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This is NOT paternity fraud.

The bone of contention is that she may not have told her husband that she had a son prior to her marrying him which may have saddened the husband not necessarily that they had quarrels in the marriage. Any foundation built on lies is faulty, to me that is where she has problem.

When family don not like you as a wife they can do anything even instigating hubby that u are dating your boss or colleague which may not even be true. Hubby telling lawyer friend that he suspects his wife having an affair with the boss may be unfounded whether or not he recorded it. Families these days have been known to 'buy over' lawyers, not even one that allegedly is a legal family.

I do not see why she needed to bring the boy has houseboy( houseboy wen no go suffer like that--- lol) when she can put him in school: a government university or polytechnic or cheap private university and he will be in the hostel and even after graduation, she can help him get small self contained while he visits her.

We make big deal about somethings.... This is why some people commit suicide but when such evil thoughts come to lie to achieve things or to commit suicide, tell yourself that,' I am not the first and I will not be the last,' and see the devil flee from you.

This is advanced baby mama level: Civil partnership in some countries.

How can a Pastor not marry his wife properly, what is he trying to teach members of his church? This can make the woman to have options.

Also, when as an individual or your culture encourages 50:50 with your wife, the woman forcibly wants to meet this target.... I have read where a Nairalander claimed his own wife feeds herself in the marriage, u can imagine such a woman after already FULFILLING her ROLES as a wife and mother must still go out and meet irresponsible Hubby's target( not voluntarily out of love)....

Some men shamefully know their wife's boyfriends but don't make noise because he feeds his family for him.... Na why some places paternity fraud will be easily executed without stiff consequences.

Anyway, both husband and wife have behaved irresponsibly as if they were forced on each other.

Though this is shameful.

Next should be our pretty baby girl/ woman: Patti Boulaye who was face of Lux ( Lux advert).....And owner of Patti Boulaye show in UK( married to Mr. B, a white British man).

There was this tv cartoon program, TerraHawks where Kate Kestrel seemed like a cartoon version of Patti B. KK sang in shows and had different colors of contact lenses in the cartoon( just like Mrs. P. B)

[quote author=LastProphet post=122649248]Yes but what I observe is that most rich people forget their siblings too and that's what leads to some of this betrayals. If I have built 2 houses for myself, the third house I will build will be for any of my siblings that suffered with me, you can't be giving 100s of millions property documents to a wife you married after university meanwhile your siblings who drank garri with you still live in rented houses. This is the cause most times. I know many people like that their wife hold everything meanwhile their siblings zero. Don't forget your siblings some sacrificed for you in ways you might not even know. I delayed my admission to university because of other siblings before, but later you will hear one wife claiming she built the person.[/
Yes, I agree .... When one family member makes it and the siblings despite their struggles can't boast of much deserves significant help.... This includes parents, they should no longer be in rented apartment which may come with some embarrassment ... Mine can't be in old people's home when they can be in my own house.... That is why it is good to pray to be COMFORTABLE...A big house can at least also accommodate parents.....Though as one is climbing up, be helping siblings so they too stand on their feet on time and not be envious.

All in all, marrying an accommodating spouse matters a lot- not the one that will say me and my kids, husband/ wife alone .... Though family mustn't be over demanding... Everybody must know their boundaries including wife and mother....husband and dad

LastProphet:
God will bless you for your spirit, family is everything. But your son you got secure him with lawyer and documents. Collect the documents from your sister later, tell her how a friend bla blah blah, let your lawyer collect the docs from her, do a will and put everybody you want to put, secure your son. Your sister might fail you again

But the Lawyer shouldn't hold his landed documents even the will sef . 2e have seen cases where Lawyers are compromised and the family teams up with him.

I wonder why some people are angry with this guy's format when it is similar to Hakimi's( lol).... Trust family members especially hungry family members at your own peril. Father's side dey fall hand many times for Africa.

Any woman he will marry should be God fearing and accept his son... His documents should be inside his home not outside.... In some families, 8t is even the wife that keeps many important documents including marriage certificate etc

Seems twitter is suspending some accounts.
Left with people like me, FBK, instagram, whatsapp is okay.... Twitter format previously was so unappealing to me, even later when they adjusted itself just that our Naija government parastatals and some companies use it a lot .... Once I see same parastatals verified bkye ticked pages on the other social media I like, I jump into using them.

lexy2014:
Offpoint. Kindly answer the following questions.

Do you know Hakimis salary? If you don't, what makes you now think he was looking for a woman to feed him? If he was hungry, doesn't he know where his mother lives than to wait for a woman to feed him?

While this woman was with him, who was feeding clothing and housing her? Did she complain that she lacked anything?

What exactly did this woman do for Hakimi in 3years of marriage that is worth 50% of his wealth? Pls break it down for us.

Do you know Hakimis status in world football? Do you know anything about football?

For H that has time as a full blown man to hide his wealth under his mum, I am not the Holy Spirit to easily get such informed, as only God knows that.

However, if u insist then go get all findings for this and post here.... I'm too busy

lexy2014:
Do you know Hakimis salary? If you don't, what makes you now think he was looking for a woman to feed him? If he was hungry, doesn't he know where his mother lives than to wait for a woman to feed him?

While this woman was with him, who was feeding clothing and housing her? Did she complain that she lacked anything?

What exactly did this woman do for Hakimi in 3years of marriage that is worth 50% of his wealth? Pls break it down for us.

Do you know Hakimis status in world football? Do you know anything about football?

Na all this agidi dey bring more probls for men of this generation
Don't worry, a Legal luminary( 'Quantity Surveyor') will duly sit down with the woman and quantify exactly what she should earn from him and send the estimated rate to court.... She for go empty handed? If na your mama, u go gree? The court certainly has the final say... If H likes, whatever he gives her and feels she must train the kids from that and not add that of the kids because of oversabi, na him pocket/career go suffer it.

REAL MEN do marriages not boys posing ( from day 1 of dating a woman) like say dem be real men only to be behaving like kids.... Anyway, this H format don cast... Don't marry who u don't trust enough.

Edavi234:
A rich, made woman asking the court for a 50% share of a GIGOLO (loser male gender)?

Thanks for the laugh this morning..

YES....Seems your type of hardened men who don't respect women must learn by force.

No matter how self /God made a woman is, she will collect what she feels she deserves before one Obiagele comes to eat what she toiled for( whether/not she help make the man)....

Abi, can u return all her physique, personal money spent, countless time, toil to the woman?

So, she quantifies it....

Whenever divorce wants to knock, don't listen to your inexperienced redpill guys that deceive u that u are first the prize rather BEG your wife or face the consequences.

Ministry of Interiors now has a new, meaningful meaning instead of just declaring holidays.

Christistruth03:
Yahaya Bello arranged accident .

Some People say Egbiras can be terrible

I never believed them because I never met any bad Egbira Person before

The ones I knew can be sometimes be very Temperamental but not bad

and they are excessively hard working

But Yahaya Bello is in a League of his own

He is worse than terrible

Not only Ebira....ALL average Kogi people

And socially very local reasoning

This is what they say themselves ( lol)...

That is y it is good to check well before marrying.

Edavi234:
Gigolo - a young man paid or financially supported by a woman, typically an older woman, to be her escort or lover.

You see why I said you should rather think logically than throwing tantrums here and there (emotions everywhere)..

Was your beloved HAKIMI initially RICH?...Think before supporting your loser male gender.

Silentgroper:
What job does a woman do for a man she's married to .. is she doing it for anyone but herself??


Eh ma gbami fa ...



These women no go kill me ..


Na kuku mumu men naim Una fit catch with all these bs..

See mentality kwa

God has given our oversabi men of this generation the type of women they are seeing.... Nigerian women self never warm up well.

U men with damaged upbringings need to go have mentors from older, learned male folks who have had donkey years of happy marriage anniversaries.

U see men calling their wives, ' my madam' for a reason and u see the women equally giving the men their Kingly places in their lives.

Bottom line: Garbage IN and Garbage Out.

Edavi234:
Hakim was only 19 and she was 29 or 30 yrs of age..

Think deep and stop throwing emotions everywhere.

Yes, that is why he is a gigolo.... He was looking for a rich, made mother( lol) if possible so he will have fewer responsibilities.... U guys supporting nonsense should start advising him to beg his benefactor before he goes bankrupt.

verygoodbadboi:
meaning you're married to a monkey
lol

Yes, that is what wives married to your type call you since you guys want to insult women so it isn't wrong when u get same from white men: the levellers.

verygoodbadboi:
Rubbish

Rubbish to a backward black man like you....

I see y sometimes these whites call u black m*nk*ys... Because una good only for zoo.

If e tire H after the settlement which unfortunately he will still pay since she is NOT a baby mama, let him restrict his football career in Africa playing for Morocco or Egypt eg Zamalek of Egypt( lol).

This situation is for MEN and not boys.

1st scenario: Widow with kids was married and sent outside the country with her kids, all grown up now and sees the man as a father.

2nd scenario: Woman with 2 kids already with man with one kid plus one other child both had together.... They all bear his name. The fee he pays alone ( not university ooo) is N500,000 termly....If na me, as I wake up every morning, after greeting God( praise and worshipping him), na him turn for me to praise and worship.... He has a heart of GOLD. When I see him, I pray God prolongs his life.

You must be READY for this and who knows, sometimes not even your own kids will take care of you.

It is well.

rosebowl01:
Stats have shown that Nigerian women cheat more than any other group on this planet, but men get caught cheating and woman rarely do. Think, why do we have close to 35% paternity fraud in Nigeria? Were these women sleep walking when another man impregnated them? Stop these lies Abeg, nobody dey buy am anymore.

Where do u guys get all these fraudulent stats from?

Also, hope u know it is not every place/state/region u just bring this paternity fraud nonsense to accuse women of.... It may be more common in some places but not everywhere despite the economic situation.

Though, men insisting a 50:50 contribution from their wives despite her FULFILLING all her roles and his ONLY to provide( and still desperately needing her support), will more likely be a candidate for DNA paternity fraud since u have set target for your wife and she us trying to meet up with the unrealistic target....

It is a heavy accusation and an insult in some places( SE SS)to be accused of this as a woman and later found out the woman was accused wrongly.... You will have a lot to contend with especially her family.

Submission to a man.... Bad character by a single woman to a man may just be that she doesn't want to submit her body to him before marriage.

Don't trust the loyalty of a poor man: Sometimes, couples have married when they weren't in high positions or making it ( cash wise) and the man would appear supportive.... Later in the marriage, the woman unexpectedly starts making it and the man mistakes her every word and move as not being the previously obedient wife.

To be sincere, there are some men that women marry and they will NEVER rise beyond a particular level in life.

Men should be more careful about their behaviour....

You only become the prize after putting your wife first and you have earned the trust and respect from her such that she reciprocates it effortlessly.

I sent this story to an elder and even before I said he was a footballer, the person told me he is a gigolo..... Hakimi wanted a working class woman that would feed herself and him( possibly too) in the marriage while he stashes his under his mum's. A non working class woman wasn't what he had planned for in case of anything.

Anyone who controls your money, controls your home and life, meaning if the wife wasn't in the good books of his mum, she will suffer.... Who knows if she was his mum's choice at all.

When women bill men in divorce suits, they are trying to quantify in figures( eg dollars) all their duties as a wife and mother( if they have kids together).... U see guys wailing but that could actually be the amount you pay when u have someone else besides your wife doing such 'jobs' she does for you sacrificially....

Divorce is not good.... Some men even after hurting their wives they are still haughty and unapologetic.... Maybe this would have been resolved by truly apologetic in kind and cash.... Anyway, this divorce exposed him to her. Why marry someone u don't have a good level of trust for especially someone that allegedly helped u when u arrived Europe with nothing.

For those advocating she just goes like that without anything apart from Hakimi taking care of the child, know that Baby Mama is DIFFERENT from a WIFE...A wife is a joint, co-partner in that organisation not a mere staff... See how Abraham discarded Hagar his baby mama in the Bible with loaf of bread and water( lol).... NOT, for a wife.... A baby mama is not obligated to give u the child/ ren and walks out of your life with/ without notice( same with u) since there is no binding, legal contract between both of u and the profit that emanates from the 2 of u... A wife most times will do shared custody unless you become a dead beat dad and she reviews the whole thing legally.In Nigeria where there are no laws to protect the woman, the child support may be where she gets something for her years of toil in that home whether or not she built the man... But, if the child support isn't even adequate for the kids not to talk of herself, she may feel compensated by keeping the kids all to herself( including name change)..... One Ex Governor( B Fash) once said that even a person who feeds a child also licks his/her fingers from feeding that child.

Hedonini:
If the money was transferred to a more knowledgeable crook, then over is over. He for don change the money buy plenty dollars and bitcoin, then transfer some back to his mum (Hakimi option) through the aboki or other third party, thus leaving no direct trail between his account and the recipient, then used the bulk of his loot to japa through night bus to Ghana or Cotonou and from there onwards onwards to a new life. He would have weeks to perfect this.

Normally, to open bank account, one is asked for your mum's MAIDEN name unless he has forgotten( lol)...

Illiteracy/ semi-illiteracy laced with ignorance of the law has made a lot of Nigerians law breakers....To avoid problems from these is at least to have a good, working conscience even if our environment encourages illegality.

Topmaike007:
so is Ifeanyi Okowa now not Igbo because I don't understand you and moreover I no be Biafra o,I was born a Nigeria and Nigeria I know and vouch for

The more reason you listen...

Okowa is my brother.... We are NOT NRI people neither do we BEHAVE like them.

When we see UmuIgbo, it is easy for us to spot them : both the way they speak and act.

We are also not over money conscious and we go put school 1st before we put business.... Many differences.

Topmaike007:
Delta is a state that houses Languages I am telling you base on perceptive my Uncle from Oshimili my dad Cousin will tell you he is Igbo and identify with it, people that wrote the history you are pointing at are the people that want to scatter a tribe,I am not referring to Urhobo from Ugheli or warri I am referring to my brothers in Anioma.. they're Igbo simple

U CANNOT rewrite history for us.

Maybe only a portion of Oshimili and check well, these are immigrants from NRI who arrived Delta( Anioma land) and claimed a family to remain like bonafides which Deltans do a lot for foreigners as we accept all.... We can give them land to build and rights to families provided they conduct themselves well... Just like taking up citizenship in UK or elsewhere.

We are South South/Niger Deltan republic irrespective of how u people see us as we are filled with several ethnic minorities: ANIOMAS, Urhobos, Isokos, Itsekiri's, Ijaw( even if power is yet to be rotated to them). Other tribes: Ibibio, Efik, Ikwerre etc( Niger Deltans).

Whenever your leaders feed u people with concocted stories, try verifying from the aboriginals.

This is why Lagosians, Rivers, South Africans are scared of you guys due to your domineering character: You bite more than u can chew when given an inch... You sneak in through buying lands, then claiming later that u are the aboriginals... Say your Igbo people for Oshimili no meet CONFIRMED Deltans from there? How do their kids claim bursary for example? Definitely, they MUST belong to a CONFIRMED Deltan family... Another reason is inter marriage over the years and no real PURE Igbo line again. If Yoruba's are mixing with us over decades, how much more our closest, 'more travelled' Igbo neighbors.

Don't spoil our love for our man Obi with subtle Biafra ideas that tend to make inconsequential ANIOMA people's history--- Biafra is DOA to an ANIOMA man and Deltans/ Niger Deltans In general... We even prefer Niger Deltan Republic.... Biafra died with the original owner....Asabans/Oshimili/ Aniocha people u dey even talk about will never go the way of Biafra again as it made them weep till tomorrow- reason why there are many landladies in Asaba than landlords.

In order not to appear like someone when no too dey detailed, don't argue the history of people NOT even people when dey move from their homeland( Benin) dey carry evidences wen dem go show to their children -children tomorrow in case people like una come with una by force attachment.

Topmaike007:
Mr man don't come here to spill trash abeg.

So with your sense now Tony is not Igbo like you will say Ngozi okonjo Iweala Is not Igbo because Abacha created a non existed zone called South South and place them there. and back to the matter Is it a Yoruba man that will bear Tony Onyemaechi Elumelu,his last two name apart from Tony is Igbo oo Onyemaechi meaning who knows tomorrow in Igbo..

So now I won't argue with you if you will claim he is not Igbo but I will accept the fact that Bukola Saraki and Smart Adeyemi from Kwara and Kogi respectively are not Yoruba because they're in the north.

Point of correction:

NO Igbo of Delta origin....ALL Deltans irrespective of name and language are from BENIN including Eze Chima( founder of ANIOMA- ANIOCHA, NDOKWA, IKA, OSHIMILI+ MA)...

Eze Chima is a pure BENIN man ... Name and language to a Deltan/ Edo( From Bendel) does not and has never indicated one's origin.

Case study is if u need bursary from Delta State as a student in one of the tertiary institutions in Nigeria and claim you are an indigenous Igbi, Omo- NO Shishi... You will be asked where your family comes from and if you say ANIOMA-, then u will state where in ANIOMA, possibly claiming your mum's side if your dad is Igbo.

Igbos have entered many decades ago in Delta( we also have Princes in Onitsha ie Obi of Onitsha ), kinsmen), BUT they met aboriginals from BENIN Kingdom( present day Deltans).... There is NOTHING the Oba of Benin will want to do without specially inviting his Princes in diaspora( Delta State)...

The closer the Aniomas are to a place, the stronger or dimmer the Igbo language in their native language eg Ika is closer to Benin and Asaba is closer to the East.

Tony Elumelu, Ngozi ( Igbo ONLY by marriage), Jim Ovia( Zenith), Nduka Obaigbena are all sons and daughters of Bendel State.... Even NGO's Ogwashukwu, u hear titled men bearing Iyase....

We ANIOMAS are NOT from Nri.... We claim Igbo for acceptance and because we are very peaceful people wherever we call home.... Mind u, Delta State( the big heart state) is almost like the most welcoming state( like a 'new site' from the homeland of Benin) and VERY welcoming. Anybody from any tribe fits in easily as we have tribes with semblance to the 3 major tribes including the Igala ones( semblance to Hausa)....

Hoping this puts to rest all this unnecessary debates that Deltans hate to go into( mind you, we have historic evidences of WHERE we are from).

Peace.

Even scarcity of coins in Cameroon is allegedly attributed to them since they are melted to make precious items

worldclass68:
My sis just did her intro las week...
We foot the bill ..since they were coming as guests.



Although the groom-to-be gave my sis little token to support....

But nah the bride's family they carry that one....
for Yoruba side sha....


For some other tribes, nah the man go still carry that one, which is too bad..... I knw of a guy presently in that situation, cuz his babe is from Down-south, his babe insisting he will foots everything....he's already thinking about ending the whole thing

Thanks for being truthful.... Even wedding wife's family HELP the man as if without that the man no go fit cope.... This is where 50:50 marriage started from( Hard fact!)

But, SE and SS for introduction the woman's family can prepare things though the man can send some money especially if he is boxed up... Some people do introduction which never gets to proper wedding level so, who bears the loss? Wife's families are beginning to have 2nd thoughts on this

For wedding, same thing: your culture helps the man, that is why boys in their 20s who are still living in parent's houses are emboldened to marry unlike in SE SS where, if u never ready, na u Sabi.... Wife's side and friends can support in SE SS .

Until u stand well, she may not return....

Once konji catch young men, the first thing na woman.... May be men need to learn from women on how to control themselves in order to have a bright future.

It isn't easy marrying someone, just because the person paid '10 kobo' worth of bride price and she virtually do not own herself any more both during the day and night time with no succour... Everything of hers is now yours and no way you are helping her refresh and rejuvenate( certainly not with N75000)..,. Sometimes, being great is just a thing line between NOW and TOMORROW self gratification

Marry young as a man if:
1) Your parents are rich

2) Your position( which should be favorable) warrants you get married

3) You are abroad and it is a sure way to legalise your stay

4) You 'self made' yourself on time.

Jagua:

Tell me, where dem born u? X2 ....Nigeria( Shout)...x2

I go do my best x2, for my Papa land lie lie I no go run away x2

Nigeria is my home.

NB: Oseni and Julie don't see eye to eye as husband and wife .... Cat and dog family life.

Jagua was Father Xmas for many years( lol).....Governor Akeredolu was Father Xmas too @ some point in time

Beauty and brains...Big congrats...

Pharmacy now is like Medicine(7yrs)....

One daughter can be = 7 boys.

Still waiting for BRAINBOXES Davash.... Kriss....Zonefree.....Jeromestarks.... All those who don't see anything good from women to post their own results/degrees bagged( lol).

My people say that if u don't know where u are going to, u will know where u are coming from.

My Nigerians aren't visionary people when it comes to helping solve Naija's problems, seems they appear to be visionary if they have something to gain ( in kind or in cash).. I wonder the cost of destroying old Naira notes and printing new notes?.... No how that someone will manage CBN and retire poor, but biko pity the poor masses. Though the scarcity of raw cash has reduced the incidence of kidnapping: Nigeria's peculiar situation sometimes calls for out of the box thinking to bring solutions....I'm not even sure we are even printing our own money ourselves with all our oil money( international passport, same thing): We should try and get somethings right( basically). E be like say we are taking God's blessings( oil) on our country for granted and not planning ahead..... That is where a Nigerian with akagum hand would have been better: a street wise economist

I support that guy in the redomination of our currency instead of trying to 'help' save cost of printing and go the way of higher denomination per note. We can scrap all polymer type of notes and make all paper if it costs a bit more/ more but still retain our N10,20,50.... Higher denominations devalue money, coins make u spend more for less and also devalues money because if someone gives u N100 note or 100cfa coin, u know the one to keep safely in your bag than rushing to buy sweets with it.

A gain with redenomination is on exchange rate with other currencies even if it is only a perceptionary one.

All the control and limitation of Naira has not made things cheaper or favored our exchange rate

The zoning they are doing now is what they would have done for the Presidency position: all parties zoning it to SE candidates but NO, Nigerians are not ready for the kind of politics the SE and SS people are playing.

Your child can wear her brother's clothes, it doesn't matter.

Come ooo, u can't afford kid's clothes, and u get 4 kids already? I don't understand why poor men will be competing with rich folks on the number of kids they will have...

If u can't afford kid's clothes, is it school fees u will afford?

I sure say even after each birth, u may not even properly nurse your wife to full health before mounting on her again... Some things are legal basis for divorce especially when the woman has tolerated enough.... Why take someone from her parents only to suffer them- constant sex, constant cooking , constant care for so called family and little care for herself.... Women sacrifices their l8fe that is why it is good to marry a HUSBAND.


How person go marry still be like widow?

Bro go for counselling.