rootless lifestyle of cattle herding Fulani is no longer tenable in the twenty-first century. Fulani need to have land to call home and rear cattle and that land should be Nigeria. The indigenous peoples of Nigeria have vehemently and stridently opposed this diabolic plan and both sides are mobilising for war. The Fulani won't relent and the indigenous people will not give up their land.

The same Fulani Project, having failed so shamelessly and woefully in the Central Africa Republic, will not be allowed to fail this time as the Nigerian Fulani project is better funded with the massive creaming of the sovereign wealth of Nigeria through nationwide kidnapping for ransom by lower class Fulani and seizure of the reigns of Government and wealth by the elite Fulani.

Kidnapping and the seizure of the institutions of Government are all for the purpose of implanting Fulani into the mainstream and control of politics and the economy of Nigeria for the objective of funding the Fulani Project in Nigeria.

The Central Africa Republic (CAR) has gone through exact same experience that Nigeria is going through right now in the hands of the Fulani. The country has been run down by the killings and destitution wrought by rival gangs in the fight to destroy the chokehold the Fulani had on the politics and economy of their country. Although the Fulani hegemony over the CAR has been defeated, the street gangs that defeated the armed forces have turned on one another and themselves, unable to rise above petty gang warfare to rebuild their nation.

The Fulani have become a blight on Africa and it’s biggest country Nigeria. Unable to break out of its centuries old cow herding and wandering culture, it continues to pull down every nation wherever it has any populations. Some countries in West Africa, Ghana and their ancestral home Guinea, have mastered the brutal tactics of dealing with Fulani and the Fulani have learnt the bitter lesson by staying away from these countries.

In the CAR, the Fulani following the pattern of their ethnocentric politics, had seized control of the commanding heights of the country’s military and financial institutions, the foreign exchange trade, the mining and export of gold and above all the governing structures of Government. Mitchel Djotodia, a hare brained military officer and his Fulani faction seized power in a brazen coup by a demographic minority. All the non-Fulani military officers were flushed out of the forces, all the mineral deposits in the country were seized by Fulani merchants, non-Fulani traders were barred from trading in foreign exchange and the entire top echelon of the Civil Service were occupied by Fulani by as much as 83%.

France, the former colonial masters of CAR watched them do all these over the years and did not raise a protest. As in Nigeria, the Fulani were just 3% of the population of CAR, tucked in the desert recesses of the nation’s Northwest. No world or regional power raised a whimper even though the ethnic groups of the rich southern forest regions roiled. The Fulani went even beyond the provocative as they are doing now in Nigeria.

They started seizing ethnic lands, raiding churches and killing worshippers, the most brazen being the attack on Our Lady of Fatima Catholic Church in a town near Bangui the capital, where dozens of Catholic faithful were massacred during mass. The Fulani used their cattle bases allotted by Government to launch attacks and gun fights on the surrounding communities for robberies and ransom paying kidnaps as is happening now in Nigeria.

Again, as is happening in Nigeria today, the purpose of all the action of the Fulani was simple; to transfer all wealth available in the CAR by all and every means and place it in the hands and control of the Fulani. It is the same play book guiding the actions and policies of the Buhari Government in Nigeria. The Fulani elite are raiding the Central Bank, buying dollars and other currencies at heavily discounted rates, other Fulani are raiding the NNPC, ploughing through the vaults and trading Nigerian crude for personal gain.

The educated wing are mowing down governing structures, taking forceful charge and control of all commanding heights of Government and the armed forces. The uneducated Fulani herdsmen are engaged in kidnapping for ransom and now primed to take over ethnic lands, spreading themselves across the nation in settlements acquired with public funds to terrorise indigenous populations.

It will be of great use to retell the story of CAR so as to have the understanding of how the youth of the country removed the yoke of unremitting oppression by the Fulani. The youth formed street gangs and committed to take on the army with all their vaunted training and intimidating and deadly weaponry. The youth had locally fabricated flint guns and machetes, while the army was menacing with their machine guns, grenade throwers and rocket launchers.

When the fight started on that fateful day in 2013 in Bangui, everyone expected a complete annihilation of youth on the streets but the youth took the fight straight to the Guard Brigade near the Presidential Palace.

By evening of the same day, soldiers bodies were seen littering the streets while some were cut to pieces. By night fall, the streets of Bangui had become the play ground and the killing field of the youth of Bangui. In three days of street fighting, the entire Presidential Guards of the army of the CAR was decimated, in disarray running to their ethnic base in the far north and President Djotodia, the Fulani tyrant had abdicated and run away from the Presidential Palace and Capital, Bangui.

Tyrants survive for only as long as the people live in fear and choose to tolerate them. The Buhari Government is counting on deploying the Nigerian armed forces against the many ethnicities where the RUGA will be sited, beginning with the minority groups.

Buhari's plan is to deploy Nigerian troops to subdue Nigerian people for the benefit of Fulani. Central Africa Republic provides a veritable lesson on how to deal with the unrelenting Fulani menace. The Niger Delta and Boko Haram if anything, have shown that the Nigeria army is not invincible in a fight with local forces. If anything, the Nigeria Army will likely disintegrate if made to fight in many fronts at once.

It is a known truth that the Fulani will not relent in their quest for the conquest of Nigeria until they have seized all sources of income and made everyone else subservient to their rule and hegemony.

The Fulani in Nigeria, in nearly a century of political and economic ascendancy have acquired so much power and money that it will defeat the purpose of such acquisition if they don’t deploy it for the very purpose for the grasp for power, which is the conquest of Nigeria for the overlordship of the Fulani. The final stage of the grand plan to subdue Nigeria for Fulani overlordship are afoot and Buhari and his people cannot back out now. So a war has to be fought to resolve matters.

Our people say that you don’t strip a woman Unclad just to start looking. Nigeria has been stripped Unclad and with the RUGA monstrosity on the works, the next thing is to start the deployment of troops to protect RUGA in their various locations of development.

It was bound to happen that the Fulani who have been taking so much out of Nigeria and have succeeded in binding Nigeria hand and foot politically and economically, will take the wrong step into the abyss one day. The logical culmination of all the rapaciousness would be the last ditch attempt at the ultimate land grab, to seize the lands belonging to indigenous communities and hand it over to Fulani.

Internecine war in different RUGA locations and different fronts is therefore inevitable. Communities will rage to keep their land or lose it to their eternal shame and regret. Communities, particularly in Igboland will rather choose to be annihilated than lose their land to a hostile and predatory People.

Fulani have no land in Nigeria because they are not indigenous to Nigeria. They are migrants into Nigeria. The decision by the Fulani to seize land by force in Nigeria can only lead to war in the many places where this seizure will happen. The people must resist as of necessity. They have done so in the Central Africa Republic and reduced the country to rubble and they will do it again in Nigeria.

Buhari will be compelled to deploy police and soldiers to defend the settlements and war will be declared everywhere there is a RUGA settlement in Nigeria. Fulani have no land to hold dear and protect in Nigeria. In fact, Fulani have no stake or investment in the project called Nigeria and will not care if Nigeria burns, in fact Fulani will be very willing to let Nigeria burn if the people are not willing to submit to their overlordship.

So they are minded to adopt a scorched earth policy to obliterate Nigeria. They have nothing to lose. They did it in CAR and they will do same in Nigeria. It will be the responsibility of the indigenous people of Nigeria to find common grounds to protect the land of their ancestral inheritance and prevent the Fulani from putting a knife on their unity and their need to bind themselves together in one nation, but they cannot do this without first containing the Fulani. Fulani will try to divide them.

Buhari and the Fulani oligarchs are counting strongly on deploying the armed forces to quell insurrections that will arise from this massive land grab, but that will be the Achilles heel of their grand plan. Once soldiers are armed to put down these insurrections, they will turn against their commanders to defend their communities. Nigerians should therefore await the great unravelling of their armed forces.

Do the Fulani have the firepower, the men and the capacity to fight? In the entire history of the Nigerian armed forces, the Hausa/Fulani officers and enlisted men have always been promoted far beyond their qualifications and competencies. The capacity to fight and man the different departments of modern warfare will be put to overwhelming test in any ensuing encounter.

The Fulani never fight an enemy in a frontal war. They attack isolated and undefended villages. In any direct confrontation, they run away. It was evident even in the battle of Bangui. Well armed Fulani soldiers could not take on street gangs with flint guns and machetes. It has also shown in the war against Boko Haram. The poor performance of commanders of their ethnic stock is a bad joke among soldiers in the front.

Hausa/Fulani soldier had to be sorted out and protected from slaughter by Boko Haram forces. This is not to talk of unending betrayals of their Christian colleagues and commanders in the battlefront.

Buhari, a Fulani irredentist, will use to his advantage and for the benifits of his agenda to divide, the ethnic and religious cleavages among the people of Nigeria. But the people aught to know that the Fulani are friends to no one and that a Fulani friend today can become an adversary tomorrow. You are only friend to Fulani for as long as you continue to serve a purpose in their overall plan.
Let the talk cease and the battle begin. @basilokoh.

I read through this and it makes a lot of sense.
Now I'm really worried

Seandavid:
How much did u get yours?

N10k for a set of three. Military dental clinic

I don't buy or wear aso ebi unless it's for a very close relative. I don't like wearing uniform with anybody.

In fact, I don't like seeing colour code on wedding invitation. I make out time to honour you and you dictate what I should wear? Like magenta and onion?
I will make sure I don't wear anything near what you wrote. I'm the one doing you a favour honouring your invitation.

mapet:
Bros,

As someone in the Oil & Gas industry I will advise you to take your chances with NNPC, even if it means loosing out on the bank.

NNPC is a job that gives you stability and some opportunities to pursue both your career & academic endeavors without impacting your job. For example most serious & ambitious NNPC & CBN staff take advantage of the leave of absence structure to pursue abroad Masters & PhD. There salaries is not stopped while they are away, and NNPC picks your study bills.

For someone like you, whom I strongly believe is smart, even if you don't make the cut at the interview (which I strongly doubt), you are smart enough to get another bank job

Is that so?

TheIkoro:
Most probably for his having slept with one other woman; whilst she's busy parting her thighs for every Tom, Dick, and Sally.

He must have been unfaithful and was rubbing into her face like 'so what? It's a man's nature and you live with it'.
I fear for men who take their wife's complacency for weakness. She may appear docile, but if she decides to retaliate, the man will die in his sleep

drawnobet:
You are not opening a UBA account. You just need to get their Africard. Go with a passport photo and your ID to get it same day, but make sure you tell them that you want the international one

You can actually use your MasterCard and other banks Visa cards or even virtual cards to withdraw to your bank account but we have found out that the Africard works best.

You can start work right away after opening the Lesotho or UAE PayPal even before adding your card. You can even start before opening your PayPal account. All you need do is indicate the email you will be using for the paypal account on the platform and start work. If the paypal account is yet to be opened and you get sent a payment, paypal will send you a notification mail. It is just advisable that you get it all up and running before you start.

This explanation is great! Thanks so much

superstel:
From what I understand, I will have to open a UBA account? That won't be a problem though. So, can I open the UBA account before opening a PayPal account? quote author=drawnobet post=79676296]
Slack is the work place community where you can get to connect with other transcribers and moderators who can help you resolve any issues or questions. Just sign-up and the bot will put you through.

For the PayPal, you can follow this link to learn how to do that https://drive.google.com/file/d/1L1TiijdFxxx81cj8a1q5rXZAjeidcQyC/view?usp=drivesdk after opening the PayPal account, go to your nearest UBA branch and tell them you want the international Africard. That's the card you'll use to get your funds directly from PayPal. Please note that you must always log into the Lesotho PayPal using the link provided in the document.

Take some time to read the FAQ and help before you start your first job. It is extremely important.

Can someone answer please? The older members are just talking jargon

ceaser:
Woah! This dude has had so much exposure to s3x, at twenty-fvcking-five years old! 400 gigs and counting. That's a lot of downsides at that age. S3x is entangling, specifically the pre-marital and extra-marital ones and most especially if you still have some deep conscience and sense of reasoning left in you. It has this post-episode dampening of the spirit. This by extension usually affects decision making processes and perhaps some physical manifestation of that spiritual connotation. You actually crossed that line of non-chalance of the consequences of your actions and that is why you probably had that high score point of 400+ at 25yrs of age.

Good thing that you have episodes of deep introspection which accounts for your decisions to break up with her, but sadly and apparently not to stop your conquest for s3x if it comes your way in other ladies or forms so long as they're not gonna be too restrictive as Bukky's. I think you need a break for some time, make some money and get a wife that can serve you all the s3x you want in a legal, uncompromising, conscionable manner.

Damn! At 25, the closest I got to s3x was in my imagination. Random ladies is a no no. The testosterone drive is constantly there but like clockwork with money, you need to always play out the post-encounter scenarios in your head and note that the end of every scenario will usually distasteful. One needs to always be scared of getting spiritually entangled with one random, strange lady let alone 400.

Dude, 400 at 25 yrs is a record that I doff my hat for, but I don't think I envy you.

Your comment gives me hope. They're still people who think and know that actions have repercussions.
Thanks for a positive disposition

safarigirl:
My brother, men cry. Crying is human nature, only robots and dead people don't cry.

So, if you are at a point of frustration, cry. You can lock yourself in a room and cry out your frustrations, it is a key part in your healing process.

You cannot linger on the past, some things pass over you for a reason, even if you may not see these reasons initially. Take this, not just as a learning curve, but also as a challenge, to put your detractors to shame. [/b]Na privilege some people get, no be say den better pass you[b].

I need to always remember this

Trutherme:
I happen to be one of those who battle this dreadful illness till today. First, God is my warrior and my late mother was next. Her support, love and prayers helped carry me through. I still remember mum's powerful prayers and tears on those nights she thought I wasn't going to make it. I also remember the inability to even open my mouth to eat, lack of appetite, lack of blood and eating mostly vegetables prepared by dear mama and taking Ribena drinks.

I once visited a popular hospital in Onitsha that was run by two brothers. I am sorry i won't say their names, but on one of those visits, I remember one of the doctors telling my mother that I wasn't going to make it past 19 or 21 because my situation was more critical than others he had seen or treated. I remember mum's cries from the hospital to my hometown. Well, I am in my late 40's and not going anywhere. I almost gave up or succumbed but my God refused.

Another lifesaver for me came when my Uncle, came back from Uk after his medical studies. His intervention and help was very timely and critical. My uncle evaluated me and took over from there. He reviewed all my pills, (about 7 of them) threw away 5 of them and told me to continue with just Folic Acid, Vitamin, lots of water and vegetables. I honestly don't remember if it's vitamin C or D. But I take folic acid till today.

Also, because I was a teenager, my uncle pulled me aside and told me to personally bring any woman who I wanted to marry to him. Before I could ask why. he told me that it would be tragic for me to marry another AS since I am one. This is very important for those who are AS, please don't marry anyone who has the same AS. Yes, I know there's love and religion but healthy decisions should be taken seriously as well.

I believe that majority of those who deal with this illness are young. Ironically, they don't deserve to go through this tough time at their gae. That's why i agree that they are unsung heroes and warriors. We should try not to dismiss their stories and ordeals. The truth is that some of the things they share openly are minimal, compared to what they feel inside.

I saw it all: the blood donation and purchase by mum and family members who really cared, joint pains, the inability to play soccer in primary and high school because I couldn't run around, sitting down with mum and watching others play games because I couldn't, falling sick unpredictably and unexpectedly, etc

To be continued.

God bless your mother!
I could feel her anguish just reading your post

tayour917i:
Why Benin go chose "The squirrels" nah.... when everybody is picking lion, gorilla, elegphant.... i think that spell how far they will go

Very modest aspirations! They just want to pick nuts like squirrels and go home

hisexcellency34:
False alarm....

How is it false? Many of us don't buy meat in the market because they use tyre and kerosene to roast them