₦airaland Forum

gypsey:
Absolute! Rubbish! you mean if people are not born again in bondage they wouldn't last long in a marriage right?


what does born again mean? your wife is probarbly fuvking your church members behind your back but you are so born again you might not notice

Born again women are the same one i fuvk all the time in my flat on their way from church.

Who wants to stay married to one woman for long Anyway? when there are thousands of women to fuvk out there. Anyway Good luck in your bondage oh! sorry born again

Your opinion! Your choice!
Doesn't remove anything from my being happily married.

The secret of my joy: one faithful man to one faithful wife for life. Honouring my God, respecting my partner and not playing games with my emotional and physical health.

I'm not telling this man's story of pain and anguish. I won't tell it.

What you sow is what you reap. You can't be sleeping with married women and expect to have a faithful wife

flyca:
Is any man or woman on this thread who has being in a relationship with his/her spouse for at least 10 years and still has that inner peace that your partner has being faithful to you and only you?

Please help me, tell me about it. Give me hope.
Modern-day relationship scares me

Right here!
Married for that long and enjoying every bit of it with our lovely children.
We are born again Christians who actually believe what the Bible says about love and fidelity.

Another advantage is that you can stagger your spending. When buying already built houses, you are literarily stampeded into investing a lot of money within a short time. But if you're building by yourself for yourself, you can relax, provided you're not owing anyone

Why buying is costly is because the builder is trying to recoup 10, 20 or 25 years of rent, depending on the location of the property

MrBrownJay1:
ARRANT NONSENSE from deluded people!

FIRST of all , nobody can "steal" someone that doesnt want to leave
SECOND the reason side chicks are able to become wifeys is because these DELUDED MARRIED MEN cheated on their wives with low lives women. if these men had any respect for their wives, they wouldnt do that, but sadly, these men dont know what respect/trust means and THAT'S the reason why side chicks can move in, (not dumbaasss text msgs)
LAST BUT NOT LEAST only a very stoopid woman would even see anything RIGHT in this garbage.... if a man chooses a side chick over his wife, then count your blessings and let that deluded man live with that stoopid woman (they deserve each other)...because any smart person knows that, if you are a side chick, and you now take over his wife's duty (aka becomes his wife), then your old position as a side chick will be open to find new fresh younger applicants, duh!

you certainly CANNOT expect a man who cheated on his wife to be with you, to suddenly NOT cheat on you if/when you become his new wife, do you?!

How will I like your post enough?
Men who can be stolen by side chicks are irresponsible fellows who make poor choices.
A responsible man commits to a relationship and takes responsibility for his actions or inactions. To blame a woman for another adult's adulterous choices is pitiable.
The side chick can be all shades of awesome because she has no stake in the relationship, apart from money which she may getting from multiple sources because she doesn't owe anyone fidelity.
A nagging wife may be genuinely showing her concern by insisting on certain behaviors, because she and her offspring are the losers if anything happens to the man.
Remember how our mothers shoved us even though they loved us to pieces?
Women are territorial so how will they intentionally push their men to cheap girls outside unless the man really desires to be stolen?

I don't support these killings.
There's a serious collusion by the government of the day to shield the attackers
The religion Jesus gave us is a difficult one in the face of all these provocation

Hmm

How can you use 'innocent girl ' and 'abortion ' in the same sentence?

Maybe those words have acquired other meanings that I do not know

Is Adesuwa becoming tinier?
The battle for relevance is real

phkka1:
I wonder how a man who is still living in a rented house will buy such expensive car for the wife. The wife should have advised him to save for the rainy day before this his good gesture at the wrong time. Well congratulations.

I noticed that too.
Dirty compound but costly car. All for show. To impress imaginary friends or enemies that you've made it
Sign of inferiority
They should move house first

Why do people mix up 'his' daughter with 'her' daughter?
It made the story confusing. For a while, I thought the ex-deputy governor was a woman.

Back to the story, I'm speechless. I think people should be accountable to at least one family member to avoid stories like this.
She should have confided her whereabouts before traveling.
She was doing boyfriend /girlfriend with a ritualist.

KrystosCJ:
Some of you that are Catholics or non-Catholics can help donate for the less privileged through the society of St. Vincent De Paul in any Catholic Church near you. Please follow up with your donations.

There are many Tajus and Josephs in our country, no thanks to the government.

I agree.
I also believe in the mission of Red Cross.
I wish that apart from sending my paltry financial contribution, I can volunteer to help those caught in a battle they know nothing about

Iceman2017:
Dear Otondos, if you don't want to suffer use your service year to learn a skills or trade. Don't depend on your so called uncle that promise you job after service. Most of them will not pick your calls anymore and the rest will give you endless promises.
Help yourself and learn something. There is no work in Nigeria. Forget all these scam recruitment you do see on nairaland. No be like that e dey oo

I just have my reservations about skills acquisition.
Where is the money for start -up?
How do they support themselves until they break even or begin to make profit?
I wish I had the answers

Sometimes, skills acquisition just produces another set of under-employed people. It's like teaching people about subsistence farming which is synonymous with poverty. Ask the farmers in Benue and Ebonyi

This is so painful!

Which church does this?

That bridegroom must already have married before.

This is kidnap
The child-bride is even smiling. What does she know?

Dasherz:
not that .. if i were the girl i won't accept the proposal .. he's got lot of years on him ....

but any guy that is ready and responsible should ask me first .. he ain't marrying my family

Of course he will ask you first

Dasherz:
any man that tries this with me should be ready to marry my grandma ..

So you prefer time wasters like that silly boy proposing to a sillier girl?
When will he be ready to marry her? Unless he has rich parents. Which I doubt.

6years later she may still be Lady of the Rings because of patiently waiting for that buffoon to grow up

Good job!

I just have my reservations about skills acquisition.
Where is the money for start -up?
How do they support themselves until they break even or begin to make profit?
I wish I had the answers

Sometimes, skills acquisition just produces another set of under-employed people. It's like teaching people about subsistence farming which is synonymous with poverty. Ask the farmers in Benue and Ebonyi

babyfaceafrica:
the publicity is not needed

How about thinking of it as a teachable moment?
Some young wife may learn a thing or two, don't you think?

BestDude:
bros, na the blogger wey post am here and na hin make that comment so that he can have something to post. nigerian bloggers in the celebrity niche are useless

Over wise will not kill you!
People are far more caring in real life than all these rubbish that bloggers throw at us to drive traffic.

The girl, if it's true, may not even be engaged or married.
How can she be hating on someone she's trying to be like?

madami123:
Marriages does not benefit men in anyway just imaging take care of my wife and my wifes family and them doing as if the did me a big favor marrying their daughter how might not even be a virgin and might be giving me problem

Please promise me that you won't marry yet until you grow up a little.
With this attitude, you'll mess up somebody's daughter's life.
Your idea of a committed loving and sharing relationship is measured in terms of benefits and the money you spend

Children everywhere

ozoneymcm:
Exactly my point

Thanks. I worry about the mentality of people like this and the over 50 persons that liked his post.
How can one enter marriage with this attitude that it's all politics? You against your in-laws?
For what? To massage your fragile ego.

May God help our daughters

daewoorazer:
1. Never put up in in-law’s house!

Even if your wife’s dad is Dangote, never be tempted to settle in his house. No that’s not economical, rather it’s sheer cowardice! You’d never be respected! Every hardworking and hard-thinking man has his transient trying times(the lazy’s trying period is eternal tho!) doesn’t matter if all you can afford is a 1 bedroom Lagos slum apartment for now, if your in-laws can’t trust your wife with your future, let them marry their child!

2. Never accommodate family members!

It’s baseless having to accommodate siblings, brothers and sisters In-law beyond marriage!Your house shouldn’t be an IDP camp for them; Or better still continue, your undoing will catch-up when your wife’s junior sister starts complaining you buy more clothes for your siblings than her. No matter the temptation, better hire a registered house-help and take care of your siblings and in-laws from afar. Always remember, not a human being can be satisfied!

3. Have a plan for all visitors!

Sit your wife down and tell her irrespective of the position of the visitor, have a definite number of days, quality of meal, departing funds to give all!

“You gave your daddy 2 pieces of meat, you gave mine 1” bullshyte stories have destroyed many young families. Be wise!

4. Never accept financial aids NOR borrow from your in-laws

That’s if you have any amount of dignity left in you, but if you don’t care to lose your voice, you can indulge in that. Better die than give in, I won’t say much, never look up for your manna from them!

5. Scarcity is invaluable!

A social function is at hand and you are already thinking how to help them arrange chairs and kill the cow. Can you also help them wash plates after the program?
Have your envelope ready, make it as fat as your pocket can, attend the gathering and leave!

6. Respect and nobility will save you a lot!

No matter how rich you may be, always prostrate whenever visiting them even if they are not worth any of your respect. Don’t be quick to anger, keep quiet when they talk; these are the measures your parents-in-law will use to either defend/destroy you whenever their child reports you to them! This value will win wars for you in absentia..trust me!

7. Occasionally send gifts

Once in a blue moon, never fail to send wine to your papa-in-law, also send money/gift to mama-in-law, do these and see them blush at the sight of you! It doesn’t matter if the wine is N50, it’s a conviction you had a little left for them having taken good care of their daughter.

I'm afraid I differ from you op.

Your post reeks of serious inferiority complex. Rent a room instead of accepting a house gift from an in-law? Don't you know that it may be God's way of opening doors for you?

I learnt that Coscharis married the daughter of a rich man. They helped him establish and today he's far richer than they ever were.

Bring those shoulders down otherwise life will bring them down for you. I have an in-law who started with this pompous rigid attitude. By the time he lost his job and couldn't pick his bills, the wife's family he had been snubbing were the only ones there for him.

Why demonize the people who want only the best for you and their daughter and grandchildren?

Why will you arrogantly refuse financial assistance and run yourself into debt? Who needs a N50 gift from a struggling in-law?

Those relatives you are shooing off your house like pieces of rags may be the ones available to your wife and children if she gets widowed.

Other readers should take your advice at their peril.

Anybody can be tempted to cheat.
Inside or outside marriage.

Cheating is a choice.

Those that don't cheat value their religion, their family and their personal health and well-being.

Everyone isn't cheating.

Cheating is a choice

It's hypocritical that people desire emotionally fulfilling marriages, but refuse to pay the price for achieving it. Or rather insist that only one party pays the price while they continue in their randy and entitled ways. It can't work. What you invest in your marriage is what you will reap.

Think of every other lady you feel attracted to as someone's wife. Every other man is someone's husband. Run away from adultery.
It destroys families and careers. The OAU Prof is still a recent example

I'm not wishing it was a different person oooo

yeyerolling:
forget story. Once u get to puberty u can born. True or false

What's the hurry about giving birth without an education or a skill? You have until age 45 to give birth. Why not plan the first 20years to cater well for the rest of your life and that of your offspring?
Why bring out more babies when you yourself are still a baby?

yeyerolling:
Beta dan fuking around like we do in d south

What is this obsession with s*x? Is that all you people think about?

Must career, education, a decent future and that of the coming generation be sacrificed so that people do not fuk around?
How about teaching s*ex education?
That girl's breasts are just forming. They can be very painful when touched at that stage. She's now to have a husband who will want to play with them.

I don't just know how people reason. I feel like crying

I thought kidnapping was for a certain tribe.
Each tribe should be limited to their domain of evil, please.
No confusion

salford1:
Why dont you apply and be paid 18k a month just to face armed robbers brandishing ak47 and pump action rifles?
Fyi. These same people with little education are employed in this dangerous jobs and put on a wage close to $100,000 a year in developed countries.

They CHOOSE the vocation even though they know how poor the pay is.
Are we asking too much that the people who are paid to protect us be qualified and professional?

Sentiments aside, the better qualified they are, the safer for them and us

blackaxe78:
The question is that the market is in the south and how do you accommodate them.

You can't confine them to the North as it will not be welcomed if such is reciprocates from there side too. Imagine states like Ekiti , Osun, Ebonyi, Abia, Ondo and the likes rejecting ranching when over 50% of the state is wild life

Thanks for not resorting to abuse.
Since the purchasing power is in the South, how about they buy land in the South for this their personal business?
Nobody is opposed to ranching as a personal business. If Igbos insist on Hausas and Yorubas giving them land or stores for free, will that sound reasonable?

blackaxe78:
Quite agree with you. But an avenue has not been created for that. Lots have been. Brainwashes that it's about "Collecting there land"

You need to welcome a recommendation and make amendments where necessary to be benefit your people too.

I outrightly welcome your suggestion but still the governments need to give an audience for deliberations. Landmass must be set aside for such which they can buy into. It's just simple if we really want to tackle this menace without been bias

Niger State alone has 3 times the landmass of the entire SE. There are vast areas not entirely owned by anybody.
Doesn't it make more sense to take from these ones who have so much and experiment with it, rather than fighting those who barely have?

blackaxe78:
No one is harassing you to give up your land. It's a recommendation which you have a right to accept or reject. But when you rejecting, you have to proffer better solution.

So we start importing fresh beef from New Zealand to Nigeria? Sigh... If you quite aware of the podium your suggestion puts you, you won't repeat it.

Please don't suggest such among highly learned intellectuals. It's an embarrassment.

For the sake of clarity, here's the position of majority of us
1. Cattle-rearing is private business. The owners should purchase the land, not forcefully collect it without pay
2. Government should pretend to be neutral. This ill-wind will not blow anybody good

kaffy4tope:
Herdsmen think they are doing us, not knowing they are systematically telling Nigerians to VOTE out their Grandpatron.

We can’t wait to give him GEJ treat come 2019.

Keep dreaming. Do you imagine that your vote will count?

Philistine:
Add up all the applicants from South west together, u will get a total of almost 400,000, which is far more than all the applicants from South East region by over a 100,000. Next time u think before u talk!

Great analysis!

Yoruba population is about 42m courtesy of the polygamy being practised among Yoruba Muslims . Igbos number 30m. I think relative to each tribe's composition, the records are encouraging.

The group I feel proudest of is Bayelsa. With less than 500,000 registered voters, they presented nearly 20,000 candidates for JAMB. The literacy level in that tiny state with very low population is out of this world