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jashar:
abi it's you that open ya mouth to say the both of you can't be together in a relationship?

what's now your own there ehn?

why did you travel to see him ehn?

who's fooling who now?

i believe she is into the guy and that's why she can't let go..if you check deep the reason they probably broke up is maybe she cheated n feels guilty about it.

at a point i got confuse with the whole drama..

OP all i will say is that you are confuse cus you had the best relationship according to you but till messed it up. instead of you to call it quit and move on, you decided to stay due to some benefits (your biggest mistake).

i don't know why ladies will see the signs that a guy is not into them anymore but will still want to stay around cus that's exactly what you are doing. the painful truth is that, he is only using you as his sex mate and has no future plans for you.

the reason he hasn't told you he is seeing someone else is because the moment he lets you know, it definitely means he has no key to your kingdom again..

my advice: leave him alone and move on with your life except you still want to continue with the friends with benefit package.

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op pay no attention to her cus that's what they do when they want to cheat or have cheated..always trying to play the victim and false accusation so it will seem like you both are cheating.
am glad you said you are loving with your head n not your heart, so when they start a drama like this just be watchful cus there is something else pushing her and is the word "cheat"

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EXLOVER:
We started dating each other last year October , the love was so strong that nothing could break it, she's always with me even at hard times. I started going to church, stop living immoral lifestyle, even stop flirting because of her, i have been faithful to her, she respect me alot.
All of a sudden we start quarreling over little things, she gets angrily easily, i was really surprise.
On this very day i was with her and sametime holding her phone, the phone rang and i check the caller it was a pet name 'HONEY' I pretended as if i didnt see anything an gave the phone to her and she didn't pick the call. I confronted her another day but she defended herself with a lie, and i forget that episode. Another day i was holding the phone, out of curiosity i checked her contact to see if i will see that HONEY, but it wasnt there, but i saw a contact named ME, and it look so much like her ex bf number, mine was saved with SOLIDA, i didnt tell her what i saw, but when she came to my house i gave her attitude because i was angry , i even ask her to live, She called later to ask what's the problem and i told her she's the problem and i ended the call, of which i regreted my action. I have not seen her uptil this moment and we no longer talk like lovers on the phone but like strangers. I love her and mis her presence in my life. I'm really confuse on what to do, i hate to imagine another guy on top my girl , it hurt me so bad. I realy need help and advise . Dont mind my gramatical errors.
From a BrokenHearted Guy

that's what happens when you fall in love, just move on bro cus it doesn't and you can check my pm.

agbonkamen:
am not desperate but e go hard o for me to come count my hard earn money send give who i never see i don takecare of my mama finish wey i go Love, send money give man wey i never see

them no they tell blind man say rain they fall, they are giving you advice but you are forming hardcore but when the music will set i just hope you have your dancing shoes cus you will need them.

this land is for sale, any interested buyer cus this post is hitting fp

adviseseeker:
I can't rape someone none will I ever beat her even though she can be annoying. I have a daughter whose future I must through my actions and inaction guide.

My daughter is main reason I am suffering this.

i don't know what to say but am moved by your post that i had to read every comment you dropped..have you tried seeing a counselor, her pastor, or her dad to explain things to them cus sincerely if this issue is not resolve am sorry to say but it will get out of hand and worst still, turn to a habit which will be hard considering the fact that the marriage is very young.

ItsQuinn:
you are definitely right but....I will never marry such man in the first place

am sure if you ask the lady this ? few years back she will say the same thing like you just did forgetting the fact that people change and the only thing that is constant in this world is change..my advice is for people to always look at the signs of their partner and if is one they can manage then all fine and good but if is one they can't but hope they can change the person then am sorry, he or she is just living in their world full of mirage and will soon come to terms with reality.

ItsQuinn:
why should I fear God?

am very sure you won't leave your husband but find ways of resolving it so why give her the advice of leaving her husband

misspicy:
Be tapping up and down

and my sweet

Vince77:
of getting married?

obviously

cococandy:
For all those 'you saw the signs' chanters, so what? Is that a solution? Mtchew.

OP I wouldn't hesitate to leave an asshole like that. Nobody deserves to be treated that way. It's one to thing to forgive someone who cheated on you and is repentant but it's also another to knowingly,willfully put up with dehumanizing behavior like that for which the perpetrator is heartlessly uncaring about.

You're a person with feelings and your happiness/sanity matters. Look at his family. It will never get better. Improve yourself, get a job and kick his ass to the curb. All this might take a while but before then, protect yourself from him. He's a walking reservoir of STDs (never mind the condoms) and if you get anything from him, not only will he not care, he and his family can fabricate stories to make you like like the one who brought the infection home.

There's nothing for you in that marriage not even child care for your little baby. If you have to tie your baby on your back while braiding hair or learning some other kind of handcraft, anything is better than living there tolerating his wickedness and slowly being turned into a shadow of yourself.

If you die of emotional trauma (yes there's a thing like that) or HIV/AIDs, that your baby he doesn't care about now, he won't start caring about then.

Do what's best for you. Good luck

at the bolded part is where am going to fault you..my reason is this, on the other thread created about single parent and advice not to marry the partner cus he or she might show signs that might lead to a divorce and you kicked against it, but here you are advising this lady to leave her husband because she ignored the red flags during dating...am sure you will understand that, family background is among the major foundations of marriages.

ItsQuinn:
Divorce him straight! ....you're not benefiting anything from him, even your child is not benefiting anything from his/her father, what's the point of staying together then? The mistake you made was to marry him in the first place, next time get to know who you are marrying and the family's background before marrying. Now it's time to correct that mistake with a divorce

My sister, go look for a good job to support yourself and your baby. Stay blessed

just like that, na wa o, fear God

stories like this gets me scared

i tap into this for my young sis

how much is this plot of land?

I v ntn to say*in mourinho voice*

CindyeMerAld:
this is y is good 2 date with sense,nat when u date one small boy for years and yet he doesnt ve plan of proposing ,he is only wasting the precious time u dnt have...
wishing u guys a happy married life in advance....may d good lord provide the money n resources needed to set up a family..Amen

Cindy what are you saying this days, what makes you think is the guys fault?

before a guy will propose he has to make sure, she is a wife material or someone he can deal with and if she is not, he either lets go or marry out of pity which is not advisable..

so stop making it look like is he guys fault.

Aderola15:
Awwwwwnnnn, this is nice I like the ring .

should i get you one

chydii:
Maybe most ladies you've met or dealt with probably gave you the impression that ladies in generally prefer fair guys to dark guys. Its a matter of choice dear, not every one want em fair. A man who wants to cheat will cheat, irrespective of his completion

yeah I get your point though

chydii:
Team dark skin dudes.

I know most ladies that scream team dark guys in their mind would prefer a fair guy, most ladies fear is that, fair guys are cheat and I have been called that lots of time.
meanwhile, statistics have shown that dark guys cheat more than fair guys.

jackie3B:
brown skin rock.... I love dem chocolate..

really n who told you that?

Estharfabian:


So, You're like how old? 16?.
shouldn't you like, be reading, maybe?



please this shouldn't be news abeg... leave the girl alone! And Pursue your agemates if You're so... errm, So jobless....

I mean, who calls random teenagers they barely know on the street, these days? Fùckboys that's for sure..


you love her my ass!!!

someone hearing you speak will think you are above 23...let the guy be he is just enjoying his youth age..how old were you when a guy first approached you not to talk more of when you started dating?

Motun03:
you guys think you are the only one using girls for sex abi?
i bet she just enjoyed the big d while her fiance is away

thats karma bro
take heart

what has karma got to do with this

if you don't know how to go about it, kindly subscribe to the side chick data bundle and let her know of the new tariff plan, am very sure she will switch network without calling any customer care.

Luckymay:
Hello!! You said "have a nice day" and I replied "you too"

o, my bad...lol hope you had a nice day then?

Luckymay:
You too

where did i generalize? show me