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Chocolate men
dark or medium chocolate in color

Glasses

White/White Teeth

A laugh that comes from within outward - a laugh that makes me laugh

Nose - not too big/not too small

Very full lips

No facial hair

fresh breath
so he can blow in my face and talk in my mouth while we kiss

short hair

masculine looking man

very, very, very, very intelligent

very sociable with people as well [definitely NOT A CLOWN or AZZ KISSER] but someone who can be outgoing when the occasion dictates

height - not important

good dresser

well liked by his peers and neighbors

not afraid or resistant to expressing his emotions to me in the "affection department" - I am high-maintenance in that area and need alot of attention from him - as I will pour affection on him as well

Dump his backside

The ex will be back

If he couldn't see {the obvious} and she wants him and doesn't want to dump him.  She should help him see the light by having one of her siblings or a cousin bring her "ex-boyfriend" to the home she shares with her current boyfriend.

TRUST ME - her current boyfriend will immediately "see the light" - he might even accuse her of cheating or wanting to cheat - her problem with his ex-girlfriend visiting his sister in their home - will be crystal clear to him from that moment forward.

Ex-partners shouldn't be visiting a home that is occupied by current partners - that is very obvious.

Bluhazel:
I can imagine short guys thinking of going for basketball lessons. Lol

"not funny"

@ OP

Here is my 2 cents:

If you don't look young - like you are in your 30s - HIT THE GYM IMMEDIATELY - ALL THE TIME - it will lift your thought as well, not just your physical appearance.

Women become EXTREMELY sexually active in their 40s and it just gets better from there as they age - men are the opposite (majority)

FOCUS on youuuuuu

As much time as you are taking to discuss him to NL - you now have NL's opinion.

So now focus on you - enjoy your 37 year old man - get what you want out of him and allow him to get what he wants out of you.

Don't give what you cannot afford to part with,

Protect your heart, focus on your appearance, give your love [RETAIN A LOT OF LOVE FOR YOURSELF - AS WELL - DON'T GIVE IT ALL AWAY]

IF he stays - enjoy him

If he goes - bid him well - thank God for the time you had together - make sure you look younger, feel better and build your spiritual, mental and financial reservoir so you aren't on NL after it is over - crying to us as nobody wants to hear a broken record playing that same old song, over and over again.

Enjoy your Nigerian man

God Knows I am going to Enjoy Mine.

Happy New Year

tensor777:
Well maybe the height difference was not pronounced. However  maybe you go for shorter guys because you do like to be the cynosure of attention.

Noooo

I usually date tall men who are the center of attention.  It isn't my usual to date shorter men.  I was surprised myself but I have never been so happy.  He is wonderful as he is much more than his height (There is a 3 inch difference).  He rocks my world - 'I can see clearly now the rain is gone." (I see him for what he is versus how tall or short he is.)

toba:
viruz i dont see u ready to settle down now cos u need money. atleast i give u 2yrs from now cos of service. So pls dnt waste her time guy. lf no marriage assured let her be. u'll get plenty options at Nysc camp believe me. I served in 06/07 and got wife materials during 21days in Yobe state fika orientation camp. My friend got too& his getting married in oct 2011. would u believe if i told u myself& my friend got adult virgins? suprised? yes we did. my friend go someone younger but i got someone older like 3yrs but i wasnt ready cos i had it mind to do pgd,msc&Phd after service so i let her go. but my friend did courting from 07 to 2010 now by Gods grace hes getting married. i gave u Sermon to learn from adults.

This is very very good advice. @ OP - listen to this writer.

wow,

The responses in this thread

smh

She sounds suspect.

"why did she ask you again?"

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I strongly suspect that she has met someone else and is revisiting the "age" issue which isn't an issue at all if you are "only" a few years younger.

I am with 190 - there is someone else in the picture - you aren't aware of.

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If you want her - IF YOU REALLY WANT HER - do the opposite, start dating someone else - strategy (date another woman that is attractive that she knows)

That will get her mind off the so-called "age issue."

Her knowledge of your imminent move to "move on without her" - will press on her heart "just how important you really are to her and she will run you down or you won't hear from her as she is already into someone else."

Hence - if she doesn't come to you - she wasn't for you anyway and consider yourself lucky to be rid of her so God can present you with the "love you are to have."

Quote from: kiwi992 on October 07, 2008, 12:35 PM

African-American girls - I've never been out with any.  I don't know whether they love their men or not but I had a bad experience with one when I went over to the States.  I met this girl in the night club in Manhattan and initially said I would like to take her home.  Later on, I changed my mind and she threathened to blow my head off!  Wasn't I scared?  Go figure!

hahahahahahaha!!!

ohhh

hahahahahahaha!!!!

Sorry - had to laugh at that one.  Very funny!  You know, you have to get out more.  You can't meet "1" individual and cross that "one experience" off as being representative of a whole group.

Anyway - I lived in Ft. Collins Colorado when I was growing up and our family (AA) lived in a town where I didn't see another black person for 9 years except my own parents and siblings.  That was from 3 years - 12 years of age.

But if you can stand the smell of "wet dog hair" then go ahead and sleep with and marry a white woman.  Personally, I would get nauseated sick every time it rained - because what I CLEARLY REMEMBER is that the kids in school [elementary] their hair - the girls and the boys - when wet smelled like "dog hair."  It was sooo gross.  That is a main reason I just could never sleep with, shower with, bathe with a white man because I cringed at the thought of having to smell that smell if he ever got wet.  I don't care how sexy, fine, wealthy he was.  I would have to still deal with his "smell" on me.  I just wasn't willing to make that sacrifice.

Also, white skin ages much quicker and loses its elasticity quicker than black skin as our melanin allows us to look younger longer (FACT) and holds our elasticity longer.

Many, many times - I see African men and AA men with white women and when a sister walks by - that same man can't take his eyes off that Black female be them African or AA. 

I was shopping about a month ago in the store and bumped into a Nigerian male who was a past business acquaintance and met his White wife for the first time - by the way, she actually rudely interrupted our conversation that we were having that was quite innocent, while he was talking to me, she walked up to him in mid-sentence, inserted herself between he and I and gave me her back and started talking to him as if I wasn't in the room responding to his inquiries.  I was stunned and immediately the conversation stopped and he looked as surprised as I did.   He turned her around and introduced her to me and I immediately complimented her to ease her "low self-esteem," which got her to smiling at me [as I knew it would since I have much experience with dealing with women who seem uncomfortable in my presence - which has been an irritant to me for a long time].

After I finished the mundane chit-chat, I said my good-byes and walked away.  I don't know why but I glanced over my shoulder and shockingly caught both of their eyes intently focused on my butt or as you say in Nigeria, my backside.  She was staring so hard at my butt and was unaware that I was looking at her and him - I am actually seeing their eyes fixated on my azz and they couldn't even stop themselves as I wasn't that far ahead of them - and right at that moment she looked from my butt to her husband, very sternly.  Which made me pick up my pace to move faster to get around the corner away from both of them as suddenly I felt extremely uncomfortable. 

No offense but I have noticed in the States that when Black men marry these white women - not all of them - but a very VERY large PERCENT of them strongly yearn to still have a black woman on the side that they are either still trying to date and/or appear to want to date.

smh

@ Inked

hahahahaha

I really like your posts - ohhhh - you are great!

In my office

Stopped working to praise and worship and talk to God

Typing on NL while turning on my treadmill

Getting ready to stretch and then jump on the treadmill

Happy New Year ALL

I know this sounds crazy - but here goes.

In the past - I dated this guy, he was sooo fine.  Oh my goodness, deep voice, beautiful black brother, debonaire, dashing, very handsome, dress very well.  He was dark complexion.  I loved him deeply. 

Only after we broke up was I aware that he was shorter than me.  I NEVER KNEW OR NOTICED THE HEIGHT DIFFERENCE.

My guy today is the same - he is fineeee, beautiful skin, beautiful teeth (white/white), deep, deep voice and he is shorter than I am. 

To compensate for height - BRING SOMETHING TO THE TABLE.  Focus on who YOU ARE AS A PERSON.  When I walk - EVERYONE TURNS and looks, I bring beauty, intellect, dress well, smell good, speak well. 

So we look good together - I am what other men want and he is what other women want. In the end "our height" is very low on the totem pole of priorities and DESIRED QUALITIES.

So when people see me - they see height - but WHAT THEY REALLY NOTICE, IS - my hair, my eyes, my skin, my nails, beautiful legs, my curvaceous shape - then when I walk past, they smell my scent that lingers in the room, when spoken to - my voice is clear, articulate, intelligent, feminine.

When you give someone something they can BE PROUD OF - all of a sudden height really doesn't matter.

Question: Which do you notice the most? The wallet or the cash in the wallet?

Answer: My height is the wallet BUT AS A TOTAL PACKAGE - I AM THE CASH