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Long time hearing from this woman-wealth( may not be as rich as Dangote ooo)+ dignity combined.

No reasonable mum will support Hakimi....

Even when I tried to cajole my mum indirectly that she can help my brother keep his money/ wealth, my mum vehemently refused... This is someone that married fully legally @ Ikoyi registry with blessing from Revered Sope Johnson( our Godfather).

My mum can never stain her hands and likes to draw the line between mother and wife in relation to the man even though she doesn't want her son to neglect loving her.

Exposure and knowing the legal etc consequences is important.

Anyway, a woman still wins whether as a wife or mother.

But, why aren't men supporting that Hakimi give the money/ wealth to their dads for safe keeping?

Let's wait for court's decision.... They may ask that his salary for 2 years be given to his wife or 50% of that.

Divorce is terrible....Also,men should not take their wives for granted and cheat as they like.

EMDIEY:
Joke of an app that you people are. Why not use this same energy to attend to the multitudes of complaints in your cc mailbox.
You ignore complaints for years and you come out here chasing clout. It's not your fault anyway, Nigeria gave room to misconduct from financial institutions, with no room for accountability.
I had your app before, but later had to delete the rubbish when i realized any time i complained, i am just talking to myself, but they keep sending unsolicited promo mails to me.
Alat by wema the most unserious bank of the century!

You may need to go to a branch and lay this complaint or use their email: help@... Or WhatsApp number. This will help to rectify app problems... Or to ask for Client Service Officer.

They are even more responsive than GTB when it comes to replying emails or replying via Facebook or other social media( eg Whatsapp)... For confidential stuff they will want u to call them.

The most mature operating bank so far in Naija and top few best in fixed deposit rate

Dem no pay me ooo but I'm just telling u about them as I experienced them.

This goes to women too who you don't know if the man coming is a gold digger...

Good 'scope', though looks like what his lawyer may have advised him.

With this, no need for pre-nuptial.

But o, your parents aren't Gary Coleman's ( Different Stroke) or Brittany's.

RIP

Risky having babies @ this age... Just 'surrogate' it.... One person may succeed giving birth at this age or older but weigh the risk....

One may even succeed and the baby may have some health issues though this can still be managed.

When women come home with their babies, some men don't know that it is God NOT that women were naturally fashioned for such risky endeavor ( especially @ this her age) and such MUST come home with babies in their hands.... We must not take God's grace for granted

IMASTEX:
The apex & commercial bank officials are in one accord regards to bank fraud. Not only do they wipe deceased clients account balance, they equally use same account for illegal cash movements.

That is why one must not be too secretive...

Family doesn't need to inform bank of the demise of their loved one who is an account owner, just with his pins( secretly written and kept somewhere) move the amounts to other accounts/withdraw with ATM card.

Congrats Mr. Handsome.

I remember that 2014 vividly when Kefee's death was announced.... She allegedly died of ectopic pregnancy and was on board a plane.

Sorry for the loss Mr. M....

Ectopic pregnancy easily kills women...

Also, if you married from a tribe that frowns at divorce in any form( whether husband is in prison, or you didn't FULLY follow due process in returning the bride price etc) be careful as a woman especially when the ex wouldn't want his meal ticket to be taken easily away since he started as the Producer.

Somethings may look physical but may have underlying spiritual undertones, only God knows best.

19) They usually prefer brushing their teeth outside even when God promotes them to living in a flat or duplex.

There is a proverb in my place that when a King wanted to visit another person with his slave, he begged the slave to behave himself well so that nobody will look at him as such. However, when they arrived as guests to his rich master's fellow rich friend's house, the slave immediately sat on the floor even when the master was seated on the chair and beckoning on him to come sit with him.

Lullified:
Why tagging EX wife nah





Ha ba

This is also used/ implied when someone who was previously occupying a position dies

Slizzords:
Good day familylanders, i consider this part of nairaland as a place with lots of reasonable and mature people so i would like to table my matter here.

Am a 27yr old guy and I have been dating this girl of mine for the past 3years now, she's 24yrs and we have been good, she works in a corporate organization and i also hustle for my daily bread too. I have been able to save a good amount of money, though i don't have tertiary education but have got a very sound mind.

Recently she brought up the issue of marriage and asked me when i intend to come and do the needful, i have met her mom and siblings on a few occasions and the vibes i got from them looks positive. I know she loves me and i also share the same affections for her.

The issue is i don't know if i should relocate abroad with the funds at my disposal because of the situation of this country or remain in naija and proceed with marriage with her.

After men will ask if women have brain....

Why are men like this, especially young, virile men?

Question you would have asked before beginning your 3years dating sojourn with her is what your brain is now reminding u to ask?

Normally, u should look for how to go build your life first as a young man ( especially as u arent a graduate yet)unless u come from a rich home, or u are already abroad and marriage will keep u there WELL or by virtue of your position, marriage is essential....

Pray about everything.... She can still wait for you if she can persevere....
A broken relationship though is better than a broken marriage.

Nice people

1st place that offered me cheap land to buy.... They told me then that it was safer to buy land in Ekiti than Ondo as Ondo will encourage u to buy it and later na dem go own am until your body( lifeless)....

Iyan and soup eg efo riro is never lacking there.

Cool place too especially Moba ( North)

Still need to do more in the aesthetics and general development of the place.

Many of the elderly are outside the State while the young ones remain.

Easily get favors from them....

God bless Ekiti State...

This 'crime' is easily noticed in some places... Getting boyfriend as a married woman @owambe party etc .... That is why widow for long scarce there....( hard truth)....

Will be difficult to see this occurrence from a wife in SS and SE unless u ready to kick the bucket.

Everybody is religious in Naija but by their fruits u shall know them.

This Pastor do 'see finish' for this man because of his senseless/thoughtless so called better half.

Pa is always looking good for his age ....

More life,good health, blessings and mercies of God...

More long life and prosperity too for me and my entire family... We tap into Pa's grace.

Kriss216:
A mofo without brain telling a brain box to use his brain 🤣

Brain is NOT by gender especially with the way u constantly embarrass yourself on front page thinking you are 'doing' women ( lol).

sinola:
Ghana scaled through...na to go Ghana collect citizenship then enter UK

Ghana actually has a pact with UK for their Nurses to work in UK @ a lesser salary, so Ghana should be on Amber list not that Ghana has more equipment or better personnel than Nigerians.

I think the body language and media from our government has fuelled these whole thing but I trust Nigerians, even if pushed to the wall, they will burrow through it and escape ( lol).

Thank God for mother's family.... Even if he didn't become the richest man in Africa, at least he would be very comfortable.

booksbo0k:
Sorry for the long write up my people, I need advice.

My first son has been behaving somehow in our family, as if he's not part of this family...
You and this boy can be in the same house but you might not set your eyes on him once for a whole day. He will be inside his room through out...

He has been telling me that he is currently working on going to rent his own place and live on his own and that if God helps him and he is able to achieve that, He will not have anything to do with our family again and that we will never set eyes on him ever again :[ ...

I would have not been bothered by such statement if it were coming from someone else, I would take it as a bluff. But this my son is someone that normally doesn't call people to check on them, not even us his parents..

When he was in his previous University before he dropped out, this boy can go for months, that is a whole semester stretch without calling anybody to know how you're doing, except you call him or maybe he wants to ask for money for something or school stuff....

We have five children and he is the first, the second and third children are away in University, he and the two last siblings are the only one's with us.. My husband refused him from going to University in a far place instead he gives him transport money to be going to his own University from home everyday...... He and his father don't even talk again except good morning greetings. He is only 21 ohh..

Let me give you guys small back story so that you can understand how all these things started.

My son graduated from secondary school (a boarding school) in 2017 at 16 years old... Initially, he said he wanted to study computer science as he said that was the course he loved and wanted to study. But my husband refused and persuaded him to study pharmacy because he worked at NAFDAC and he saw the way pharmacy graduates were living at his work place and the salary they were recieving. He and one of his chemist friend sweet talked him into going to study the course and I guess it was because he was young then and could not challenge his dad then that was why he gave in....

He wrote JAMB but he did not meet the cut of mark for pharmacy (but I later realised his score was good for computer science then)... No public University was willing to admit him for pharmacy then because his score was not good for the course but due to my husband love for the course and not wanting my son to lose admission that year , he decided to go the way of private University not minding their school fees...Long story cut short, my son got admitted into Madonna University where we were paying 1M naira every year.....After 3 years in the school and in 300L @18 years old, he began saying he was not interested in the school any longer, that he was tired of the course, that he's body is no longer in the school and blablabla that he wants to go and play football in Europe...

He came back for holiday during the beginning of covid and refused to go back to the school when they resumed, saying that he was only wasting our money by being in that school and he did not want to continue.....This got my husband really sad and angry....My son stayed home for almost two years doing nothing because my husband was adamant that if he would not go back to school, nothing for him, that all the money he has spent for school fees in that school can not be for waste that he can become a footballer after he graduates, saying no one can become a successful footballer without being a graduate, that it would later affect them in life...

But my son refused. I must confess, my son is extremely good at playing football. That was the talent i can confidently say that God personally gave to him from birth. Infact when he was graduating from secondary school, they gave him the award for the best graduating footballer and he was always the centre of attention anytime he plays at our church events. He friends used to call him "nima" then, I think...

I and my husband got tired of him staying at home for long so I went to meet with one pastor in our street who was based in the UK with his family but comes home sometimes for church related matters. I explained my son's situation to him and he offered to help my son travel out to chase his football career provided we have the funds for it. The man was secondary school class mates with "victor ikpe ekong" who was a former super eagles player but currently a pastor in Sweden. To my greatest surprise he called him on a WhatsApp video call in my presence and i was really surprised...He gave me the man's phone number to keep in contact and also scheduled a day to meet with my husband and have a discussion.. I told my son and he was very happy..I also told my husband and he was eager to meet with him at least, anything to solve my sons idleness at the time..

The pastor came to my our house on several occasions and discussed with my husband. My husband kept telling the pastor, saying he would like my son to be going to school while chasing his football career at the same time, a feat which pastor let us know would be difficult as one has to be dropped for the other. Unfortunately, my husband changed he's mind and said he was no longer interested in the whole footballer thing. He said he knew that my son wanted to become a footballer only because of girls. That he, my son knew that if he becomes a footballer, all the girls would like him, that that was the only reason he wanted to become a footballer, and that if football was his true destiny, he doesn't need to travel out for it to manifest, that he can be in Nigeria and make it from here.....That was how that chapter close like that. Pastor left for England few months after.....

After years of my son staying at home, my husband got tired. One night, he hired some Street thugs to come take my son away and beat him up...my son stayed with them for 2 weeks. When he returned, he said he was ready to go back to school. But my husband told him he won't be going back to any private University again. My son wrote jamb again to study computer science and was admitted into COOU. but my said he would not allow him go to any University that is not in the same state we are residing. Now the problem here was that all the public schools in the state we are staying will not accept you to study computer science unless you did chemistry in jamb. And my son did not do chemistry in jamb because he is not good in chemistry. If he was to study in the same state we were staying, he had to settle for another course, which he did...Now another problem arose. My husband refused to rent an apartment for my son around the school because the school is considerably far from our house, instead he decided to be giving him money (2000) everyday as transport fare to be going from home. This did not sit down well with my the boy and he again, said he was no longer interested in schooling again sef that he can't be going such far distance from home to the school everyday to study a Course he does not even like siting that it would be stressful and affect his academics and that it was unwise to be paying 60k a year as school fees while you spend 2k everyday as transport..My husband got angry and called on our estate CSO to come pick him up. They beat him so badly in public that when he got back home later in the evening, I went to check him in his room, his buttocks and back where scarred and red with huge marks...

Ever since, he has been going to the school from home and he has become very distant from us especially his dad. They don't talk again in the same house except "good morning sir"...

My son has turned into something else. He can stay indoors from morning till night. I would have said he has started keeping bad company but he does not even have a single friend, not one..Nobody calls him, and he doesn't call anybody...I have five children and he is the first. The second and third already gained admission this year in a private University and are in school currently, so he and he's last two siblings are the only one's with us now..

Why I'm writing this is because I'm scared..I'm beginning to fear that my son might commit suicide, he's beginning to show that kind of attitude.. And the plans he have to leave us forever to go and stay alone, I don't like it ohhhh...

Nairalanders please I need your advice.

Madam, in as much as your husband seem rigid, but your son who had grown up in that house would have known the kind of parents he has and see how to do things without incurring severe wrath.... Imagine in this hard times where boys dey find who go sponsor them and one son wasting millions? Your son no dey sorry for una.... He can still press home his IT plans as against Pharmacy and even after it seemed your husband was changing to adjust, he still does not want the school that was within same state due to distance.... You cannot have it ALL, some adjustments by all should be made.

Not everyone take mildly to stubbornness, me too I hate stubbornness in people and this is what your husband noticed in your son( maybe reminding him of himself, though maybe your husband's stubbornness was indirectly positive in pushing him to be the best in life).... Truth is, some children if u follow them with their stubbornness and way of reasoning, u fit kill them, so wisdom is necessary.

The way forward: Your child can still enrol for online programs even within Africa and still be pursuing his football dreams, though age is slightly coming in.... Online Science oriented programs but don't force him. Many good ones even some health related without too much Chemistry..... I understand your son as I did Sciences and I know when a subject could be a weakness though a lesson teacher can help strengthen that weakness.....

Take action fast by pulling your son closer and discussing things with him. Make him know and feel that his dreams are as important to you as they are to him.

Peace

At times, in the time of need: There is a FRIEND that sticks closer than a brother....

Kudos to OBJ even though EK may have been wrong.

With our special population with many you g men still hoping to quickly enter marriage to start procreating- procreating beyond their capabilities Nigerians are all in this palaver.

It is not only in Nigeria that there is this corruption , some African countries have this too.

Wait ooo, with this your post, are u trying to arm twist the guy who 'promised' you a job by dropping money first to give it to you free? Or to indirectly solicit for job from the public? But if the Nairaland public person doesn't give u, u fit still betray am online with follow up post( lol)....

Nigeria surely needs an industrial revolution...You cannot blame anyone for now though apart from maybe the government unless your Papa created one for you and others, so don't feel too entitled.

If North will need to present someone as President and they give us Buba Marwa na 100% from me.... He over works and intelligent.

Hoping he will not be too old by then....But, come to think of it, it seems Nigeria is destined to be ruled by the elderly.

limcar:
when I marry, you will contribute 50% if not I send you back to your father's house

Na wa ooo for 50%

What is the MAIN role of a man: LOOK FOR MONEY as it is easier being a man than a woman.

Say na u go carry pregnancy and born 2-4 kids? Because woman will play ALL her roles and still look for money. Some women can do more than this depending on the husband's initial LOVE and CARE for her.

To the Op : For now, she may not get anything or little pocket money after all person when u go dey sleep with supposed dey happy.

Later, u can increase this pocket money( not salar y) a bit for peace sake.

Those who understand spiritual things would know that this is like the situation Jonah faced in the Bible that was why he didn't want to go to Nineveh because he knew God was a loving God if people repented( even after committing iniquity).

Not actually endorsing this Prophet's winner of the election though

Great bank.....One of the best in fixed deposits...Also Polaris

Congrats

Hezzyluv:
It's only a SIMPle man that will beg for sex.

Lol

Funny enough when it comes to sex, most men are SIMPS

Kingpele:
This guy self I haven't seen any movie that he was featured..spirit of death is a spirit ..so every death is spiritual attack kind of..because the spirit of death attack the human soul by preventing Air from reaching the lungs and then the body begins to shut down until its dead ..now all this happens in the spiritual ...even when God decides that someone will die is still spiritual because God is a spirit...a holy spirit...however in that case we say is of natural cause ...staying prayerfully in the holiness of jesus christ as a father" the head of the family will go a long way to fight off evil attacks from the realm of darkness against your wife and children...yul should take heart what happened has happened..a man will be spiritually connected to God our maker which will help him or her discern spiritual things of this life we received from our maker...RIP young dude

If only men will hear....

In reality they leave the burden of Spiritual matters to women while they flex about.

yeyebrity:
He is obsessed with her. I hope it lasts.

Better for HIM to be more obsessed of her than the reverse....At least he opened his eyes korokoro to choose her.....Even if she becomes pregnant before marriage, at least he will still go ahead to marry her unlike if she was the one obsessed with him.

Men take the lead in everything.....

Anything against the Bible will usually not favor the woman as Christ is the Head of the church( representing the man) and the church( woman).... Christ LOVED us even when we haven't known Him.

highchief1:
I get u o.thank God u said Europeans.u know we and them are not the same.Bros I started making money early in life.I know what I went through.Before I thought spiritually if you are not chasing anyone then nobody will be chasing u.I almost died.Africa is not Europe.bro if ur doing well be careful.Why do u think our rich men don’t eat or drink outside.Do Europeans envy?envy starts and ends with Africa.

The poor naturally envies the rich and wouldn't mind bad things befalling the rich worse off if it is a political figure.....The poor thinks that most rich people made their money through illegal, negative means especially in Africa.

This mindset has brought a lot of retardation in Africa and u see people who are trying to make it big a oiding the poor, even avoiding helping them.

The poor doesn't know that what u hate can't come to u.

cococandy:
That’s exactly why it’s his responsibility not his wife’s

I see this as a good problem.... It is just like both of them have 2 mums each.... The woman out of love can help out including her son and a helper can also be employed for mama even in that house( teenager or mature woman).

Only time there should be doubt for the wife to take her mum( in law) into the house is only if the mum was evil.

Love comquereth all....Vanity upon vanity....

We too will grow old one day.

Zupay:
I am very certain I won't remember you just as you won't remember me.

Haba, your go to solution is "marrying a second wife", one would ask how does that solve the issue on ground? If a man is tired of the marriage, let him end it and work out providing for their children, if any and should have a clean head going into another relationship.

Marry 2nd wife and inherit the burdens of 2 in laws not one oooo.... One self fit kill

When u marry too early /early, eg the man is 25 years, 50 years of marriage he is 75years old...... The years of marriage looks huge and may bring less excitement and quick boredom...Unlike a man who married at 35 years, 40 years of marriage is still manageable....

All in all, don't let the flame in marriage to go off.

davidluv:
The law suit won't carry any weight. Shey na only she dey bear Mercy Chinwo?🤷

Who else again is a popular Mercy Chinwo that would literarily make a lesser known artise to want to chase clout with the name in his song being an upcoming artiste?

burp18:
What agreement please?

During court marriage in Cameroon, couples choose if they want joint or single accounts

Couples choose if they want polygamy or monogamy.

I still like Nigeria's OPEN option

Bobo shouldn't have gone out to play after all night reading....Teachers for high school students should help guide them alot.

Goodlady:
See money.
How do I meet Tony Elumelu's daughter?
I wanna be her loyal bestie.
I heard her dad ll be the next Minister of Finance. Ok I v been briefed that it's either CBN gov or finance minister.
But I know he's UBA boss.

Deltans are for these Ministries.... Other things they are good at: Law, Media

If not for Tony Elumelu, no good, national stadium for Cameroon as he was like the last hope of Samuel Eto .... Maybe some others donated, but Tony and his UBA were the biggest financiers.