₦airaland Forum

emblem2d:
Hey man! That's nt incest. Incase u dnt knw leh me tell, an incestuos relaxnsh is one btw d membr of a family with same parent or father to daughert nd mother to son. U hear me??
Relxnshp btw cousins are normal: be it sexual or whatever.
U betr get it into ur skull.

Nobodyany1:
Some people here on nairaland are just dullards and myopic nincompoops! Hiding under religion and culture!
Do you know how many people in the Bible married their cousins? Jacob did! Okay let me ask you all a question! The children of Israel are made up of 12tribes which came from 12brothers... How did you think they multiplied? Of course they married each other!
Culture fanatics should know that their ancestors married themselves to preserve their language and tradition!
Please and please can we be less hypocritical in life? Twill be helpful...

Notatribalist:
Is there any law to back this your claim?

etrange:
OP, big kudos to you for the objectivity in your story! This isn't common on NL these days where people come to ask for advice and yet try to influence our judgement by acting the victim. You have my respect, sir.

First, your uncle and aunt did well for you, bro. They might have sent you home because you were coming of age and keeping you around might have hindered the expensive plans they had for thier kids (or for any other reason best known to the adults as at that time) but the fact remains that they took you in, clothed you, fed you and educated you all out of thier own goodwill. Each time they paid your fees, they deprived themselves and their children something. She might not have treated you up to your expectations; she might have feared you would outshine her kids; we all have our demons. But in the grand scheme of things, she helped you. She nurtured you at your formative age. Just wanted to get this out of the way.

Now, you had grudges against them (which might be justifiable) to the point that the woman whom you once called "mother" was dying and you didn't bother to go and see her. We're not talking about giving them material things in return, no. We're talking visiting a dying person, the person that raised you. I'm not trying to "guilt trip" you but that was a bit unfair. You know this and what you see in your dream is not the woman but your conscience. You fear your actions or inaction might spoil things for you. It shows you're a nice person.

But you must forgive yourself. The woman is dead, she can't forgive. The husband has forgiven you. It's you who has not forgiven yourself. And you can only do that by accepting that you wronged her and undoing anything you did out grudge towards her (like not talking or helping her kids, anything at all). Once your mind is at peace, the dream will stop.

#MyOpinion

Eberejesus111:
Your aunty didnt do you any wrong and your uncle did you no wrong.
First of all, you're seeing her in your dream because of your Guilt complex, and you still see her that way. You have something bothering you, perhaps you feel that you are not worth the good of Gods gift.

So God came as your aunt in the dream to tell you " I've forgiven you, don't be guilty again." But you paid no attention and still felt guilty. That's was bothering you. Discard your guilt and you'll be free.

For your uncle, he did nothing. He believes because he wickedly tortured you as his slave, then God is punsihing him. But that's not true. God loves you all, so he doesn't judge for wickedness. He is a God of infinite love.

Pray for your uncle now, he needs it. Believe he is free and also free yourself from your guilt complex. Your uncle is your responsibility, save his life by believing he is whole. Bless you bro

DavidEsq:
How can I say dis thing on my mind now? Is someone kpanshing the girl in that house, but has lost the chance to continue kpanshing because she has someone else's (an area boy's) attention? The emphasis on the girl's glowing skin is becoming too much to pass unnoticed sha

asahnwaKC:
Thnx ohhh....bn trying to figure out those abbreviation .
.....made ne not to read the story finish....

Ifeoma77:
Call them out on social media

JESUnifemi4eva:
If you are using MTN, go to a service centre and request for 'keep my number'. It costs N1,200 for a 3-year cycle. I don't have the details for other service networks. Your MTN Sim will work here but bear in mind that roaming charges are horrendous. It's approximately N200-N300/min to call, and N70/min to receive calls. You are also charged about N50 if you receive text messages, but you can always recharge your phone using online banking platforms or even short USSD Codes depending on your Nigerian Financial Institution.

vascey:
Nothing like hypeman. She's only telling you from experience that if given the choice of maternal + bad mouth or no maternal, most people here will choose maternal + bad mouth. Doesn't stop you from correcting but if your correction is always in vain, just take the advice and face front.

egopersonified:
Erhhh, OK so didn't last forever as expected, lost him to death exactly five months after this post. But I have never had the 'why me' thoughts, life is so full of so many sweet surprises. I had actually forgotten about the rings part Of this story, all I can say is, God has never failed.

Amandacanny:
Good day guys, plz I need clarification as am planning to land with my 2 kids without hubby. Reason being that him accompanying brought down our score so we decided to apply without him for now. Plz any chance of me coping with them (3 yrs and 1 year old) pending when hubby comes through family sponsorship. Am really worried about taking care of them and working. You guys that have landed already should kindly tell me if is possible. Thank you

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ceemac:
That was the reason why I mentioned that she should save her money she propose to buying a car with and channel it to first settling down and getting acclimatized, she may just find a way around it. In the long run, the sacrifice will pay off.. Those minimum wage paying jobs just kinda stick to peoples destiny after doing it for a long while... My dread exactly

GlitteringStar:
I applied five weeks after landing (September) and it was approved last week.